Good evening Jzhane,

I am very sad and unhappy. Please post my story. I need help. I just got married last November but I am sincerely not happy in my marriage. I dont know what to do. Its too early to be complaining but see where I have found myself. I am so depressed and I dont know what to do.When I was dating and courting my husband,his siblings were always a problem for us. My husband's father is late and he being the first son,he is responsible for his siblings. I was afraid this would be a problem for us but I was counseled by everyone to take it easy and be patient.

After our wedding,my husband's youngest brother came to live with us two weeks after. I didnt like the idea considering the fact that we just got married. I asked my husband why,he said,he was on holiday. The annoying thing is that this boy is so spoilt,he does not do anything,all he does is eat and leave the plates for me to wash. In January,he left for school and the very next day,another sibling came. This time,his sister. This sister is very possessive. She enters our room anyhow ,like its hers. She also does not like to do anything but eat. She does not respect me cos she says we are age mates. I try and keep quiet for peace sake.

She left in February and returned in March. This time,I couldnt take her disrespect anymore and I brought it up to my husband. My husband asked me to...

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don't t know how men tolerate relatives staying with them, as for me, anything after 3 days you kapput.


wife first anything comes later.


when a home is on fire, a woman can go to her friends place or parents place same as during omugwo but a man must stay to fix his home.

Obviously, this is the effect of lack of counselling b4 marriage

jeff1607:
don't t know how men tolerate relatives staying with them, as for me, anything after 3 days you kapput.


wife first anything comes later.


when a home is on fire, a woman can go to her friends place or parents place same as during omugwo but a man must stay to fix his home.

Samuelgr8:
Obviously, this is the effect of lack of counselling b4 marriage

Abeg open ur hands to his family n u have peace

Na wa o, i guess you should just act a like normal house mate for the time being. pretend you dnt care anymore and remember to but it in prayers. Thank God you have a job e for bad for you.

Correct.

Husband should always consider the wife point of view.

jeff1607:
don't t know how men tolerate relatives staying with them, as for me, anything after 3 days you kapput.


wife first anything comes later.


when a home is on fire, a woman can go to her friends place or parents place same as during omugwo but a man must stay to fix his home.

madam,u can never stop his family from coming to ur house by query but by patient,respect n love. show her love by settling with her n become good friends. when dat love exist she will b d one asking u what d family will eat for d day. utilize dis opportunity n when ur husband sees the care,love n respect for his family,he will b d one asking u for food n sex. u over reacted by locking ur kitchen. be patient,love n respect his family.
No better home in d world like urs,pls value n love where u r n what u have. pls stop dis hatred for his family because of their home training or brought up.
Time will come when she will realise marriage is necessary to b in her home not urs.

Women and their wahala, you forget that his siblings has been a part of him almost all his life, you came into the picture just last year and you want to disengage them already. You said it yourself that he's like the father of the family now in the absence of his father. The best thing is to make peace with his siblings and discuss the rest with your husband.

making sense.

Marshalxv:
Women and their wahala, you forget that his siblings has been a part of him almost all his life, you came into the picture just last year and you want to disengage them already. You said it yourself that he's like the father of the family now in the absence of his father. The best thing is to make peace with his siblings and discuss the rest with your husband.

It's said when a woman marries a man, the man's family is also included

The first thing you must know is that you cant stop his family from visiting, family is everything to even to you, he is like the father of the house , it is your husband that should set boundaries for them, why would his sister Be disrespecting you in your home, though I am not married yet but I will never allow any of my siblings or even my parent disrespect my guy not to talk of my future husband, this is where patience and wisdom application comes in, wisdom is profitable in all things, so get wisdom, dont let them see you as a bad wife, it is just a matter of time, they too will marry one day and again how do u even expect his family members not to come to your house?


Secondly, All women has a common problem including me, it is hard to see two guys living together having issues but women o, they will fight sa ni.. When it comes to marriage, it is easy for a lady to leave with her family members more than her in laws because what her sister will do to her and she will talk to her and even slap her and just forget, she may not b able to talk if it were the in laws simply because she wont want to offend them in the process of saying her mind and some in laws sef are just too insensitive, they just behave anyhow not knowing the consequence of their behaviors in the home, so family interference should be limited from both sides in the family

missiret:
The first thing you must know is that you cant stop his family from visiting, family is everything to even to you, he is like the father of the house , it is your husband that should set boundaries for them, why would his sister Be disrespecting you in your home, though I am not married yet but I will never allow any of my siblings or even my parent disrespect my guy not to talk of my future husband, this is where patience and wisdom application comes in, wisdom is profitable in all things, so get wisdom, dont let them see you as a bad wife, it is just a matter of time, they too will marry one day and again how do u even expect his family members not to come to your house?


Secondly, All women has a common problem including me, it is hard to see two guys living together having issues but women o, they will fight sa ni.. When it comes to marriage, it is easy for a lady to leave with her family members more than her in laws because what her sister will do to her and she will talk to her and even slap her and just forget, she may not b able to talk if it were the in laws simply because she wont want to offend them in the process of saying her mind and some in laws sef are just too insensitive, they just behave anyhow not knowing the consequence of their behaviors in the home, so family interference should be limited from both sides in the family

most ladies will exclude themselves. thumb up for been truthful

missiret:
The first thing you must know is that you cant stop his family from visiting, family is everything to even to you, he is like the father of the house , it is your husband that should set boundaries for them, why would his sister Be disrespecting you in your home, though I am not married yet but I will never allow any of my siblings or even my parent disrespect my guy not to talk of my future husband, this is where patience and wisdom application comes in, wisdom is profitable in all things, so get wisdom, dont let them see you as a bad wife, it is just a matter of time, they too will marry one day and again how do u even expect his family members not to come to your house?


Secondly, All women has a common problem including me, it is hard to see two guys living together having issues but women o, they will fight sa ni.. When it comes to marriage, it is easy for a lady to leave with her family members more than her in laws because what her sister will do to her and she will talk to her and even slap her and just forget, she may not b able to talk if it were the in laws simply because she wont want to offend them in the process of saying her mind and some in laws sef are just too insensitive, they just behave anyhow not knowing the consequence of their behaviors in the home, so family interference should be limited from both sides in the family

True !!

missiret:
The first thing you must know is that you cant stop his family from visiting, family is everything to even to you, he is like the father of the house , it is your husband that should set boundaries for them, why would his sister Be disrespecting you in your home, though I am not married yet but I will never allow any of my siblings or even my parent disrespect my guy not to talk of my future husband, this is where patience and wisdom application comes in, wisdom is profitable in all things, so get wisdom, dont let them see you as a bad wife, it is just a matter of time, they too will marry one day and again how do u even expect his family members not to come to your house?


Secondly, All women has a common problem including me, it is hard to see two guys living together having issues but women o, they will fight sa ni.. When it comes to marriage, it is easy for a lady to leave with her family members more than her in laws because what her sister will do to her and she will talk to her and even slap her and just forget, she may not b able to talk if it were the in laws simply because she wont want to offend them in the process of saying her mind and some in laws sef are just too insensitive, they just behave anyhow not knowing the consequence of their behaviors in the home, so family interference should be limited from both sides in the family

I really do hope I never get to face this dilemma cos my siblings are very important o. Infact, God, Mom, Siblings, Laptop then woman. So I hope to meet someone who is understand.

jorion:
I really do hope I never get to face this dilemma cos my siblings are very important o. Infact, God, Mom, Siblings, Laptop then woman. So I hope to meet someone who is understand.

what about dad

Amen

Cuteamigo1:
what about dad

hmm

Hmm