Blue86:
You don't have to be a Christian for Jesus to help you.
Just as you don't have to be a Nigerian to be counselled by Nigerians.

I think I understand little bit.

Thank you so much for your kind!
I appreciate you!!

And I'm very sorry for if I was rude to you about Jesus and Christian.
I apologies you.

BritishNaija:


Imela ( Weldone). Ekene(Thank).

I misunderstood!
I thought "Imela" meaning Thank you.

Anyway, Thank you so much!
I learned again.
I really appreciate you!!

TheManOfTheYear:
LMAO

Hello! How far Oga?

Please Did I say something wrong or something funny?
I maybe misunderstood something?
I really hope I was not rude to anybody.

peacefull:


Hello! How far Oga?

Please Did I say something wrong or something funny?
I maybe misunderstood something?
I really hope I was not rude to anybody.

No you weren't rude actually

You just misunderstood his statement, what he meant was that 'Jesus Christ brings peace to anyone who believes and accepts Him'. It's a Christian parlance. I don't know if you understand.

peacefull:


I misunderstood!
I thought "Imela" meaning Thank you.

Anyway, Thank you so much!
I learned again.
I really appreciate you!!

You are Welcome anytime.

Nope, you were not rude.
You were asking questions.

Just cry to Jesus for help.

peacefull:


I think I understand little bit.

Thank you so much for your kind!
I appreciate you!!

And I'm very sorry for if I was rude to you about Jesus and Christian.
I apologies you.

TheManOfTheYear:
No you weren't rude actually

You just misunderstood his statement, what he meant was that 'Jesus Christ brings peace to anyone who believes and accepts Him'. It's a Christian parlance. I don't know if you understand.

I think I understand little bit.

Thank you so much!
I appreciate you!!

Blue86:
Nope, you were not rude.
You were asking questions.

Just cry to Jesus for help.

Thank you so much!
I appreciate you!!

Oh! Noooo!
If I cry about my marriage, I will cry alone and I will face my problems.
That's what I always do

But Thank you so much!
I really appreciate your kind!!

Thank you so much for everyone who gave me advice!

I appreciate everyone!!

I confirmed about my husband is married in Nigeria.
He married in 2013. I'm still not sure.
But at least around 2013, they got married.
This woman is long time I suspected.
I was suspecting, But I tried to trust him.
I'm a really confusing person.

He has a daughter too. I still don't know how old she is. But very lovely little girl.
And they have own business, I should say they have own company? in Nigeria.

I already decided to allow everythings.
But I'm hurt. Very very hurt now.

I'm still not tell him about anything.
I wanna hear the truth from him.
I wanna know about what he wanna do, what is his plan, what about our marriage, our future, what is he thinking about or planning about his daughter etc.
I wanna ask him many many things!
So, I will talk to him.

At least we are still married.
And that woman is a his second wife.
He still not dump me. So, maybe he has his reason.
Maybe he get tired with me, maybe he fell in love with her, maybe he wanted have a kid with Nigerian woman, maybe he doesn't love me since beginning etc, etc, etc!
And I don't know why he still hiding about it from me?

At least he is still with me. Still continue to married with me.
So, he must has his reason and I wanna know.

I hope and I wish this is my misunderstanding.
But I saw pictures.

Maybe many many peoples, maybe most of peoples are their side?
Maybe support them?
Because they are Nigerian and I'm not.
Maybe very funny things to someone?
They are laughing at me?
All of his family and her family are laughing at me too?

I'm a big fool for long time.
But I'm still wanna be with him.
Maybe something wrong with me.

I know I shouldn't write about my private life, my marriage life on internet.
But I didn't write everythings.
I'm always writing only few things. Because I can't write everythings.

Anyway, Thank you so much!
I got to know the truth! I just remain talk to him.
I really really appreciate everyone!!

Its always good to want to know why and have good closure,
I read your story from beginning, I think there was a Time he loved you, but just like you said you also treated him bad,

Most men would really value a peaceful woman than the one providing money, and you were not giving him money either and he would have divorced you if he wanted just passport,

I'm igbo and I will tell you this, he will still value you at least for the daughter you have for him, igbos don't play with thier children.

I will advice you tell him that found his Nigerian wife and daughter and everything he has,

Then hear his approach and reply atleast he wont have to secretive about anything.

But he will still care for you because of his child you have.

peacefull:
Thank you so much for everyone who gave me advice!

I appreciate everyone!!

I confirmed about my husband is married in Nigeria.
He married in 2013. I'm still not sure.
But at least around 2013, they got married.
This woman is long time I suspected.
I was suspecting, But I tried to trust him.
I'm a really confusing person.

He has a daughter too. I still don't know how old she is. But very lovely little girl.
And they have own business, I should say they have own company? in Nigeria.

I already decided to allow everythings.
But I'm hurt. Very very hurt now.

I'm still not tell him about anything.
I wanna hear the truth from him.
I wanna know about what he wanna do, what is his plan, what about our marriage, our future, what is he thinking about or planning about his daughter etc.
I wanna ask him many many things!
So, I will talk to him.

At least we are still married.
And that woman is a his second wife.
He still not dump me. So, maybe he has his reason.
Maybe he get tired with me, maybe he fell in love with her, maybe he wanted have a kid with Nigerian woman, maybe he doesn't love me since beginning etc, etc, etc!
And I don't know why he still hiding about it from me?

At least he is still with me. Still continue to married with me.
So, he must has his reason and I wanna know.

I hope and I wish this is my misunderstanding.
But I saw pictures.

Maybe many many peoples, maybe most of peoples are their side?
Maybe support them?
Because they are Nigerian and I'm not.
Maybe very funny things to someone?
They are laughing at me?
All of his family and her family are laughing at me too?

I'm a big fool for long time.
But I'm still wanna be with him.
Maybe something wrong with me.

I know I shouldn't write about my private life, my marriage life on internet.
But I didn't write everythings.
I'm always writing only few things. Because I can't write everythings.

Anyway, Thank you so much!
I got to know the truth! I just remain talk to him.
I really really appreciate everyone!!

This is absolutely ridiculous and mind boggling…guys this life no too long, how many years you go live for the world sef…

Generations come and go, seasons come and go, kings, servants, rich, poor….none of us currently alive will live pass 100, pata pata let’s say 120….divide this years by the presume time humans lived on earth and see the infinitesimal fraction of time every living soul will live on earth.

What sort of heartlessness is this…just for paper…paper wey you go still hustle even for the country, no be say na automatic el dorado

Kizito2nv:
Its always good to want to know why and have good closure,
I read your story from beginning, I think there was a Time he loved you, but just like you said you also treated him bad,

Most men would really value a peaceful woman than the one providing money, and you were not giving him money either and he would have divorced you if he wanted just passport,

I'm igbo and I will tell you this, he will still value you at least for the daughter you have for him, igbos don't play with thier children.

I will advice you tell him that found his Nigerian wife and daughter and everything he has,

Then hear his approach and reply atleast he wont have to secretive about anything.

But he will still care for you because of his child you have.

Thank you so much for taking your time for reading!
I appreciate you!!

Yes, I was a bad wife.
I don't know if I'm a good wife or bad wife now.
Maybe I'm still a bad wife. But I'm trying!

I talked with him at last night.
He heard me.
He said if I wanna believed what I saw it, I can believe it and it's ok for him.
But He denied it. He said he is not married with anybody and He don't have any kids.

I even sent him what I saw it.
Because I wanted him to see it by himself.
He checked it and told me that one of pictures with woman is a truly him.
And that woman writing "he is a my partner" and something more.
He also read it.

About company, I think anybody can easily to see their name on internet.
I don't know why I didn't see it until now.
There is clearly writing both their name.
Her name is same his name and I knew her name. Her name was not that name before.

He thought I can't understand if he explained to me about what I saw it.
Because I'm a not Nigerian.
But he told me, he explained to me and I'm trying to understand. Little bit difficult to me. But I'm trying.

I don't have a his kid.
I already have a kid before I met him.
I was a single mother. My marriage with him is my first marriage.
He always saying my kid is a his kid.
So, my kid is a our kid.
I really appreciate him.

If he is married with other woman, that's crime in my country.
I can't support any crime.
But that kind of things like he married with other woman or he cheated on me etc, can't change my mind.
Can't change our relationship.
I still wanna be with him and I still wanna trust him.

But I think I have trust issues.
Because I always say I'm trusting him, but many many times I also dubt him at same time.
That means I maybe not truly trust him.
That's why I believed what I saw before I talked with him.

He took time for me at last night.
I was really hurt and emotionally.
But he never ever get angry. He just heard me.
We didn't have argument. Just talking, talking and talking.

But I don't know why always this same woman.
He said cousin.
This is really hardly to understand me.

Anyway, Thank you so much!
Our relationship can't break easily!
We will get more old together!
I really appreciate you!!

Gwan2:


This is absolutely ridiculous and mind boggling…guys this life no too long, how many years you go live for the world sef…

Generations come and go, seasons come and go, kings, servants, rich, poor….none of us currently alive will live pass 100, pata pata let’s say 120….divide this years by the presume time humans lived on earth and see the infinitesimal fraction of time every living soul will live on earth.

What sort of heartlessness is this…just for paper…paper wey you go still hustle even for the country, no be say na automatic el dorado

I'm so sorry, everything I saw it is my misunderstanding.

I thought I got to know the truth.
But when I wrote about it, I still didn't talk to my husband.
And I was so emotionally.

He denied it.
I'm still trust him and I still wanna be with him.
He is a not heartless person.
He is a good person and my Oga!

He can live and work in here without me.
But he is still with me.

Anyway, Thank you so much!
I appreciate you!!

Oh! Please I wanna know about what is meaning "pata pata"?
Sorry, I don't know many many words.

peacefull:
Thank you so much for everyone who gave me advice!

I appreciate everyone!!

I confirmed about my husband is married in Nigeria.
He married in 2013. I'm still not sure.
But at least around 2013, they got married.
This woman is long time I suspected.
I was suspecting, But I tried to trust him.
I'm a really confusing person.

He has a daughter too. I still don't know how old she is. But very lovely little girl.
And they have own business, I should say they have own company? in Nigeria.

I already decided to allow everythings.
But I'm hurt. Very very hurt now.

I'm still not tell him about anything.
I wanna hear the truth from him.
I wanna know about what he wanna do, what is his plan, what about our marriage, our future, what is he thinking about or planning about his daughter etc.
I wanna ask him many many things!
So, I will talk to him.

At least we are still married.
And that woman is a his second wife.
He still not dump me. So, maybe he has his reason.
Maybe he get tired with me, maybe he fell in love with her, maybe he wanted have a kid with Nigerian woman, maybe he doesn't love me since beginning etc, etc, etc!
And I don't know why he still hiding about it from me?

At least he is still with me. Still continue to married with me.
So, he must has his reason and I wanna know.

I hope and I wish this is my misunderstanding.
But I saw pictures.

Maybe many many peoples, maybe most of peoples are their side?
Maybe support them?
Because they are Nigerian and I'm not.
Maybe very funny things to someone?
They are laughing at me?
All of his family and her family are laughing at me too?

I'm a big fool for long time.
But I'm still wanna be with him.
Maybe something wrong with me.

I know I shouldn't write about my private life, my marriage life on internet.
But I didn't write everythings.
I'm always writing only few things. Because I can't write everythings.

Anyway, Thank you so much!
I got to know the truth! I just remain talk to him.
I really really appreciate everyone!!

So sad.

Why do you love him?

Why do you want to stay married to him?

I don't think you are a fool; I think you knew there was something wrong somewhere however insistent on staying married to him (whether he wants you or not).

From the first page, your husband has shown constant disinterest in the marriage. He doesn't want you however afraid to divorce you (probably because of your laws or society).

So he found the best way around it: work away from home, have no kid with you, remarry in Nigeria, take long breaks to Nigeria and never bring you to Nigeria or fly his family to meet you.

In essence, that man is only married to you on paper.

So back to my first two questions:

Why do you love him?

Why do you want to get married to him?

Perhaps the answers would give you the clarity you need.

peacefull:


Thank you so much for taking your time for reading!
I appreciate you!!

Yes, I was a bad wife.
I don't know if I'm a good wife or bad wife now.
Maybe I'm still a bad wife. But I'm trying!

I talked with him at last night.
He heard me.
He said if I wanna believed what I saw it, I can believe it and it's ok for him.
But He denied it. He said he is not married with anybody and He don't have any kids.

I even sent him what I saw it.
Because I wanted him to see it by himself.
He checked it and told me that one of pictures with woman is a truly him.
And that woman writing "he is a my partner" and something more.
He also read it.

About company, I think anybody can easily to see their name on internet.
I don't know why I didn't see it until now.
There is clearly writing both their name.
Her name is same his name and I knew her name. Her name was not that name before.

He thought I can't understand if he explained to me about what I saw it.
Because I'm a not Nigerian.
But he told me, he explained to me and I'm trying to understand. Little bit difficult to me. But I'm trying.

I don't have a his kid.
I already have a kid before I met him.
I was a single mother. My marriage with him is my first marriage.
He always saying my kid is a his kid.
So, my kid is a our kid.
I really appreciate him.

If he is married with other woman, that's crime in my country.
I can't support any crime.
But that kind of things like he married with other woman or he cheated on me etc, can't change my mind.
Can't change our relationship.
I still wanna be with him and I still wanna trust him.

But I think I have trust issues.
Because I always say I'm trusting him, but many many times I also dubt him at same time.
That means I maybe not truly trust him.
That's why I believed what I saw before I talked with him.

He took time for me at last night.
I was really hurt and emotionally.
But he never ever get angry. He just heard me.
We didn't have argument. Just talking, talking and talking.

But I don't know why always this same woman.
He said cousin.
This is really hardly to understand me.

Anyway, Thank you so much!
Our relationship can't break easily!
We will get more old together!
I really appreciate you!!

peacefull , you are going through a lot right now, and ur mind can't handle the truth, so to cope you'd much rather believe the easier side than the harder side . maybe we are all wrong and ur husband isn't cheating on u and we are all assuming or maybe we are right,
only u know the truth

u said u Dont want to waste 15+ years of marriage


well DO YOU WANT TO SPEND THE NEXT 20+ YEARS OF THIS?


can u handle more years of distrust and suspicions?

can u waste spend more decades of this,
just trusting him till the end, believing whatever he tells you because its easier

or would it be better to end it soon and go through sometime of heartbreak, maybe a year or so
but u come out stronger , u move on, maybe find somebody else that makes u happy



whatever decision u make I hope ur are happy in the end because u seem like a wonderful lady and I believe u absolutely deserve to be happy .


BTW I am Igbo too and i love ur diary, I must visit Japan ,pls Dont ever stop

bukatyne:


So sad.

Why do you love him?

Why do you want to stay married to him?

I don't think you are a fool; I think you knew there was something wrong somewhere however insistent on staying married to him (whether he wants you or not).

From the first page, your husband has shown constant disinterest in the marriage. He doesn't want you however afraid to divorce you (probably because of your laws or society).

So he found the best way around it: work away from home, have no kid with you, remarry in Nigeria, take long breaks to Nigeria and never bring you to Nigeria or fly his family to meet you.

In essence, that man is only married to you on paper.

So back to my first two questions:

Why do you love him?

Why do you want to get married to him?

Perhaps the answers would give you the clarity you need.

I'm so sorry, if I made you feeling sad.
I never meant make anybody feeling sad.
But if I did to you, I'm really sorry. I'm apologies you.
Please don't be sad.

What I wrote yesterday is before I talked with my husband.
I thought I found out the truth.
I believed what I saw it before I talked with him.
This is very very bad about me.
He denied it and I'm still trusting him.

Oh! Because I love him!
Why don't I love him? Why I shouldn't love him?
He is a my husband and sometimes my best friend, sometimes my brother, sometimes my dad etc.
He is a my Oga and hero!
I'm still in love with him like beginning our relationship or more than that time!
He knows me very well and I know him very well.
We know and we understand each other very well.
We had bad times and good times, sometimes had argument, misunderstood each other, get tired etc, just like other peoples.
I just love him since beginning till now and still continue.

Because we are married!
We are husband and wife!
Marriage is not playing or not cheap things.
If we had something problems, we are solving together. Face that problems together.
Not throw away or run away.
Trying to our best to solve problems and make more happy to each other.
Bad times or challenge can make more strong love and more strong bond together.
Of course good times too!
Why I shouldn't respect and cherish our marriage?
Why I should leave our marriage?
Marriage is not like changing clothing, changing make up etc.
Our marriage is like a baby!
Growing, growing and growing.
Not like flowers like just short time is beautiful.
Not like that.

Thank you so much for your kind words!
I appreciate you!!
But sometimes I'm a really fool person!
Yes, many times I was feeling like something wrong our marriage.
Feeling like something strange our marriage.
But I know every marriage is different. Not everybody have same marriage life.
But I thought our marriage is maybe because of our different cultures, different traditional etc.
When I joined this website and I wrote about my marriage, I was really confusing, weak, emotionally etc.

I didn't wanna ruin our marriage because of my misunderstanding or just because my doubting.
So, I thought and I still think if I learned about his country, his culture etc, I can understand him more and more, and we can make more good and more strong our relationship!

But seems like my Oga is a really different
Sometimes I tell him about he is a too different from what I read and what I learned.

He don't need to afraid about anything.
I don't know why many peoples talking about paper?
Please if Nigerian peoples married with foreigners, most of peoples think that marriage is just for paper?
I had read about it.
But he already have papers. He don't need me to live and work in here.
He don't need to stay with me for paper.

And if he truly married with me for papers, he is already leave me. Already dump me long time ago.
That's my Oga!
And that's one of the reason, I can trust him.
He is still with me meaning he still caring about me and caring our marriage!

We are always trying to live together again.
He still always trying to come back to our house and spend time with me whenever he has time.

How I wrote is making him look like a bad person.
But No, I was so emotionally and confusing.
I pour my emotions. Never meant make him a bad person. But I did it. I'm feeling so guilty.
He is a good person and he is always trying to make me happy.
But my Oga is difficult person and very stubborn man!
And sometimes I'm so emotionally.
Feel so lonely, missing him so badly etc.
Oh! and our character is too different!

Anyway, Thank you so much!
I really appreciate you!!
I'm still wanna be with him and that's making me happy!

bukatyne:


So sad.

Why do you love him?

Why do you want to stay married to him?

I don't think you are a fool; I think you knew there was something wrong somewhere however insistent on staying married to him (whether he wants you or not).

From the first page, your husband has shown constant disinterest in the marriage. He doesn't want you however afraid to divorce you (probably because of your laws or society).

So he found the best way around it: work away from home, have no kid with you, remarry in Nigeria, take long breaks to Nigeria and never bring you to Nigeria or fly his family to meet you.

In essence, that man is only married to you on paper.

So back to my first two questions:

Why do you love him?

Why do you want to get married to him?

Perhaps the answers would give you the clarity you need.

Oh! bukatyne san!

I'm so sorry!
I wrote too much long!

marvinsync:


peacefull , you are going through a lot right now, and ur mind can't handle the truth, so to cope you'd much rather believe the easier side than the harder side . maybe we are all wrong and ur husband isn't cheating on u and we are all assuming or maybe we are right,
only u know the truth

u said u Dont want to waste 15+ years of marriage


well DO YOU WANT TO SPEND THE NEXT 20+ YEARS OF THIS?


can u handle more years of distrust and suspicions?

can u waste spend more decades of this,
just trusting him till the end, believing whatever he tells you because its easier

or would it be better to end it soon and go through sometime of heartbreak, maybe a year or so
but u come out stronger , u move on, maybe find somebody else that makes u happy



whatever decision u make I hope ur are happy in the end because u seem like a wonderful lady and I believe u absolutely deserve to be happy .


BTW I am Igbo too and i love ur diary, I must visit Japan ,pls Dont ever stop

My mind can't change. I still can't change my mind and I still can't change my love for him.
I'm still in love with him. I still wanna be with him and I want him to be with me.
Maybe seems like I chose easy side.
Oh! only he knows the truth! I just trusting him than trusting what I saw it.
I still wanna always trying to trust him.
But sometimes my emotions don't wanna try it.
Very very bad about me.

Yes! I don't wanna waste our marriage because of my misunderstanding or just my emotions.
Sometimes I'm so emotionally like yesterday.
I was really hurt.
But what I wrote it is before I talked with him.
This is so bad. Very very bad.

I got hurt by myself.
But my Oga already healed me.

I'm not wasting my time.
Yes! I wanna spend more times with him!
I'm still wanna laughing with him!
We will get more old together!

I'm already decided to allow everythings.
And He is still with me. This is proof about him.
He still caring our relationship. If not, he is already leave me long time ago.
He can't be with me just for paper, for pity etc.
He can never ever do that.
I know this. I know him very well.
But I was believing what I saw it.
I was wishing about I wanna see the truth with my eyes and I thought I saw it with my eyes.
But now, I'm trusting him and I'm trusting what I heard from him.

I know I'm a confusing person.

I'm always getting strong!
But sometimes so weak and so emotionally.
In fact, I really don't like it. But sometimes I really get weak and emotionally.
Really really confusing person.

Anytime anybod can change their feelings, mind etc.
I don't even know if my mind will change one day or if my Oga will change his mind one day.
But at least now, I can't change and I don't think I can change it.

Noooo!
I wanna be with him. Not somebody else.

Wow!! Thank you so much!
I hope I'm a wonderful lady!
My happy is be with him
I appreciate you!!


Oh! Thank you so much for reading my diary!
I will continue to write my diary! I really appreciate you!!
But many times I got banned.
Yes! Yesss!! Welcome to Japan!! Sushi!!

peacefull:


My mind can't change. I still can't change my mind and I still can't change my love for him.
I'm still in love with him. I still wanna be with him and I want him to be with me.
Maybe seems like I chose easy side.
Oh! only he knows the truth! I just trusting him than trusting what I saw it.
I still wanna always trying to trust him.
But sometimes my emotions don't wanna try it.
Very very bad about me.

Yes! I don't wanna waste our marriage because of my misunderstanding or just my emotions.
Sometimes I'm so emotionally like yesterday.
I was really hurt.
But what I wrote it is before I talked with him.
This is so bad. Very very bad.

I got hurt by myself.
But my Oga already healed me.

I'm not wasting my time.
Yes! I wanna spend more times with him!
I'm still wanna laughing with him!
We will get more old together!

I'm already decided to allow everythings.
And He is still with me. This is proof about him.
He still caring our relationship. If not, he is already leave me long time ago.
He can't be with me just for paper, for pity etc.
He can never ever do that.
I know this. I know him very well.
But I was believing what I saw it.
I was wishing about I wanna see the truth with my eyes and I thought I saw it with my eyes.
But now, I'm trusting him and I'm trusting what I heard from him.

I know I'm a confusing person.

I'm always getting strong!
But sometimes so weak and so emotionally.
In fact, I really don't like it. But sometimes I really get weak and emotionally.
Really really confusing person.

Anytime anybod can change their feelings, mind etc.
I don't even know if my mind will change one day or if my Oga will change his mind one day.
But at least now, I can't change and I don't think I can change it.

Noooo!
I wanna be with him. Not somebody else.

Wow!! Thank you so much!
I hope I'm a wonderful lady!
My happy is be with him
I appreciate you!!


Oh! Thank you so much for reading my diary!
I will continue to write my diary! I really appreciate you!!
But many times I got banned.
Yes! Yesss!! Welcome to Japan!! Sushi!!

I absolutely respect your decision and wish u good luck, seems we all just assumed the worst in your husband because of several other cases
but you've said u have a good man and I believe that's true



as for the banning, sorry about that , seun needs to work on his anti-spam bot, that thing malfunctions sometimes and bans people wrongly

peacefull:


My mind can't change. I still can't change my mind and I still can't change my love for him.
I'm still in love with him. I still wanna be with him and I want him to be with me.
Maybe seems like I chose easy side.
Oh! only he knows the truth! I just trusting him than trusting what I saw it.
I still wanna always trying to trust him.
But sometimes my emotions don't wanna try it.
Very very bad about me.

Yes! I don't wanna waste our marriage because of my misunderstanding or just my emotions.
Sometimes I'm so emotionally like yesterday.
I was really hurt.
But what I wrote it is before I talked with him.
This is so bad. Very very bad.

I got hurt by myself.
But my Oga already healed me.

I'm not wasting my time.
Yes! I wanna spend more times with him!
I'm still wanna laughing with him!
We will get more old together!

I'm already decided to allow everythings.
And He is still with me. This is proof about him.
He still caring our relationship. If not, he is already leave me long time ago.
He can't be with me just for paper, for pity etc.
He can never ever do that.
I know this. I know him very well.
But I was believing what I saw it.
I was wishing about I wanna see the truth with my eyes and I thought I saw it with my eyes.
But now, I'm trusting him and I'm trusting what I heard from him.

I know I'm a confusing person.

I'm always getting strong!
But sometimes so weak and so emotionally.
In fact, I really don't like it. But sometimes I really get weak and emotionally.
Really really confusing person.

Anytime anybod can change their feelings, mind etc.
I don't even know if my mind will change one day or if my Oga will change his mind one day.
But at least now, I can't change and I don't think I can change it.

Noooo!
I wanna be with him. Not somebody else.

Wow!! Thank you so much!
I hope I'm a wonderful lady!
My happy is be with him
I appreciate you!!


Oh! Thank you so much for reading my diary!
I will continue to write my diary! I really appreciate you!!
But many times I got banned.
Yes! Yesss!! Welcome to Japan!! Sushi!!

Konbanwa peacefull San, a quick question please.

Are all Japanese girls this trustworthy? Or this is just you?

I like your courage to be sincere and you're a wonderful woman who your husband should have never gotten in the first place.

marvinsync:



I absolutely respect your decision and wish u good luck, seems we all just assumed the worst in your husband because of several other cases
but you've said u have a good man and I believe that's true



as for the banning, sorry about that , seun needs to work on his anti-spam bot, that thing malfunctions sometimes and bans people wrongly

Thank you so much!
I really appreciate you!!

How I write is making my husband always looked like a bad person. Very bad about me.
My Oga is a really good person!
If he really married with someone and hiding it from me, maybe seems like a not good person.
But I believing that there have reason.

What I saw it is I can only say something like camouflage.
That's what I understand now.
Many many things I still can't understand.
But I will try to understand it.

marvinsync san maybe already know about how much I love playing with my Oga and I'm a his big attention seeker!
I wrote about it before on my diary.

Sometimes I'm jokingly tell him to get another woman who is always ask him to buy this, buy that, take her to here and there, give her luxury life, tell him to do this, do that etc.
Then He will know how much peacefull chan, his wife is a good wife!
Some peoples don't wanna know what they had until when they lost it.

Yessss! I'm praising myself front of Oga like I'm a good wife!

My Oga said he think so too and he told me that many peoples who got a second wife or remarried realized that their first wife or first marriage is better than second wife or second marriage, but they didn't know about it before.
He also told me about somebody's talk who married two times. I think famous person in Nigeria or something like that.

And I asked him When did I ask him to buy this and buy that?! When Did I ask him take me to here and there?! When Did I demand him to give me luxury life?! When Did I tell him to do this and do that?! etc.

Oga said No, I didn't ask him or demand him like that.

Then I praising myself again like Yeahhhh! I'm a good wife!
And I told him, I don't know why somebody san (my Oga) don't know peacefull chan is a good wife
He has something wrong

Oga said he don't know

I maybe wrote this before?!

I don't know if I'm a good wife or bad wife.
Only he knows that.
But I really hope he think I'm a good wife and I will try to be a his good wife!
So, anytime if he tried to be with another women, he will always come back to me!
He can't find out more comfortable place than with me

I have learned seun san is a owner of this website?

I don't know which rules I always broke.
I really don't wanna do that.
Maybe I will get long time banned one day?
Because I already got many many times banned.
I hope I will not get banned again!

Naijatask:


Konbanwa peacefull San, a quick question please.

Are all Japanese girls this trustworthy? Or this is just you?

I like your courage to be sincere and you're a wonderful woman who your husband should have never gotten in the first place.

Konbanwa! Nijatask san!
And Konnichiwa from here!

Oh! trustworthy? Me?! Really?
Thank you so much! I appreciate you!!

I think everywhere have many type of women.
I have heard from my husband about two Japanese women who married with Nigerian man cheated on their husband with Japanese man inside their home and Nigerian husband caught them.
Very disgusting!!

And I have a friend who think men are only for money and sex.
But this kind of a friend I have is only her.
Mostly my friends are married and they are long time relationship with their husband.
Some of them are from their teenage, some of them are from their early 20's etc.
And some friends are divorcee but have boyfriend now.

Mostly my friends think cheating woman is more bad than cheating man.
I also have this kind of think.
I don't know if this our thinking is old fashioned.
But some peoples including older peoples said I'm a old fashioned woman.

Not everybody have same thinking.
Like that one my friend who think men are only for money and sex is never think cheating is bad things.
She thinks like what is wrong if she has having fun or something like that

So, I can say not all Japanese women are trustworthy.
That my friend can never ever trustworthy woman
Depend on person.
Here have good women and bad women.

Thank you so much!
I really appreciate you!!
I really hope I'm a wonderful woman
But I have very bad mouth!

My husband is a very good person!
How I write is making him always looked like a bad person. This is really my bad.
He is a good husband. But because sometimes I'm a so emotionally, I pour my emotions on here. I'm so sorry.

I'm very happy to be with him

peacefull:


Thank you so much!
I really appreciate you!!

How I write is making my husband always looked like a bad person. Very bad about me.
My Oga is a really good person!
If he really married with someone and hiding it from me, maybe seems like a not good person.
But I believing that there have reason.

What I saw it is I can only say something like camouflage.
That's what I understand now.
Many many things I still can't understand.
But I will try to understand it.

marvinsync san maybe already know about how much I love playing with my Oga and I'm a his big attention seeker!
I wrote about it before on my diary.

Sometimes I'm jokingly tell him to get another woman who is always ask him to buy this, buy that, take her to here and there, give her luxury life, tell him to do this, do that etc.
Then He will know how much peacefull chan, his wife is a good wife!
Some peoples don't wanna know what they had until when they lost it.

Yessss! I'm praising myself front of Oga like I'm a good wife!

My Oga said he think so too and he told me that many peoples who got a second wife or remarried realized that their first wife or first marriage is better than second wife or second marriage, but they didn't know about it before.
He also told me about somebody's talk who married two times. I think famous person in Nigeria or something like that.

And I asked him When did I ask him to buy this and buy that?! When Did I ask him take me to here and there?! When Did I demand him to give me luxury life?! When Did I tell him to do this and do that?! etc.

Oga said No, I didn't ask him or demand him like that.

Then I praising myself again like Yeahhhh! I'm a good wife!
And I told him, I don't know why somebody san (my Oga) don't know peacefull chan is a good wife
He has something wrong

Oga said he don't know

I maybe wrote this before?!

I don't know if I'm a good wife or bad wife.
Only he knows that.
But I really hope he think I'm a good wife and I will try to be a his good wife!
So, anytime if he tried to be with another women, he will always come back to me!
He can't find out more comfortable place than with me

I have learned seun san is a owner of this website?

I don't know which rules I always broke.
I really don't wanna do that.
Maybe I will get long time banned one day?
Because I already got many many times banned.
I hope I will not get banned again!

you're marriage seems good


Next time your banned you would get a message on your profile, maybe you screenshot it and create a thread asking what that message means and why you were banned and people here can tell you your mistake



Also how do you see nairaland??
Many people are angry and toxic here especially the politics section , even I as a Nigerian feel its ugly thing to see the comments

Do some statements shock you or do Japanese people also get very toxic in politics

peacefull:


Konbanwa! Nijatask san!
And Konnichiwa from here!

Oh! trustworthy? Me?! Really?
Thank you so much! I appreciate you!!

I think everywhere have many type of women.
I have heard from my husband about two Japanese women who married with Nigerian man cheated on their husband with Japanese man inside their home and Nigerian husband caught them.
Very disgusting!!

And I have a friend who think men are only for money and sex.
But this kind of a friend I have is only her.
Mostly my friends are married and they are long time relationship with their husband.
Some of them are from their teenage, some of them are from their early 20's etc.
And some friends are divorcee but have boyfriend now.

Mostly my friends think cheating woman is more bad than cheating man.
I also have this kind of think.
I don't know if this our thinking is old fashioned.
But some peoples including older peoples said I'm a old fashioned woman.

Not everybody have same thinking.
Like that one my friend who think men are only for money and sex is never think cheating is bad things.
She thinks like what is wrong if she has having fun or something like that

So, I can say not all Japanese women are trustworthy.
That my friend can never ever trustworthy woman
Depend on person.
Here have good women and bad women.

Thank you so much!
I really appreciate you!!
I really hope I'm a wonderful woman
But I have very bad mouth!

My husband is a very good person!
How I write is making him always looked like a bad person. This is really my bad.
He is a good husband. But because sometimes I'm a so emotionally, I pour my emotions on here. I'm so sorry.

I'm very happy to be with him

Okay, I understand. Arigatou gozaimasu

marvinsync:


you're marriage seems good


Next time your banned you would get a message on your profile, maybe you screenshot it and create a thread asking what that message means and why you were banned and people here can tell you your mistake



Also how do you see nairaland??
Many people are angry and toxic here especially the politics section , even I as a Nigerian feel its ugly thing to see the comments

Do some statements shock you or do Japanese people also get very toxic in politics

Yes! I'm happy with my Oga
Thank you so much! I really appreciate you!!

Now I'm feeling so guilty. Very very guilty.
I didn't try to trust him. But I believed what I saw it.
Until I talked with him, I just believed pictures than trust him.
But I must trust him first.
And I only cared my feel and my emotions.
Only I, I, I and me, me, me.
This is so bad. Really really bad. Very selfish.
But my Oga didn't blame me about it. He didn't get angry or blame me till now.
Instead of angry with me or blaming me, he is caring about me. I really really appreciate him.
My Oga is never ever take any nonsense.
That kind of person
But this time, he really understand how my feel. Even my misunderstanding.
Of course I apologized him. I'm a so selfish.

Oh! my banned always anti bot? spam bot?.
Always get banned it from "bot" san.
I will try it! Thank you so much!

Angry and toxic?!
Everybody are very kind to me!
Sorry, politics is still very very difficult to me.
I still don't know about Nigeria politics well.
I think I maybe visited politics section few times.

My English is still very bad.
Most of times I can't understand what peoples are writing especially Nigerian languages and pidgin English.
Only reading English is still very hard.

But if I'm not misunderstanding, I was surprising about somethings and sometimes I'm still surprising.
Like peoples insulting each others, men and women, Igbo person, Yoruba person, Hausa person etc, each other's religions, opinion, cultures, region, other countries etc.
This is surprising me and sometimes make me feel sad.

But Sometimes I'm reading Japanese website and I saw similar things.
So, I think that kind of things are everywhere.

I see this website is very helpful website to me!
I met many many good Nigerian peoples like you
I'm always feeling like I have many many good Nigerian friends!!
And this website is like my textbook.
I'm learning about Nigeria, Nigerian peoples, Nigerian languages, pidgin English and English etc.
Very helpful website to me! I love it and I appreciate it!!

Mostly Japanese peoples don't discussion about politics in daily.
On TV, on website etc, peoples discussion about it. But in life? real life? peoples don't discussion like on TV or on website.
But I don't know much about Japanese peoples on website.
I just reading. Not join it like I joined on here.
And I don't use any other website like Twitter etc. So, I don't know much about internet peoples in Japan.
But I'm sure about here have also toxic peoples.
If talked about Japanese communist party or left wing, they are very toxic!

Naijatask:


Okay, I understand. Arigatou gozaimasu

Do Itashimashite!

Anytime you can ask me anything about Japan and Japanese peoples!
I will do my best to answer you
If I don't know well, I will research and check about it on Japanese website and I will tell you!

peacefull:


Yes! I'm happy with my Oga
Thank you so much! I really appreciate you!!

Now I'm feeling so guilty. Very very guilty.
I didn't try to trust him. But I believed what I saw it.
Until I talked with him, I just believed pictures than trust him.
But I must trust him first.
And I only cared my feel and my emotions.
Only I, I, I and me, me, me.
This is so bad. Really really bad. Very selfish.
But my Oga didn't blame me about it. He didn't get angry or blame me till now.
Instead of angry with me or blaming me, he is caring about me. I really really appreciate him.
My Oga is never ever take any nonsense.
That kind of person
But this time, he really understand how my feel. Even my misunderstanding.
Of course I apologized him. I'm a so selfish.

Oh! my banned always anti bot? spam bot?.
Always get banned it from "bot" san.
I will try it! Thank you so much!

Angry and toxic?!
Everybody are very kind to me!
Sorry, politics is still very very difficult to me.
I still don't know about Nigeria politics well.
I think I maybe visited politics section few times.

My English is still very bad.
Most of times I can't understand what peoples are writing especially Nigerian languages and pidgin English.
Only reading English is still very hard.

But if I'm not misunderstanding, I was surprising about somethings and sometimes I'm still surprising.
Like peoples insulting each others, men and women, Igbo person, Yoruba person, Hausa person etc, each other's religions, opinion, cultures, region, other countries etc.
This is surprising me and sometimes make me feel sad.

But Sometimes I'm reading Japanese website and I saw similar things.
So, I think that kind of things are everywhere.

I see this website is very helpful website to me!
I met many many good Nigerian peoples like you
I'm always feeling like I have many many good Nigerian friends!!
And this website is like my textbook.
I'm learning about Nigeria, Nigerian peoples, Nigerian languages, pidgin English and English etc.
Very helpful website to me! I love it and I appreciate it!!

Mostly Japanese peoples don't discussion about politics in daily.
On TV, on website etc, peoples discussion about it. But in life? real life? peoples don't discussion like on TV or on website.
But I don't know much about Japanese peoples on website.
I just reading. Not join it like I joined on here.
And I don't use any other website like Twitter etc. So, I don't know much about internet peoples in Japan.
But I'm sure about here have also toxic peoples.
If talked about Japanese communist party or left wing, they are very toxic!

Peacefull san , you talk about your husband a lot but you never talk about how you met him. You talk about first love, yakuza friend, even stalker friend in diary but not how u met Nigerian husband and why you like him.
Because you weren't interested in friend with lots of money , Nigerian ladies can't do that ( well not all of them) ,Or he wasn't attractive and your Nigerian husband is very attractive?

So I'm curious how peacefull san meet and like Igbo man





Also you need to know what bans you isn't a person but a "robot" (computer program)
And it malfunctions and makes mistakes, so sometimes you get banned not because of what you did but error from the robot okay?
Seun needs to work on it





Also a little about Nigerian politics, Nigeria is a heterogeneous country ,meaning many different tribes (over 300 in Nigeria). Created by British ,didn't ask us if we like each other just say okay all of you are one country now .
So a lot of us get along but some people don't

But it affects politics ,like who will be President? Who was President? One tribe has been president another tribe's turn , lots of fight and competition and anger , people feeling cheated ,some scared if person from this tribe or religion President or governor will people from my tribe be okay?
So politics section very toxic


Nigerian people can be kind to foreigners no problem with foreigner but if Nigerian from another tribe or religion some Nigerians won't be kind
But just some and online

In real life we live just fine with each other, friends ,intermarriage okay ,but politics? Dirty...

Japan is a homogeneous country right??
Like everybody one tribe, ethnicity, Japanese?


Also you are learning English the hard way here, on nairaland we mix English and pidgin English plus slangs and local dialect, difficult to understand ,even Google can't help

But your determination is really strong, I gave up when I tried to learn small Japanese so I can watch anime without subtitles

marvinsync:



Peacefull san , you talk about your husband a lot but you never talk about how you met him. You talk about first love, yakuza friend, even stalker friend in diary but not how u met Nigerian husband and why you like him.
Because you weren't interested in friend with lots of money , Nigerian ladies can't do that ( well not all of them) ,Or he wasn't attractive and your Nigerian husband is very attractive?

So I'm curious how peacefull san meet and like Igbo man





Also you need to know what bans you isn't a person but a "robot" (computer program)
And it malfunctions and makes mistakes, so sometimes you get banned not because of what you did but error from the robot okay?
Seun needs to work on it





Also a little about Nigerian politics, Nigeria is a heterogeneous country ,meaning many different tribes (over 300 in Nigeria). Created by British ,didn't ask us if we like each other just say okay all of you are one country now .
So a lot of us get along but some people don't

But it affects politics ,like who will be President? Who was President? One tribe has been president another tribe's turn , lots of fight and competition and anger , people feeling cheated ,some scared if person from this tribe or religion President or governor will people from my tribe be okay?
So politics section very toxic


Nigerian people can be kind to foreigners no problem with foreigner but if Nigerian from another tribe or religion some Nigerians won't be kind
But just some and online

In real life we live just fine with each other, friends ,intermarriage okay ,but politics? Dirty...

Japan is a homogeneous country right??
Like everybody one tribe, ethnicity, Japanese?


Also you are learning English the hard way here, on nairaland we mix English and pidgin English plus slangs and local dialect, difficult to understand ,even Google can't help

But your determination is really strong, I gave up when I tried to learn small Japanese so I can watch anime without subtitles

You wanted to watch anime without subtitles? .

Even though I've seen more than 2,000 anime series with more than 40,000 hours of watch time, I still couldn't watch anime without subtitles.

Although I can communicate with the basics sha.

Like greetings, some insults, tasukete, dai suke, suki, etc

Naijatask:


You wanted to watch anime without subtitles? .

Even though I've seen more than 2,000 anime series with more than 40,000 hours of watch time, I still couldn't watch anime without subtitles.

Although I can communicate with the basics sha.

Like greetings, some insults, tasukete, dai suke, suki, etc

2000 anime series??

seems like ur my sensei
I hail

marvinsync:



2000 anime series??

seems like ur my sensei
I hail

Yeah, I had a 750gb of external hard drive full of anime, coupled with the 500gb in my laptop, that's over 1tb of anime

Peacefull, how far na? Hope you dey fine?

This thread was created in 2017(5 years ago).

Your instinct was giving you signs that your Oga might not be completely truthful with you, as a married man should be to his wife.

I want to believe that was one of the primary reasons that triggered you to discover Nairaland, created this thread, as you needed to know if his behaviour was due to his culture as an Igbo man from Nigeria.

You got lots of opinions from Nigerians here.

After 5 solid years, you updated this thread stating that you got to find out about your Oga having a Nigerian wife he married in the year 2013. Including a daughter.

Days later, you came back to denounce your claim and restated your commitment and complete love for your Oga.

Hmmmmn... Indeed, True Love is blind.

I do feel your soul/mind is similar to that of a sweet little child; craves love, radiates love, forgives on the spot, naive and gullible.

Know this, When one is in love, her judgements regarding her partner will always be biase, as it will be covered with emotions and not logic.

My advice: Whenever you are in doubt regarding your Oga, try not to involve your emotions but instead, apply logical reasoning. I doubt you can do that though, as you are obviously deep in LOVE.


I wish you forever Happiness in your marriage.

marvinsync:



Peacefull san , you talk about your husband a lot but you never talk about how you met him. You talk about first love, yakuza friend, even stalker friend in diary but not how u met Nigerian husband and why you like him.
Because you weren't interested in friend with lots of money , Nigerian ladies can't do that ( well not all of them) ,Or he wasn't attractive and your Nigerian husband is very attractive?

So I'm curious how peacefull san meet and like Igbo man





Also you need to know what bans you isn't a person but a "robot" (computer program)
And it malfunctions and makes mistakes, so sometimes you get banned not because of what you did but error from the robot okay?
Seun needs to work on it





Also a little about Nigerian politics, Nigeria is a heterogeneous country ,meaning many different tribes (over 300 in Nigeria). Created by British ,didn't ask us if we like each other just say okay all of you are one country now .
So a lot of us get along but some people don't

But it affects politics ,like who will be President? Who was President? One tribe has been president another tribe's turn , lots of fight and competition and anger , people feeling cheated ,some scared if person from this tribe or religion President or governor will people from my tribe be okay?
So politics section very toxic


Nigerian people can be kind to foreigners no problem with foreigner but if Nigerian from another tribe or religion some Nigerians won't be kind
But just some and online

In real life we live just fine with each other, friends ,intermarriage okay ,but politics? Dirty...

Japan is a homogeneous country right??
Like everybody one tribe, ethnicity, Japanese?


Also you are learning English the hard way here, on nairaland we mix English and pidgin English plus slangs and local dialect, difficult to understand ,even Google can't help

But your determination is really strong, I gave up when I tried to learn small Japanese so I can watch anime without subtitles

Hello! marvinsync san!
I'm sorry about very late reply.
I'm apologies you. I'm very sorry.

How are you today?

Oh! I didn't talk about how I met my Oga before?
Maybe because I wanna keep my sweet memories in my mind!
And I can't write everythings on internet.
Maybe seems like I already wrote everythings.
But no, I can't do that.

What I can tell you is someone introduced us!
My Oga said that was in 2004.
That's how we got to know each other and fell in love and still together!

Oh! first love, Yakuza friend and stalker friend
I really hope that Yakuza friend is still alive and not in jail.

Nooooo, I don't wanna believe that!
Everywhere have some women who only wanna follow men's money not love.
Here in Japan too. One of my friend who think men are only for money and sex, she just follow money not love or character, humanity etc, but money

When I met my Oga, many African men are lie about their country at that time.
This is my Oga also told me about it.
They said they are from America. Because many many Japanese peoples like America.
So, some African men believed or think if they said they are from America, they can easily get Japanese women.

But my Oga never ever told me that kind of very strange lie to me when I met him at first.
This is one of reasons I trust him and I fell in love with him.
But to be very honest with you, I can't explain very well about why I fell in love with him, Why I love him etc.
I can't explain very well.
If in short words, I only can say, because I fell in love with him, because I love him, because I'm still in love with him!
Sorry.

Yes, I know "bot san" is not human.
But I like to say "bot san". Sounds like cute!
Kawaii

Thank you so much for teaching me!
Very very good lesson to me.
I appreciate you!!

I once watched YouTube about Africa.
Not about Nigeria, but Africa.
One Japanese man made that video.
He talked about Africa very easily to understand. But not details. Quick and easy, something like that.
He said something like same things marvinsync san said.
Like British peoples made border and divided peoples. They didn't care? think? about peoples, their tribes, cultures, languages etc.
They messed Africa and African peoples etc.

I think politics is maybe everywhere sometimes very very toxic.

Seems like some reasons some peoples can't be kind to own peoples.
But can be kind to foreigners?
This is I maybe very difficult to understand.

About homogenous in Japan, No, not truly homogenous.
Not so long time ago, one politician said Japan is racially homogenous country, that's controversial statement.

Oh! Learning English on this website is hard way?!
But I'm not only learning English on here.
I'm learning many many things!
But marvinsync san is very right! I'm still really difficult to understand what peoples are saying.
Many many times I don't even know which is English, Nigerian languages and pidgin English.
But I'm really enjoying to learning!
My determination or my stubborn?!

Oh!! You like Anime?
Long time I didn't watch Anime now.
I still not even watch Kimetsu no yaiba
Because my mom scared me, so I'm feeling like that manga or Anime is scary.
But my kid and nephews told me, if that Anime is like horror or really violence etc, small kids can't watch it. But there is nothing like age limit.
Small kids could watch it in movie theater.

Have you watched that Anime?