Having sex versus Making love
Apparently there is a difference between when you make love and when you have sex
And the singular distinction is in the state of mind of both people engaging in the act; the level of connection and all the situations surrounding and leading up to the act itself.
Sex is in itself primal; a basic need that is just as instinctive and naturally occurring as the hunger for food. The need to satisfy the urge for sex and to feel the gratification that comes from humping is not on the same level as love-making.
Chimps, rabbits, bulls, Zebras… they all have sex. That’s exactly the category into which that need belongs. It is a thing devoid of the emotional dimension that sex often comes with.
As Christina Antonyan of Thought Catalogue writes in 2016;
“It’s very easy and ordinary to just have sex, but to know how to connect… on a deeper level, and win over heart, mind and soul takes a little bit of commitment.
“…sex without love is not lovemaking.”
This is not to say that sex as painted in the context above is not a great thing. Hey, people have had mind-blowing one-night stands that they could never replicate with people they ‘have a connection with’ and ‘make love with.’
People have sex with random strangers all the time. Several forms of casual sex is indeed a thing that society brims with.
Despite the moral campaigns against it, people have been known to explore this anti-social aspect of their humanity to mind-blowing effect. And it’s just fine so far these are consenting adults who recognise all the things that could go and decide to still engage – with or without adequate precautions.
On the flipside, love-making is what people aspire to when they get into relationships and marriages. That longing for something deeper, a deep-rooted intimacy that surpasses the passionate nights and morning quickies.
“The best part about lovemaking is that it becomes effortless, because you are not thinking about what Olympic – style performance you should put on.
You become your authentic self at that moment,” adds Christina Antonyan




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