Found this thought provoking piece this morning and decided to share to know what my fellow guys think and how many ladies support the idea of the write up.


Many men have broken up with their wives because they end up not being the wife that they have dreamt of. But they have forgotten that on their wedding day was when the man was commissioned for the new task.
Nobody calls the woman wife on her wedding day but bride, because it is the man that will groom his bride to become the wife.
That is why the man is called ‘bridegroom or groom’ and the word grooming has to do with patiently nurturing, teaching, tending and helping someone to become what he or she should be.
It is therefore believed that a man that takes a woman to the altar of marriage is matured enough to patiently groom his bride to become the wife. The man is not supposed to just expect the bride to automatically become the wife, she must be groomed.
It is clear that many of us men have unnecessary expectations when we were getting married, we want some magic to happen to our wives, we want them to become what we have had in mind about who we want our wives to be; not considering the fact that the woman does not know what is on your mind except you teach her.
Our expectations are often too unrealistic, because we don’t remember that change takes time and we can only expect something from someone that knows what we want.
So before you think of breaking up, have you groomed her? Have you given her time to understand you? Hope you realize that a turtle will never become a hawk? God often brings people that are opposites of each other together in marriage so that they can help each other in their place of weaknesses.
If your wife is weak where you are weak, then where will you get the strength that is needed? The problem with many of us is that we don’t accept people before attempting to change them. Of course, our wives are not from our backgrounds, so it will take time for them to adjust.
Stop trying to change her, accept her, love her, teach her and be patient with her; that is what grooming is all about. She is going to be your wife but she is your bride now, so groom her. Stop complaining about her,she may be a turtle & u a hawk, she cannot fly so be patient with her.
I don’t believe that ur marriage can’t work, be patient & allow God to help you..Amen.

This is a lovely post
well-done
how can a man groom his bride to become his wife?

This is so nice. I guess feminazis will be up in arms against this post very soon.

Ioannes:
This is so nice. I guess feminazis will be up in arms against this post very soon.

Yes it is friend. It gave me insights.

Lilyqueeny:
This is a lovely post

well-done

how can a man groom his bride to become his wife?

Thanks for the complements Ifybaby.
You've asked a very relevant question. In answering you I would like to remind us that men are Biblically mandated to LOVE their wives. Wives are also mandated to OBEY their husbands. So it is up to the man to groom as one can only groom a person that takes instructions from him not one that instructs him.
It has already been stated in the write up that both partners are from different backgrounds so we expect individual differences in behaviours, understanding, opinions, lifestyles, hobbies, etc.
What that means is that the wive will very often do things based on her own perception and understanding. The man on the other hand mustn't pick offence when she runs fowl of his expectations but should patiently keep instructing and directing her in love. She may keep repeating same mistakes for a while but with continued patience on the part of the husband the frequency of those errors will keep reducing. She do increasingly start getting it right as their mutual understanding improves and differences keep waning. That is how he grooms her.
However, a good husband should know that not all his perceptions of life and the way things should be done are right. He should be able to figure out his own downsides and learn from his wife.

Sincere4u:


Thanks for the complements Ifybaby.
You've asked a very relevant question. In answering you I would like to remind us that men are Biblically mandated to LOVE their wives. Wives are also mandated to OBEY their husbands. So it is up to the man to groom as one can only groom a person that takes instructions from him not one that instructs him.
It has already been stated in the write up that both partners are from different backgrounds so we expect individual differences in behaviours, understanding, opinions, lifestyles, hobbies, etc.
What that means is that the wive will very often do things based on her own perception and understanding. The man on the other hand mustn't pick offence when she runs fowl of his expectations but should patiently keep instructing and directing her in love. She may keep repeating same mistakes for a while but with continued patience on the part of the husband the frequency of those errors will keep reducing. She do increasingly start getting it right as their mutual understanding improves and differences keep waning. That is how he grooms her.
However, a good husband should know that not all his perceptions of life and the way things should be done are right. He should be able to figure out his own downsides and learn from his wife.

Nice one

But these words are easier said than done

Love is not the foundation of a happy marriage .
Christ is the foundation

Lilyqueeny:


Nice one

But these words are easier said than done

Love is not the foundation of a happy marriage .
Christ is the foundation

That's true Lily.
To we Christians we could say that but there is a connection between love and Christ.
Christ and God share a common identity in being one.
God is LOVE and if God is love, Christ is as well.
Since Christ is the foundation of marriages, Love also is.
Since Love too is the foundation of marriages, it doesn't theretore come as a surprise that many non Christians are enjoying successful marriages and are happy including Buddhist and those practising African traditional religion.
In summary, without denying your earlier assertion, Love is also the foundation of happy marriages.