The Category Each Man Falls Into
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In the 21st century relationship, some men fall into four categories, namely :
1. A boy
2. A player
3. A confused man and
4. A real man.
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A Boy
A boy will always be a boy regardless of his age. Growing up and growing old is never the same. Growing old is mandatory while growing up is optional by choice.
A boy care less about what makes you happy as a woman. He knows nothing about putting a home together and he's not ready to learn. The woman will do the thinking and make decisions. He would be more concerned about his mode of dressing than his character.
A boy is loose, he will kiss and tell and talks about everything in his relationship to everybody and openly condemn his woman.
A boy will make his mum his next of kin even when he's married to a good wife and kids. A boy never worries about the future because he never wants to grow. He knows nothing about responsibility or being responsible. He will beat his woman and care less about her pains. Make his woman's life miserable not because he is wicked but because he's a child. He would rather play video games or hang out with his home boys rather than staying at home. You cannot put a bike engine in a car and expect the performance of a car. When a matured woman marries or date a boy, she automatically becomes a girl. She would change from a peaceful matured woman to a nagging young girl and people will think she's going insane.
A boy gets easily intimidated by his woman's position, status and feels insecure by her income. He will always fight and demand for respect because he thinks he's a man based on his age. It's difficult to communicate with a boy since he's always right. He feels superior and thinks he's doing a woman a favor by dating or marrying her.
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A Player
It's better to be single than date a player. No matter how much effort you invest in a relationship with a player, it's most likely to end in vain. A player is smart but wicked, selfish and inconsiderate and will never stay faithful to one woman. Most women fall for players because they appear attractive and presentable. Players have something extraordinary about them, he can be rich, famous, tall, handsome, romantic, talented, good in bed and possess many qualities that a woman wants in a guy. He will sweep you off your feet at the beginning and make you believe you are the luckiest woman alive. He would tell you what you love to hear and show you what you love to see. He would make unbelievable promises. He would get into your head through your heart and take control of your thinking. He would spend any amount of money and offer to get in between your legs and after accomplishing his mission, the stories changes. Any attention and affection you get from a player is temporary.
The first problem you will encounter with him is his words will start to contradict his actions, then his behavior and timing will change drastically. Then you will start wondering what you did wrong again. It's not you, it's him. A player's time is very limited because he got a lot of women to share it with. No woman can win a game with a player apart from a material woman who never dates or marries for love.
A player's heart has no space for love, he would only marry a potential victim for selfish reasons or benefits and continue his games after marriage. He would tell terrific stories about his innocent wife just to get another woman to bed.
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A Confused Man
The problem with a confused man is he doesn't know what he wants. Relationship is like a door, you are either in or out. A confused man will put one leg in and one leg out. People will think you have a perfect relationship while you are actually not sure of where you stand. A confused man can be a wonderful guy who doesn't play games, he would love you, give you all you want but he will never propose. He would give you excuses all the time and put your life on hold not because he's bad but because he's yet to figure out what he wants with his life.
A confused man may have an unfinished business. He will be in a relationship and still be talking and hanging out with his ex, not because he's bad but because he's confused.
Of course there's no rush in love but there's a big difference between endurance and ignorance. You can only endure with a man who knows what he wants and where he's going in life. Endurance with a confused man can be risky and a complete waste of time. When a woman makes up her mind and decide to leave, a confused man will change and start making new promises and deadlines just to make her wait more. After a while, he goes back to his old ways and for the woman, the waiting continues. One of life's greatest mistakes is to embark on a life journey with someone who is not going anywhere in life.
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A Real Man
A real man is the best gift any woman can get, he's a grown up, matured man regardless of his age that's done playing games, ready to commit to just one woman and be faithful to her. He would be responsible, trust worthy, love you and all that concerns you genuinely and prove his love to you. He would be sensitive to your needs and allergic to your tears. He would treat you like a queen, support you and bring out the best in you. He would be consistent and his words will match his actions. Real men don't make promises, they make commitment. You would be his best friend, next of kin, confidant and you would never have to fight or beg for his attention. He would laugh with you and cry with you. He would be more focused in your future than complain about your past. When there's conflict, he will never raise his voice or hands, he would peacefully make you understand his point. He would carry you along with his plans. If you disagree with him, he will never take offense, he will trust without doubt and would give without expectations. Although he may not have enough but he will be happy to share the little he has.
Most women think real men are difficult to find, the truth is there are millions of real men out there. Some women go to the rainy forest expecting to catch a fish forgetting fishes don't live in a forest.
You cannot date or marry a player or a boy and expect a treatment of a real man.
A boy plus a player is not equal to a real man.

A real man to the core...

Am Just Human


No Complications....nd definately Not a Mediocre type.

Confused

OP, I hope you aren't expecting a good answer to your question.

Retired player

*Spreads her mat, grabs a pen and pad*

Continue


4 to 1 chance

Then they will say there are more women than men! Biggest lie ever told! There are more confused boys and players to men! That's the cold truth!

More women than men yet nearly 75% of men claim to be single... Life makes me chuckle...


*Rolls up her mat and staggers to bed*

@youngest85... you can be a real man...if you really what to be... A writer once said "if you decide a thing the whole world conspires to make it happen

@dimples.. do you know why some men are confused?
One of the reasons are such a man doesn't know what he want, it's also applicable to some women....
i had a chat with some ladies as regards double dating.... most of them fall in love because they think the guys they are dating are the best for them... in that case also they are confused....
if you know what you want.... you won't be confused... Knowing what you want has to do with knowing you purpose of existence and finding what you love doing...

am a biased fellow.i dnt knw wht i want if i see white i became white ,if i see black i change to black.etc

Am all of them.

@newyork.... in this case it's different...
Knowing what you want in a relationship is quiet different..
let me give you some examples
you have to discover your self.... your values, belief etc.
then the lady you would want to date has to be in line with your values and belief
if you are a career man and you get attracted to working class women... then you girlfriend isn't that type... she wants you to take care of the bills then she takes care of the house... then you should know that want you want is a career woman or a working class lady.
it's takes time to know what you want... but it worth it
Take your time and spend time alone... ask yourself what kind of woman do i want?

I’m all of the above, what surfaces is depends entirely on what type of lady involved.

@yoruba.. hmm, i don't think so... your woman doesn't really have a say on your personality... if you decide to play around you will definitely get the unserious type... You attract what you think.... if you think you deserve a woman that is proud of you, love and support you,you will definitely find such... it's all depends on your thinking

a man if God.

a man of God.

am the other man

you know....

the that is not on the list

be a Player and get pvssy coz women only want a Real Man when they are used up and wana retire from the game.
NEVER FALL INTO THE TRAP OF BEING A "REAL MAN".
never never ever

I am whoever I want to be

ubunja:
be a Player and get pvssy coz women only want a Real Man when they are used up and wana retire from the game.
NEVER FALL INTO THE TRAP OF BEING A "REAL MAN".
never never ever

Exactly.

ubunja:
be a Player and get pvssy coz women only want a Real Man when they are used up and wana retire from the game.
NEVER FALL INTO THE TRAP OF BEING A "REAL MAN".
never never ever

Exact, its slavery with extra steps (in ricks voice)

you attract what you think.... stuff happens.... if you think being a real man will make a lady take you for granted...Go ahead.... Just make your choice wisely..... and live a fulfilled life�

dinewithoyin:
you attract what you think.... stuff happens.... if you think being a real man will make a lady take you for granted...Go ahead.... Just make your choice wisely..... and live a fulfilled life�

You are absolutely right

So many bitter people and then we wonder why life ain't a joy

You should quote people hun... use the quote button and they will receive a mention that they could reply to.

Great thread though, you should do the different types of women too because every pot get a lid

Dimples129:


You are absolutely right

So many bitter people and then we wonder why life ain't a joy

You should quote people hun... use the quote button and they will receive a mention that they could reply to.

Great thread though, you should do the different types of women too because every pot get a lid

thank you....

I am

the bottom line of this topic is, women wants men that Real.... i mean GOOD WOMEN... All you need is self discovery.... We all deserves the best..... for us to get it.. let's also work towards it... Real women attract Real men..Players attract Players.... you have to choice the once you want....
BE THE MAN A WOMAN NEEDS NOT A MAN THAT NEEDS A WOMAN
THANK YOU...

dinewithoyin:
the bottom line of this topic is, women wants men that Real.... i mean GOOD WOMEN... All you need is self discovery.... We all deserves the best..... for us to get it.. let's also work towards it... Real women attract Real men..Players attract Players.... you have to choice the once you want....
BE THE MAN A WOMAN NEEDS NOT A MAN THAT NEEDS A WOMAN
THANK YOU...

bull straight out of a bull's mouth.
women become "real women" after 3 kids from Players.your propaganda post aint fooling anyone. if a gal at 17 can say what you saying i will believe it. but as long as its 27-37 yr old women sorrry i aint buying it.

dinewithoyin:
the bottom line of this topic is, women wants men that Real.... i mean GOOD WOMEN... All you need is self discovery.... We all deserves the best..... for us to get it.. let's also work towards it... Real women attract Real men..Players attract Players.... you have to choice the once you want....
BE THE MAN A WOMAN NEEDS NOT A MAN THAT NEEDS A WOMAN
THANK YOU...

you have a point... Why do you think a man is called a groom.... he is meant to build his woman, love and support her... a player or a boy can't do that.. A woman will definitely cherish and appreciate a man that builds her up...
To those women who takes a man's love for granted... they know nothing about relationship if they know better,they would have done it better

A real man is one that stays True to his nature - either 'good' or 'bad'. Pursues what he wants, dominates his emotions and does what he gat to do to stay high up the food chain. Any other definition is unacceptable.