dingbang:
How did you manage to put your name as the owner or the house without letting him know? You are a snitch

HEseesall:



He doesnt want that, i suggested it he said no, he has to be in charge fully not jointly

histemple:


Honestly, I am touched by your extremely mature response. Keep this attitude, it will take you places.

sholatech:
Change it to Mr & Mrs ABC. It is allowed. That way, it is now for both of you.

Eketem:
I am confused as to why you are begging him.

You both got paid from a business
He used his own share for his parents, you used your own to build a house now he got angry and decided to kick you out of your own house, you told him it wasn't possible.

He gets angry and moves out
Let him stay out, he is a wicked man that would have been happy to see you out on the streets with your kids begging him up and down.

I don't understand why you are now begging him.

I don't know why Nigerian women are so desperate to keep wicked men

LaudableXX:

No, sir. It should be Mr. (Husband's full name) and Mrs. (Wife's full name, including first name). If it is not done this way, a man can get married to another woman tomorrow, who will also bear his name. And it would be difficult to distinguish between who is the lawful Mrs. I believe there is even a court case or a precedent, that has been set in this regard.

Let me give an example. If the title documents to the house are in the name of Mr. & Mrs. John, then one day down the line if there is a divorce, and the man remarries, his new wife will also be entitled to claim and use the title: 'Mrs. John.' But if the documents state clearly, Mr. Abu John and Mrs. Maria John for example, then it is quite clear who the owners of the property are. Their identity is no longer in doubt. Neither can it be disputed. The 2nd wife is highly unlikely to have the same first name as the 1st wife, so she cannot lay claim to a house jointly owned by her husband and his 1st wife.

The OP should just put both their joint names on the property documents (in fact she should include her maiden name somewhere in between, to prevent any doubt).

akwunomy:
People here can crucify you for putting your name on the project. That is their opinion and it does not represent any conventional or societal norm. You have a union...a partnership when you marry someone...but from your statement...he used his share of the deal to take care of his immediate family...I need people to crucify him thus for this...but unfortunately...ours is a subjective society which favors men...but in the western world...that is not the case...People can separate asset in relationship for many reasons and in his case...through his action...he separated his assets from yours from the on set...and as nature will have it...you are too smart to build the house in your name..What man for whatever reason will ask the mother of his kids to move out of the house with his kids? I live in the USA...here a man move out of the house even if the house belong to him...they wife and kids lives in the house!

Back on your question...pay close attention...don’t...never change anything to his name...possible scenario...he might perfect his threat and you will see another woman living in a house you built...they world is wicked! Protect yourself and your kid! They arguement should be...the need for him to return and take care of his kids...Worst case scenario...if the heat is too much...use a power of attorney...with a good lawyer...and put the name of the house on your son name...maybe that will soothe his stupid egocentric attrition.

oloyede252:

are you intelligent at all.. he said that during an argument So the man never kicked out the woman from the house...

weavesquad:

Honestly, Am Very Sorry For This, I Dont Think U Have Happy Married Home Or U Havent Seen Any Suitor. Coz This Ur Advice Is Solely For Irresponsible Married Woman.
What If Her Husband Planned To Squandered Her Profit From D Business They Did Through False Pretence Or Scamming, Would She Be Claiming A Land In Her Name. From What She Said , D Husband Is Loyal To Her , Coz I Knw Some Men , They Wl Rather Use Her Profit To Buy Liability Goods Like Cars,

Organism000:
If the house was built with your money then it is your house. A man is supposed to build a house before he marries.

Please let him go on transfer and think about his life.

akwunomy:
People here can crucify you for putting your name on the project. That is their opinion and it does not represent any conventional or societal norm. You have a union...a partnership when you marry someone...but from your statement...he used his share of the deal to take care of his immediate family...I need people to crucify him thus for this...but unfortunately...ours is a subjective society which favors men...but in the western world...that is not the case...People can separate asset in relationship for many reasons and in his case...through his action...he separated his assets from yours from the on set...and as nature will have it...you are too smart to build the house in your name..What man for whatever reason will ask the mother of his kids to move out of the house with his kids? I live in the USA...here a man move out of the house even if the house belong to him...they wife and kids lives in the house!

Back on your question...pay close attention...don’t...never change anything to his name...possible scenario...he might perfect his threat and you will see another woman living in a house you built...they world is wicked! Protect yourself and your kid! They arguement should be...the need for him to return and take care of his kids...Worst case scenario...if the heat is too much...use a power of attorney...with a good lawyer...and put the name of the house on your son name...maybe that will soothe his stupid egocentric attrition.

Eketem:


I don't know why Nigerian women are so desperate to keep wicked men

HEseesall:
I had to open this account for anonymity
I'm in a dilemma, let me start like this, when i and my husband first got married we did a joint business that fetched us a huge amount of money, the aim was to build a house, when we got the money, he decided to use his' for his parents (i had no problem with that) then mine for what we wanted to use it for

Two weeks ago we had a major misunderstanding, it was soo intense to the extent that he told me to park out of the house, in the heat of things i told him that cannot be possible that the house is in my name, he was shocked, saying it is impossible we built it together that it's in his name, i had to remind him what happened then, he was furious saying it was wrong of me to use my name, that he cant believe he has been staying in a house that does not belong to him, he told his family what i did claming victim, then he packed out saying he wont come home till i change the name to his full name, i begged him to no avail, i dont even know how to tell my people, imagine if it was in his name, i and the kids would have been out of the house by now, he has requested for transfer from his office to another state cos of this, who does that?? He cant expect me to change it to his name.

Pls i need other advise to go about this, he is a good man but he feels his ego has been bruised, i need other options.


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HEseesall:
I had to open this account for anonymity
I'm in a dilemma, let me start like this, when i and my husband first got married we did a joint business that fetched us a huge amount of money, the aim was to build a house, when we got the money, he decided to use his' for his parents (i had no problem with that) then mine for what we wanted to use it for

Two weeks ago we had a major misunderstanding, it was soo intense to the extent that he told me to park out of the house, in the heat of things i told him that cannot be possible that the house is in my name, he was shocked, saying it is impossible we built it together that it's in his name, i had to remind him what happened then, he was furious saying it was wrong of me to use my name, that he cant believe he has been staying in a house that does not belong to him, he told his family what i did claming victim, then he packed out saying he wont come home till i change the name to his full name, i begged him to no avail, i dont even know how to tell my people, imagine if it was in his name, i and the kids would have been out of the house by now, he has requested for transfer from his office to another state cos of this, who does that?? He cant expect me to change it to his name.

Pls i need other advise to go about this, he is a good man but he feels his ego has been bruised, i need other options.


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HEseesall:



The property only is in my name but we built it together

HEseesall:


I used my part of the money which is not wrong, i expected him to know that

HEseesall:



He doesnt want that, i suggested it he said no, he has to be in charge fully not jointly

dasparrow:
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Most Nigerians are not marriage material. This is why you see so much strife and confusion in the home. Why would a so-called married man not think about building a house first but rather hand over his entire money to his parents?

Bible says a man shall leave his parents and cling to his wife. Yet Nigerian bred men want to be married while still clinging unto their mother's apron. No wonder an increasing number of women are opting out of marriage. Nobody wants to be married to a man-child.

OP, don't put his name on the lease. He is a wicked man. If you had been foolish enough to use your share of the money on frivolties like shoes and clothes or handed your share of the money to your parents, would there be any house right now?

Honestly, people really need to look before they leap into this thing called marriage. The bible was not wrong when it said: " The heart of man is desperately wicked. Who can know it?."
Easy
Trust no one!

weavesquad:

My Dear Sis/bro, U Just Adviced Her Wrongly, Am So Sorry Oo. Its Normal For The Man To Feel That His Ego Has Been Bruised On. She Needs To Make Her Self Submissive Because Of The Kids Future, Though We Didnt Hear Ur Husband Part But Here Are Ur Mistakes. 1. U Shouldnt Have Used Ur Name Without Ur Husband Consent, Its Shows U Also Have Plans Of Treatin Him Like Wife In D Future. 2. During D Heated Argument , Ur Husband May Not Really Meant U Pack Out, It May Be Masculine Authority(when He Doesnt Feel Respect Frm U Again, And Dts Woman Stunt.). You Shouldnt Ve Mentioned Who Owns D Ppty. No Responsible Man Wl Accpt Ur Plea & Continue To Sleep Under Same Roof Afta Such Statement.

HEseesall:
I had to open this account for anonymity
I'm in a dilemma, let me start like this, when i and my husband first got married we did a joint business that fetched us a huge amount of money, the aim was to build a house, when we got the money, he decided to use his' for his parents (i had no problem with that) then mine for what we wanted to use it for

Two weeks ago we had a major misunderstanding, it was soo intense to the extent that he told me to park out of the house, in the heat of things i told him that cannot be possible that the house is in my name, he was shocked, saying it is impossible we built it together that it's in his name, i had to remind him what happened then, he was furious saying it was wrong of me to use my name, that he cant believe he has been staying in a house that does not belong to him, he told his family what i did claming victim, then he packed out saying he wont come home till i change the name to his full name, i begged him to no avail, i dont even know how to tell my people, imagine if it was in his name, i and the kids would have been out of the house by now, he has requested for transfer from his office to another state cos of this, who does that?? He cant expect me to change it to his name.

Pls i need other advise to go about this, he is a good man but he feels his ego has been bruised, i need other options.


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lekonso:
Madam, you are very selfish. Whether a man builds a house or the woman, the document suppose to read Mr and Mrs. Now the two of you built a house together according to you, and you decided to insert your name alone without telling him. Well i wonder how you built a house in the first place without your husband sighting the documents at all from the beginning. Whatever any of you is doing you suppose to do it together. You were not open to each other from the beginning, that is the truth. You know why he is insisting that you must change the document to his name alone (even though i don't support that) is because, you suppose to have told him from the beginning that the house is in your name alone. He suppose to be aware of that. Now my advice is that, reach out to somebody that he respects so much that he will listen to, for him to accept to change the name on the document to Mr and Mrs.

HEseesall:



I am not a blogger who wants traffic, you can choose not to believe if you want, i just need advice and other options,

sholatech:
Change it to Mr & Mrs ABC. It is allowed. That way, it is now for both of you.