We now live in a world where everything is done at a very fast rate. We grow up fast, learn fast, eat fast food, fall in love fast, get married fast and also get divorced fast. In our contemporary world, we avoid everything that comes with too many responsibilities as we would do a plague.

Contrary to what we grew up to see, marriage has gone from an institution to a contract agreement. You are free to live as soon as the terms and conditions no longer appeal to you. It is now a death trap for men and an avenue of abuse for the women. Marriage is now a prison where both parties are chained together with a tiny little ring for the rest of their lives.

Every marriage must pass through three stages of growth before both parties can enjoy it; the adaptation stage, the intermediate stage and the maturity stage. Although the first stage occurs within the first three to ten years of marriage, research has shown that most marriage contracts are terminated here. This is the stage where your body system learns to adapt to the fact that you are no longer alone, your pocket learns to adapt to spending for the family and your mind learns to accommodate the other person.

In the second stage, your mind and total starts to acclimatize to the truths you discovered in the period of adaptation, and you begin to understand the best way to relate with your partner by accommodating their strengths and weaknesses. The last stage comes after 30-40 years of marriage. At this point, nothing can separate you both except death do you part.

There are several factors that may lead to the termination of “the marriage contract” in the first three years and these factors have been discussed below.

1. Lack of Commitment

Maturity is not a function of age but of the mind. Marriage is for men and women and not for boys and girls. Commitment is one key ingredient that most marriages lack. If your marriage lacks a commitment to personal goals, commitment to the emotional, financial and psychological needs of your partner, commitment to everything that defines your marriage then it will definitely not exceed ten years.

2. Lack of Trust

Without trust, a marriage is nothing but a tasteless meal served with the bitterest of all wines on earth. If your marriage must make it out of the adaptation zone, there is a great need to trust each other. If you can’t trust him or her during courtship, it is better you let him or her go. Love is not always enough. A lot of marriages now experience trust issues because what they share has been built on lies. No matter how sweet a lie may taste, it cannot stand the bitterness of the truth.

3. Lack of Understanding

It seems nobody is now ready to pay the price of trying to understand the other person. Always remember that people change. Marriage is not always a 50/50 case sometimes you just have to take the available 5% and contribute your 95% so that it can work out.

Marriage is a full time employment. If you are not ready to pay the price, don’t even think about signing the contract. It is better to live in peace as a lonely single than to experience a horrible death as a married individual. Marriage is fun and lovely but not without challenges.

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