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Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by peacefull(f): 11:03am On Sep 09, 2022
ExtremeDot:
Peacefull, how far na? Hope you dey fine?

This thread was created in 2017(5 years ago).

Your instinct was giving you signs that your Oga might not be completely truthful with you, as a married man should be to his wife.

I want to believe that was one of the primary reasons that triggered you to discover Nairaland, created this thread, as you needed to know if his behaviour was due to his culture as an Igbo man from Nigeria.

You got lots of opinions from Nigerians here.

After 5 solid years, you updated this thread stating that you got to find out about your Oga having a Nigerian wife he married in the year 2013. Including a daughter.

Days later, you came back to denounce your claim and restated your commitment and complete love for your Oga.

Hmmmmn... Indeed, True Love is blind.

I do feel your soul/mind is similar to that of a sweet little child; craves love, radiates love, forgives on the spot, naive and gullible.

Know this, When one is in love, her judgements regarding her partner will always be biase, as it will be covered with emotions and not logic.

My advice: Whenever you are in doubt regarding your Oga, try not to involve your emotions but instead, apply logical reasoning. I doubt you can do that though, as you are obviously deep in LOVE.


I wish you forever Happiness in your marriage.

Hello! I dey! I dey fine!
But I lost my baby girl (pet) few days ago and I just done her funeral yesterday.
I'm still so sad cry

Anyway, Thank you so much for asking!
I appreciate you!!

What about you? How far?

When I found out this website, I was so emotionally, hurt, weak etc.
And I'm always confusing person.
I know every marriage is different. But I thought something I can't hardly to understand about my Oga is because of our different cultures, traditional etc.
And I thought if I will know more about his country, his peoples, his culture etc, I can more understand him and I can make more good relationship with him.

Yes! I think I got to know more than before!
But I'm still learning. Many many things I still don't know, I still hardly to understand etc.

Yes, I thought I saw the truth.
That picture is 2017. But that woman writing she married in 2013.

But I'm feeling so guilty now.
Because I didn't try to trust my Oga. But I trusted what I saw it.
I must trust him first. But I couldn't do that.
Before I talked with him, I came here to pour my emotions.
That was make me little bit calm down.
But what I did is just talked about I, I, I and me, me, me! and I made him look like a bad person.
Very very bad and very very selfish.

I'm feeling guilty, But I also still have feeling what they did is disrespectful.
Very disrespectful, no moral, no manners for me and her husband.
I don't know if her husband knows about it or not.
Because of gain somethings, they did it.
Fake or joke or whatever, what they did it is very disrespectful. At least he could tell me before he accepted that offer.
Sorry, I can't write everythings.

But my Oga explained to me everythings and I'm still trusting him.
I know him very very well.
One of very strong proof why I can trust him is because he is still with me.
That's very strong proof about my Oga is still love me, caring about me, cherish about our marriage.
If not, he already dump me long time ago or now. He can't be with me.
But he is still with me.
Anybody who know my Oga can confirmed about it.

But when I'm so emotionally, I hardly to think like that.
Very very bad.

Yes! You are very very right!!
I don't think I can do it embarassed
Not involving my emotion is very very difficult to me.
If I don't love him or I'm not interesting about our relationship any more etc, maybe not so difficult or maybe I already leave.

Sometimes I really doubt him. But when I calm down, I really hate myself.
If I always could keep calm down, I never doubt him.
He can't even understand why I always doubting about him and that woman, he always said she is a cousin.
But I really can't confirmed about it. What I can do is just trust him.
I have some reasons why I always doubt this woman. Not today or yesterday, but some years.
I really don't wanna have any negative feeling or bad feeling about any his family.
So, if she is a really his cousin, I'm so guilty.
I'm already don't have good image about her.

If I really really calm down, I don't think he is married with anybody especially if someone who already know about he is a married man.
Because I don't think he can choose to be with that kind of woman who can have relationship with married man.
If not her culture or religion etc, that kind of woman can have relationship with anybody.
So, I don't think my Oga can marry with that kind of woman.
How I wish I can always keep calm down, not so emotionally.

I know this my writing already have many many my confusing. I'm sorry.

Thank you so much for giving me advice!
I really appreciate you!!
I will try to keep calm down!

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Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by somadinho10: 11:55am On Nov 26, 2022
Are you on WhatsApp dear
peacefull:


Hello! I dey! I dey fine!
But I lost my baby girl (pet) few days ago and I just done her funeral yesterday.
I'm still so sad cry

Anyway, Thank you so much for asking!
I appreciate you!!

What about you? How far?

When I found out this website, I was so emotionally, hurt, weak etc.
And I'm always confusing person.
I know every marriage is different. But I thought something I can't hardly to understand about my Oga is because of our different cultures, traditional etc.
And I thought if I will know more about his country, his peoples, his culture etc, I can more understand him and I can make more good relationship with him.

Yes! I think I got to know more than before!
But I'm still learning. Many many things I still don't know, I still hardly to understand etc.

Yes, I thought I saw the truth.
That picture is 2017. But that woman writing she married in 2013.

But I'm feeling so guilty now.
Because I didn't try to trust my Oga. But I trusted what I saw it.
I must trust him first. But I couldn't do that.
Before I talked with him, I came here to pour my emotions.
That was make me little bit calm down.
But what I did is just talked about I, I, I and me, me, me! and I made him look like a bad person.
Very very bad and very very selfish.

I'm feeling guilty, But I also still have feeling what they did is disrespectful.
Very disrespectful, no moral, no manners for me and her husband.
I don't know if her husband knows about it or not.
Because of gain somethings, they did it.
Fake or joke or whatever, what they did it is very disrespectful. At least he could tell me before he accepted that offer.
Sorry, I can't write everythings.

But my Oga explained to me everythings and I'm still trusting him.
I know him very very well.
One of very strong proof why I can trust him is because he is still with me.
That's very strong proof about my Oga is still love me, caring about me, cherish about our marriage.
If not, he already dump me long time ago or now. He can't be with me.
But he is still with me.
Anybody who know my Oga can confirmed about it.

But when I'm so emotionally, I hardly to think like that.
Very very bad.

Yes! You are very very right!!
I don't think I can do it embarassed
Not involving my emotion is very very difficult to me.
If I don't love him or I'm not interesting about our relationship any more etc, maybe not so difficult or maybe I already leave.

Sometimes I really doubt him. But when I calm down, I really hate myself.
If I always could keep calm down, I never doubt him.
He can't even understand why I always doubting about him and that woman, he always said she is a cousin.
But I really can't confirmed about it. What I can do is just trust him.
I have some reasons why I always doubt this woman. Not today or yesterday, but some years.
I really don't wanna have any negative feeling or bad feeling about any his family.
So, if she is a really his cousin, I'm so guilty.
I'm already don't have good image about her.

If I really really calm down, I don't think he is married with anybody especially if someone who already know about he is a married man.
Because I don't think he can choose to be with that kind of woman who can have relationship with married man.
If not her culture or religion etc, that kind of woman can have relationship with anybody.
So, I don't think my Oga can marry with that kind of woman.
How I wish I can always keep calm down, not so emotionally.

I know this my writing already have many many my confusing. I'm sorry.

Thank you so much for giving me advice!
I really appreciate you!!
I will try to keep calm down!
peacefull:


Hello! I dey! I dey fine!
But I lost my baby girl (pet) few days ago and I just done her funeral yesterday.
I'm still so sad cry are you on WhatsApp dear …..I have a lot to tell you

Anyway, Thank you so much for asking!
I appreciate you!!

What about you? How far?

When I found out this website, I was so emotionally, hurt, weak etc.
And I'm always confusing person.
I know every marriage is different. But I thought something I can't hardly to understand about my Oga is because of our different cultures, traditional etc.
And I thought if I will know more about his country, his peoples, his culture etc, I can more understand him and I can make more good relationship with him.

Yes! I think I got to know more than before!
But I'm still learning. Many many things I still don't know, I still hardly to understand etc.

Yes, I thought I saw the truth.
That picture is 2017. But that woman writing she married in 2013.

But I'm feeling so guilty now.
Because I didn't try to trust my Oga. But I trusted what I saw it.
I must trust him first. But I couldn't do that.
Before I talked with him, I came here to pour my emotions.
That was make me little bit calm down.
But what I did is just talked about I, I, I and me, me, me! and I made him look like a bad person.
Very very bad and very very selfish.

I'm feeling guilty, But I also still have feeling what they did is disrespectful.
Very disrespectful, no moral, no manners for me and her husband.
I don't know if her husband knows about it or not.
Because of gain somethings, they did it.
Fake or joke or whatever, what they did it is very disrespectful. At least he could tell me before he accepted that offer.
Sorry, I can't write everythings.

But my Oga explained to me everythings and I'm still trusting him.
I know him very very well.
One of very strong proof why I can trust him is because he is still with me.
That's very strong proof about my Oga is still love me, caring about me, cherish about our marriage.
If not, he already dump me long time ago or now. He can't be with me.
But he is still with me.
Anybody who know my Oga can confirmed about it.

But when I'm so emotionally, I hardly to think like that.
Very very bad.

Yes! You are very very right!!
I don't think I can do it embarassed
Not involving my emotion is very very difficult to me.
If I don't love him or I'm not interesting about our relationship any more etc, maybe not so difficult or maybe I already leave.

Sometimes I really doubt him. But when I calm down, I really hate myself.
If I always could keep calm down, I never doubt him.
He can't even understand why I always doubting about him and that woman, he always said she is a cousin.
But I really can't confirmed about it. What I can do is just trust him.
I have some reasons why I always doubt this woman. Not today or yesterday, but some years.
I really don't wanna have any negative feeling or bad feeling about any his family.
So, if she is a really his cousin, I'm so guilty.
I'm already don't have good image about her.

If I really really calm down, I don't think he is married with anybody especially if someone who already know about he is a married man.
Because I don't think he can choose to be with that kind of woman who can have relationship with married man.
If not her culture or religion etc, that kind of woman can have relationship with anybody.
So, I don't think my Oga can marry with that kind of woman.
How I wish I can always keep calm down, not so emotionally.

I know this my writing already have many many my confusing. I'm sorry.

Thank you so much for giving me advice!
I really appreciate you!!
I will try to keep calm down!
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by semanose: 9:14pm On Nov 26, 2022
Love indeed is deep.

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Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by peacefull(f): 1:19am On Nov 27, 2022
somadinho10:
Are you on WhatsApp dear

Yes! I'm using WhatsApp.
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by peacefull(f): 1:24am On Nov 27, 2022
semanose:
Love indeed is deep.

Yessss! smiley
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by cooooooks(m): 2:38am On Nov 27, 2022
In most igbo homes, as long as they are not poor, the man usually provides most of the money for the house. Close to 80% or more.

It is changing little by little these days as more women are working or doing business.


Maybe your husband wants you to do business and make more money. Or get a new job.

Your husband has to take care of you and children. Do you guys have children?

peacefull:
Hello everyone.

Thanks for open this topic.
And sorry about my English is very poor.
Coz I'm not English speaker.

I really need advice from who is Nigerian(Igbo) and who is marry with Nigerian(Igbo)guy.

I'm married with Igbo guy more than 10years.
We started relationship totally almost 15years.

But I'm still dont know lots of things about Nigerian culture.

Now we are living separate.
Coz he got new work in far place.
That's why he is only pay for house bill where I living.
I also working.
But my wage is very small.
He always demind me to pay for lots of things more than my wage since when we married.

In suddenly he leaved our house w/o any discuss when after he spoke his friend who is introduced him to new work.

Get new work is ok.
But what I dont understand is always he decided by himself about all of things.

My health is no good.
I suppose to be go to hospital what doctor said when I went to there @ last time.
But I still cant go there more than 4month.
Bcoz of money.

I told him that how much so hard life.
But he always ignoring me.

I know that he has money.
Coz every year he go back to Nigeria.

He can buy air ticket and many gifts for his family but he has no money to take me to hospital.

Is it his culture?

Wife must pay for life more than wage?
Husband salary is more than wife.
But still must pay half and half or more than him?
I know that not everybody same.

If wife have sick,still have to go to work and have to make money to go to hospital by herself?

Is that Nigerian common marriage life style?

He started stay in Nigeria more than 1month when he go back to Nigeria.
He told me 3months by this time.
Now he is in Nigeria.

I can understand that everybody who is stay in abroad want go back to own country and missing family.
But why always w/o wife?

People who is married and living in Nigeria,every year take holiday 1to3month?
No work,no pay,w/o partner.
Is it common?

And my husband dont wanna give me any gift and dont wanna spend time with me on any celebrate day.
So I also stopped gift for him.
I have no experience about dating with him as like common couples.
Is it Igbo culture?

I know that I decided marry with him.
But I didn't know kind of hard and lonely life Iwill get.

I still wanna ask many things.
But already too much writing.

Sorry about my poor English once more time.

I hope many people can understand what I'm trying to tell you.
PLS I NEED HELP.

THANKS.

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Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by peacefull(f): 4:07am On Nov 27, 2022
cooooooks:
In most igbo homes, as long as they are not poor, the man usually provides most of the money for the house. Close to 80% or more.

It is changing little by little these days as more women are working or doing business.


Maybe your husband wants you to do business and make more money. Or get a new job.

Your husband has to take care of you and children. Do you guys have children?


Really? Close to 80% or more?

We had very bad times and very good times.
We shared and still sharing very bad times and very good times.
We will continue it smiley

But problem is I'm a very confusing person.
Sometimes I'm seriously confusing and got very emotionally.

In our past, sometimes I had two works.
Day time work and night time work.
But made more money or I didn't have work doesn't change anything at that time.

I was a single mother without married anybody before I met my Oga.
Our kid is a only this my kid. He said my kid is a his kid too and I really really appreciate him.
I learned on this website about many peoples hate single mother.
But my Oga never ever look down on me or insult me about I was a single mother since I met him till today.
Single mother like me without marriage is not common in Japan.
Mostly single mothers are widow or divorced in Japan.
But he never ever look down on me.
And We once lost our baby. We couldn't see this baby. Very hurtful our past.

Anyway, Thank you so much! I appreciate you!!
My Oga always trying to take care of me and caring about me!
But when I made this topic, I was really confusing and feeling so down and weak,
I think I had very negative thinking at that time.
I'm still learning about Nigeria on this website.
I think I'm getting to know little by little than before.
I believe knowing about Nigeria and Nigerian peoples is one of very good things for our marriage smiley

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Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by Naijatask: 9:17am On Nov 27, 2022
peacefull:


Really? Close to 80% or more?

We had very bad times and very good times.
We shared and still sharing very bad times and very good times.
We will continue it smiley

But problem is I'm a very confusing person.
Sometimes I'm seriously confusing and got very emotionally.

In our past, sometimes I had two works.
Day time work and night time work.
But made more money or I didn't have work doesn't change anything at that time.

I was a single mother without married anybody before I met my Oga.
Our kid is a only this my kid. He said my kid is a his kid too and I really really appreciate him.
I learned on this website about many peoples hate single mother.
But my Oga never ever look down on me or insult me about I was a single mother since I met him till today.
Single mother like me without marriage is not common in Japan.
Mostly single mothers are widow or divorced in Japan.
But he never ever look down on me.
And We once lost our baby. We couldn't see this baby. Very hurtful our past.

Anyway, Thank you so much! I appreciate you!!
My Oga always trying to take care of me and caring about me!
But when I made this topic, I was really confusing and feeling so down and weak,
I think I had very negative thinking at that time.
I'm still learning about Nigeria on this website.
I think I'm getting to know little by little than before.
I believe knowing about Nigeria and Nigerian peoples is one of very good things for our marriage smiley



I'm glad you're healing peaceful San smiley

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Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by peacefull(f): 10:19am On Nov 28, 2022
Naijatask:


I'm glad you're healing peaceful San smiley

Thank you so much Naijatask san!
I really had very difficult time. But I'm getting better day by day. I'm trying! smiley
I never ever wanna have that kind of happened again.
Thank you so much for talked with me on here at that time!
Really helpful to me!
I really appreciate you!!

Oh! I got to know about Naijatask san like Anime?
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by Naijatask: 7:06pm On Nov 29, 2022
peacefull:


Thank you so much Naijatask san!
I really had very difficult time. But I'm getting better day by day. I'm trying! smiley
I never ever wanna have that kind of happened again.
Thank you so much for talked with me on here at that time!
Really helpful to me!
I really appreciate you!!

Oh! I got to know about Naijatask san like Anime?

Oh yes, I'm an Otaku myself. But lately, I prefer reading Manga to watching anime, because it is faster to read the manga panels, than watching anime.

I intend to one day name my daughter Himawari which means Sunflower in Japanese I believe?

I know it's weird, but I loved the name ever since I watched the Boruto series.

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Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by peacefull(f): 9:13am On Dec 01, 2022
Naijatask:


Oh yes, I'm an Otaku myself. But lately, I prefer reading Manga to watching anime, because it is faster to read the manga panels, than watching anime.

I intend to one day name my daughter Himawari which means Sunflower in Japanese I believe?

I know it's weird, but I loved the name ever since I watched the Boruto series.

Really?! Naijatask san is Anime Otaku?
One of my nephew too. He says he is Otaku smiley

Yes! Himawari meaning sunflower.
One of my favorite flower!

Noooo! Not weird!
Some girls name is Himawari.

Oh! Yes! Himawari is Boruto's sister.
But If I heard name Himawari and Anime, I imagine Crayon Shin chan! cheesy
His sister's name is Himawari too smiley
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by Naijatask: 10:46am On Dec 01, 2022
peacefull:


Really?! Naijatask san is Anime Otaku?
One of my nephew too. He says he is Otaku smiley

Yes! Himawari meaning sunflower.
One of my favorite flower!

Noooo! Not weird!
Some girls name is Himawari.

Oh! Yes! Himawari is Boruto's sister.
But If I heard name Himawari and Anime, I imagine Crayon Shin chan! cheesy
His sister's name is Himawari too smiley

Glad to know I'm not the only Otaku around wink.

And yes, a name like Himawari will be considered weird in Nigeria.

It's just like naming a child Adekunle in Japan.

Definitely, they'll consider it as a weird name in Japan I believe?

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Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by peacefull(f): 2:44pm On Dec 01, 2022
Naijatask:


Glad to know I'm not the only Otaku around wink.

And yes, a name like Himawari will be considered weird in Nigeria.

It's just like naming a child Adekunle in Japan.

Definitely, they'll consider it as a weird name in Japan I believe?

Yesss! Not only you! smiley
I think my nephew is not watching Anime or reading Manga like before.
But he still go to Anime voice actor's concert, Anime songs singers' concert etc.
Not only about Anime events. But He is very busy for go to many many events when he has off!
He is enjoying his life and I'm very happy about it! smiley

Oh! I understand!
Himawari is Japanese, sounds like weird in Nigeria!

I think Nigerian name is unique in Japan.
Like my surname is my Oga's surname.
If I said my surname, most peoples can't get my name at once especially on the phone.
But if peoples see my surname, easily to understand my surname is not Japanese name.
Because my surname is Katakana.

And to me, some Nigerian names are difficult to read and pronounce.
I wrote about Okoye Rui (Louis) on my diary before.
Okoye is difficult to read and pronounce.
Saying and reading "Oko" is not difficult. But "ye" is difficult.
Writing Japanese is オコエ, pronounce is "Okoe" in Japan. Not "YE", but "E".

So, I think Nigerian name is little bit different if Japanese peoples say it and if writing it in Japanese.
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by Naijatask: 2:52pm On Dec 01, 2022
peacefull:


Yesss! Not only you! smiley
I think my nephew is not watching Anime or reading Manga like before.
But he still go to Anime voice actor's concert, Anime songs singers' concert etc.
Not only about Anime events. But He is very busy for go to many many events when he has off!
He is enjoying his life and I'm very happy about it! smiley

Oh! I understand!
Himawari is Japanese, sounds like weird in Nigeria!

I think Nigerian name is unique in Japan.
Like my surname is my Oga's surname.
If I said my surname, most peoples can't get my name at once especially on the phone.
But if peoples see my surname, easily to understand my surname is not Japanese name.
Because my surname is Katakana.

And to me, some Nigerian names are difficult to read and pronounce.
I wrote about Okoye Rui (Louis) on my diary before.
Okoye is difficult to read and pronounce.
Saying and reading "Oko" is not difficult. But "ye" is difficult.
Writing Japanese is オコエ, pronounce is "Okoe" in Japan. Not "YE", but "E".

So, I think Nigerian name is little bit different if Japanese peoples say it and if writing it in Japanese.







Yes I think it's from the pronunciation.

I wanted learning how to write and read japanese language.

I was taking a course on udemy.com on learning Japanese, but I gave up half way because it was a bit hard writing japanese keywords.

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Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by peacefull(f): 3:08pm On Dec 01, 2022
Naijatask:


Yes I think it's from the pronunciation.

I wanted learning how to write and read japanese language.

I was taking a course on udemy.com on learning Japanese, but I gave up half way because it was a bit hard writing japanese keywords.

Wow!! Really?!
Is that learning Japanese language website?
I will check it!

Yes, I think writing Japanese is not easy especially Kanji.
If you will try again, I wanna recommend you to learn Hiragana first smiley
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by Naijatask: 7:54pm On Dec 01, 2022
peacefull:


Wow!! Really?!
Is that learning Japanese language website?
I will check it!

Yes, I think writing Japanese is not easy especially Kanji.
If you will try again, I wanna recommend you to learn Hiragana first smiley

Thank you for your recommendation. Udemy is a learning platform where you learn literally anything.

You can learn how to speak English, German and any language. You can also learn how to cook japanese foods, how to draw manga, how to become a photographer and lots.

Literally anything you can think of.

It's like an advanced YouTube

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Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by peacefull(f): 2:17am On Dec 11, 2022
Naijatask:


Thank you for your recommendation. Udemy is a learning platform where you learn literally anything.

You can learn how to speak English, German and any language. You can also learn how to cook japanese foods, how to draw manga, how to become a photographer and lots.

Literally anything you can think of.

It's like an advanced YouTube

Hello! Naijatask san!
How are you?

I'm sorry about very late reply.
I apologies you.

I checked that website.
Very good wesite! Thank you so much for told me about that website!
I really like it!!
I appreciate you!!
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by Naijatask: 3:59am On Dec 11, 2022
peacefull:


Hello! Naijatask san!
How are you?

I'm sorry about very late reply.
I apologies you.

I checked that website.
Very good wesite! Thank you so much for told me about that website!
I really like it!!
I appreciate you!!

You are welcome, peacefull san.

Try to learn anything new there, Even if it's learning how to play a musical instrument wink

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Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by peacefull(f): 2:26am On Dec 18, 2022
Naijatask:


You are welcome, peacefull san.

Try to learn anything new there, Even if it's learning how to play a musical instrument wink

Hello! Naijatask san!
How are you today? I hope you are good and everything is good too! smiley

I'm sorry about very late reply to you again.
I apologies you.

Yesss!
I like to learn something new!
I really appreciate you!!
When I will have time, I will check more that website.
Thank you so much!!
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by odunH(m): 12:10pm On Dec 18, 2022
peacefull:


Thank You for caring me.

Sometimes, truth is so hurt to mind.
Now many peoples in here(Nairaland) telling me that he is married in Nigeria.

I still wanna trust him.
But it is so difficult to me now.

I'm always getting love him than yesterday but also getting tired about him.

I don't wanna hate him.
If he already marry with somebody in Nigeria, that is maybe good for him.
Bcoz he is happy now?

I just wanted have and make good family with him.
If he is happy, I also happy.
If he is sad, I wanna share his sad and wanna take his pain.
If he has trouble, i will try to solve that trouble with him what I can do all of my best for him.

I wanted have kind of relationship with him.
And I'm still trying to do my best now.
I don't know that is working to him or not.
Sometimes I made mistake and sometimes I can't do.
Bcoz of I am human.
Not a robot.

Anyway,
I'm so APPRECIATE all of peoples who is wrote for me in here.
I really wanted hear from real Nigerians voice.
I hadn't way to hear about Nigeria and Nigerian culture.
Only I having way to hear from my husband.

Now I found out he is not common Igbo guy what he treating me.
But I got peace of mind about Nigerian peoples.
I know that every country have good person and bad person.
But in here(Japan), many Nigerians are doing bad things and some of arrested.
If open website, many Japanese women are
wrote about how much bad person who is Nigerian guys/husband what they forgotten about they choose started relationship with that guy.
But many of them are warm hearted person in here(Nairaland) for me what doesn't matter about my husband.

I just thankful to meet good Nigerian peoples instead of my husband grin
I'm so sorry how he treated you. Think through on what many people have told you on this platform. I feel he is married with kids in Nigeria. Be strong. Karma awaits him.

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Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by peacefull(f): 2:20am On Dec 23, 2022
odunH:
I'm so sorry how he treated you. Think through on what many people have told you on this platform. I feel he is married with kids in Nigeria. Be strong. Karma awaits him.

I'm sorry about late reply to you.

I thought too and sometimes I'm still think he is married in Nigeria.
I think I have trust issue embarassed
But I wanna trust my Oga!

I'm a very confusing person and many many times I'm so emotionally.
How I wrote about my Oga is making him look like or sound like a bad person.
This is very very bad about me.

He is a good person! smiley
Problem is me. Not him.

Anyway, Thank you so much!
Many many peoples on this website are really kind peoples like you!
I appreciate you!!
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by temitope23(m): 1:06am On Jul 13, 2023
peacefull:


I'm sorry about late reply to you.

I thought too and sometimes I'm still think he is married in Nigeria.
I think I have trust issue embarassed
But I wanna trust my Oga!

I'm a very confusing person and many many times I'm so emotionally.
How I wrote about my Oga is making him look like or sound like a bad person.
This is very very bad about me.

He is a good person! smiley
Problem is me. Not him.

Anyway, Thank you so much!
Many many peoples on this website are really kind peoples like you!
I appreciate you!!


How have you been?
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by peacefull(f): 1:10am On Jul 14, 2023
temitope23:



How have you been?

Hello, Oga mi! Bawo ni? smiley

I have been doing not well, but I'm good smiley
Thank you for asking. I appreciate you!!

What about you?

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Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by Naijatask: 9:17am On Jul 14, 2023
peacefull:


Hello, Oga mi! Bawo ni? smiley

I have been doing not well, but I'm good smiley
Thank you for asking. I appreciate you!!

What about you?

Wow, great to hear from you.

How's Nihon?

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Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by temitope23(m): 11:33am On Jul 15, 2023
peacefull:


Hello, Oga mi! Bawo ni? smiley

I have been doing not well, but I'm good smiley
Thank you for asking. I appreciate you!!

What about you?

I'm doing fine. I sent you a mail.

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Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by peacefull(f): 3:31am On Jul 19, 2023
Naijatask:


Wow, great to hear from you.

How's Nihon?

Hello, Naijatask san!

How far?! cheesy

Nihon is crazy hot now!! ヤバイ〜!!
What about Nigeria or your place?
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by peacefull(f): 3:35am On Jul 19, 2023
temitope23:


I'm doing fine. I sent you a mail.

I'm glad to hear that you are doing fine! smiley
Oh! Sorry, my e-mail is something wrong now.
I don't use it or check it for a while sad
I don't know if I can see it or not, but I will check it!!

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Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by Naijatask: 10:21am On Jul 19, 2023
peacefull:


Hello, Naijatask san!

How far?! cheesy

Nihon is crazy hot now!! ヤバイ〜!!
What about Nigeria or your place?

Lol, glad to see you with your positive energy and vibes grin. Nigeria is a bit okay I'll say.

Good to hear from you

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Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by martinm45: 3:08am On Jul 20, 2023
The truth is that this is marriage of convenience. He married you just to get resident or work permit. It's my guess that he has another family in Nigeria.
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by peacefull(f): 1:30pm On Aug 03, 2023
Naijatask:


Lol, glad to see you with your positive energy and vibes grin. Nigeria is a bit okay I'll say.

Good to hear from you

Hello Naijatask san!
I'm so sorry for very late reply.
I'm apologies you.

I'm so glad to hear from you too! smiley
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by peacefull(f): 1:32pm On Aug 03, 2023
martinm45:
The truth is that this is marriage of convenience. He married you just to get resident or work permit. It's my guess that he has another family in Nigeria.

Maybe or maybe not smiley

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