kimbraa:
You don't put an end to temperaments 'cause it's ingrained in you, you only manage it once you've realized where you fall. Try to make your comments void of insults.

exactly that's why I suggest domestic violence, to make sure you head is still working

do you manage bad behavior or you stop it?

my comment about you being a dumbass still stands, I'm not taking that back

kimbraa:
I've never heard of that. It's like saying once an introvert, now a complete extrovert. If an introvert decides to work his/her introversion and successfully transcends to an extrovert, there are usually signs of introversion in him/her.

Again, whatever had been uprooted has the possibility of springing up again. This happens if that which was uprooted is placed back on a fertile soil and then watered. Where these two is lacking, it dies or at least, it stunts.

Kim, getting angry is natural but being quick to anger is a habit, and habits (especially bad ones) can be stopped or managed to reflect normalcy.

That's the message.

kimbraa:
I'm short tempered 'cause I'm a choleric, and it's nothing to be ashamed of. All it takes is an understanding partner.

Circular definition.

LordOfNaira:


You should work on it. Those predisposed to aggression act on anger rather than aggression but it might be only a matter of time before they turned violent.

Don't expect anyone to cope with your short temper. It is your problem to manage. There are a lot of anger management tips on the net.

Lastly, supposing your spouse understands you, what about your kids. Would you expect them to understand you or would you go the extra mile to work on the
issue?

Every human gets angry and it depends on the situation on ground. That I said I'm short tempered doesn't mean I don't know how to manage my anger. I've been in situations where my anger was tested that would've resulted in a physical fight but that's the last thing I'd do so I simply walk away 'cause that's the only way inorder not to be caught up in a fight.

lilmax:
exactly that's why I suggest domestic violence, to make sure you head is still working

do you manage bad behavior or you stop it?

my comment about you being a dumbass still stands, I'm not taking that back

You stink of stupidity. Get lost!.

Splinz:

Again, whatever had been uprooted has the possibility of springing up again. This happens if that which was uprooted is placed back on a fertile soil and then watered. Where these two is lacking, it dies or at least, it stunts.

Kim, getting angry is natural but being quick to anger is a habit, and habits (especially bad ones) can be stopped or managed to reflect normalcy.

That's the message.

It not a habit 'cause habits are developed/formed but who I'm. Anyway, I've mine under control.

kimbraa:
You stink of stupidity. Get lost!.

it's not you I pity,it's your dumb square spouse taking your crap because you expect him to understand your bad behavior instead of stopping it

again if only you were stopped by your parents you wouldn't have taken pride in bad behavior

dumbass

kimbraa:
Every human gets angry and it depends on the situation on ground. That I said I'm short tempered doesn't mean I don't know how to manage my anger. I've been in situations where my anger was tested that would've resulted in a physical fight but that's the last thing I'd do so I simply walk away 'cause that's the only way inorder not to be caught up in a fight.

Well, that is good if you can manage your temper.

Initially you sounded like your short temper was something to be proud of and anyone coming into your life needs to understand it to be an indelible part of you.

LordOfNaira:


Well, that is good if you can manage your temper.

Initially you sounded like your short temper was something to be proud of and anyone coming into your life needs to understand it to be an indelible part of you.

Of course, my partner has to understand my kind of person, and I can't be ashamed of the fact that I'm short tempered 'cause it's my temperament which is natural.

I have walked into a room where I caught my ex pants down with another lady and I was calm even though I was boiling inside. This happened in three occasions in a month. If that isn't anger management then I wonder what is?. I'm just not a violent person by nature, some people ignorantly assumes all short tempered persons are dangerous.

kimbraa:
It not a habit 'cause habits are developed/formed but who I'm. Anyway, I've mine under control.

Here, take a look:

'Human beings naturally gets angry' and 'Human beings are naturally short tempered'.

Which of the two do you think is the most correct or truest?

kimbraa:
Of course, my partner has to understand my kind of person, and I can't be ashamed of the fact that I'm short tempered 'cause it's my temperament which is natural.

I have walked into a room where I caught my ex pants down with another lady and I was calm even though I was boiling inside. This happened in three occasions in a month. If that isn't anger management then I wonder what is?. I'm just not a violent person by nature, some people ignorantly assumes all short tempered persons are dangerous.

First of all, how did you come to the conclusion about your temperament type? You took some psychometric tests or your conclusion is based on commonsense?

The reason why I asked is because temperaments are not as straightforward. And moreover, temperaments are traits. And although they are natural traits, their development is contingent upon motivation.

LordOfNaira:


First of all, how did you come to the conclusion about your temperament type? You took some psychometric tests or you conclusion is based on commonsense?

The reason why I asked is because temperaments are not as straightforward. And moreover, temperaments are traits. And although they are natural traits, their development is contingent upon motivation.

Personal evaluation.

Splinz:

Here, take a look:

'Human beings naturally gets angry' and 'Human beings are naturally short tempered'.

Which of the two do you think is the most correct or truest?

Human beings naturally get angry. Why did you ask?.

kimbraa:
Personal evaluation.

Well, that is not enough.

Your short temper may not even have anything to do with nature.

There are short tempered people whose short tempers are a cover for their insecurities or an expulsion of accumulated grievances. Let me give you an instance. A girl who has come off badly from three failed relationships may suffer a depletion of tolerance for frustration. A child who has suffered silently in the hands of bullies may grow up with an explosive temper.

You can take a test in the future. That is if you want, though. I am not forcing you.

LordOfNaira:


Well, that is not enough.

Your short temper may not even have anything to do with nature.

There are short tempered people whose short tempers are a cover for their insecurities or an expulsion of accumulated grievances. Let me give you an instance. A girl who has come off badly from three failed relationships may suffer a depletion of tolerance for frustration. A child who has suffered silently in the hands of bullies may grow up with an explosive temper.

You can take a test in the future. That is if you want, though. I am not forcing you.

I know me better than you could imagine. It's none of the aforementioned.

kimbraa:
Human beings naturally get angry. Why did you ask?.

Cool.

I called being quick to anger a 'habit' and not nature for obvious reasons: I do get angry as is natural and true of all beings; but I am not short tempered because it is not in my nature.

However, there's a way I can somehow adopt this alien trait, and that is through habit. Yes, I can form the habit.

That is why I said that it's a habit.

Splinz:

Cool.

I called being quick to anger a 'habit' and not nature for obvious reasons: I do get angry as is natural and true of all beings; but I am not short tempered because it is not in my nature.

However, there's a way I can somehow adopt this alien trait, and that is through habit. Yes, I can form the habit.

That is why I said that it's a habit.

So you think anyone enjoys being angry since it's a habit?. Whether it's short tempered or not; it's a trait in all humans. All you need is for someone to trigger you.

kimbraa:
I know me better than you could imagine. It's none of the aforementioned.

OK o. I have had people come to my office and tell me "Doc, you don't know me as much as I know myself." It turned out that I knew many of them more than they knew themselves

kimbraa:
So you think anyone enjoys being angry since it's a habit?. Whether it's short tempered or not; it's a trait in all humans. All you need is for someone to trigger you.

Kim, getting angry and being short tempered are two different thing. The latter is even viewed as a problem that must be cured or controlled.

And thankfully, like you said, you've gotten yours under controlled.

If I am short tempered as you claimed, then perhaps, the manifestation of my own need a special kind of intervention or triggers. Perhaps, it is truly not there.

What do you think?

Splinz:


Kim, getting angry and being short tempered are two different thing. The latter is even viewed as a problem that must be cured or controlled.

And thankfully, like you said, you've gotten yours under controlled.

If I am short tempered as you claimed, then perhaps, the manifestation of my own need a special kind of intervention or triggers. Perhaps, it is truly not there.

What do you think?

Be that as it may, I'm less worried about me.

LordOfNaira:


OK o. I have had people come to my office and tell me "Doc, you don't know me as much as I know myself." It turned out that I knew many of them more than they knew themselves

I had to lay emphasis on "Many of them" which means there were some you didn't know as much as they knew themselves. You should take me for my words.

kimbraa:
there are those who would require a lot to be angered and when they do; you may never like the consequences. These are temperaments no one asked for.

that's just me! I don't talk much and i get angry very easily but i always try to put myself in other people's position before i take any decision.

But when i display my anger, the result is violent and quite alarming even to myself. I'm the type that when i'm angry, i don't think twice before i act, i don't care how old you are or what position you are in the society. I don't know how to be exchanging words with the person i'm fighting with, i just grab any object i see and strike with it.

My grandmother used to tell me that my temper was handed to me by the devil himself, hand to hand. My aunt went as far as writing my temper as a prayer point and sending it to pastor Chris oyakhilome.

What i do now is just lock up myself in my room and be on my own. It is working for me that way.

kimbraa:
I had to lay emphasis on "Many of them" which means there were some you didn't know as much as they knew themselves. You should take me for my words.

I was only trying to tell you not to be too confident about knowing yourself more than I do

When I was younger I was really short temper, at 17 it was done on me I hard to manage this and I started( the first is to know you have a problem and then start managing it) don't give excuse of how you were born with it or how you grew up with it. it very dangerous to have a hot short-tempered Woman in your Life except you are the same.

Try managing it for the 1st and second time after that kindly move onn

NManonymous:
How do you cope with a short tempered woman?

I would not tolerate that kind of shit for whatever reason!