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What Happens When The Bride Gives The Wine Meant For The Groom To Someone Else by Liliyann(f): 5:00pm On Jul 14, 2018
Giving of wine to the bride by her father in an Igbo wedding to give to her husband is very historical and signifies that the bride has accepted the groom as her husband. Have you ever wondered what would happen if the bride decides to give the wine to someone else other than her husband or witnessed such? If you have can you share your opinion to enlighten others.

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Re: What Happens When The Bride Gives The Wine Meant For The Groom To Someone Else by Generalkaycee(m): 5:11pm On Jul 14, 2018
waiting for the Elders
Re: What Happens When The Bride Gives The Wine Meant For The Groom To Someone Else by Bitchiamjay(m): 5:12pm On Jul 14, 2018
LMBDO grin Na Jazz be that

#YOLO

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Re: What Happens When The Bride Gives The Wine Meant For The Groom To Someone Else by decatalyst(m): 5:20pm On Jul 14, 2018
You sure say you don't wanna put the life of your entire lineage in danger for performing such stunt? sad

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Re: What Happens When The Bride Gives The Wine Meant For The Groom To Someone Else by supremepontiff(m): 5:34pm On Jul 14, 2018
Go and ask your village people.

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Re: What Happens When The Bride Gives The Wine Meant For The Groom To Someone Else by enoch273: 5:40pm On Jul 14, 2018
Question for the gods, let's ask those small girls with big god or put the question before nairaland ancestors.

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Re: What Happens When The Bride Gives The Wine Meant For The Groom To Someone Else by SpecialAdviser(m): 6:21pm On Jul 14, 2018
I have never experienced one anyway. But I have seen where a bride ran away when it is time to give the wine. The wedding hastily ended and the bridegroom returned home in shame.

The reason is that the girl has refused the marriage from the onset but was highly pressured by the mother. The girl later remarried to her heartthrob and is happy with her marriage till date.

Coming to ur question, based on the meaning giving wine connotes, the marriage will simply be called off if such happens. The husband will go home embarrassed and only the bride price payed back. This is because the marriage has been rejected and he has no right to sue his pride. He can only collect the bride price if he had paid.

The reason why it is uncommon to see such incident is that most marriages are perfected even before the main ceremony. And in Igbo land, there is whole lot of rights which women has to their choice. Forced marriage is very minimal. Although you can find fewchild marriages but in those incidents the girl involved would have agreed pre the marriage date.

Igbo land grants a lot of freedom to her people!
Shalom

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Re: What Happens When The Bride Gives The Wine Meant For The Groom To Someone Else by Liliyann(f): 7:02pm On Jul 14, 2018
SpecialAdviser:
I have never experienced one anyway. But I have seen where a bride ran away when it is time to give the wine. The wedding hastily ended and the bridegroom returned home in shame.

The reason is that the girl has refused the marriage from the onset but was highly pressured by the mother. The girl later remarried to her heartthrob and is happy with her marriage till date.

Coming to ur question, based on the meaning giving wine connotes, the marriage will simply be called off if such happens. The husband will go home embarrassed and only the bride price payed back. This is because the marriage has been rejected and he has no right to sue his pride. He can only collect the bride price if he had paid.

The reason why it is uncommon to see such incident is that most marriages are perfected even before the main ceremony. And in Igbo land, there is whole lot of rights which women has to their choice. Forced marriage is very minimal. Although you can find fewchild marriages but in those incidents the girl involved would have agreed pre the marriage date.

Igbo land grants a lot of freedom to her people!
Shalom

Thanks for answering....I always wondered what the result will be
Re: What Happens When The Bride Gives The Wine Meant For The Groom To Someone Else by Ofunaofu: 8:32pm On Jul 14, 2018
Your guess is as good as mine
Re: What Happens When The Bride Gives The Wine Meant For The Groom To Someone Else by emmachukwu99(m): 8:50pm On Jul 14, 2018
Ha. Marriage don cast be that. Who ever she gives the drink is her husband, according to tradition.
Re: What Happens When The Bride Gives The Wine Meant For The Groom To Someone Else by generationz(f): 10:26pm On Jul 14, 2018
During the times of our forefathers, the tradition of giving wine to the groom had beauty to it. This was because for a young virgin maiden, there could be about two or three guys vying for her hand in marriage.

Those guys usually showed they were good men and capable of taking care of their wives by dropping by every once in a while with either fish , Bush meat or farm produce for the girls family.

Although before the wedding , the father of the bride would have decided on whom she will marry. The wine carrying tradition was only like a seal of affirmation before the public that not only had the brides family chosen the man but that she consented to it.

These are just my thoughts though,but I believe they make sense.

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Re: What Happens When The Bride Gives The Wine Meant For The Groom To Someone Else by chris31(m): 12:08am On Jul 15, 2018
Havent seen that happened
But if the glass of wine mistakenly fell from the girls hand & it happens to my day i will call off the occasion immediately
The marriage will be cancelled coz something might be wrong with the girl or her family

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Re: What Happens When The Bride Gives The Wine Meant For The Groom To Someone Else by EbukaHades10(m): 9:07am On Jul 15, 2018
Fight start,everywhere burst. Bottles start flying.

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Re: What Happens When The Bride Gives The Wine Meant For The Groom To Someone Else by babyfaceafrica: 9:53am On Jul 15, 2018
negative thinking
Re: What Happens When The Bride Gives The Wine Meant For The Groom To Someone Else by Originalsly: 10:27am On Jul 15, 2018
Dumb question..... which bride to be would be sooo dumb to give the wine to someone else?... at that time?... and even if she had a lover...what guy would be soo dumb to he there?...in front row? Op needs to stop smoking whatever...or maybe start smoking something

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Re: What Happens When The Bride Gives The Wine Meant For The Groom To Someone Else by Eze2000(m): 8:31am On Jul 15, 2019
Originalsly:
Dumb question..... which bride to be would be sooo dumb to give the wine to someone else?... at that time?... and even if she had a lover...what guy would be soo dumb to he there?...in front row? Op needs to stop smoking whatever...or maybe start smoking something


Saying this politely wouldn't have done you any harm.

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Re: What Happens When The Bride Gives The Wine Meant For The Groom To Someone Else by Eze2000(m): 8:37am On Jul 15, 2019
Liliyann:


Thanks for answering....I always wondered what the result will be


The reason that wine is put in your hand is for you to chose your man. By tradition, law and reason you should give it to the one that came for your hand in marriage. But if you run away, refuse or throw the wine away, the marriage ends there and the man will go home in shame with his brideprice in his pocket.

On the other hand, if you give it to another man who drinks it amid the uproar that will follow, maybe this man is a lover that you were not allowed to marry... well, I can't say for your father but for me, if you were my sister or daughter, I will allow that man to proceed with the wedding since you have chosen him over the groom. Either way, i must collect your bride complete that day.

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Re: What Happens When The Bride Gives The Wine Meant For The Groom To Someone Else by grandstar(m): 9:51pm On Feb 09, 2020
Originalsly:
Dumb question..... which bride to be would be sooo dumb to give the wine to someone else?... at that time?... and even if she had a lover...what guy would be soo dumb to he there?...in front row? Op needs to stop smoking whatever...or maybe start smoking something

The guy and his boys will come with AK 47s, as many as possible grin grin grin
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Re: What Happens When The Bride Gives The Wine Meant For The Groom To Someone Else by Cardealer2021(m): 10:12am On Mar 24
Re: What Happens When The Bride Gives The Wine Meant For The Groom To Someone Else by Magnoliaa(f): 11:01am On Mar 24
Eze2000:
Saying this politely wouldn't have done you any harm.

Honestly. Mtcheeeeeewwewwwwww. I must be hard by fire by force.

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