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Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by IamD18: 11:34pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by IamD18: 11:34pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by CodeTemplar: 11:35pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
eleojo23:When did the fat woman come into the picture? If you Poppa could marry again then I that also contributed to his inability to send you to uni. 1 Like |
Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by Nobody: 11:35pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
Ezkid:I fully understand you. My mum is worse. Most melchlor women have dat psychic issue. You're even lucky to have siblings and a father figure. I'm d only child of a single mum who's difficult to live with owing to her terrible countenance and temperament..always nagging. Yet she goes to church than anyone. Some elders told me they wanted to take me away from her while I was a kid so I won't be affected but taking an only child from such a woman isn't child's play. They left me to grow up with it. Bro it affected me badly. Sincerely I'm blunt bcus I have a broken personality. Too much endurance can break a person. Up till today she doesnt see any wrong in her deeds. Some have suggested a psychology therapy, but to even mention it in her ears is to be her permanent enemy for life. It's a long story bro..a very long one. Just take one day at a time and pray for an understanding wife cus d girls of these days don't understand anything abt enduring especially for such a mother in-law. Take time to understand her and draw ur line when u become a man on ur own. God help you bro. 14 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by obonujoker(m): 11:35pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
Ezkid: You should never leave your mum... I see the hand of your stepmom in this.... |
Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by Nobody: 11:36pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
Ezkid: Depression. She is depressed and she needs help. It's not her fault. Its her condition. 1 Like |
Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by babadee1(m): 11:36pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
Sounds like she's dealing with Hyperreligiosity and probably some form of bipolar disorder. She needs to see a psychiatrist asap. Ezkid: |
Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by KhaleesiAdaz(f): 11:36pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
The thing all these mushroom churches can cause eh. I have a friend that have turned to psycho. She suspect everything and everyone. All the money she makes goes back to them. That might be your mum's case. She's under their bondage and hypnosis. I believe situation at home made her call into their hands. It's a tough call as nothing might change her. Well you can try to genuinely pray for her. Who knows God will intervene 3 Likes |
Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by Hargbo(m): 11:37pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
OneCorner: 1 Like
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Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by greggng: 11:37pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
Ezkid: For a man who is struggling, getting a second wife is a death penalty. Having said this, your mum should change church. You cannot be a true born again and God will allow you go through problems that will overwhelm you. I am not saying life is sugar in the morning, sugar in the afternoon and evening. I am saying a true believe will pass through problems but God won't allow those problems to finish him or her. Your mum will get better in Jesus name. 3 Likes |
Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by Ajisebioyolaari: 11:38pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
@OP, your mum is suffering paranoia or bi-polar disorder. Now, I am very authoritative about this because while I read about your mum's behaviour, withdrawal symptoms and religious belief/fear about everything irrelevant, I saw my sister again. When my sister started hers, it was really terrible. Better thank God that your mum is not violent. Imagine returning from work to meet all your clothes burnt because your sister thinks they are satanic. I used to be very angry with my sister, thinking she did all she was doing on purpose.....until I got a better understanding. Not until we took her to a pyschiatric hospital and ensured she was placed on admission till she got better. Even then, she had to be on drugs for a long time and we ensured she took her drugs religiously. I later started feeling pity for her instead of anger. It's not your mum's fault. Something must have happened to her which she didnt share and she prolly sank into depression which has worsened her mental health. Please take care of your mum and God will reward you for it. PS: You sound unnecessarily rude, there's no need for that. Opinions must always differ, learn to respect other people's view. Cheers! 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by kingcheks(m): 11:39pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
Your mother is your mother even if her brain dey touch.. I don't blame her.. It's the fraud called Christianity I blame.. Born again ko!! Born again ni!! Your papa sef gan.. How he wan send you go university when he put rickross mama for house? I can't bring myself to imagine how many loaf of bread she fit squander for one meal E no concern me tho 1 Like |
Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by armyofone(m): 11:40pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
Amen!! Can you imagine? So marrying another woman is the solution to the problem at home Op, continue to do the little you can giving her allowance each month. Show her nothing but love. Take her to the hospital, follow her to the church to understand or get idea of what they preach. Above all thing, be patient. Ammy5565: 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by Nobody: 11:41pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
Ezkid: It disgusts you to feed your mom and take care of her with the money you earn? I can only feel disgusted at your attitude towards your mom. The same woman who nursed you at her breasts. What a pity. There's no love without Sacrifice. When you were still a kid and you fell sick, did your mom ever abandon you? Now is the time to look after your mom. It is a debt you owe her and her Creator. I'm sure the church that changed her life is either Mountain of Fire or Deeper Life. If it is possible for you to change her church, even if it means relocating from that area to somewhere that Church doesn't have a branch close by, please do. You need to ascertain her mental health. See a professional for this. No one here is qualified to tell you the state of your moms mental health. Neither are you. Next, you and your siblings should show her unconditional love. Be around her all the time. She might snap at you and be difficult and she may seem ungrateful. Never mind. Keep it at the back of your mind that there was a time when you were dependent on her for everything. The day you'll know the worth of your mother is the day she dies. I hope you won't regret it then that you might have treated her with more kindness. 2 Likes |
Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by victorian(f): 11:41pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
SoapQueen: Abi? I pity the mother for giving birth to such ungrateful son. Better to have female children than such a son! He's talking about not been able to bag a degree in the university. When there are so many graduates out there without jobs, trekking with torn shirts and battered shoes. He should go and see his mates who didn't go to university, how well off they are and enjoying life. Cos why? They think out the box and outside the norms of the society. Any man who dispise his mother will suffer in life. It's not curse but what God has ordained already from above. That's why he's suffering. So much hate in his heart towards his mum. Na their he go dey ,no going forward no going backward. He should keep hating her. He is doing himself. 1 Like |
Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by Thegeneralqueen(f): 11:41pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
IamD18:The love is real that you had to double quote me |
Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by Hargbo(m): 11:41pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
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Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by Nobody: 11:42pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
The only problem here is depression. Take her to a federal medical centre for treatment. You will be surprised what magic antidepressants and family love can wield. I was there. Please take my advise and you will enjoy your Mum again. 2 Likes |
Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by jumzzy448: 11:45pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
OneCorner: Replies like these are the reasons people don’t like to bring their problem to social media. What gave you the right to insults someone’s mother like that? It shows you don’t respect your own. Don’t think cos it’s a faceless forum, so you can talk the way you like. Nonsense mtchewww. |
Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by SoapQueen(f): 11:46pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
victorian: Refer to his previous thread where he was complaining about his girl having a fishy "south side" and also has a baby mama at his age. Only you, woman woman talk! Now, he is roping his mom into his blame list. Misplaced priorities. I'm out 2 Likes |
Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by 1Sharon(f): 11:46pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
kestolove95: Are you sure mothers can never be wrong? 5 Likes |
Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by oderemo(m): 11:46pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
U r getting gud advice. |
Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by IamD18: 11:47pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
Thegeneralqueen: |
Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by sshyne(m): 11:48pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
Collins0609: I laughed when I read your response, but its not your fault. I totally understand what the OP is saying because am going through the same issue. My mum was the bread winner of the family, when I was in school she was the only one I call for money. All of a sudden she left her well paying job saying God told her to do so. Brother, I must confess we suffered for that single decision she made. All I can say is the CHURCH contributed to her issue especially the "die by fire ministry". She is currently diagnosed with a Mental illness and we have being battling it for years and she won't accept any medication because she believes it's spiritual thanks to all those "god of men" and there toxic teachings. Well I don't wanna go indepth on my family issue but the advice I will give you is to get hold of your mind and don't loose it because situations like this can cause depression. Listen to her when she talks and try your best not to argue with her when she spiritualize(if the word exist) everything. Just try to make enough money to take care of her because she's your mother and you can't push her away..and please take her to a psychiatric hospital, don't listen to people that will tell you to take her to a church for deliverance they will only waste your time and make the situation worse. I hope my Lil advice help. And for those Christians out there that "god of men " have polluted your mind with toxic and false doctrines I pity you. When you start seeing a cat at night and you assume it's your grandmother just know Mental illness is around the corner. 6 Likes |
Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by coputa(m): 11:49pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
OneCorner:Is this how you address your parents at home,you portrays a street urchin. |
Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by jumzzy448: 11:49pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
kestolove95: Wrong wrong wrong....do not say mothers are never wrong. Nuff said. I have something similar happening to one of my aunt’s ...so I understand perfectly where the op is coming from. As for my Aunty, we’ve not being able to do anything as every talk falls on deaf ears. |
Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by Thegeneralqueen(f): 11:51pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
IamD18:Sor nwa |
Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by adegeye38(m): 11:51pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
Ezkid:she had been indoctrinised, that is not Christianity, it is madness, if i want to advise u as a Christian i would say find her a proper Pentecostal church to attended, like winners for example, where she will understand what Christianity is all about, and i think that will help her, u can also take her to a psychiatrist, they will prescribe drugs that will supress d stuff |
Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by IamaNigerianGuy(m): 11:55pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
Ezkid: Take her to a qualified mental health professional and have her assessed. The possibilities including severe depression, bipolar disorder, menopausal symptoms or other endocrine issues. You are likely to get a solution. |
Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by IamD18: 11:55pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
Thegeneralqueen:How you |
Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by Ajisebioyolaari: 11:57pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
I feel really bad tonight and I wish I could be of help to OP's mum. A lot of Nigerians are yet to come to the reality that mental illness is real and a lot of us are living with it. It's not until you run unclad on the streets. Depression, hyperreligiousity, anger, aggressiveness, seclusion and hallucinations are all signs of mental illnesses which can be triggered by a lot of factors. People need to check themselves into hospitals to see psychologists or pyschiatrists especially when they feel they are over stressed or undergoing an emotional phase. You need to see the rich and beautiful people I met at the hospital during my sister's stay and you begin to wonder "what went wrong with these people?" It can happen to anyone....all they need is love and proper care. 2 Likes |
Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by sirgalahad26(m): 11:57pm On Apr 16, 2018 |
OP, u feel ur mom is irresponsible abi? u're damn wrong! presently u owe her love,care and attention due to the following reasons: she is the only mother you have! she didnt treat you like a castaway/outcast(that's how u're treating her now) she didnt abort your pregnancy then, she nurtured you till events overtook her life. Please, consider the factors i listed above, start treating her like nothing happened Observe ocassional tete-a-tete with her so as to know her mind Let her see a psychologist as others have said Note: no amount of hatred,bitterness,contempt and unforgiveness can change the situation for the better. Thank you. 1 Like |
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