Fellow NLs, there was a time I posted a topic on this forum regarding my girlfriend's low hygiene and the female forks started throwing pellets on me. Well, lastweek I was unable to sleep cos the situation has caused insomnia for me and in my state of anger I drafted some messages so I could send it to her and let her know how I feel about the whole shits. But, I changed my mind before sending it and decided to stay low and keep watching as situation unfolds itself.

She came around two days ago to spend the weekend with me and unfortunately for her, she stumbled on the message " special thanks to her persistent checking of my phone which I've severally warned her against, after reading all she started crying and keep asking me if I love her. But my response since yesterday is utter SILENCE!

I've made up my mind to end the relationship but first I want to show y'all the message, one or two advice is enough to kill or resurrect the relationship.

The followings are the content of the message I intended to send to her.


"Hi Baby, I think I should let u knw my feelings these days abt our relationship, I really think d whole thing aren't working out d way I expected it 2 be.
Though nobody is perfect but when ur imperfections are starting 2 affecting other people's life negatively, its time 2 end what we av 2geda.
I want us 2 put an end 2 d relationship because of d following reasons.

1. I've found it difficult 2 trust u based on what u did on d 26th of Feb when u tried contacting ur ex boyfriend repeatedly and how u also confessed ur love for him d day I disguised as him and chatted with u tru text msg. And d way u tried 2 call d yello guy in emure ile even when u told me he raped u. These attitudes have made it clear that I can't trust u.

2. Since we've started dating, ur lifestyle is nt what I expected of u being a girl, ur level of hygiene is too low and despite d fact that I've tried to raise ur awareness abt how important cleanliness is. For a young girl like u, taking good care of ur body shu b d most important thing 2 u but it seems u care less abt how u look and how u smell, I don't think its a normal thing 4 a lady 2 spend a whole day without bathing or changing her pant, I don't knw y u ar livin like that.

3. D last reason is ur burden is 2 much on me, its been 5 months since we met, and u put all ur needs on me even wen we are yet to marry, u stop relying on ur family 4 anytin nd believe I shu b responsible for all ur needs, at this stage in my life this is d last thing I ever wish 4. I ve a lot of things 2 do nd if I want 2 secure my future, I need 2 end d burdens u put on me cos its weighing me down.

I DON'T WANT U 2 BE EMOTIONAL BUT I THINK IT WOULD BE THE BEST THING FOR BOTH OF US IF WE PART WAYS FOR NOW. THANKS. OP
KINDLY SEND ME UR ACCT NO"

I asked for her account no so I can compensate her in the little way I can.

PrimadonnaO:

What?

I'm in a public place right now. I will call you when I get home.

I Think seeing this will make her knw how serious u are.
She can decide to change or walk away.
If she decides to change, pls give her a second chance.
And u said she puts all her burden on u when u are yet to marry. But, need i say, u are already doing what married pple do?

My concern is ... do you intend sending this as text, whatsapp or mail.

Note that if you use text message, It'd probably deliver as multimedia which she might not get the full message.

Enjoy.

Haa! This guy you good o. Why is she acting like a saint?

Send me her number, I want to talk to her on your behalf

4reala:
I Think seeing this will make her knw how serious u are.
She can decide to change or walk away.
If she decides to change, pls give her a second chance.
And u said she puts all her burden on u when u are yet to marry. But, need i say, u are already doing what married pple do?

You've said it all

she is a cheat, a pig and also sees ur relationship as business venture. you stil ask for her account number to compensate her for all that?..

Buhari must go

Ezkid:
I asked for her account no so I can compensate her in the little way I can.

This is a serious job position.... oshey employer of life!!

It was good that she saw how you really felt about her misgivings.
But the main question is why the fucck did u ask her for her account number?
You complain that she is a financial burden to you but show you are willing to spend on her even if it is to your detriment!
Spending money on girls doesn't make u a man, it makes you a personal ATM!
With this your attitude, there is no guarantee that the next girl in your life won't take advantage of your liberal pocket!

Out of the three points you raised, two of them cannot be overlooked. Consciously or unconsciously, there are laid down rules for any relationship that will evolve to something amazing.

First of your points is issue of infidelity - Infidelity in marriage or in a relationship is quite odorous. It is a sign that something is not just right. At times, you can't blame it solely on the perpetrator, the partner might have hand in what is leading to the act. I can't start here to cite instances, but one strong instance could be if the other partner cannot decode what his/her partner needs to make him/her stay true in the relationship. Though this doesn't justified being infidel, it is a factor that needs to be considered. Infidelity shouldn't be taken with a levity hand, the consequence may be disastrous.

Your second point ticks out uncleanliness - Here I say second rule for asking any girl's hand out in marriage is "You should never marry a girl that is dirty." Don't ask me for the first rule.


Your third point that could be overlooked. Here you singled out "her burden on you" - This can be negotiated, you can be outspoken here. Let her realise things she could look on you to do for her. Having her as a girlfriend doesn't necessitate that you spend your life savings on her. Let her know you have other priorities, you have a future you've planned for. She shouldn't be the reason you become a lavish and careless spender. Tell her that there is virtue in prudence.


All being said, I guess the ball is in your court. You are in the best position to decide what to do with her, no one is capable of doing it for you. I know there are still some flashbacks that will not make it easy to let go of the girl - there are memory of her that will want you to tread easily with her. You alone know all these - you do your judgement.

I'm stifling my laughter right now. Enough of the levity.

First of, please learn to type in a more comprehensive way. Text speak can be a difficult thing to read.

Secondly, whatever you do, have the future in mind. Basically, use your brain not your emotions when you're deciding. Relationships are for learning. You get to know what things you can tolerate in your partner and the things you can't tolerate.

PS. One of my supervisors advised me not to EVER get down with someone who's a liability. Lol. He wasn't joking about it, and he's very well to do.

PPS. Lol I just saw the compensation part. I was going to ask for your age but that would seem rude, won't it? Compensate her for what? Damages?

So rethink your life choices, make your parents proud.

That was epic... You deserve a bear hug . But on a second thought, you deserve a resounding slap for bleeping a pig for 6 months

Just follow your instinct

4reala:
I Think seeing this will make her knw how serious u are.
She can decide to change or walk away.
If she decides to change, pls give her a second chance.
And u said she puts all her burden on u when u are yet to marry. But, need i say, u are already doing what married pple do?

Yes bro right now i be mixed feelings about the whole issue, I'm happy she stumbled upon the message herself but I'm kinda sad because she became so distraught about it, I will be so happy if she can change, I mean real change not buharis type

HallaDaTruth:
Send me her number, I want to talk to her on your behalf

You sure u wanna do this bro?

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swiz123:
That was epic... You deserve a bear hug . But on a second thought, you deserve a resounding slap for bleeping a pig for 6 months

The message got across to her without touching the send button, I'm really happy about it

SoapQueen:
Haa! This guy you good o. Why is she acting like a saint?

Idk why, but I'm happy the message got passed to her without hitting the send button

SafetyFirst:
I'm in a public place right now. I will call you when I get home.

Lol

I learnt something sha....thanks op for sharing..... wish u the Best...

My hygiene comes first before anything...... I know guys to be very dirty but as a lady always put him in order.... my previous relationship I made my boyfriend to be addicted to one boxer a day.... like I forced him to buy more from Monday to Sunday each have theirs.....

Still don't know why spouse communicate with their ex while in a relationship.....that's totally disrespectful


Ehmmm not that a lady shouldn't demand money from her boyfriend but too much of everything is bad

OKUCHI11:
I learnt something sha....thanks op for sharing..... wish u the Best...

What did you learn

biacan:
What did you learn

things to look out for in a relationship... especially .... the three salient points mentioned.

OKUCHI11:
things to look out for in a relationship... especially .... the three salient points mentioned.

That's nice but don't apply them in a harsh way

But I don't understand....These kind of ladies know their pussies stink na. So why do they act like they don't know.....The funniest thing is na dem dey do shakara pass.....

The first point you raised is actually enough to end the relationship. I wonder what you are still doing with such a person my brother...

Ezkid:
Idk why, but I'm happy the message got passed to her without hitting the send button

But how did you fck a dirty girl for so long?
Are you dirty yourself or you gat no standard?


Anyway, it's good she saw it. She can apply the change in her next relationship. You wanna compensate her? Tell me you're joking!

Ezkid:
I asked for her account no so I can compensate her in the little way I can.

You need deliverance.
Compensate her for working for you or for going to the war front?
Mtcheeeeeew