Dear Rick,

I have gone through the trauma of discovering that my husband was viewing pornography. I thought it was a problem that only involved explicit material. I never knew or even thought that any unproperly dressed woman was tempting him to sin.

Then he began confessing to me that he was lusting after any woman on the street, our church, and even our family magazines–those who exposed themselves with inappropriate clothing. I was shocked and horrified.

The pain and suffering we went through were the worst things that ever happened in my life. BTW, God healed me of cancer. The saddest thing of all was that I never knew how men looked at women or what they thought when they looked.

Knowing this broke my heart. I never knew how the clothing of a woman affected the men around me. My husband never told me how it affected him.

I followed the secular way of clothing myself without realizing how I was contributing to the problem. Bikinis, shorts, cleavage, tight-fitting jeans that accentuate lower body parts, all1 were some of the things that tempt men to lust and sometimes to yield to that temptation.

Can you see how deceived I was? Worst of all I thought I never looked like them–those who unashamedly trafficked in porn. I was under the impression that my clothing was tasteful and sophisticated. I was completely oblivious to what effect I had on the men and women around me.

Call me naive, but I never knew that our fathers, husbands, brothers, and pastors lusted after women. I thought it was only the unsaved and perverted people who “really” needed Jesus. But it was in my church, my home, and my marriage.

My appeal is to our leaders, husbands, and fathers to help us, protect us, lead us:

Tell us what it is about our clothing that is unacceptable.
Tell us why it is unacceptable.
Tell us what it is all about.
Tell us how we can cause men to stumble.
Tell us what is happening in the minds of the men around us.

If you will speak honestly to us and love us enough to tell us the truth about porn, many wives and daughters will be grateful and willing to humble themselves into more God-centered ways of thinking and dressing.

Many husbands are not leading their wives this way. Many mothers are not modeling modesty to their daughters. I fear for the next generation of wives, mothers, and daughters who will be even more naked than they are now.

The enemy deceives us into thinking that pornography in the media is the problem. We women, mostly through our ignorance, have become part of the problem and nobody seems to be willing or prepared to speak openly about it.

I thank God Almighty for the power of the blood of Jesus that took my husband out of bondage and restored our marriage. Now I dress very attractively for my husband in private. The moment we leave our home, I change into a modern, trendy lady, but not a sexy one. This process works very well for us.

When you dress “sexy” in public, you will be dressing sexy for the public. What this means is that you will be an object of lust. Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap.

https://rickthomas.net/men-are-tempted-to-lust-women-are-tempted-to-be-lusted-after/

Phewy:
Dear Rick,

I have gone through the trauma of discovering that my husband was viewing pornography. I thought it was a problem that only involved explicit material. I never knew or even thought that any unproperly dressed woman was tempting him to sin.

Then he began confessing to me that he was lusting after any woman on the street, our church, and even our family magazines–those who exposed themselves with inappropriate clothing. I was shocked and horrified.

The pain and suffering we went through were the worst things that ever happened in my life. BTW, God healed me of cancer. The saddest thing of all was that I never knew how men looked at women or what they thought when they looked.

Knowing this broke my heart. I never knew how the clothing of a woman affected the men around me. My husband never told me how it affected him.

I followed the secular way of clothing myself without realizing how I was contributing to the problem. Bikinis, shorts, cleavage, tight-fitting jeans that accentuate lower body parts, all1 were some of the things that tempt men to lust and sometimes to yield to that temptation.

Can you see how deceived I was? Worst of all I thought I never looked like them–those who unashamedly trafficked in porn. I was under the impression that my clothing was tasteful and sophisticated. I was completely oblivious to what effect I had on the men and women around me.

Call me naive, but I never knew that our fathers, husbands, brothers, and pastors lusted after women. I thought it was only the unsaved and perverted people who “really” needed Jesus. But it was in my church, my home, and my marriage.

My appeal is to our leaders, husbands, and fathers to help us, protect us, lead us:

Tell us what it is about our clothing that is unacceptable.
Tell us why it is unacceptable.
Tell us what it is all about.
Tell us how we can cause men to stumble.
Tell us what is happening in the minds of the men around us.

If you will speak honestly to us and love us enough to tell us the truth about porn, many wives and daughters will be grateful and willing to humble themselves into more God-centered ways of thinking and dressing.

Many husbands are not leading their wives this way. Many mothers are not modeling modesty to their daughters. I fear for the next generation of wives, mothers, and daughters who will be even more naked than they are now.

The enemy deceives us into thinking that pornography in the media is the problem. We women, mostly through our ignorance, have become part of the problem and nobody seems to be willing or prepared to speak openly about it.

I thank God Almighty for the power of the blood of Jesus that took my husband out of bondage and restored our marriage. Now I dress very attractively for my husband in private. The moment we leave our home, I change into a modern, trendy lady, but not a sexy one. This process works very well for us.

When you dress “sexy” in public, you will be dressing sexy for the public. What this means is that you will be an object of lust. Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap.

https://rickthomas.net/men-are-tempted-to-lust-women-are-tempted-to-be-lusted-after/

She should have known that the main pornography is what we see everyday; exposed cleavages, laps, pantlines showing in side tight fitted dresses, especially when its worn by a Yoruba lady due to their protruding ass and boobs. Ladies cause damage to helpless single and married men. Its so bad that seeing all these things being exposed by women tempts a number of men into sin of fornication, masturbation, lust, and even patronizing prostitutes. Ladies try to dress not to provoke man, and also the way u want to be addressed.