Most PEPs in here don't read...and when they do, they can't make any intelligent contribution or complete a sentence without bn vulgar and spitting gibbish
The pastor have made his points backed with scriptures and based on his own understanding, if you have issues with it, make your own points or keep quite ....
johnnyvid: A pastor has told women that it is an abomination for them to call their husbands by his name or a pet name. Pastor Chris Ojigbani, who calls himself a marriage and relationship expert, said a man is a woman's Lord and as such, she should never call him by his name or by a pet name. He said names such as "sweetheart, darling, even baby" should never be uttered by women in relation to their husbands. He was especially opposed to the use of "baby" and said it belittles a man. Lol. What an archaic man! Pastor Ojigbani advised the female members of his congregation to refer to their husbands as "My King" and "My Lord". The use of ordinary names and pet names, he said, are as a result of wrong teachings. As he preached, the female members of his congregation were seen nodding their head in agreement. After the video was shared online, a lot of people expressed support for his teaching but some pointed out that he calls Jesus by name though he is his Lord. The pastor has now replied to those opposing his teaching. He wrote: It's amazing how many wives and unmarried women refused to accept the simple teaching in the video above where I taught wives how to become queen in their marriage. In the video, I simply asked wives to make their husbands king if they want to become queen. And to do that, I explained you must respect him by calling him King or lord and by serving him food like a king. But it's so unfortunate that some of the women are arguing the teaching and insulting me as well. After much consideration, I decided to ignore the insults and help you with further explanations. And I will like to start by asking a question. Is there anything wrong in asking a wife to respect her husband? Any woman who doesn't respect the husband is actually disobeying the word of God, which says that wives should respect their husbands (Ephesians 5:22). It's also interesting to note that any disobedience of the Word of God is a sin. If your husband doesn't treat you well, he has committed a sin and will have a question to answer before God on the judgement day. So, if you disrespect your husband because he doesn't treat you well, you will also have a question to answer on the judgement day. It's also important you note that you should respect your husband unconditionally. You don 't respect your husband because he treats you well. In Christianity, respect is not reciprocal. In the world, respect is reciprocal but in Christianity, respect is sacrificial. I also noticed that many wives commented they would never call their husbands lord. But the Bible tells us that Sarah called Abraham lord (1Peter 3:6). If Sarah called her husband lord, what makes you feel you are too big to call your husband lord? Apart from the fact that Sarah called Abraham lord, is there any other scripture that says the husband is the lord of his wife? Yes, Ephesians 5:22 says that you should respect your husband as lord. Verse 23 of the same chapter also says that your husband is your head just as Christ is the head of the church. So, my teaching is scriptural! And I didn't write the Bible. The teaching is very clear and simple. Apart from the fact that the teaching in the video is scriptural, what wrong have I done to ask you to respect your husband? I didn't ask you to respect me, but to respect your husband. Some of you respect pastors so much but have no respect for your husband. Some of you don't call your pastors by their names but call your husband by his name. One lady even commented that she must call her husband by his name because she calls Jesus by His name. Kindly check the scripture and you will find out that no disciple of Christ called Him Jesus Christ. Some may have referred to Him as Jesus when talking about Him to people, but when talking to Him directly, they called Him Master, Rabbi, Son of David, etc. The previous week, I published a video, where I rebuked only husbands and many women applauded the teaching. But because the teaching in this video advises wives, the same women are angry. One of the women even commented that my teaching is an African teaching. Please note that there is nothing African about the teaching. The teaching is directly based on scripture, and the scriptural references are Ephesians 5:22-25 and 1Peter 3:1-6. It will interest you to note that the teaching that supports equality of husband and wife is based on western culture. The Bible does not support equality of a husband and wife. It, however, supports equality of a man and woman, but not a husband and wife. It's different in marriage. A woman may be the head of a big organisation but her husband is still her head. The Bible clearly says that the husband is the head (Ephesians 5:23). You can't be equal with your head. There is no scripture that supports equality of husband and wife. Rather western culture supports it. Unfortunately, there is a mixup of western culture and scriptural doctrines. Many people practise western cultures, thinking they are practising scriptural doctrines. Having said this, I want you to know that I don't support the maltreatment of wives. God forbid! The teaching in the video was just to help wives become queen in their marriages. If you listen to the full message, you will see how I rebuked husbands. I actually rebuke husbands more because wives are weaker vessels. But I want you to know there is no other way of becoming a queen in your marriage apart from making your husband the king. For you to become a queen, your husband must first become the king. The message has been tested and proven. It works! From the comments I read, it's obvious that some of the ladies are bitter against their husbands. And I will like to beg you to take it easy with husband. He may be maltreating you, but you are also not treating him well. If you give him his due respect, you will be happy. The problem is usually who will become nice first. I know that some people wrongly teach you that you are equal with your husband. They are deceiving you. Such teaching makes so much sense but cannot be found in the Bible. Apart from the fact that the Bible says wives should respect their husbands, it's clearly better to respect than to disrespect a person. Do not see me as your opponent. God called me to help Christians, irrespective of one's church or denomination. That explains why I don't pastor a church. W Ives, I beg you to be respectful to your husbands. Be submissive to your husband as the Bible teaches us. You can't be disrespectful to your husband and still pray to God. Any wife who disrespects the husband has no relationship with God. A man, on the other hand, who maltreats the wife has no relationship with God. My teaching may be hard but it's the truth. We live in a time that people have itchy ears but I teach only what you should know. I don't teach what you want to hear but what you should hear. If your husband has annoyed you so much, please forgive him and have a fresh start with him. Put into practice my teaching, and your husband will make you his queen. You can't be happy in the marriage if your husband is not happy. Make him happy and become the happiest wife on earth. When I teach husbands, I rebuke them as well. But now, I am speaking to wives. Respecting your husband does not mean you are a slave. Rather, it cements your relationship better. I also want you to know that you cannot modernise marriage. Marriage is an old-fashioned institution and must be practised in an old-fashioned way. Any attempt to modernise it will destroy it. Jesus Christ said that if you put a new wine into an old wineskin, it will bust. The marriage system has “busted” because we are attempting to practise it with new marriage doctrines. We must go back to the scripture and practise only scriptural doctrines if we want to restore our marriage system. I would have explained further to you but I feel that I have already said enough. Watch the viral video below. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kNikk-X-O7E&feature=youtu.be.https://www.pressnewsng.com.ng/2018/05/its-abomination-to-call-your-husband-by.html?m=0
People like this make women call us Nigerian guys sexist. If I slap that his "my King, my Lord" sexist mouth Ehn
marylandcakes: The bible also says that the man is the bread winner of the home.
It is high time we stop cherry picking verses in the bible to soothe our needs. How will a man want a woman to call him Lord if he doesn’t respect himself and be dragging her pay packet with her. Pastors in Nigeria should help rid the country of corruption by preaching to their flocks about illegal acquired wealth, taking and giving bribes, being contented. Etc
Leave them ooo... That's the Nigerian talent. Quoting a part of the bible to make them sound right. They won't refer to the part where a married man should be almost inhumanly responsible for his wife and kids. They won't say that he shouldn't even think about cheating let alone be doing it for years.
Any woman that calls me "My Lord" would chop slap Walahie Am I your daddy?
Benoxvals: My wife is calling me—Nebuchadnezzar I don’t like that name and she said the Pastor preached that she should address me as her King.. Could u imagine(?)
I was in the church handling media projection and I saw this post and boaster out laughing out loud. thank God the pastor is preaching and everyone joined me in laughing thinking that what the pastor said is funny. Nebuchadnezzar indeed. Back to the topic, if you read the topic well, the pastor made a lot of sense. Simple methods that have worked for years and century only the wise will understand. Biblical instructions are not by force, the bible has different laws and instruction for different things. Follow if you are wise.
ObongawanAKS: Dear pastor, in as much as you've made some sensible points there, respecting my husband against all odds is a No No for me. The book of Ephesians 5 is very clear on this subject. Husband love, and wife submit, hence love precedes submission. But you make it seem as though I should respect my husband no matter what. How would I respect a man who doesn't care if I exist or not? He earns my respect by loving me, it's as simple as that. As the head of the family, he has to lead by example. God is not an author of confusion.
If only you deeply understand what it means to love God with all your heart and soul then you won't say a No No.. when u truly love God you become obedient to death as Jesus was obedient unto death.. you r not obeying because of the benefit or conditionally , you obey because of the love you have for God and you do what he says you should do irrespective of the other.. don't anchor ur obedience on another's action.. when you see it that way then ur understanding of God's word in not enough.
Katier00: I agree with your teaching sir, my husband is my lord and king but taking seven out of ten pieces of meat in the pot to serve him because he is a king is a no for me. Filling his plate with food because a king must not finish his food is ridiculous. Unlike you my source of income no be tight, I work to get money so I can't come and be wasting food for this buhari administration in the name of forming an imaginary kingdom
If your husband is your king,he should be ready to provide. See what the Bible say about men not providing for his home "But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel." 1 Tim 5:8
DrMuzungu: It is an absolute abomination and the path straight to hell to be a 1diot thief who deceives people and does 419 on them (419 where he collects tithes for the miracles he will NOT deliver) to calls himself a pastor.
Please call me by the name you saw on the marriage registry and the one you scream when you're hitting it good, don't call by any silly Queen name and still be cheating on me and treating me bad.
Respect is not by name, it's by treatment. Treat me right and you can call me by my full name plus my ancestors name, and problem no go dey.
I had wanted to create a thread like this to address this "baby" issue.
I find that the so-called 21st century women prefer to call their husband baby...a name they deliberately chose so they can handle him accordingly.
When I wasn't married, I knew a friend who told a girl he was thinking of marrying not to call him baby. He said, "i can call you baby, but dont call me..."
I thought that was going to far; but as a married man now, I think that was a smart thing he did.
petenweke: Some so called pastors don't have any message to deliver. So they just open their carnal mouth and allow everything to come out. No spirituality.
Leave them ooo... That's the Nigerian talent. Quoting a part of the bible to make them sound right. They won't refer to the part where a married man should be almost inhumanly responsible for his wife and kids. They won't say that he shouldn't even think about cheating let alone be doing it for years.
Any woman that calls me "My Lord" would chop slap Walahie Am I your daddy?
What is inhuman about being totally responsible for your wife and kids? That's the way it aught to be. If she works, fine, it's just an addition; I still give her a monthly allowance that is bigger than a many people's salary.
When you begin to handle responsibility like a man in the home, you will know it isn't out of place to call him Lord.
I can bet you that all those commenting nonsense didn't either read the entire article or lack data to even watch thr video...
This pastor made sense.. no man in hes right sense will maltreat a woman who calls him my lord.. my king... The man will always be in cloud 9. But this girls won't understand...
I really don't comment on nairaland.. cus i have seen tomuch of senseless kids everywhere...
Quote me and thunder will rest for ur generations for ever...
Bunch of lazy kids...
Lol, no man would maltreat a woman that calls him king or lord? It's like you were born yesterday.
As someone pointed out on the thread, respect is in actions, not words. She can call you king, lord and ancient of days and still sleep with all your friends. Meanwhile, you'll be carrying swollen head upandan because she calls you king. He can call you queen and still sleep with the househelp and get her pregnant. Abeg forget all these irrelevancies. He should have just said husband and wife should respect each other and left it there.
If only you deeply understand what it means to love God with all your heart and soul then you won't say a No No.. when u truly love God you become obedient to death as Jesus was obedient unto death.. you r not obeying because of the benefit or conditionally , you obey because of the love you have for God and you do what he says you should do irrespective of the other.. don't anchor ur obedience on another's action.. when you see it that way then ur understanding of God's word in not enough.
Remember, the bible says, ''husband love your wife as Christ love the Church, and gave His life for her''; and again it says, ''there is no fear in love, but perfect love cast out fear''. How will I respect or submit to a husband who makes marriage a nightmare? Love as well as respect (submission) is unconditional, but the husband has to set the pace by loving his wife. ''The greatest of all is LOVE''.
Its seems we need some punishments for people who don't read before commenting on articles they have no clue on.
He made absolute sense. To be a queen, you must have a king. If you want to be treated as a queen, treat your man with respect and he will treat you well unless you're married or dating an irresponsible man.
But to find yourself a king who can treat you as a queen, you must also have attributes of a queen.
Remember, the bible says, ''husband love your wife as Christ love the Church, and gave His life for her''; and again it says, ''there is no fear in love, but perfect love cast out fear''. How will I respect or submit to a husband who makes marriage a nightmare? Love as well as respect (submission) is unconditional, but the husband has to set the pace by loving his wife. ''The greatest of all is LOVE''.
Why marry a man who you dont understand or not in agreement with? How did you both get married when you both didnt agree?
