kimbraa:
Abeg! Panel Beating na work for Nigeria? I personally don't consider that as a job except if I'm misunderstanding what he does for a living.

@38, and that he hasn't done anything meaningful with his life has made him complacent at the level he's at. He's got nothing to loose and cares less about giving meaning to his life. Your bro lacks purpose, motivation, and drive. There are people like him who came to escort others in the world.

You clearly don't know how much of money those guys make. Everyone who owns a car is at their mercy once it gets bashed. Scrap metal nko, no be here. They're richer than the average white collar job guys. Your comment made me laugh in Swahili.

eliadekx:



U are very big fool one man from panel beater he set up havy hotel here in Ikeja and graduates are working for him also he's still doing the same work

Some people doing that panel beater work will feed u ur mama ur papa and ur entire generation



People like u will be bagging 50naira from people everyday to play bet given them hope I'll will


NONSEN

Talk trash and a take a blow on ya face

No vex oga, obviously she had no knowledge of street things.

I think he's suffering from an emotional imbalance with some regrets in Life best known to him that held him back to fight for success in life and so feels he's a looser with nothing to work for, seems more like depression but NO, he's very social as you put's it, he's just carefree about life and things around him even with a Job, he do not care.

An individual like him would not tie himself to any strong relationship that may lead to marriage, or has any dream of a better tomorrow.

On the other hand, i think you guys as well contributed to his being a "skilled lazy man." Most expecialy the owner of the house he is rentlessly enjoying should drive him out. This could be it right from his teen he enjoy almost everything on a plater of gold and you'r complaining today.

Some people are like that ... i hv 2 uncles like that .. 1 still stays in my father's village house .. he has 2 kids, left his 1st wife and has a new woman in my father's house. This one dont even have work ane he is above 40 now. i was surprised when he started getting serious with church, i thought he had changed, until i heard he stole from the church treasury and was banished from the church. When he was much younger he and his gang terrorised the village so they were banished from the village until they were forgiven after 5 yrs. All his gang members have changed and are responsible now but my uncle no wan change ... he dont like work, his own is to always look fresh, dress well, use good cream, go out and hv fun and he likes hardworking rich women who will be feeding him while he galivants.

My 2nd uncle has about 8 children with his wife and i hear he has another family with one calabar woman somewhere .. this man's work on earth is to impregnate women. He doesnt even take care of the children. His own is to f#ck f#ck and f#ck .. always asking my dad for money .. a full grown man with no steady job .. today he is in the north tomorrow he is trying to settle in calabar . That man has travelled round this country.. the only thing he achieves is to impregnate women. His children have no regard for him. His 1st daughter call him by his name .. she stopped calling him father a long time ago.

He should be the president and ex officio of the lazy Nigeria youths.

Stop clothing and feeding him, hunger will teach him to be hardworking! Our people say if laziness makes one to cover ones self with rapper, hunger will make him or her to uncover it!

Adegbenro7643:
Dear Nairalanders,
I don't even know where exactly to start from, as the issue is so pressing.
I have a brother who is 38 years old now but his behaviours seem to be too inferior to that of a normal under 18 guy. Almost everyone in our family (nuclear) seems to have had enough of his foolish & childish attitudes. As Yoruba adage would say, “Ọmọ ẹni kì í burú títí, ká fi fún ẹkùn pajẹ ” – “One’s child cannot be bad to the extent of throwing him/her to the Leopard to devour”. They now let him be; only praying to God for divine & better transformation. Listed below are some things about him:

1. He is still living with our mother in a house which was built by our elder brother. Although the owner does not live there. He was living at his rented place before the completion of the building & he turned a deaf ear to every advice given to stop him from moving into the house. We all know he'd become more lazy if he does not have to pay for rent any longer.

2. He does not take his job (panel beating) so serious at all. This brother could be so funny; as he would prefer staying home & watching TV shows whenever there's light. On his way to shop, he would sometimes return home if he hears "Up Nepa". He gives customers different excuses on phone.

3. People regret helping him to secure any job as his attitude towards the job would look as if you are only forcing the job on him. I think one's commitment to the work helps to keep the job. How do people help you to keep your job?

4. He has no plan for marriage at all. Well, I have started pitying his future wife because he's not disciplined at all. None of my sisters prays to have his like as a husband. I strongly pray he changes for better before getting married.

5. His eating habit is so disgusting. He lacks table manner too much. Imagine a person of that age licking a leaf after unwrapping moimoi. Does being an artisan take manners away? No

6. He loves attending parties. He's the only one, among the siblings, who loves social life beyond normal. He has no savings. Some of his friends are also sick of his unruly attitudes to work. I know many of his friends (co-artisans) who have made it from same work.

Just to mention few,,,,
They have seated him down & talked sense into his ears but he would not heed.
And to himself, he's so wise. What grieves me so much is that he does not seem regretful at all. Apart from people who do not really know him, I think he only has my respect as my elder brother. Please,,,, how do we save him from self-destructive habits?

Maybe PMB is referring to this brother of mine

GrammarNazi1, I hope you do your work here too,,,,

Are you talking about Leke?
I think I should share this post with him. What do you think?

salvatar:


I FEEL THIS.
this human just said the truth

Thanks Oga Salvatar

RadicallyBlunt:
Those are signals that ones virtues has been used. You may say I'm too spiritual but believe me, that's how he'll continue to be nonchalant about everything in life. He'll be happy all about but nothing tangible will come out of his life until something is done.

I did not want to b the first to say so. U are absolutely correct. Let them take him for deliverance,the OP never mentioned if he was violent.There is an underlyin problem that is being hidden. Am sure from his destiny,he is meant to b a success but...

edoman2016:
If your 38 years old brother does not work and always stay at home to watch TV, then how does he feed and cloth himself? Definitely, your family is supporting his laziness by providing food, shelter and money for him. Deny him food in the house and he will be forced to work due to severe hunger.

Na this one you hardly think his mother will effect. Mothers are so caring that they can't see thier child /children suffer just like that.

Blonchilli:
They say a fool at 40 is a fool forever, 2 years remaining and it's going to be forever. The first step is throwing him out of the house. Nothing like when a man has that sense that he's responsible for his rent and bills because if he stays there he will never help himself and if you guys don't do this he will soon bring a pregnant woman for you people to take care of and a child. Act fast Adegbenro7643

Best advice

report him to buhari

cut off all the help he is being given. he will work by force. he still has a source of money if not he won't be this lazy. he's not hungry and all his bills are getting paid so he can afford the life he's living.

I don't have a solution per say, I observed that vacation, holiday outside your own house, even outside your state is very good to allow your kids to experience, in fact, let them see many better and beautiful life other people are living, let them see reason why they have to be better than you. Most first child are like that (I do not know if op brother is first) simply because their parents hardly let them go out or live far away from them.

I can see all the attributes here are his bad side. Doesn't he have a good side?

eliadekx:



U are very big fool one man from panel beater he set up havy hotel here in Ikeja and graduates are working for him also he's still doing the same work

Some people doing that panel beater work will feed u ur mama ur papa and ur entire generation



People like u will be bagging 50naira from people everyday to play bet given them hope I'll will


NONSEN

Talk trash and a take a blow on ya face

Don't blame her bro... blame the engineering situation in this country .....

Hold on, does he play sports bet?

Contrat the job to soldiers in the Barack, let them keep him for like 6 months, he will stay with them throughout the period.

Thank me later.. .....

OP, two people can fix your elder brother:

Disciplined Dad and a faithful fiancee.

kimbraa:
Abeg! Panel Beating na work for Nigeria? I personally don't consider that as a job except if I'm misunderstanding what he does for a living.

@38, and that he hasn't done anything meaningful with his life has made him complacent at the level he's at. He's got nothing to loose and cares less about giving meaning to his life. Your bro lacks purpose, motivation, and drive. There are people like him who came to escort others in the world.

I know people that have bought their own personal house from panel beating and mechanic

Adegbenro7643:
Dear Nairalanders,
I don't even know where exactly to start from, as the issue is so pressing.
I have a brother who is 38 years old now but his behaviours seem to be too inferior to that of a normal under 18 guy. Almost everyone in our family (nuclear) seems to have had enough of his foolish & childish attitudes. As Yoruba adage would say, “Ọmọ ẹni kì í burú títí, ká fi fún ẹkùn pajẹ ” – “One’s child cannot be bad to the extent of throwing him/her to the Leopard to devour”. They now let him be; only praying to God for divine & better transformation. Listed below are some things about him:

1. He is still living with our mother in a house which was built by our elder brother. Although the owner does not live there. He was living at his rented place before the completion of the building & he turned a deaf ear to every advice given to stop him from moving into the house. We all know he'd become more lazy if he does not have to pay for rent any longer.

2. He does not take his job (panel beating) so serious at all. This brother could be so funny; as he would prefer staying home & watching TV shows whenever there's light. On his way to shop, he would sometimes return home if he hears "Up Nepa". He gives customers different excuses on phone.

3. People regret helping him to secure any job as his attitude towards the job would look as if you are only forcing the job on him. I think one's commitment to the work helps to keep the job. How do people help you to keep your job?

4. He has no plan for marriage at all. Well, I have started pitying his future wife because he's not disciplined at all. None of my sisters prays to have his like as a husband. I strongly pray he changes for better before getting married.

5. His eating habit is so disgusting. He lacks table manner too much. Imagine a person of that age licking a leaf after unwrapping moimoi. Does being an artisan take manners away? No

6. He loves attending parties. He's the only one, among the siblings, who loves social life beyond normal. He has no savings. Some of his friends are also sick of his unruly attitudes to work. I know many of his friends (co-artisans) who have made it from same work.

Just to mention few,,,,
They have seated him down & talked sense into his ears but he would not heed.
And to himself, he's so wise. What grieves me so much is that he does not seem regretful at all. Apart from people who do not really know him, I think he only has my respect as my elder brother. Please,,,, how do we save him from self-destructive habits?

Maybe PMB is referring to this brother of mine

GrammarNazi1, I hope you do your work here too,,,,

At the bottom your brother's mess is the excessive pamper your parents gave him even into adulthood. Nothing destroys a child more than that. We are even managing one around me right now.

Buikechukwu35:
and once he become the fool at fourth he become fool forever.

True talk

Adegbenro7643:
You needn't to be sorry. That is what he is. I wish I could say it to his face but it'd be disrespectful because he is not near to slowpoke

He's currently in a comfort zone that's being unknowingly provided by the family.

Push him out. Hardship and hunger has a way of re-shaping a man.

I blamed the family for his lack of seriousness in life most especially the mother @38 and still acting like a child if you guys had thrown him out of the house and let him know reason why he would have been serious by now.

edoman2016:
If your 38 years old brother does not work and always stay at home to watch TV, then how does he feed and cloth himself? Definitely, your family is supporting his laziness by providing food, shelter and money for him. Deny him food in the house and he will be forced to work due to severe hunger.

. He might also be forced to go and rob or steal to buy food and clothes thereby dragging the family's name to the mud. The best thing is to always talk to him, let him see his mates and how they've been able to better their lives. Nigeria is hard we know but one can't sit at home doing nothing anything is a thing as long as it not armed robbery or getting involve in any crime.

Preshy561:
I think he needs serious prayers and counselling.

this One Don Pass Prayer o

No. 5 shows that he still hasn't losed touch with the Nigerian culture

DeadRat:
this One Don Pass Prayer o

lmao.