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Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by theamerican(f): 9:19am On Apr 20


I'm from Nigeria, I lived there for over 25 years. I came here and I'm now an American citizen through Naturalization. It's the best thing to happen to me. I won't look down on people or say B.S because I know it's just a privilege and every day I wake up, I'm grateful.

Nothing irritates me as much as the arguments between Nigerians in diaspora and those back home. I understand how patriotism can cloud good judgment but please khaki is nothing like leather. I weep for Nigeria.

Chinedu will get visa to UK or USA, find a way to get permanent residency, then come to discourage everyone about how life is hell for him there, he will choose all the negative examples known to mankind to stress his narratives. Ogbonna, his cousin in Nigeria, will gloat and talk about how Nigerians abroad are suffering but pretending to be doing ok on social media, etc., guess what? Chinedu will still run back when his vacation is over. Come back to settle in Nigeria, never.

so, who is deceiving who?

Both of them are stupid. Take this from me: Nigeria is a failed nation and if you are still wondering whether to run or stay and someone is discouraging you, please run if that's what you want, don't let anyone discourage you!!! It may be too late when the big opportunity passes you by.

I won't even talk about the Nigerian government and the level of corruption/poverty/underdevelopment. Instead, I'll focus on the mentality of the average Nigerian citizen. In 2018, men are still chasing their wives away from home for failure to "give them" a male child. A woman is still called a witch and sent packing when her husband dies. Men still beat women and when they complain, "elders" will say "he's just a man, they're all the same" to justify it.

Tell someone you're disappointed in Buhari, they'll say "did Jonathan do any better?", youths selling their votes for 5000 naira or less, you hear about a rape case, and the response is "why did she dress like that or what was she doing outside at 10pm?". Talk about the Nigerian Police OMG, I don't even know where to start from. Lecturers failing students for absolutely NO reason at all, old shameless men sleeping with female students before they pass, people working for months and not being paid!

Don't get me wrong, there is no perfect place on earth. I can list the issues in other countries too, the gun violence in the US, racism, high cost of living, etc. but a working system is a working system. If you get the opportunity to travel and you blend with the system and follow rules, you won't regret it unless your expectations are crazy and unrealistic.

I want to state here, life abroad is NOT for everyone. Some people will go and fail to adapt/succeed, some people enjoy how things are in Nigeria and are happy with what they're facing. I have nothing against anyone's decisions. I'm not looking down on anyone and their choices in life.

If you think washing plates, taking care of elders, cleaning floors, being a babysitter, cleaning restrooms, etc. for a living makes someone less human, and you end up mocking them, you're part of the problem in Nigeria. Life is unfair, nothing will be given to you on a platter of gold, but what's better than taking risks and trying to survive in a society that rewards hardwork? The most important thing in life is happiness, being happy is priceless.

Personally, I'd sweep floors for a living, live with 3 roommates, eat French fries and drink water for the rest of my life if that's all I can afford and know I live in a country where there are opportunities, and my children have access to a life of quality. If you're still not convinced, look up the life expectancy of the average Nigerian and compare to other developed countries.

This is an opinion, counter-arguments are welcome.

cc @justwise in case this is in the wrong section.

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Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by Abjay97(m): 9:33am On Apr 20
Thanks for this.. My people, una Don hear am, quit the sh!t hole

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Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by theamerican(f): 9:41am On Apr 20
Abjay97:
Thanks for this.. My people, una Don hear am, quit the sh!t hole

You're welcome lol. I'm not against anyone who's choosing to stay. I'm against those who have nothing positive to say about risk-takers who simply wanna find a way to live a better life. I respect people who try stuff but fail, than those who just sit in their comfort zone and laugh at others.

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Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by lucreziaborgia(f): 9:42am On Apr 20
Poster GOd bless you for saying the truth. They will tell u it's not easy abroad, things are hard bla bla bla. Some will even tell u to remain in Nigeria and pray. Like WTF? Since I started the quest to travel, only one lady from Holland has told "my sister, Europe sweet. Anybody wey tell u say Europe no sweet na liar. Tell the person to come back naija". They will tell u that abroad is hell but they'll rather die there

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Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by theamerican(f): 9:51am On Apr 20
@lucreziaborgia don't mind them lol. I won't raise hopes and sugarcoat anything. Life is not easy anywhere, I get mad when they only focus on negatives and completely ignore the positives. If I start talking about the hardship in Nigeria, I'll get upset for 5 years, and laugh for the remaining days of my life.

If Abroad is hell, Nigeria is what? Call emergency service in Nigeria when your house is on fire or let your wife need surgery to give birth to a baby when you're broke. You'd know what hell is.

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Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by go4value(m): 9:59am On Apr 20
Abeg op how you fit help my wife ooo....let her move out oo...me and the kids will join later when she settle down...cos this country na wash ooo...you can pm me if you are willing to ..thanks

cc @justwise in case this is in the wrong section.[/quote]
Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by lucreziaborgia(f): 10:11am On Apr 20
The sad truth is that they don't want you to come over because they are afraid that u will do better than them

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Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by theamerican(f): 10:18am On Apr 20
@go4value

Haha, I can only give advice. Secure visa, follow the proper channel, and she'll be able to move out. There are very informative travel threads on here. grin

@lucreziaborgia Don't mind those ones lol.

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Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by go4value(m): 10:33am On Apr 20
[quote author=theamerican post=66871511]@go4value

Haha, I can only give advice. Secure visa, follow the proper channel, and she'll be able to move out. There are very informative travel threads on here

Thanks... A lot is involved and many are not willing to help...like invitation letter and the likes ..thanks all the same ....

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Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by mutico20(m): 10:34am On Apr 20
Thanks u soo much for saying d trust....dis is exact wat my frnd in Saudi told me life is not easy dea buh u will b piad for ur hard work..I just ask my self which kind hard
work is that hummmm HV been suffering here for d past 5yrs doing series of hard work and I cant afford 5k till now my boss won't pay salary changing work one after d other but all are d same and dis Guy sent 200k back home in two months...If someone try it and tell me rubbish I will just cause am niooooo cos I don suffer for dis Nigeria ooo

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Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by lucreziaborgia(f): 10:56am On Apr 20
mutico20:
Thanks u soo much for saying d trust....dis is exact wat my frnd in Saudi told me life is not easy dea buh u will b piad for ur hard work..I just ask my self which kind hard
work is that hummmm HV been suffering here for d past 5yrs doing series of hard work and I cant afford 5k till now my boss won't pay salary changing work one after d other but all are d same and dis Guy sent 200k back home in two months...If someone try it and tell me rubbish I will just cause am niooooo cos I don suffer for dis Nigeria ooo
I regret allowing an idiot living in America to discourage me from traveling. Now I don't listen to anyone, my mind is made up

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Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by mutico20(m): 11:52am On Apr 20
If possible don't tell ur brother,just pray to God an ask him avrythin u want in d country God will surely do it for u
lucreziaborgia:
I regret allowing an idiot living in America to discourage me from traveling. Now I don't listen to anyone, my mind is made up
Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by Mobilia(f): 12:01pm On Apr 20
I so love what you wrote and how you eloquently expressed it....
I have read some perspectives on Nigerians who have come to live in the U.S...and who weren't impressed and then proceeded to discourage others from coming.
Yet it looked like they weren't planning to return to Nigeria anytime soon.
Experiences are personal..and significant.
People can share them, but not discourage others from desiring to pursue their dreams...
Well written...

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Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by theamerican(f): 12:24pm On Apr 20
@mobilia

Thanks. I agree with you, experiences are personal and significant. People generalize hastily and that leads to many problems in life. The funniest part of their "people are suffering abroad" rubbish is when they search for pictures of the ghettos in the US and say "this is the America you wouldn't see on TV" and try to mock the country.

My response is always: it's not for everyone. If you don't like it here, go and live where you like. Lol

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Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by signature2012(m): 12:32pm On Apr 20
Nice write up @ theamerican.

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Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by theamerican(f): 12:33pm On Apr 20
@go4value

You're welcome lol

@lucrezia

Hahaha, listen to someone ooo. Two mistakes in life: taking everybody's advice and taking no one's advice. Always listen to positive advice and make good decisions. For example, if you wanna enter Mississippi with visiting visa, overstay and hustle with only $200 cash in hand and someone advises you not to do it, don't do it ooooo!!! They're saving your life. Lol. Unless you are a big risk-taker.

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Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by lucreziaborgia(f): 12:34pm On Apr 20
Many of them set ridiculous targets for themselves and when they can't meet it, they begin to blab that abroad is not easy. Some of them are living above their means hence they are always in debt. If they like, let them bring all the ghettos in the world, so long they have a system that actually works, no wahala

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Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by Berliner1: 1:50pm On Apr 20
I always tell people, come here legally and u will regret staying in Nigeria.

I will rather say God bless Germany than mentioning Nigeria.

Going on europe tour as if you are going to Ikeja.

Access to free education, plenty student job( averagely €1500=650k per month after tax), many easy way to become a german citizen,free semester ticket( you can travel a whole state 247 without paying kobo.

From nursery school to PhD education in Germany is 100% free for everyone.


Plenty free loan if u want oo....atleast u can get a credit card upto 6k euro=2.5m naira without collateral even as a student, if you are working full time here, plenty loan u can access at a very very low rate from mortgage to car of any brand.





Please where can one get this in Nigeria?

Who ever tell you to stay back in Nigeria is your village member holding u back.

Theres no comparism between heaven and hell fire.

God bless Germany.

Going on world tour in December, any europe based dude interest in co ride can holla.

Greetings from the Capital of Europe(Berlin)

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Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by justwise(m): 1:55pm On Apr 20
Berliner1:
I always tell people, come here legally and u will regret staying in Nigeria.

I will rather say God bless Germany than mentioning Nigeria.

Going on europe tour as if you are going to Ikeji.

Access to free education, plenty student job( averagely €1500=650k per month after tax), many easy way to become a german citizen,free semester ticket( you can travel a whole state 247 without paying kobo.


Plenty free loan if u want oo....atleast u can get a credit card upto 6k euro=2.5m naira without collateral even as a student, if you are working full time here, plenty loan u can access at a very very low rate from mortgage to car of any brand.





Please where can one get this in Nigeria?

Who ever tell you to stay back in Nigeria is your village member holding u back.

Theres no comparism between heaven and hell fire.

God bless Germany.

Going on world tour in December, any europe based dude interest in co ride can holla.

Greetings from the Capital of Europe(Berlin)

Can one enjoy all these with visiting visa or only student visa?

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Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by Berliner1: 1:57pm On Apr 20
justwise:


Can one enjoy all these with visiting visa or only student visa?

Student Visa.

As a visitor you cant work in the western world. I'm sure you know it my Oga Justwise.

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Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by justwise(m): 2:03pm On Apr 20
Berliner1:


Student Visa.

As a visitor you cant work in the western world. I'm sure you know it my Oga Justwise.

So you think that many posting here have €8000-9000 to apply for German student visa?

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Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by Berliner1: 2:08pm On Apr 20
justwise:


So you think that many posting here have €8000-9000 to apply for German student visa?

I dont know and am sure you dont as well.

But many nairalanders are here in Germany and they all came with either sponsorship letter or the block account(€8700) which is still 100% there money.

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Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by Activedreamer: 2:23pm On Apr 20
Nice write up.

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Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by justwise(m): 3:15pm On Apr 20
Berliner1:


I dont know and am sure you dont as well.

But many nairalanders are here in Germany and they all came with either sponsorship letter or the block account(€8700) which is still 100% there money.


You make it sound so easy as if they can walk into a bank or any office in Nigeria and get €8700 or sponsorship letter.

To get a German student visa and travel to Germany one need at least €900 and you are here sugar coating it.

You talked about loan in Germany..can you explain the conditions involved in getting a loan as a foreign student?

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Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by Berliner1: 3:33pm On Apr 20
justwise:
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You make it sound so easy
as if they can walk into a bank or any office in Nigeria and get €8700 or sponsorship letter.

To get a German student visa and travel to Germany one need at least €900 and you are here sugar coating it.

You talked about loan in Germany..can you explain the conditions involved in getting a loan as a foreign student?

Where did I post that its easy to see that amount of Money in Nigeria?

Infact it was you who bring out the money issue.

However, this is an open forum with readers accross the globe. Many people MAY have the resources but channelling it into an exploitative country like UK or invest in a non viable business in Nigeria.

Travelling is not for everyone. Who ever have the resources can move ahead and move legally.

This thread is about those who keep advising people to stay back in Nigeria.

My assertion is if you have the resource, go to a good country LEGALLY.

In many German thread you always counter it with €9000. Please are u not aware when you enter germany you can walk into the bank and fill a form to unblock it?

Can you compare it with your almighty UK where people are chased back home after collecting more than €11,000?

On the issue of credit card loan I raised, to get a credit card here as a student the only thing you need is a registered address and forms of ID( any passport or resident permit). No collateral like a typical naija bank will ask.

I'm sure if this is about uk you wont mention there school fees and how theres no way for student to stay back.

Ich habe kein zeit bro.

Danke.

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Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by samwash(m): 3:42pm On Apr 20
pple that are complaint abt aboard are those that travelling illegally or don't possess the right document.
Abeg, wen traveling aboard use the right means.

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Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by justwise(m): 4:10pm On Apr 20
Berliner1:


Where did I post that its easy to see that amount of Money in Nigeria?

Infact it was you who bring out the money issue.

However, this is an open forum with readers accross the globe. Many people MAY have the resources but channelling it into an exploitative country like UK or invest in a non viable business in Nigeria.

Travelling is not for everyone. Who ever have the resources can move ahead and move legally.

This thread is about those who keep advising people to stay back in Nigeria.

My assertion is if you have the resource, go to a good country LEGALLY.

In many German thread you always counter it with €9000. Please are u not aware when you enter germany you can walk into the bank and fill a form to unblock it?

Can you compare it with your almighty UK where people are chased back home after collecting more than €11,000?

On the issue of credit card loan I raised, to get a credit card here as a student the only thing you need is a registered address and forms of ID( any passport or resident permit). No collateral like a typical naija bank will ask.

I'm sure if this is about uk you wont mention there school fees and how theres no way for student to stay back.

Ich habe kein zeit bro.

Danke.




It's deceiving to talk about German student visa without talking about money involved, people hear free education in Germany but it's not free because you need €8,700 to start with.

Yes I will discourage anybody who wants to travel illegally or travel with the wrong visa with the hope to live and work.

It cost nothing to be honest with people when giving opinion about what is obtainable abroad.

_€8700, visa application fees plus flight money is almost 4m naira and I'm not sure many posting here have that figure resting in their bank accounts

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Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by EMMAACHILE(m): 5:09pm On Apr 20
It may not be worth the stress as the stories currently online or trending here is discouraging. Many cannot get professional jobs after school especially in Europe.

The most friendly immigrant countries have language barrier to overcome.

From what I figured out, the best experience will always be those who can start their own business so as to take advantage of the credit system.

@berliner1
I learnt the credit system in Germany has to be paid in full monthly unlike the American system.
How is the issue of racism in Berlin?
Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by Berliner1: 5:14pm On Apr 20
EMMAACHILE:
It may not be worth the stress as the stories currently online or trending here is discouraging. Many cannot get professional jobs after school especially in Europe.

The most friendly immigrant countries have language barrier to overcome.

From what I figured out, the best experience will always be those who can start their own business so as to take advantage of the credit system.

@berliner1
I learnt the [b]credit system in Germany has to be paid in full monthly [/b]unlike the American system.
How is the issue of racism in Berlin?

What are you talking about in terms of credit system payment?
Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by EMMAACHILE(m): 5:16pm On Apr 20
Berliner1:


What are you talking about?



Issue of credit card issuance and payment. Is it paid back monthly?

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Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by Berliner1: 5:24pm On Apr 20
EMMAACHILE:

Issue of credit card issuance and payment. Is it paid back monthly?


Various credit card have different terms and condition.

The common and easiest one is not even from a german company.

This card mostly start with 2k euro for new commer which can be increased upto 7k euro within one year depending on how frequent you use them.

If you use the money and return it back, its chargee free ....no hidden charges anywhere.
But if you are paying after the stipulated monthly dates, charges apply.

For example, my friend used 2k(summer wears and iphone) out of his 5k euro card, after the deadline(mostly 20th of each month), he was requested to pay 30 euro as charges.

So its up to you. Moreover there are plenty student jobs here for people who want to work and earn well.

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Re: Is Life Abroad Worth The Stress And Hype? Memoirs Of A Naturalized Immigrant. by theamerican(f): 5:36pm On Apr 20
EMMAACHILE:


It may not be worth the stress as the stories currently online or trending here is discouraging. Many cannot get professional jobs after school especially in Europe.


This is exactly the reason I created this thread. Many people don't tell the whole story. many cannot get professional Job's after school is often taken out of context. I'll try to explain some things.

These countries have strict immigration laws. There is a system, and I promise you, those systems work. Visa for visitors, students, workers, etc. are such labeled because that's all they are supposed to be. There are restrictions for visitors, students, non-residents in general, etc. People start encountering problems when they try to do something contrary to how the society was designed to work.

Before leaving Nigeria, many people are aware of the restrictions of their visa. When you hear that visitors aren't allowed to work, or students shouldn't work more than 10/20 hours weekly or that foreigners are taxed at a higher percentage than residents/citizens, you know what you're signing up for before traveling. It's stupid for anyone to get there and complain.

If you understand the system and make plans for how to blend with it, you will avoid most problems. If they give visa to visit or simply study, do just that. If you decide to violate the terms of the visa, you lose the right to complain. Whatever you face afterwards is your own doing. I promise you, it's still a lot better than what you'll face in Nigeria.

Like people have said on here, majority of those who complain are people who are abroad without proper documentation, qualification, yet, they expect too much from the host country. There are success stories everywhere, just like there are stories of failures. In the end, everyone's gonna be ok.

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