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I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by bigass(f): 10:28pm On May 22, 2010 |
im a 30 year old man from the eastern part of nigeria.i have been dating this lady for 4 years now.recently i started thinking about marriage so i told her my mind by proposin to her which she accepted.i work with 1st generation bank with mangable income for about 5 years . i currently live with my parents and i use my mother's car.this implies i need to get my acommodation a car and wedding expenses. based on my savings i showed her my budget for the above as follow: 1.2bed room aparment 2.2001 corolla 3.1.5million for the wedding ceremonies 4.250k for honeymoon all the above would cost me about 4million but to my chagrin,this lady who is an unemployed graduate of 2years me blatantly that i am not ready to marry. reason to be given later. ****pls read my subsequent replies |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by MissyB1(m): 10:33pm On May 22, 2010 |
bigass:Lmao!! |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by Dondav(m): 10:42pm On May 22, 2010 |
Oops!
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Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by Nobody: 10:48pm On May 22, 2010 |
Tell the lady in question to shove her sheeeeeeeeeeiiiiiiiiiiit where the sun dont shine. Considering the current economic climate your budget is on point. Why break a leg or two for a wedding that is just one day eh? |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by tayoast(m): 10:49pm On May 22, 2010 |
bigass: wat!!! |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by slex(m): 11:02pm On May 22, 2010 |
tell her since she said u aint ready, let her make u ready by giving you the money, nonsense, how many guys are thinking of marriage, she shld be happy you want to marry her sef |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by bigass(f): 11:33pm On May 22, 2010 |
her reasons are these that she cant leave in 2 bedroom but 3bedroom that corolla 2001 is too old/small but something like 2008 and that i want to disgrace her with wedding plan of 1.5million. *she is ibo too so the whole burden is on me.she is jobless.i am very confused i need help! |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by maileby(m): 2:39am On May 23, 2010 |
The girl no serious, she never ready. How many guys get time/money to marry now? Jump am pass. |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by Pweety4me(f): 2:43am On May 23, 2010 |
Ehn?ok we shall await ur reason cause i no grab right now. |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by blank(f): 3:45am On May 23, 2010 |
@ poster, where do u guys live as in what state? |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by omega25red(m): 3:53am On May 23, 2010 |
well she might be right that you are not ready i mean why would anyone want to marry a jobless person who is demanding anyway yes dump her ass |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by axeman85(m): 10:03am On May 23, 2010 |
@poster this is a very funny stuffs here. 1: well no harm in 2bedroom but this are what you should consider before renting an apartment, eg. how long you intend living there, will you be having househelp, when you have kids and have visitors staying the night as well. those needs to be considered well. i did this before i got my place . 2: that lady is a very materialistic person. for one day 1.5million if its inclusive of traditional marriage then that ok. not too bad. infact as you said she is unemployed then i expected her t have sympathy and be reasonable. either she likes it or lumps it, my guy you try welllwell ooo. 3: regarding the car, infact sef you try well well, if i be you after all the expenses na to cut cost na im go dey my mind, just arrange small bulldog or altima 2000 model and save the rest of your money becos if she knows how to drive then fine but if not, think about after spending som much on the car she come take am go bash person nko wetin go happen ? If thats what you have to buy a car tell her thats what you have and as earlier said if she doesnt like it, she can either take the bus, brt, danfo, molue, brt, okada , napep. she has plenty options or better still trek. 4:honeymoon you try sef. how many couples nowadays dey go honeymoon again sef, na to just go, olumo rock abi go one of these tourist attraction for lagos or better still stay indoors, eat, sleep, and enjoy each others company. The balls is in your court. NOE: tribe has nothing to do with the issue at hand its the girl in person tht has issues and you should be very careful. although women want their wedding day to be all that but you call still do all that with limited funds. make her realise una no go drink garri after marriage. |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by Shola2009(m): 10:23am On May 23, 2010 |
She must be sniffing something! she's not even contributing anything.Send her PACKING! A parasite she is. |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by Chubhie: 10:51am On May 23, 2010 |
Guy u self,person no dey contribute,stil tell u say u no dey ready to marry,and after marriage hope U stil get better 4 account,cos d'nt expect her to chop garri with you,abeg use ur head jor. |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by Chubhie: 10:55am On May 23, 2010 |
Guy u self,person no dey contribute,stil tell u say u no dey ready to marry,and after marriage hope U stil get better 4 account,cos d'nt expect her to chop garri with you,abeg use ur head jor. |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by Chubhie: 10:57am On May 23, 2010 |
Guy u self,person no dey contribute,stil tell u say u no dey ready to marry,and after marriage hope U stil get better 4 account,cos d'nt expect her to chop garri with you!abeg use ur head jor. |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by carlinks: 11:31am On May 23, 2010 |
she should wait for one of Adenuga pikin or better still go hug Transformer, i would rather put that amount in my business, nonsense |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by 190: 11:32am On May 23, 2010 |
Shola2009: u took the wordss outta me! 1.5milllion naira for marriage that is too much ooh! |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by Nobody: 9:17am On May 24, 2010 |
very funny,did this really happen? |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by bigass(f): 9:25am On May 24, 2010 |
am overwhelmed with everybody's outpouring of comments.i am really grateful. this below is her reasonsher reasons are these that she cant leave in 2 bedroom but 3bedroom that corolla 2001 is too old/small but something like 2008 and that i want to disgrace her with wedding plan of 1.5million. *she is ibo too so the whole burden is on me.she is jobless.i am very confused i need help to be frank with everybody in my heart of heart ,my desire and real capability is to spent about 2million for the house car and wedding but because of her displeasure each time i make this known to her.so i decided to delay and probably do some runs to shore my capital to this amount.after this nothing will be in my account.i really wish i could please myself because this is what i am really confortable with. i feel heavily burdened i love her and want to marry.i cant date 2 girls simultaneously but never felt i wish i had someone else any other time than now.thanks you all. |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by Nobody: 10:08am On May 24, 2010 |
Pls leave this gal you are highly favoured among men that she has shown you her true self,unless you have an early death wish.Consider this when you marry her and cnt keep up with her neds this gal talking this is going to cheat on you just to look good and carry designer bags. |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by Nobody: 11:25am On May 24, 2010 |
Bro 2 start with she aint working & shes a high maintenance chick @ d same time. ur budget is way 2 high. wht exactly do u need a car 4 (ds early) or y spend 1.5 on a wedding? na sand u chop afta 4get bout d car(4 now til ur finances improve). keep d 2 bedroom flat on d list, budget lik .9m 4 d wedding. if she doesnt lik it she should take a hike. any other thing she wants she will hv 2 provide. NONSENSE. mcheeewwww. |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by SALady(f): 12:43pm On May 24, 2010 |
Unfortunately you've just opened a can of worms for yourself. You shouldnt have exposed here to your finance matters at at all. She is suppose to marry you for the love first and now you've brought a complext dynamic into this before the marriage itself. The risk here is that this marriage might end up being based on the money factor and the love secondary. She may have done you a huge favour cos' now she needs to find a job and perhaps money will no longer be the detrmining factor as whether you two should be married or not. I find it difficult to comment on her response because I do not know the spirit and the demeanour in which the feedback was delivered. |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by Nobody: 1:06pm On May 24, 2010 |
well if you'll ask me *thinking* Run for your life, |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by sevule(m): 1:37pm On May 24, 2010 |
Nwoke m abeg take to your heels, in fact leave your heels and take off!!!! Mark my words this woman can only bring you misery so please BREAK IT OFF!!!!!! What arrant rubbish! Any woman that truly loves you would support you and not say such rubbish like 1.5m is a disgraceful amount for a wedding. So if you lose your job and can not afford some of the good things of life that you can afford now what happens?This woman is NOT WIFE MATERIAL!Do you realise that she is telling you to live above your means?? Such a woman would encourage you to steal all in a bid to keep up with the jonses. My guy a word is enough for the wise. Break off the relationship today, in fact call her and break it off this minute. |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by jarkbauer: 3:42pm On May 24, 2010 |
i think she just have dreams which she had held on for long about what she wants.she is not in tune with realty just tell her you cannot satisfy her needs break up with her.you need to move on.marriage is not based on assumption and illusions and desires but realities.she might not be an all-weather women.run for your life |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by WhyAWhy(m): 3:52pm On May 24, 2010 |
Is she high on WEED? Bro abeg flag down the nearest bike and run. I tot the real life strts after d ceremony so what will u live on after this she had better get a life or better stil a knife or go jump off 3rd mainland bridge. nonsense (i hiss in chinese) |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by iseg007(m): 4:15pm On May 24, 2010 |
Issues like this keeps me wondering, why naija men will be with lazy ass women, who will just be sitting at home and be expecting one man to provide for everything and still be ungrateful at the same time. My guy listen, if you marry this your woman, you will be living in practically a MINI-HELL, There are so many hard working Nigerian girls, who have been well bought up and you can marry and build a wonderful home with, as in you can trust them with everything. But this your woman i am sure she bullies you, you pay her salary every month, you will have to beg a 100 times before you have intimacy. My Guy Dump the Liability and look for A beautiful Nigeria woman in MIND SOUL and BODY. |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by jarkbauer: 5:44pm On May 24, 2010 |
this story reminds me of a friend who got married while staying in a one bedroom self contained apartment.he had no car nothing just TV and a small fridge.what made his story worth telling is that he is from a poor to fair background while the girl not only that she's from a rich background but extremely beautiful.i went to greet them some days after wedding she was so full of smiles in their humble home.i was amazed.now they have a baby girl |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by lizzybabe1(f): 6:40pm On May 24, 2010 |
Honestly, Bigass, you are a very nice guy and very caring too. You are too good for her. I think she's aware of your caring nature and eagerness to please her, that's why she's doing shakara. How many men will draw up such budget for their future and show it to the future partner to approve it? Especially when she's not contributing anything! I don't know what to advice you because asking you to dump her is destructive. Maybe you should sit her down and talk some sense into her head! |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by kpolli(m): 5:22pm On May 25, 2010 |
never marry a jobless girl, they r not useful |
Re: I Love Her But Should I Break Up With Her? by tayoast(m): 8:44pm On May 25, 2010 |
N1.5m on wedding. is that not too much?? |
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