HEseesall:


I used my part of the money which is not wrong, i expected him to know that

bukatyne:


He wants to fully own a house he did not build?

Hmmmm.

You said your husband is a good man; you are the only person with the licence to declare him good so he is.

The next question is [b]'What did you do to piss off a good husband so much that he wanted you to pack out and when you couldn't, abandoned you in the house?'[\b]

HEseesall:



The property only is in my name but we built it together

HEseesall:



He doesnt want that, i suggested it he said no, he has to be in charge fully not jointly

madridguy:
You both should settle this amicably but don't change the properties document to his name otherwise you will cry over it.

HEseesall:



Thanks, i am thinking of telling our pastor, i dont want to tell my family cos they may antagonise him, thanks for your imput

12inches1:

Finally!!! Someone with an iota of sense. We all know that most times in Nigeria that it is men that spend most on the family expenses. In fact let me paint a better scenario of what is happening here. Husband and wife have a joint savings(possibly and probably the husband is even putting down way more because he earns more). Let's say husbands puts down 6 million as the head of the family and wife puts down 2 million. Who brings up the business idea?Possibly the husband or maybe the wife. Now they do the business and then make 3 million naira in profit. Note that the husband is still the one primarily spending on the family. Now the husband runs into financial crises and he also needs to help his family. He has also been the one taking care of the wife's family and paying rent and children school fees. So, because of this many expenses he can't embark on buying the land right now. He does what he has to do and spends his own agreed part of the money on his parents and family expenses. The wife doesnt agree with him spending so much on his parents (though she has not mentioned how much he has been spending on her own parents as a good in law and also living expenses like rent etc) The wife uses her own "part" (agreed part) of the interest from the investment in buying the land. Husband does not mind. After all, it is one family and one love. Husband keeps investing in the building project till its complete. because he believes Shebi it is family property. But Mrs owns the land and bought it in her name. Sneaky woman. Now they have an argument and out of annoyance husband tells her to leave only to discover that Mrs has sneakily had the entire property in her name all along. Husband is furious and feels cheated and betrayed. Who wouldn't be? Now Mrs is here on Nairaland asking if what she did was fair. You yourself do you think it is?? That is why I'm a supporter of sharing everything in marriage both interests and expenses based on how much each person has put in to the extent possible. Madam you know what to do. The name on the property shouldn't have been only in your name in the first place because it's a joint investment. You only solely paid for the land.

Oklander:


So, when I just read the post, this question was what came to my mind. Unfortunately nobody on the first page asked. And, I do not know whether I missed it, but I couldn't find the response from the 2nd page that you happened to ask the very important question to around the 5th page that I could reach.

Madam op, the crap that most feminists wannabe and the so called feminists, and the disrespectful girls here who hasn't experinecd the marriage institution, and those girls who kept on criticizing the African marriage instituion, and the ones who totally lacks what a good man wants in a woman and the rest others who couldn't think far to what exactly you have done to turn a 'good man' into a monster(only a monster would want to chase out his own family JUST LIKE THAT), will not help you and the problem. The craps may make you feel better now but certainly for a very short period of time. As far the most important issue is not factored into what they are telling you here now makes it crap.


Do not tell us what happened is private and can't be revealed here, you made the post already.


With the little you presented up there, the man is now seen as a monster, very wicked and unreasonable? Agreed. But then, tell us, what have you done to a man you knew to be a 'GOOD MAN' to turn him to a WICKED MAN as presented in your op.?

Obason22:
You are not wrong to use part of ur money to support ur husband, but u are wrong to use ur name as ownership without His consent, in as I'm not in support of him throwing u and kids out of the hasu, our elder said that when u beat a child with right hand u draw him with left hand, I advice u to do the needful because he was the one that brought u as wife, if u actually want peace, for me personally I cannot leave in a hasu built by my wife and has her name attached as ownership its wrong, so I pray for peace between both of u and total reconciliation, u shall over comes ur challenges and not ur challenges over coming u, Peace and restoration upon ur family.

HEseesall:



The property only is in my name but we built it together

Obason22:
You are not wrong to use part of ur money to support ur husband, but u are wrong to use ur name as ownership without His consent, in as I'm not in support of him throwing u and kids out of the hasu, our elder said that when u beat a child with right hand u draw him with left hand, I advice u to do the needful because he was the one that brought u as wife, if u actually want peace, for me personally I cannot leave in a hasu built by my wife and has her name attached as ownership its wrong, so I pray for peace between both of u and total reconciliation, u shall over comes ur challenges and not ur challenges over coming u, Peace and restoration upon ur family.

HEseesall:



You dont understand, we have kids, i am working but i cant do everything on my own, how will i tell them we are no more together because of property

Sterope:
No medicine known to man can fix your problem.

CrazeMan69:
From what the OP said I think she started it all, her husband trusted her so much he never once asked who’s name was on the documents of their property. (She also admitts this in her post by saying “he is a good man”)
Now for such a trusting husband to say “pack out of my house” she must have said or done something that made him feel less of a man.
Trust me when I tell you that such a statement was just in the heat of the moment, the man didn’t mean it and would have certainly not mentioned it again when he cooled down.
The OP messed up by rubbing the fact that she owns the house in his face.

Now the milk is spilt already I advise you not to put only his name on that document; at worst put Mr and Mrs (under the supervison of an experienced marriage lawyer), when a man goes to lengths like moving out and seeking transfer he means business. If his name enters those documents he will seek revenge because he feels betrayed.

PS: My suggestions are based on your side of the story and I strongly believe if your husband says his side you will be found to be at fault.

Oklander:
Lol, smh...

keniom:
My advice, compromise by putting the house in both your names. For your future safety

Eketem:
Gosh I want to throw up.

I blame Nigerian women who love to be victims if not I will not be reading the stupidity I am seeing here.

The man's ego it seems is more important than a roof over the head of his wife and kids so it is so easy to throw her out and she will beg like a beggar to return and be a submissive servant in a house she contributed to build.


Those saying the documents should be in the kids name all he needs to do if it is in the kids name is divorce her and take custody of the kids and she will be out cold.


You women continue to love being helpless so a woman who isn't frustrates their silly minds.

After wasting time I can bet she has given him the house and she will come back soon to cry when he has finally kicked her out.

divinelove:


The only way out if she still wants her husband is to concead 60% ownership to the man. There is serious trust issues already therefore sole ownership by either party is unthinkable in the interest of their marriage

Martinez19:
She built it with her money, so she owns it. Which is worse? She or her husband who didn't spend a penny to build the house but wants it in his name alone?

Notmyproblem:


Her husband trust her so much to the extend of trying to kick her out of the house?

Sterope:
Very insecure thing