The Emotional Trauma, Nigerian women are forced to go through this days is so Alarming, this lady's husband couldn't get her pregnant and so he forced his wife to sleep with his best friend, now his wife is 2months pregnant, he wants her to abort it or divorce him because his best friend, called him and impotent man in a dispute, even went as far as revealing how he got his wife pregnant, this lady needs your advice, should she abort the baby or walk out of the marriage?


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My name is Nonye, I wish I had the courage to write my surname but this problem may fall out of hands if my family or Inlaws get to read this, so I in order to be on the safer side, I don't want to mention surname, I really hope you don't mind.


Dear JoelsBlog,


After my encounter with you on your Facebook page, I finally found the courage to share my story, I just have to, please if you are a woman reading this... I beg you not to put yourself at discomfort in order to save a marriage that will not work except you pay a heavy sacrifice like I am doing, Do not suffer the way I am doing now, I can't guarantee if my life will ever go back to the way it was 3 months before this ugly situation started.


I got married to my husband on the 23rd of Oct, 2015, he was just turning 38yrs old and I was just 22yrs old, we were in love, it was indeed a blissful union, our quarrels never lasted up to 24hrs because we couldn't stay away from each other, I remember how we usually go to Genesis Cinema to watch a movie and how we argued about the best movie premiered for that week.



We had a problem, but we didn't see it as a problem because we were so much in love with each other, that problem was child bearing, I was not at fault because countless of test proved me to be fertile and can conceive, it was my husband he had a problem that I feel I shouldn't share, it was something we battled withing ourselves, but I have to talk, he had an erectile dysfunction and a low sperm count, I wasn't so engrossed about the erection thing anyway....if my husband sperm were strong enough I could easily do an Artificial insemination and give birth to a child with his blood, that was how much I loved him... But it didn't work, we took to herbal drugs after countless of western medications were taking, we even thought it was a spiritual problem at some point, this problem was wearing us out and my husband couldn't take it any more he told me that Emmanuel his closest friend was the only person that could help, I asked how? He said he has told Emmanuel and that he wants me to sleep with him so I can't get pregnant, he couldn't ask his younger brother because of the shame he felt , since Emmanuel was not a member of his family it's easy to keep it away from his Kinsmen and Family to avoid disgrace, I was so enraged, I asked him if Emmanuel agreed to it... He said Yes and That I shouldn't worry, I have his support, that it won't last up 30mins, sacrificing 30mins of my life to make him a father won't kill me.



I begged him, tried to convince him that I couldn't do it... I was going to go mad mentally, it happened that Emmanuel once asked me out while I was dating my husband, he had eyes for me... The thought of rejecting him and cursing him for making sexual Advancement towards me that time and now that my husband wants me to sleep with him... Was killing me... I couldn't deal with the shame... I wasn't myself... I became stubborn and refused to listen to my husband, I began to realize that our relationship started deteriorating, he no longer talked to me, he was quiet all the time, I cursed Emmanuel for accepting to do this, even when I went to beg him to convince my husband otherwise, he said my husband was his friend and that all he wants to do is help him, why not do an artificial insemination instead... I begged him.. But he refused..he walked out on me.



Things got out of my hand when my husband got involved with a terrible car accident and we had used up our money to make sure he survived, when he did... He told me that the doctor said the Accident had affected him so bad that he can't be a father ever again, I was left in shambles I confirmed from the doctor it was true, I was living in the 21st century and went to ask for the cost of an Artificial, the cost alone... Was bigger than our hospital bill, we are not rich, we are not poor, we just average, I couldn't ask his family money to do such... Because they believed their son was capable of fathering a child.


I went to ask Emmanuel my husband friend to lend us half of the money...that I will run around to find the remaining, he refused.. He said he wasn't ready to spend that much when it's something we both could just go inside and do and it's all over,Do you really want to sleep with your friends wife? I asked him, he said he wasn't the cause of our predicament so why should he suffer for it, I couldn't tell my husband.

To cut the long story short, when we left the hospital, a month later when my husband was well, he told me that we were going to pay someone a special visit, his old friend that had visited, he would like me to meet that friend of his, I was puzzled on which of his friends, meanwhile he had got a 3 missed call from Emma, we got to the Hotel the anonymous friend had lodged, I became suspicious when we were now going to the hotel room, couldn't that friend come down to the bar for us to drink and talk,why the room, I asked him what was going on and all he said was that... I should calm down... And wait a little bit, when we got to the hotel, he knocked.. Lo and behold it was Emmanuel wearing only boxers, he ushered us in... But I refused to enter..... My husband then came out and told me to do everything Emmanuel asks me to do for the next 30 mins, and that if I refused .... Our marriage has ended instantly, he was really serious that someone had asked if there was any problem... I said no... I walked in to that room, not in my real sense... But with a broken spirit... I looked at the ceilings as Emma had his way with me, no shame left in him, he was kissing and sucking, I felt disgusted while my husband stood near the door crying like a baby, he went outside tens minutes after Emma started harassing my body, I didnt enjoy any bit of it, I wanted to get up immediately my husband left.... But Emma held me to the bed covered my mouth and had his way Brutally, it wasn't rape because he had an agreement with my husband, after 30 mins of pain, I couldn't walk back to the car, my husband helped me back.




As we speak, I am 2 months pregnant, but my husband wants me to abort the baby or divorce him, Emmanuel embarrassed him,Emmanuel insulted him, calling him an Impotent man, telling his neighbors how he got me pregnant, it even got into a fight, my husband couldn't inform the police because they will surely laugh at him for letting me sleep with his friend in the first place, please help me... I need advice... Help me...

- Nonye


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let me read it again to understand.
what the hell! this is what we call "THINGS TURN AROUND FOR WORSE" or "THINGS FALL APART" shit had happen, no matter what, the damage has been done. before i'll give an advice, i want to hear your husband and emma side of the story before i know exactly how to advice

Some Men are something else... Madam... I advice... U sprint away from that marriage... Why will a man ask his fellow man to get his wife pregnant in the first place

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MissAprokoMedia:
Some Men are something else... Madam... I advice... U sprint away from that marriage... Why will a man ask his fellow man to get his wife pregnant in the first place

Na you post na you still dey advice

CuriousMynd:


Na you post na you still dey advice

I am not the author of the post... I just shared it on Nairaland... To see more advice on this topic... You sef... I hope u are not one of those men that let their friends smash their wife...

MissAprokoMedia:


I am not the author of the post... I just shared it on Nairaland... To see more advice on this topic... You sef... I hope u are not one of those men that let their friends smash their wife...

If my wife is so dumb to open her legs wide...

CuriousMynd:



If my wife is so dumb to open her legs wide...

so the lady is now dumb for opening her legs

MissAprokoMedia:




so the lady is now dumb for opening her legs

be4 so u don't u know if it's me I will kick her out of my house dumb women everywhere

Shedrack777:
let me read it again to understand.
what the hell! this is what we call "THINGS TURN AROUND FOR WORSE" or "THINGS FALL APART" shit had happen, no matter what, the damage has been done. before i'll give an advice, i want to hear your husband and emma side of the story before i know exactly how to advice

If u were in the man's shoes can u discuss this in public? I really feel sorry for the once a lovely couple.... But the man is acting as if it's her fault... Which Is unfair...

Lalasticlala
Mynd44
Ishilove
MissyB3
Fynestboi
Ashewoboy

MissAprokoMedia:



so the lady is now dumb for opening her legs

Yeah Sure

classicMan22:
be4 don't u know if it',s me I will kick her out of my house dumb women everywhere

Its because u ain't a woman that's why u will say such a terrible thing... Was she the one dat dragged her husband to the hotel room in the first place?

I just wish a lady was here to back me up... Only ladies will understand what this lady is going through... What men just understand is f"ck f"ck f'ck

MissAprokoMedia:



Its because u ain't a woman that's why u will say such a terrible thing... Was she the one dat dragged her husband to the hotel room in the first place?

like I said she is a dumb woman why didn't she file 4 divorce in the first place, since her husband is impotent? now he want her to do abortion or get a divorce.like I said dumb women everywhere

classicMan22:
be4 so u don't u know if it's me I will kick her out of my house dumb women everywhere

Oga go back and read the story again, i dont think you read it well. It wasn't the woman"s fault, it was an agreement between her husband and his friend

Na real wa

classicMan22:
like I said she is a dumb woman why didn't she file 4 divorce in the first place, since her husband is impotent? now he want her to do abortion or get a divorce.like I said dumb women everywhere

Though you are right, but i think she was trying to save her marriage, now the reverse is the case

classicMan22:
like I said she is a dumb woman why didn't she file 4 divorce in the first place, since her husband is impotent? now he want her to do abortion or get a divorce.like I said dumb women everywhere

Dumb you say! Just leave this thread...... I see no reason why she should be called a dumb... It's her HUSBAND that is a Dumb... She did not file for a Divorce because she loved him... Maybe you don't know what love is... Thats why u keep bleeping up and
Down... Till u contact aids

izaray:
Though you are right, but i think she was trying to save her marriage, now the reverse is the case

Is there any need saving the marriage now?

Nobody is even blaming the man... It's just the woman they focused on... Scums

MissAprokoMedia:


Is there any need saving the marriage now?

My dear, i can't wish even my enemy to be in such situation

Shedrack777:
let me read it again to understand.
what the hell! this is what we call "THINGS TURN AROUND FOR WORSE" or "THINGS FALL APART" shit had happen, no matter what, the damage has been done. before i'll give an advice, i want to hear your husband and emma side of the story before i know exactly how to advice

So should she abort the baby or keep it

izaray:
My dear, i can't wish even my enemy to be in such situation

Its a very sad experience... Now what should she do? Abort the baby? She is just 25yrs old... She can still remarry... The best is to sprint out of that marriage

MissAprokoMedia:


So should she abort the baby or keep it

i need to hear from the other two people first for me to give an advice from my heart. but any advice i'll give now isn't genuine because its not from my heart

MissAprokoMedia:



If u were in the man's shoes can u discuss this in public? I really feel sorry for the once a lovely couple.... But the man is acting as if it's her fault... Which Is unfair...

Lalasticlala
Mynd44
Ishilove
MissyB3
Fynestboi
Ashewoboy

but you know its not just right to judge a case with one side opinion right?

OK, this sounds a lot like a book called Ricochet by Sandra Brown

I still don't understand how people get FORCED to do stuff. If there's no gun involved, I won't do it!

Anyway in the book, I loved the secret rendezvous between the "contract lovers".

Forbidden but allowed.

I stopped reading the story when I learnt the husband got impotent. Abeg, what is she still doing in the marriage? ... Has she no hormones yearning to be placated?... Enjoying the Mulla, I dare say ... Women!

Lalasticlala
Mynd44
Ishilove
MissyB3
Fynestboi
Ashewoboy

MissAprokoMedia:


Dumb you say! Just leave this thread...... I see no reason why she should be called a dumb... It's her HUSBAND that is a Dumb... She did not file for a Divorce because she loved him... Maybe you don't know what love is... Thats why u keep bleeping up and
Down... Till u contact aids

sister why u dey wish me evil? maybe I don't know wat love is.but this right here is not love but infatuation.

izaray:
Though you are right, but i think she was trying to save her marriage, now the reverse is the case

save her marriage wit another man pikin?

Madam keep your baby. In fact divorce the impotent man. I'm sure he scammed her into marrying him. Who would agree to marry an impotent man?