chocorex:


I don't think so, if the man was a bully and a monster like you said, he'd have killed the woman for having an affair and for the op he would have killed him too. the man isn't here to defend himself.

chairman00100:


bros, I don't know if you are a Christian, if you are listen carefully, what GOD has joined together let NO man put asunder, you have failed that one, do not take another man's wife you have disobeyed that one too look my friend you are not David and might not have the grace that david had. GOD hates divorce and whoever marries a divorced person commits adultery with him or her. no matter how you try to turn this your story it can never be to your favour, may GOD help you to make the right decision

Jogunomi1:
The situation that led to her having four kids before her marriage crashed was beyond control. There are also solid reasons why the marriage will never work again. She's madly in love with me. I'm older than her.

As it stands today, if she doesn't feel me in a day, she feels suicidal. I'm the reason why the marriage failed because it started in high school but I didn't woo her.
Do you think we should let it lead to marriage?

Jogunomi1:
The situation that led to her having four kids before her marriage crashed was beyond control. There are also solid reasons why the marriage will never work again. She's madly in love with me. I'm older than her.

As it stands today, if she doesn't feel me in a day, she feels suicidal. I'm the reason why the marriage failed because it started in high school but I didn't woo her.
Do you think we should let it lead to marriage?

Earthbound:


Something must be wrong with you. Her four kids made it a home. According to the OP, it was after he interfered in someone else's marriage, it came crumbling down. I'm sure the husband of the lady must have used the earlier part of their marriage to seek forgiveness. And after four kids, the woman must have had some closure. Also considering the OP said he's above 60, it's safe to say the woman involved must be in her 50s. Her marriage must be 20+ years. Please don't quote me again.

makydebbie:
Okay keep praying for my future wife.
Cc ibkayee


You're just unbelievable. You're saying the man is not a monster because he has not killed the lady in question and her supposed lover. So he should keep beating her as long as she's still alive, he's not a monster.


*Spits on your bald head*


The man was a monster from day one who raped the girl and still married her. What greater punishment do you give a rape victim than allowing her marry her rapist?
I don't blame you involving my parents, at least I was brought up well unlike you, product of a failed marriage maybe.

ndindiatu:
My dear is up to u. Is ur life . I know u love her and she loves u too. I will advice u to marry her .marry her ! yes. Don't spend ur whole life and her life ng unhappy. I am telling u out of experience. I didn't marry my high school sweet heart and till today after so many kids and marriage l am still waiting for him to come to heal me which will never happen.Some people missed that one in life when they where young and can't find replacement till today. I tell u u owe her and she owe u . Is a pity the marriage scattered then what are u waiting for. I know our culture will say this or that but my dear marry her and be happy. Don't do what u will regret. As u see her now she can never be happy with any one. Goggle lost and found lovers by Nancy. But u guys have battles to look forward to to fight. But no matter the battle go and make agreement with her to love her kids. Even if u marry someone else u will still be having affair with her. Who is deceiving who. Abeg go and wed that babe and live happily ever after. A word is enough for a wise. People will curse u but some situations is only u can solve it.

Jogunomi1:


Lol. 60 years indeed. Well, sorry for insulting you the last time. We left high school in 2000. A neighbor invited her to his house (according to her), he forcefully made love to her. She didn't report him out of fear. When she became pregnant, her parents said no way for abortion, and they bundled her to the man's house. The man was ever willing to have her. She gradually heals. But she started looking for me in 2014 after 4 kids.

Shaev7:

The issue is screwed. Most guys have same challenge like this in our societies, but when such occurs, make effort to let her marriage be, but now her initial marriage is crashed, you think of marrying her legally? Well before that, let her legally dissolved her marriage then you may both follow your heart desires. To overcome temptation it has to be cut off from its roots, you should have killed that emotions from the beginning after ... Well in life, we are meant to act scripts, I think this part of yours. Try to seek more advice before you come to conclusion. But remember, whatever advice you get, you alone still have the final decision. Be sure not to taka the path that will damage both you and the girl.
Take care. I wish you well.

phayvoursky:
After she got married why didn't you stay clear?


You wanted this, now you have have it, what else do you want again?

Abi you want to destroy our own marriages?

mistel:
#TelliPerson.
Time and time, Again and again! I will take the same stand as I did some time ago on this forum, most single mothers pretends a lot. they tell you juicy stories and sadistic tales about their past and give you their whole body. Soon you will be the next victim, she will always be ready to jump to the next relationship and if you are not that type, you wanna remain stuck.
Two important tips;
1. when you get the first child from her, then you will know what its like not to have influence over your little kid growing up.
2. You will realise she forbids control and is bigger than correction.

#When the time is right my brother ehhhh telli person, dem nor dey telli person....when your eye go clear o.....

don4real18:

What happened to the Muslim girl that you were in love with?

Jogunomi1:
The situation that led to her having four kids before her marriage crashed was beyond control. There are also solid reasons why the marriage will never work again. She's madly in love with me. I'm older than her.

As it stands today, if she doesn't feel me in a day, she feels suicidal. I'm the reason why the marriage failed because it started in high school but I didn't woo her.
Do you think we should let it lead to marriage?

chocorex:
I think you're toying the wrong path. I'm not being religious now but morally having an affair with a married woman isnt cool. if she was divorce before you started anything, better. but you crashed her marriage you should be ashamed to come out in a public forum to say it. and I can see you replying people rudely goes a long way to say you really didn't come here for advice and ideas. u have already advised yourself. my candid advice to you is leave this woman alone
.

Jogunomi1:
The situation that led to her having four kids before her marriage crashed was beyond control. There are also solid reasons why the marriage will never work again. She's madly in love with me. I'm older than her.

As it stands today, if she doesn't feel me in a day, she feels suicidal. I'm the reason why the marriage failed because it started in high school but I didn't woo her.
Do you think we should let it lead to marriage?

MissRaine69:


I can’t take your stance seriously. Things got to this stage without you consulting anyone. You managed then so she is now single so what’s the problem? What were your intentions with her from the start? Kindly wife this woman and lay in the bed you made. That said what of the Muslim woman you had eyes for? Or is that another work of fiction?

makydebbie:
Okay keep praying for my future wife.
Cc ibkayee


You're just unbelievable. You're saying the man is not a monster because he has not killed the lady in question and her supposed lover. So he should keep beating her as long as she's still alive, he's not a monster.


*Spits on your bald head*


The man was a monster from day one who raped the girl and still married her. What greater punishment do you give a rape victim than allowing her marry her rapist?
I don't blame you involving my parents, at least I was brought up well unlike you, product of a failed marriage maybe.

Butoneday2:
U are doomed?