Corps1000:


Wow, unbelievable, isn’t it obvious? He was playing games and ghosted me. If your daughter or sister went through this, would you be telling them to wait around for a response?

If you like someone, you don’t treat them this way. That’s universally known.

Anyway, even if he came back, which I doubt he will, I don’t want him anymore.

Corps1000:


Huh? I did Google and checked out his social media and everything checked out fine.

But I made this thread to see general thoughts on this situation..basically to get advice. Should I consider it a loss or wait for him to reply?

GraGra247:
If you want to marry a Nigerian shine your eyes well well. Really look before you leap.

Well I could say that for any type of marriage at all.

Subject him to every possibly known test to confirm faithfulness and preparedness.
If possible hack him and read his chats and messages,e-mails.

Once confirmed go ahead & leave the rest to luck.

Corps1000:
im I’m crazy because I wanted him to make more effort? If we couldn’t see each other before he left, that would be fine. But he could have called or texted to say goodbye. Especially since he basically implied he would want me to move in with him, and invited me to go to Nigeria with him. So, he went from being very enthusiastic to more distant.
That doesn’t jive well to me...

Bidobado:


Don't listen to this shyte..and asking random strangers for their opinions on social media about your private life is a mistake.
Only you can tell if he's a faithful person or not, is he your first ever date??.
And why does a Nigerian man have to prove heaven and hell to a woman before she believes, but somehow you people can come and go as you like and we are to take you for face value. You have a lot to prove too.

jesusdiedLOL:
lol, you sound like you have serious psychological issues. Not everybody is the devil incarnate smh

Corps1000:


I never dated a Nigerian man before. I know when dating someone from a different culture, there are certain nuances that one may experience because of cultural differences. Initially when I made this post, I wanted to know if him ignoring me was perhaps cultural. And many in here did say wait. But my instincts told me otherwise.
Second, no one knows me on here. I assume most people on here are from Nigeria?? While I’m from America. Third, even if someone found out my identity here I have nothing to be ashamed of. I didn’t lie or do anything illegal or immoral.

Also, you’re making assumptions the man I dated was someone of high morale. When he clearly isn’t. He asked to be exclusive, saying specifically, “I like you, I want you to be my girl.” Regardless if what issues were or are going on, there is no excuse for him creating a new dating profile or ghosting on me.

I have nothing to prove as my actions matched my words. I was honest about my intentions from the get do. I was consistent in my effort and interest level.

Anyway, I’ll be fine. I’m still young, attractive and educated and hopefully at the right time, I find a good man to appreciate that.

I’m fortunate this was only 2 months of my life.

Bidobado:


For a start, there's no where in this world where ignoring someone is cultural or perceived as such, anyone who told you that lied.
Secondly, I've realised that when people travel back home, they usually find it hard to stay in touch with people overseas due to many reasons..example, unstable electricity means people can't charge their phones as they would wish to.
You also have family members who might wish to see you or for you to come to them.
However, having said that, it is NOT AN EXCUSE for your boyfriend to completely ignore you like that, unless he's busy with a side chick somewhere.
You nailed it when you admitted to not dating a man of high morals, maybe that's where your problems started, IN YOUR CHOICE OF A MAN..
I am married to a carribean woman, 15 years still going strong, if they love you, they give you everything.

Corps1000:


Thanks, finally someone sees it the way I do!

Corps1000:
im I’m crazy because I wanted him to make more effort? If we couldn’t see each other before he left, that would be fine. But he could have called or texted to say goodbye. Especially since he basically implied he would want me to move in with him, and invited me to go to Nigeria with him. So, he went from being very enthusiastic to more distant.
That doesn’t jive well to me...

CuteCp:


madam...if he isn't into u...he would never have invited u to his country to see his mom....i think he's proud of you and was willing to show u off but u blew it....women u guys are too forward. so because he didn't reciprocate ur text on time u feel he isn't into u...someone that isn't into u will never bring u to see his parents....we Nigerian men.. .bringing our girlfriend to see our parents is a big deal to us...all I'm saying is that u were too forward to jump into conclusion....so if u think he doesn't like you. .just wait 4 d next guy to wooo you n let this one slide...best of luck

Corps1000:


Translation? lol

As I said, we only been dating for 2 months. To do a big trip overseas with a man I started dating is a big deal to me. If I knew him longer, like at least 6 months, that would be different. I would be in his Territory with his family. Is that not a big deal to some of you?

Also, it's short notice. I guess I should have told share that concern with him but I didn't want him wrongly assuming I am not trying to take him or us dating seriously. Also, if he was that bummed out I didn't wanna go, he should have communicated.

So, seems like there is a lack of communication on both of our parts?

I actually caved and texted him Merry Christmas and no response. But i will give him a day or 2 to respond as we are in different time zones.

Besides that, not much more I can do.

analyser:
In regards to the voice mail it's not just you,as you saw your friends number was redirected to voicemail as well,i hope you're not too emotional though,one thing i need to let you know is "don't let anyone make you seem desperate" stand up high and be strong,and please i beg you not to stereotype all other Nigerian men for the mistake of one.

you seem to be a Nice person i pray you settle with someone who will come to know your worth.

WebSurfer:

All I can see from your write ups is simple , you miss him , you miss sex , but you’re more interested if he feels thesame..


Don’t worry, he’ll be back to give you that after the holidays and you’ll be both fine

analyser:
I've read your topic from the get go,you seem to have made your decision already,but i want to share you a story about an online relationship i had recently,before i start,i apologise on behalf of those people who made unnecessary nasty comments on here.
so,one time i was on facebook i saw some funny posts on krakstv and gossipmil,and i was on a spree of making insanely funny comments which got a lot of likes,comments and friend requests
one of which was a beautiful Botswana police officer,we got talking on oct 18 of this year and we were soo into each other she wanted to come to Nigeria,so it was all bliss and fairytale until she began to distance herself from me,she'll come online see my message buh won't reply,it almost pissed me off,cos she always told me i'lld have to get used to her "texting fast and asking a lot of questions",but i said to my self
"maybe it's her 24/7 police job she can't be texting on duty or maybe she needs time,cos i'm currently in Nigeria and she is in far away Botswana" i texted her and i did'nt get the sweet reply i expected on her whatsapp,until 8 days later she said hello on facebook messenger like nothing happened,i asked her what's going on,she said she thought i was distancing my self from her,i told her i was'nt,that i love her, already,and she replied "you see where will you take that love" and then i said we were going to talk about the distance sometime,we kinda got talking again,but she went back to ghost mode again, but then it dawned on the both of us that we should let go,so we called it quits

Now to your topic,i don't know what's wrong with him but anyone who claims to love you will always find a way to be in touch with you,irrespective of the time and environment forget the whole baldadash of he's celebrating Christmas,an average Nigerian sends everyone on their friends list a "Merry Christmas message"for someone who he claims to love,he should'nt miss that out,but one thing you need to know is him wanting you to come to Nigeria does not define love,i've had a female friend from another country fly in to visit without any thing really intimate going on,i'm glad it dawned on you that there is a low probability of this relationship working,cos even in the USA you both don't live in the same state.

But you might still need to be open minded in relation to him opening a new dating account,my facebook account was once hacked and the hacker,actually made active use of my account he even opened pages with my account,liked posts,commented,deleted me and fellow admins of a 70,000 member group on facebook i was co-heading,so he might have not been the one to open that account

GraGra247:
If you want to marry a Nigerian shine your eyes well well. Really look before you leap.

Well I could say that for any type of marriage at all.

Subject him to every possibly known test to confirm faithfulness and preparedness.
If possible hack him and read his chats and messages,e-mails.

Once confirmed go ahead & leave the rest to luck.

Corps1000:


I’m over it but thanks; I will be fine

zolapower:

If u are a Nigerian and u are spewing this gibberish thunder fire u there .are you telling the world we are the worse of all men ? Or in your entire village don't u av men ? The writer of this topic is she not a grown up to find out herself in America? After all they have cnn and there president who know a lot about nigeria ,so why not let her ask them .
Spy will be sent to know about us and all we do is give out first hand information . Now u see it's not only triba and religion that is problem ,aproko too . If u come from a home where other families are easily gossip and blacklisted this the spill over .
U are killing ur self over another man hustle .
Why not bend ur miserable and frustrated head to pray come next Sunday night make God deliver u from this back yard gossip and prosper u come 2018.
U dey tie wrapper dey do aproko with one Jamaican lady dey condemn Nigeria ,are you better off ?
See if the thunder wey I send still dey do press up I go send the one wey don do road work finish to harmner u there . Anuofia