This is a story told to me by my friend and i thought it wise to share with Nairalanders but will need sincere contributions from only married people. She met a man in 2008 throgh chat and due to distance was able to meet the man in 2009 when she was transfered to the same location where the man recides. In 2009, the man proposed to her and in 2010, they began the plans for there marriage only for the man to tell her 2 weeks before her introduction that there has been a secret he has been keeping away from her because he loves her and wouldn't want to loose her. The secret is that he has 2 daughters from a girl he dated. she jilted him and they both seprated before he met my friend. She was too shocked to belive it because this man is just 33 yrs but it is true. Now her parents are waiting and she just doesnt know what to do as she cant come in terms with been a step mum to anybody. she loves him but, please only married people should contribute.

I'm not married.

Pity I am unmarried, have a lot to say, but will quickly go back to the ummarried corner and wait for replies,  

D choice is hers to make. No big deal in being a step mum, if she loves d guy n d fact dt he atleast let d cat out, then she has to accept it and be true to him.

If she's not okay with d arrangement she better fly cos marriage is a school without certificate and no awards given or gotten

Tnks. Pls more contributions are appreciated

2 daughters from same woman? I dont think dats was all done by mistake. One, could be excused, but 2? not too sure. I Give d guy kudos 4 sayin it at all, but d timing is quite crucial. Guess dats why she`s confused. With d level of exposure in our environment, I don`think she can cope wt 2 girls who will see her as "running" wt their mum even if she`s no longer wt d man. I suggest she slows down a little bit and cool off (not calling off now) Dat she jilted him is his own side of the story, have u heard from d other party so as ascertain wat went wrong? As far as u know, there`s no clear pix of wat actaully transpired. In future ur friend may av running battles wt d girls n their mum as they may form a tag team 2 make life unbearable. Truth be told, no woman wld give birth 4 another 2look after (except those who choose 2 abandon theirs)

My dear, marriage no b yam. It comes wt lots of sacrifices, compromise, tolerance, a shift from previously held views (may not b drastic) n some politics. I have a wife n 2 kids who all compete 4 attention. Balancing the act takes alot. Atimes my spouse will comment about my 2 n half yr daughter snuggling close 2 me n hw she seems 2 av her way wt me sometimes n me always harrasing my son of 1yr+.

Painful as it may sound, I suggest she takes an exit n let go. Better be pained now than av a battle field for a home. However, it could turn out good as well.

@ poster, i suggest u take breathless' advice above.

Hilarious.

im married should i contribute~