Theblessed:

Nayah  Listen!

Your African Nigerian brothers and sisters sometimes prefer 'Home made meals,'ok! But that does not mean they don't eat Mcdonalds or Kentucky Frieds they do but rare.  When I say rare, I mean if you would put a percentage mark on how often they'd eat out, its likely to be about 2% or 5% at most if you understand what I mean? 

Nigerian girl and boy prefers their own particularly, the boys because our girls are sophisticated in nature (my opinion) . 

Generally, men love their belly hence an English adage that says 'The Way to a Man's Heart is Through His  Stomach? and because like most men, Nigerian man love im belle, he prefers a sophisticated Nigerian girl who knows how to - to fill it up e.g. ensuring those authentic Nigerian foods are in the fridge (assuming everyone has one) and ready when he wants. 

Secondly, abi, you sabi how to do amala, iba, isi ewu, kpomo and ewedu not to talk of Ofe Egusi, Ofe Okra, Olughu and Ofe Nsala or abi we go talk of Nigerian woman's goat, chicken and fish pepper soups and then, crowning it off with pammy or cool beer for him. Hmmm, job dey here o o o? You see, 95% of Nigerian men likes their iba ask anyone so its good you know how

What of his copulation needs jo, don't ignore that o o? .  And when family visits - papa, mama, oh sibblings, abeg o o, to me, the responsibility might be too much for unassuming Black/African sisters from other 'sites', I think and that's why they prefer their own because, she would understand. 

Anyway, if you are considering a Nigerian for marriage, ensure you do your home work o o o.  Get good education in the above mentioned departments as it would help your loving else, be strong and ready to compete because, if he can't do those things himself certainly, he would find an avenue and that could shake things up for you.  Obviously, family would support him because in Nigerian, it's anathema to hear that a woman could not cook .

Good luck with your catch!

In real life I stopped advising female friends about dating long time ago as soon as I realised that women generally don't actually need your sincere opinion in that regard. Since you know they will do what they have already decided to do, just offer your support. Painful sometimes when you can see some obvious "signs" that they cannot see. Since they won't listen anyway no need playing killjoy. Like I said in a previous post, experience is the best teacher.

OAM4J:

omG! 

Funny but true! I didnt know you have this high sense of humor judging from your other posts.

anyway it is called eba not iba. 

Thanks for your corrections, all is taken on board! 

But I must say, every tribe has their own way of pronouncing and spelling things.  In my tribe, its spelt IBA and that's how I had known, pronounced and spelt it.  And, who care! Isn't what matters the meaning it conveys

Anyway, let's get to the Yummy side of this story.

You see, it doesn't really worth it being narrow minded.  Having a tunnel view about  someone you don't really know or criticising things you don't really understand, puts one in a totally different category in the intelligence department.

Do I blame anyone?  No! Reason being that most people on here, just follow the flock and don't really think logically. This is because of our culture, Nigerians are emotional people and it's difficult for us to control our emotions when it matters as result, we go overboard,  For example, when we are talking to friends, colleagues even our enemies in the public, we are usually louder than a bomb.  We shout and shout until we shout everyone down, just to make our point.   

Also, if there's an argument in the public where one mistakenly curses one's mother, that's enough to start a '3rd World war' without considering that, it's simply just a curse therefore, won't cause any bloody skin pain so why abuse and fight over a trivial thing as that, if not for our fragile emotions and, it's all evidenced here on N/L. It only takes one person to misunderstand a member's view to initiate an abuse/fight on here. Abi, I lie?    You can now see what I mean, these are some of our bad habits and I can't see us changing soon because, it's cultural and therefore, entrenched. 

However, your negative assumptions of me, it's ok and its your prerogative but I must remind you, in every thing you do remember, there's always two sides to every story and in this case, you had only read one until now.  

Yes, theblessed has a very good sense of humour and you mustn't forget that!

Good luck with your analysis of people, you don't really know!

Theblessed:

[b]Thanks for your corrections, all is taken on board! 

But I must say, every tribe has their own way of pronouncing and spelling things.  In my tribe, its spelt IBA and that's how I had known, pronounced and spelt it.  And, who care! Isn't what matters the meaning it conveys

Anyway, let's get to the Yummy side of this story.

You see, it doesn't really worth it being narrow minded.  Having a tunnel view about  someone you don't really know or criticising things you don't really understand, puts one in a totally different category in the intelligence department.

Do I blame anyone?  No! Reason being that most people on here, just follow the flock and don't really think logically. This is because of our culture, Nigerians are emotional people and it's difficult for us to control our emotions when it matters as result, we go overboard,  For example, when we are talking to friends, colleagues even our enemies in the public, we are usually louder than a bomb.  We shout and shout until we shout everyone down, just to make our point.   

Also, if there's an argument in the public where one mistakenly curses one's mother, that's enough to start a '3rd World war' without considering that, it's simply just a curse therefore, won't cause any bloody skin pain so why abuse and fight over a trivial thing as that, if not for our fragile emotions and, it's all evidenced here on N/L. It only takes one person to misunderstand a member's view to initiate an abuse/fight on here. Abi, I lie?    You can now see what I mean, these are some of our bad habits and I can't see us changing soon because, it's cultural and therefore, entrenched. 

However, your negative assumptions of me, it's ok and its your prerogative but I must remind you, in every thing you do remember, there's always two sides to every story and in this case, you had only read one until now.  

Yes, theblessed has a very good sense of humour and you mustn't forget that!

Good luck with your analysis of people, you don't really know![/b]

Nayah:

Hi for those who don't know me I'm Nayah and brand new in your forum which is very funny and interesting.  Well brothers and sisters, I would like to have your opinion about something African community used to say about the fact Nigerians use to marry each other.  It means even though they can date other women their family are conservative especially step mother who wants an original Nigerian sometimes from the same tribe, some African like, Ivoirians, Ghanians, Liberians have told me that.  What do you think, thanks

bellarose:

i am an american women  and i am dating a nigerian man now who is from the igbo tribe ,, the funny thing about our relastionship is that he  told me when we first met that he was going to marry someone from his village within the next year or so. He asked could i handle that and i agreed but now  i dont quite feel the same ,, i feel like we  american women have good qualities to. the funny part about it is that he was like he dont know if he will be able to stop messing with me once he is married

na2day?:

it is not just nigerians that do it, evey single tribe or race do the same thing by default, it is called self preservation. humans like every other animal by default try to protect their kind and their origins, whites in the usa prefer marrying whites, that dont automatically make them racist, blacks prefer blacks, indians prefer indians and so on. when u marry outside your tribe, conflicts may arise depending on the maturity of the parents involved. i happen to come from a tribe where most ppl have mixed blood. most of my extended family have one or more igbo person in their linage; more so, i have an uncle married to a ghanian for decades, another uncle married to a canadian, another married to a dutch, lots of my cousins married to different nationals, alot of my aunts married yorubas, tons married igbos, i am an uncle to 2 white kids. almost all of us had at least one white person on our family tree, my cousin in florida has at least 3 white ppl in her linage and they did well in their marriages. inspite of all these mixes in my tribe, the default still remains the preference of marrying within the tribe even in the 21st century! its all about self preservation but ppl are more open these days

OAM4J:

my dear, cant you take a compliment without tending to quarrel?

Anyway I understand your points and also wish to say that I prefer your humorous side. 

Again, thanks for your compliments! I'm glad it made you laugh!  Wasn't seeking quarrels with you at all rather, pointing out issues in order to encourage change in negative attitudes from all and sundry here because, in terms of exchange of knowledge, N/L is an informative zone that has benefited a lot of people therefore, a good medium to express this view though, it can be boring sometimes (my view)

Akosbaba:

Most homeboys 4rm 9ja are ready to marry any female [size=4pt]with much dough[/size]  4rm any part of the world [size=4pt](well except 4rm iran,afgahnistan,iraq etc)[/size] 

tpia.:


fixed- the parts in tiny font are irrelevant.

Ujujoan:

Why God forbid that Nigerian Men are gold-diggers

I wonder why you keep living in denial!

OAM4J:

she is not denying anything, but she said it is irrelevant. which is true as far as this topic is concerned.

But you just became guilty of generalizing.

kitlady02:

Nigerian men hardly marry foreign women n i dnt blame them. ,  .reason:  Nigerian women n foreign women do nt hv d same mentality abt marriage. . . . Its a matter of choice nywy. . .as a woman, i dnt think i cn marry a nigerian based outside nigerian let alone a foreigner. . . .

sereques:

Other side of the story is Nigerian women feel they are to good for Nigerian men esp when they finish that bollocks LPN of theirs and earning the dollars which they think is much.  Personally, I don't date them cos when they flew over somehow they lost the screws in their head.

Ujujoan:

Why God forbid that Nigerian Men are gold-diggers

I wonder why you keep living in denial!