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|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Iqguy: 5:11pm On Feb 18, 2018|
Doctormarrvin:Except that this is not at all an accepted scientific research that has yielded any result. any body can be doing research but that's not the accepted position of the scientific community.
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|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by escodotman: 5:17pm On Feb 18, 2018|
boringnigerian:I don't still understand you, are you trying to categorise homosexuality as either anatomical, physiological or a genetic problem or all of the above? Which of them do you think homosexuality belong to? It is irrelevant asking me who invented homosexuality, is it a scientific discovery? So far it's been in existence even before Jesus came to the world, so also, armed robbery, fornication, murder and so on, doesn't make any of them natural at all. To me, it is all psychological; you contemplate them and/or the thoughts cross your mind and/or you get tempted to do any of them but it is now left to you to choose whether to ignore those thoughts or follow suit. It has nothing to do with genetic or anatomy.
|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Odey1997(m): 5:30pm On Feb 18, 2018|
Dearie you don't need to be suicidal others have gone through what you're going through now some came out of the act while for others,they didn't it's important to know being a homosexual/gay is a natural thing not all folks are attracted to the opposite sex until people accept this fact the misconception continues
Infact cast and bind
Go for counseling /trying to change their mindset
Deliverance/prayers and Co. won't do a thing
First accept who you are and leave everything to your creator to handle
Don't allow religious sentiments derail you from being who you truly are
God loves you but love starts from loving yourself
|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by boringnigerian: 5:32pm On Feb 18, 2018|
Lmao, dude you're reading what you want from sources you want. Quote me anywhere - there's no such thing as a cure to homosexuality. So what if I said there is a cure for being straight? If you can link to just one peer reviewed paper in a reputed scientific journal that states that homosexuality is an illness that needs a cure, this discussion would be over.
|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by boringnigerian: 5:33pm On Feb 18, 2018|
Is being straight psychological? At what point in your life did you choose to be straight?
|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Nobody: 5:37pm On Feb 18, 2018|
From the words of James E. Faust:
In this life, we have to make many choices. Some are very important choices. Some are not. Many of our choices are between good and evil. The choices we make, however, determine to a large extent our happiness or our unhappiness, because we have to live with the consequences of our choices.
|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by escodotman: 7:18pm On Feb 18, 2018|
boringnigerian:What do you mean ''straight''... Oh you mean being 'normal' right? Ok, I chose to be straight because it is natural and the very normal thing to do. I chose not to be developing 'feelings' for my fellow man no matter how handsome he is, I chose not be 'sleeping' with my fellow man because they don't have the opposite sex's genitals. So yes, being 'staright' is psychological, inborn, natural and the normal thing to do as humans.
|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by thinkmoney(m): 7:22pm On Feb 18, 2018|
Iqguy:you are right, Netherland is very peaceful compare to most countries. But do you take note of the different diseases linked to homosexuality?
moreover, if you admit the fact that human beings are still very limited in the way we can diagnose societal ills and the way they are linked. that is why we must trust the one that knows the end from the beginning- God. history as also taught us its best to follow is advice.
you will of course dismiss my argument if you think there is no God.
|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by boringnigerian: 7:28pm On Feb 18, 2018|
Oh, you chose to be straight? When? Give us a specific date
|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Kayelyon: 7:36pm On Feb 18, 2018|
This Shiit is real.
And thesw people need all the understanding and help they can get.
There are young men who have been attracted to ONLY boys from childhood.
Some even hate the feeling ?
others have embraced it.
Many have tried fighting and are still fighting this "inordinate affection".
Whichever way, there is no denying what one feels deep inside.
|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Iqguy: 7:38pm On Feb 18, 2018|
thinkmoney:Except that since all these years the Netherlands still have very low rates for any disease, natural disaster or economic meltdown.
|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Iqguy: 7:40pm On Feb 18, 2018|
So how has the Netherlands coped since legalizing gay marriage? Even some of its fiercest Dutch critics now say it was a good move.
" At the time I opposed same -sex marriage, I was led by fear ," Hannie van Leeuwen, leader of the Christian Democrat party and opponent to the gay marriage law , was reported to
have said just a few years later. " Having seen so many happy gay and lesbian couples getting married , I realize I was wrong. I don' t understand anymore what made me treat gays and lesbians differently from other citizens ."
And evidence suggests that while discrimination was far from totally eradicated by the Netherland ' s gay marriage law , the institution of marriage has suffered no ill effects at all .
" Heterosexual couples did not turn away from the institution of marriage, nor did the world isolate my country , " Boris Dittrich, a former member of Netherland ' s parliament,
wrote in 2011. " Civilization as we know it did not end . And, as far as I can tell , God did not punish the Netherlands ."
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|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Iqguy: 7:42pm On Feb 18, 2018|
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|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Iqguy: 8:02pm On Feb 18, 2018|
Lol, "being normal" oya now be feeling fly, for your mind you better pass gay people. So you think same sex men and women fall in love because of how handsome or how beautiful the person is. So by your silly logic a same sex person will have to chose not to develop feelings for the opposite sex because they are very fine. Well lemme tell you most gays will not be moved if you like bring Miss World to them; they are not attracted to the opposite sex. Boss you ate heterosexual you don't have to chose or not chose to be attracted to the same sex.
Meanwhile you've not told us the day you chose that happened I want to be attracted to the opposite sex and not same sex, the day you were given the choice, we are waiting.
|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by escodotman: 8:50pm On Feb 18, 2018|
Iqguy:Being foolish has been ingrained in the way you reason for calling someone else's opinion 'silly'. The last time I checked, everyone is entitled to their opinion... Who do you think you are to call someone's opinion silly? These misguided fellows hiding behind the keyboard to disrespect people on social media, based on simple arguments. You've chosen to be a homosexual, so good luck to you and stop trying hard to make people buy into your twisted world.
|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by escodotman: 8:52pm On Feb 18, 2018|
boringnigerian:I'd give you my reply when you answer the question.. Are you a homosexual?
|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Nobody: 9:12pm On Feb 18, 2018|
hi Shankie. My advice is quit trying to be who you are not for the sake of your sanity. If you are attracted to the same sex, lying to yourself and pretending to be who you are not doesn't sound healthy, it'd only make you end up hurting yourself and even the people around you. You have already tried changing your sexuality and from your story you weren't successful, that should tell you it's about time you man up and learn to accept the things you cannot change and be happy... unless you know for a fact that you can change(and you'd rather be straight) , then you can go ahead and keep trying... it's no one else's but your prerogative to own your life. On behalf of humanity I apologize for all the hate, bigoted and vile comments hurled at you, it just goes to show that we humans are still a long way from perfection... at least we are better now then we were centuries ago.
love and light. Namaste
|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by thinkmoney(m): 9:15pm On Feb 18, 2018|
Iqguy:my brother don't cook up statistics oo. I only know Holland has good economy and they are free of serious natural disaster. although they aren't suffering from any disease more than any country, its steal a popular consensus that homosexuality is complicit in many serious sexual disease.
|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Andracarles: 9:25pm On Feb 18, 2018|
OP by now, i hope you have stopped reading this. A lot of closet gays have come out to play, hiding behind the curtains of homophobia. Pay them no heed. Religious bigots that think they are better than you because they stick their stuff in the opposite sex. It makes them sleep better to think: "oh im a sinner i know, but at least im nt gay". Ignore them. Thnk God fluidqueen got to u first. I shudder at some of my countrymens thoughts. Savages.
P:S: Any god you think wont love you just the way you are, get rid of it.
|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by remebombom: 10:09pm On Feb 18, 2018|
Some sins, we have to continue to keep guard and fight against them because for us, they are the sins which easily beset us. And everyone has his and her own particular sin that tries to rip them apart no matter how much they want to let go of it, so what do you do? keep fighting! You will not change all of a sudden, infact after a while when you think you've overcome, the devil might want to tempt you with it again, the desire to be with a man and acting according to it are two different things, I believe it is wrong only if you yield. Man by nature rebels against God's ordinances because of the fall. Don't kill yourself or hate yourself, God can and will help you if you keep trusting Him.
|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Doctormarrvin: 10:26pm On Feb 18, 2018|
Iqguy:Yeah,you're right bro. It's actually independent research.
|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Doctormarrvin: 10:39pm On Feb 18, 2018|
boringnigerian:lol,i got what I posted from a scientific journal bro. I never said being gay is an illness,i only said its a deviation from normalcy hence the "abnormal" tag. Okay I'm going to stop using the word "cure" cos I think it's the cause of the argument but certainly I know for sure that there are independent researchers looking for a way to "change" homosexual individuals,i can still post the link to the journal if you want. And FYI the researchers are never lacking in homosexual test subjects. Lmao@A cure for being straight.
|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Iqguy: 10:55pm On Feb 18, 2018|
And you still did not answer my question. Well avoidance tactics I get.
I said the opinion was silly, not your person, but if it makes you feel better you can call me foolish, it doesn't change the fact that your logic of saying that one chooses not to be attracted to someone of the same sex irrespective of HOW FINE they are is just plain silly, because Heterosexuals will never be sexually or romantically attracted to the same sex irrespective of how fine they are and so for Homosexuals and the opposite sex. I hope you get it anyway rather than claim I insulted you or resulting to insulting me.
Do answer my question anyway
|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Iqguy: 11:02pm On Feb 18, 2018|
Like I said you can go and check indexes of HIV/AIDS in Holland, Belgium, Denmark, France, UK and most of the countries that have legalised Homosexuality and come back and tell me the levels. I'm sure the disease you are talking of is not more than HIV. These countries have shown with their natural stories that legalising homosexuality does not increase any disease, does not degrade economy or creates natural disasters, does not destroy heterosexual marriages, does not increase the normal amount of homosexuals and surely does not make God hate a country.
|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by 1Sharon(f): 12:53am On Feb 19, 2018|
Do you do the gay ting aswell?
|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by zinaunreal(m): 2:37am On Feb 19, 2018|
KingGBsky:you might be the one who will end up in hell at the end of the day. People like you usually have a sickening secret sin
|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Nobody: 10:02am On Feb 19, 2018|
|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Nobody: 10:03am On Feb 19, 2018|
Mariinee:Guess you can drink beer now!
|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by boringnigerian: 10:41am On Feb 19, 2018|
Pray tell, how is that pertinent to this discussion?
|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by boringnigerian: 10:46am On Feb 19, 2018|
Of course anybody can do anything and call it scientific but until it is peer-reviewed and accepted by the International science community, the person is just shooting personal shots. That's why I asked for links to something in a scientific journal of international pursuit.
Besides, finding a way to change people's sexual orientation is not an indictment of their sexual orientation. I mean, they found a way to change people's sexual assignment - does that mean their previous sex was bad? Some people are just not happy with who they are and would prefer to be different and science would always look for a solution for them, even if some gay gene is discovered tomorrow.
Lol, the cure for being straight just highlights my point.
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|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by IamProdigy: 1:14pm On Feb 19, 2018|
From your Story...am awed...
For this to start at childhood is rather confusing..
but let's leave it that way whether a spiritual or biological case!
yes..your background sounded Christian...but its not enough to break you out of this shackles! it goes deeper.
From the human anatomy, you would agree that the male organ is created for the female...not the other way round....
so this makes the whole process naturally odd!
Now this is what I suggest You do:
Share this problem with your pastor, I believe he will give you directives!
share this with your parents!
Share this with a medical personnel, it could be stemming from a hormonal imbalance..
Please keep your friends of this details!...
Having girlfriends wouldn't solve it...(that is sex with them)
On a final note...
This is a delicate matter, Its not something you will listen to every trash spewed here...
Homosexuality is a warped orientation, its a against nature and order, and the bible, condemns it!
like I told you...share with those 3 people..you do be on your way to Recovery....God bless you!
|Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by schumastic(m): 2:15pm On Feb 19, 2018|
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