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Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by Idrismusty97(m): 11:10am On May 23, 2018 |
MarieSucre:If you notice something you don't like, It's your choice to be proactive about it. We are over 160m+ in Nigeria, I am sure they are a lot of men who would love to live with you in your house. As for me i wouldn't even be in that scenario in the first place, Because from the very very beginning before love starts clouding our judgement i have already drop the relationship or improvised. A man that will likely throw you out of his house you will know from some little actions and you shouldn't even be serious with the relationship in the first place. That's being proactive. I am quite aware of men throwing out women from their house and that's despicable but it's you women job to be proactive about it so you don't end up in such relationship just like it's my job to be proactive about living in a shelter built by a woman. Understand? 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by MarieSucre(f): 11:13am On May 23, 2018 |
Idrismusty97: You do realise people can change after 20 years of marriage right and that most time during the dating period, people pretend and hide their true selves. So what happens when you're already married? |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by Idrismusty97(m): 11:13am On May 23, 2018 |
MarieSucre:Well he sound as if he has experienced living with a woman in her house so i want to hear his side of his story. But it seems even he wouldn't do that and all those yarn is just forming rational and just saying what every women want to hear. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by Idrismusty97(m): 11:17am On May 23, 2018 |
MarieSucre:Exactly! People can change after 20 years. That's exactly why i wouldn't move in a house my wife built. I am glad you get my point. |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by MarieSucre(f): 11:20am On May 23, 2018 |
Idrismusty97: What if your wife uses that logic and is scared of moving into your personal house, how do you resolve that? Because honestly there is not guarantee you won't change, marry another 2 wives and chase her out. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by King44(m): 11:22am On May 23, 2018 |
fuckupnation:I wish some nincumpu would learn from this, women can be very difficult especially when they have the upper hand in relation only a handful would keep a low profile |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by Idrismusty97(m): 11:32am On May 23, 2018 |
MarieSucre:Good. Now she can use that logic to build her own house, It's a free world. But i and our kids wouldn't move in with her. I will even support her if possible, I love an independent successful woman but our African tradition won't just allow a man to move into a woman's house. So what would she do with her own personal house? As an expert in the construction industry i will advice her to bring in tenants or sell the house for a much higher price and build another one. Whatever way she chooses she can run an estate business, Just like my mom. But that didn't stop her from living in the same house with my dad. So 20 years after we married if i chase her out she have House(S) and assets she could move to or sustain herself. It's a Win-Win situation. P.S With the assets my mom now have she could sustain not only herself but the whole family and frequently sponsor my siblings and relatives for masters programs and businesses. But that didn't stop her from living with my dad. That's the kind of woman i will marry. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by King44(m): 11:37am On May 23, 2018 |
MarieSucre:military power is way different from relationship |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by MarieSucre(f): 11:37am On May 23, 2018 |
Idrismusty97: I see nothing to quarrel with here. As long as a woman has her independent property that the man does not try to control, and you he does not try to Lord over the fact that it her house. But one last thing, a woman has more control over the kids than you do. Don't try to play smart or you'll suffer. |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by King44(m): 11:39am On May 23, 2018 |
Idrismusty97:this is an example of a real man 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by MarieSucre(f): 11:40am On May 23, 2018 |
King44:How is it different when showing how bad men are at abusing small power given compared to women. Please tell me. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by MarieSucre(f): 11:42am On May 23, 2018 |
Idrismusty97: Again you've not answered my question, why does he have to to make that point? 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by MarieSucre(f): 11:43am On May 23, 2018 |
King44: As opposed to men who threaten to throw their wives out of the house and talk about how they paid their bride price and are feeding them at any slight provocation. The hypocrisy of you men is astounding. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by King44(m): 11:46am On May 23, 2018 |
MarieSucre:do you know that if women were among the past military leaders in this country things would have gotten worse, take an instance of diezeni and Co just when we think men are good at stealing public funds she and other women proved they are expert and genius at it 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by CioAngels(f): 11:53am On May 23, 2018 |
A man should be a man and start within his means no matter what she says about i will pay or i will contribute. With what we see today about we women, please, the man should have his own house no matter how little the room is. If the man doesn't have shame, let him be told by the woman or her family that he is a gold digger and get pushed out of the house at midnight. If the man have self respect he should not move into a woman's house. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by Idrismusty97(m): 11:57am On May 23, 2018 |
MarieSucre:Having control of the kids goes both ways and most times depends on the kids themselves and how mature they are, But that's a topic for another day. And i won't lord over a woman property/assets i didn't contribute 1kobo too. That's despicable. |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by Idrismusty97(m): 11:59am On May 23, 2018 |
CioAngels:Exactly! |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by King44(m): 11:59am On May 23, 2018 |
MarieSucre:just a handful of men would threaten to throw their wives out at the slightest provocation compared to the population of married men out there, also it is rare to hear a man rant over bride price, if he doesn't pay her wife's bride prize who does such man expects to pay it n to even brag abt it is a disgrace, if a man does not Fred his wife especially when things are going well and another man outside is busy secretly feeding are both food and money wise and the other way wise such man should not be angry he just got served those are his responsibility, when a woman is upright in doing only a mentally unstable man would threaten to throw his wife out of their house 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by Nobody: 12:03pm On May 23, 2018 |
Emma1Oj:Just like that? 1 Like
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Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by King44(m): 12:03pm On May 23, 2018 |
MarieSucre:lol |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by MarieSucre(f): 12:06pm On May 23, 2018 |
King44:Things would have gotten worse? Than the trillions of Maura that Abacha stole, than the thousands of people that Babangida killed. Your argument is just plain ridiculous, that's like saying Aguiyi Ironsi was igbo and look at how he ruled Nigeria hence Igbos cannot handle power neglecting the fact that if we were to use that logic truthfully, we have been ruled by tens of northerners and it was decidedly worse. Now replace Igbo with women and Northerners and truly see your folly. No matter how many women you put on the table, the amount of men on that table currently "who cannot handle power" as you accuse women of, will smash that table into oblivion. p.s I don't believe any tribe can handle power better, same with gender. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by MarieSucre(f): 12:10pm On May 23, 2018 |
King44: Just a handful of men!!!! Guy why are you lying nah! Even on this forum, guys that are not married and don't even have an apartment, will be threatening girls that if they dare do this or that, they will send them packing back to their fathers house. I cannot continue chatting with a Lai Mohammed like you. Goodbye. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by King44(m): 12:11pm On May 23, 2018 |
MarieSucre:that is why I said political power should not be compared to that of relationship but still men are to some extent better at handling power than women finito |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by MarieSucre(f): 12:15pm On May 23, 2018 |
King44: Again how is it different? Outline the fight difference? How are they better? 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by King44(m): 12:15pm On May 23, 2018 |
MarieSucre:lool... they don't mean it they are just flexing their muscle, nairaland men are caring patient u just don't know |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by MarieSucre(f): 12:16pm On May 23, 2018 |
King44: Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh. Enough said. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by crafteck(m): 12:35pm On May 23, 2018 |
AmazonTopaz: I year you boss |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by toscolee(m): 12:56pm On May 23, 2018 |
Hanseel1:woman never hurt you based on say she get money pass you before na him make you dey para there. Just like you said, it's only in Nigeria that such things are even an issue. You are right o. We, Nigerian men would love it if things were different, alas, they are not. Would you rather bury your head in the sand and pretend you are in another country? 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by henroe2k2(m): 1:06pm On May 23, 2018 |
MarieSucre:Women are lovely and interesting... But saddling them with the responsibility of heading a home when the man is there, is a no no... Let's not be personal.... But that's just the truth... |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by MarieSucre(f): 1:19pm On May 23, 2018 |
henroe2k2: The comments i responded to is not who heads the home. But saying that a woman cannot head the home because they get intoxicated by power when history tells us men have done that more and in disastrous proportions yet somehow they are automatically assumed to have the best leadership qualities to head anything much less a home. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by Surrey2Bimshire: 1:32pm On May 23, 2018 |
Emma1Oj: Wait what what ? Ahahahaha lol laughing so hard |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by hardon1(m): 2:48pm On May 23, 2018 |
it deosnt mean anything, it only depends on who pays the rent when it expires. |
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