Since she's willing then you can support her, you already have something to hold against her for life , she will be forever submissive to you , most of these graduates out their fights for gender equality , you better train this one and make her what you want.
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bestme:
Hello, nairalanders in the house, pls I need your sincere advice in this matter.

I have known this lady I really want to marry for over 2 years now. Though our friendship have been a casual one. The issue is she told me she is a graduate and then i visited her house over 2 years back I met her mom and she asked me where I came from- my tribe and if I am a graduate and told her my tribe and yes I am graduate.

She said she wants her daughter to marry a graduate because she has done her best to train her school. It was of recent we started a serious marriage relationship and I told my pastor and we both met with pastor already.

It Is now she told me that she did not graduate that she was unable to pay school fees, though she went up to 500level and did I.T but her parents only paid 100 and 200 level school fees. She said she has no result/certificate. I told her am honestly disappointed for hiding this from me ever since and she said it is because I have not really made my intentions know to her.

One of the reasons I like her was being a graduate and I have not dreamt of marrying a non graduate.

Pls your sincere advice.

Don't... I repeat.

Don't marry her.

arthurwillia:

Lol they said this lady you are actually replying is dead l

Damnn.... Then how come she replied on the post?

Honestly, lie is a no for me in relationship,
If you go ahead and marry her, she will definitely do something worse than that for you in the future.

Probably having children for other men while you nurse them and think they are your own,

Na like that e dey start,,,,,,,

Under no circumstances should you hide anything from me, not even for the protection of my interest.

I prefer the bitter truth.

You deserve better.

bestme:
Hello, nairalanders in the house, pls I need your sincere advice in this matter.

I have known this lady I really want to marry for over 2 years now. Though our friendship have been a casual one. The issue is she told me she is a graduate and then i visited her house over 2 years back I met her mom and she asked me where I came from- my tribe and if I am a graduate and told her my tribe and yes I am graduate.

She said she wants her daughter to marry a graduate because she has done her best to train her school. It was of recent we started a serious marriage relationship and I told my pastor and we both met with pastor already.

It Is now she told me that she did not graduate that she was unable to pay school fees, though she went up to 500level and did I.T but her parents only paid 100 and 200 level school fees. She said she has no result/certificate. I told her am honestly disappointed for hiding this from me ever since and she said it is because I have not really made my intentions know to her.

One of the reasons I like her was being a graduate and I have not dreamt of marrying a non graduate.

Pls your sincere advice.

I will advice you to marry if you are strongly convinced she will make a good match for you. Marriage is not about education or not, those things are secondary those ones and other higher level of education can come over time if you have a good marriage.
If you think having a good wife is about certificate. I only just feel for you, because life will teach you the hard way that it's not.
You need a woman that truly loves you and is willing to support you all the way. And both of you can grow over time not necessarily certificate. There are many well educated women that will send you to your early grave if you are not careful. Let me stop here. I wish you well.

AND SO?

general111:
she said it was due to lack funds...why not support her instead.she will be evr grtful ..

So how was she able to get to 500 level without paying her school fees and other funds?

She said she was able to afford payments of both year one and two but she is in level 500..

It is all deceit

godfatherx:
Is it the paper certificate you want to marry?
Do you have a job for her now that requires her certificate?
What's the essence of being a graduate if you can't correctly express yourself? I read your story and I understand the "grammar", for me, that's communication, but for your "perfect" educational background requirement, the blunders are unacceptable.
If you a graduate writes like this, you need to lower your standard. That girl is just perfect for you.

So how was she able to get to 500 level without paying her school fees and other funds?

She said she was able to afford payments of both year one and two but she is in level 500..

It is all deceit

PUSSYBBQGRILLS:
Send her to school and marry her. Simple.

So how was she able to get to 500 level without paying her school fees and other funds?

She said she was able to afford payments of both year one and two but she is in level 500..


It is all deceit

BrokeBoySolow:
Okay, she did a wrong thing lying to you not cool.
But you just gotta forgive her Bro. That's if you really Love her or is you' Loving her for what she got or who she is??

So how was she able to get to 500 level without paying her school fees and other funds?

She said she was able to afford payments of both year one and two but she is in level 500..


You are still a child..you don't know the gravity of what deceit can cause..
I know you are still young and unmarried... Be careful with matters like this

chiommy123:
she lied to you yes thats wrong but why crucify her for the same sin we are all guilty of. assist her if you can/care.

Sir, Let me advice you as I will do to my Big brother

Don’t send her to any school. If she loves you let her find and hustle to pay for school fees. Send her to school and she will come out, do NYSC, and marry someone richer than you.

The school you will send her to has bigger boys that will bang her mercilessy and give her wads of money better than the ‘Change’ she gets from you.

My uncle second wife is a University graduate that left her own bf to be someone second wife because my uncle gave her a car. I don’t even greet her when I visit them

Sir trust me there are better girls out there.

Watch out! There are many more grievous lies!
It happened to me. The sad part is that I married the liar with very similar lies only to unearth many more worse lies in her past.
She even created many more new lies in tge 6years marriage. Liars are very difficult people to marry, most time you will regret it.
Ensure she comes clean about ALL her past that is critical to your planned union. Also, ensure she has fully repented of her lies, otherwise you have just dug your own grave if you marry her.

bestme:
Hello, nairalanders in the house, pls I need your sincere advice in this matter.

I have known this lady I really want to marry for over 2 years now. Though our friendship have been a casual one. The issue is she told me she is a graduate and then i visited her house over 2 years back I met her mom and she asked me where I came from- my tribe and if I am a graduate and told her my tribe and yes I am graduate.

She said she wants her daughter to marry a graduate because she has done her best to train her school. It was of recent we started a serious marriage relationship and I told my pastor and we both met with pastor already.

It Is now she told me that she did not graduate that she was unable to pay school fees, though she went up to 500level and did I.T but her parents only paid 100 and 200 level school fees. She said she has no result/certificate. I told her am honestly disappointed for hiding this from me ever since and she said it is because I have not really made my intentions know to her.

One of the reasons I like her was being a graduate and I have not dreamt of marrying a non graduate.

Pls your sincere advice.

Nyascobar1414:


Damnn....
Then how come she replied on the post?

That reply is like 2 years ago, check it, she died feb this year

arthurwillia:

That reply is like 2 years ago, check it, she died feb this year

Damn... Do you know what caused her death? Not minding?

bestme:
Hello, nairalanders in the house, pls I need your sincere advice in this matter.

I have known this lady I really want to marry for over 2 years now. Though our friendship have been a casual one. The issue is she told me she is a graduate and then i visited her house over 2 years back I met her mom and she asked me where I came from- my tribe and if I am a graduate and told her my tribe and yes I am graduate.

She said she wants her daughter to marry a graduate because she has done her best to train her school. It was of recent we started a serious marriage relationship and I told my pastor and we both met with pastor already.

It Is now she told me that she did not graduate that she was unable to pay school fees, though she went up to 500level and did I.T but her parents only paid 100 and 200 level school fees. She said she has no result/certificate. I told her am honestly disappointed for hiding this from me ever since and she said it is because I have not really made my intentions know to her.

One of the reasons I like her was being a graduate and I have not dreamt of marrying a non graduate.

Pls your sincere advice.

Hmmm... It's not justifiable to lie about that fact because you hadn't made your intentions known.

It's normal to begin to think, 'what else is she lying about?'

It's okay to desire to marry a graduate...not too high an expectation.

So, apart from this issue, do you think there are other things she's hiding from you? Begin to ask more thorough questions.

If you're sure there's none, would you be able to go on with the marriage plans? Would this affect your relationship to the core? Would this affect your dream deeply? Can it be overlooked?

Generally, is she a person you would really want to spend the rest of your life with? How's her personality and character?

Take time to think through and pray about your decision.

May the Lord guide and direct you.

The year is ending, and up till now u still neva sabi who made corona & why...
O boy u mumu die I swear

socialmediaman:


I actually agree with some of what you wrote here. Lying to someone about something as important as that is a big red flag. A man should have the freedom to choose whether he wants to be in a relationship or not, if educational background is important to him

Nyascobar1414:


Damn...
Do you know what caused her death?
Not minding?

Nobody said something like that though
Datboredbaby might know

Wilfredpat22:
Sir, Let me advice you as I will do to my Big brother

Don’t send her to any school. If she loves you let her find and hustle to pay for school fees. Send her to school and she will come out, do NYSC, and marry someone richer than you.

The school you will send her to has bigger boys that will bang her mercilessy and give her wads of money better than the ‘Change’ she gets from you.

My uncle second wife is a University graduate that left her own bf to be someone second wife because my uncle gave her a car. I don’t even greet her when I visit them

Sir trust me there are better girls out there.

Wow, nice advice & u look cute.