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Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by Nobody: 11:23am On Aug 26, 2018
Hector09:
She should hear what the guy have to say, maybe if the guy is the highest bidder she we dumb my guy right
No.
Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by Next2Bezee(m): 11:26am On Aug 26, 2018
Preshy561:

guys and entitlement. so cos of that,he has the key to her soul.

See them.

OP: Tell your friend to run for his life; time is too precious to waste with cheats.
Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by sinaj(f): 11:27am On Aug 26, 2018
Hector09:
U wont knw how it hurt cus u are not a man
hurt? I will definitely be jealous but that wont make me jump into conclusion.

I will only get hurt if he fails to introduce me to the person as his gf or wife.
Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by Hector09(m): 11:43am On Aug 26, 2018
Thats what my guy is saying that assuming we did noy saw them, maybe the girl could ve followed the guy to his house, and maybe this is not her first time
killsmith:
He should walk away. If he didn't see her, the girl would have hidden everything from him... Even slept with the so called guy and not mention it....

That's what hoes do.

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Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by harsysky(m): 11:54am On Aug 26, 2018
Sinaj made the most reasonable comment here. your friend isn't confident enough and has inferiority complex. even if i knw the relationship cud be over, i will go there and let her introduce both myself and the guy. from her introduction, ur friend gets to know his stand. does it mean ut friend doesn't interact with other female friends?

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Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by Nobody: 12:06pm On Aug 26, 2018
Preshy561:

so,are you saying you haven't met a lady to have a drink and all that without the knowledge of your girlfriend?grin


Please read the OP again!!


they aren't just 'grabbing' drinks..


He's asking her out(what op calls disturbing her)..


And the silly excuse she gave was wanting to hear him out...


Aunty If I'm toasting a girl, then take her to grab lunch and my girlfriend doesn't know about her, it's either i want to cheat or I'm already cheating....



First of, if the girl is decent she should have mentioned this 'toaster' to the Boyfriend earlier..


she should have even told him about this date..


Second.. Whatever happened to getting a third party as Chaperone

If she were decent, She'd Have at least brought a child Chaperone

because if to say OP and Friend no catch her, Na away match she for go play after food grin..


PS:: I REPEAT @OP IF YOUR FRIEND ISN'T BLEEPING HER AND SPENDS NOTHING, HE SHOULD JUST DUMP HER ASS.. TELL HIM TO ALWAYS USE PROTECTION TOO

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Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by Skmoda360(m): 12:11pm On Aug 26, 2018
KingLinglee:
Lemme patiently wait for replies..

Modified:The average Nigerian girl wants to have her cake and eat it..

She wants a Cute Handsome guy to show off with..


She's wants a Rich maga to buy her fancy stuffs..

She wants a good Bleep'er to knack the kitten right..

She wants a Churchy boyfriend to make her appear decent in church..


She wants an intelligent guy to help for exam runs..


She wants a funny guy to make her laugh...

infact the list is endless


BUT WHAT DOES SHE HAVE OF OFFER IN RETURN

PUSSY !!!

OP tell your friend no Nigerian girl(18-28) should be trusted until proven otherwise..


If he falls in any category other than Good Bleep'er then dump her ass

Take whatever she says with a grain of salt 'cause she's a coded olo..
Lemme finish it for you

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Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by Nobody: 12:12pm On Aug 26, 2018
sinaj:
hurt? I will definitely be jealous but that wont make me jump into conclusion.

I will only get hurt if he fails to introduce me to the person as his gf or wife.


I can rightly assume you're someone's girlfriend. So let me ask you


Don't you tell your bf about supposed 'toasters' and their various ploys??


Don't you tell your bf you'll be going out on a date with a guy toasting you (Besides who does that?? If you don't want to date him don't eat his money)

Lastly Let's assume the meeting was impromptu,which it wasn't. She should have introduced the bf to the 'toaster' immediately the Bf and Op entered..(She had to wait till they were leaving,then go cry crocodile tears at home)


P.S:: This isn't about Inferiority complex, It's about trust and what is right and wrong
Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by Nobody: 12:16pm On Aug 26, 2018
Skmoda360:

Lemme finish it for you
Bossu na you talk am oo lipsrsealed
Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by Preshy561(f): 12:20pm On Aug 26, 2018
KingLinglee:



Please read the OP again!!


they aren't just 'grabbing' drinks..


He's asking her out(what op calls disturbing her)..


And the silly excuse she gave was wanting to hear him out...


Aunty If I'm toasting a girl, then take her to grab lunch and my girlfriend doesn't know about her, it's either i want to cheat or I'm already cheating....



First of, if the girl is decent she should have mentioned this 'toaster' to the Boyfriend earlier..


she should have even told him about this date..


Second.. Whatever happened to getting a third party as Chaperone

If she were decent, She'd Have at least brought a child Chaperone

because if to say OP and Friend no catch her, Na away match she for go play after food grin..


PS:: I REPEAT @OP IF YOUR FRIEND ISN'T BLEEPING HER AND SPENDS NOTHING, HE SHOULD JUST DUMP HER ASS.. TELL HIM TO ALWAYS USE PROTECTION TOO
too much sense.grin
Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by Next2Bezee(m): 12:22pm On Aug 26, 2018
harsysky:
Sinaj made the most reasonable comment here. your friend isn't confident enough and has inferiority complex. even if i knw the relationship cud be over, i will go there and let her introduce both myself and the guy. from her introduction, ur friend gets to know his stand. does it mean ut friend doesn't interact with other female friends?

Do you even know what the term 'Inferiority Complex' means? Those with Inferiority Complex tend to withdraw from society. If the op's friend suffered from this, he wouldn't even be going out for drinks.

The Op's friend did the best thing anyone could do in that situation; he walked away. There's nothing better prowess than knowing when to walk away. There was no need to approach the girl and draw unnecessary attention to himself, diminishing his self-worth.

The unknown guy trying to pull the girl back clearly shows his ill-intentions. The girl chasing after the OP's friend—and even running into his home, pleading for forgiveness—clearly shows her guilt.

If the OP's friend severes all ties with the girl, afterward, he would have made a decision that will save his future from stories that touch.
Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by Nobody: 12:23pm On Aug 26, 2018
harsysky:
Sinaj made the most reasonable comment here. your friend isn't confident enough and has inferiority complex. even if i knw the relationship cud be over, i will go there and let her introduce both myself and the guy. from her introduction, ur friend gets to know his stand. does it mean ut friend doesn't interact with other female friends?

Quit Ass licking It's Sunday...


Why make a bi*ch feel important by going to introduce yourself??

Introduce yourself as what na??


HEY I'm her boyfriend, I see you with my babe having lunch what do you want undecided


Any such engagement would clearly show he has an inferiority complex and trust issues since he doesn't allow her the opportunity to prove her loyalty

She should be smart enough to either introduce you or leave his table entirely for yours(It may sound rude but better Rude than Disloyal)...

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Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by lilmax(m): 12:30pm On Aug 26, 2018
the girl was crying and begging telling my guy that the guy was only asking her out and that the guy was disturbing her, that she want to hear what the guy want to say thats why she was with him,



guys don't be stupid please, let your brain lead you not you konji grin
Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by sinaj(f): 12:33pm On Aug 26, 2018
Next2Bezee:


Do you even know what the term Inferiority Complex means? Those with Inferiority Complex tend to withdraw from society. If the op's friend suffered from this, he wouldn't even be going out for drinks.

The Op's friend did the best thing anyone could do in that situation; he walked away. There's nothing better prowess than knowing when to walk away. There was no need to approach the girl and draw unnecessary attention to himself, diminishing his self-worth.

The unknown guy trying to pull the girl back clearly shows his ill-intentions. The girl chasing after the OP's friend—and even running into his home, pleading for forgiveness—clearly shows her guilt.

If the OP's friend severes all ties with the girl, afterward, he would have made a decision that will save his future from stories that touch.
I dont think you understand what inferiority complex is.
@ bolded, is referred to as social anxiety and not inferiority complex.
Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by Next2Bezee(m): 12:38pm On Aug 26, 2018
sinaj:
I dont think you understand what inferiority complex is.
@ bolded, is referred to as social anxiety and not inferiority complex.

It is Inferiority Complex.

Source: https://www.learning-mind.com/inferiority-complex/

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Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by leonard002(m): 12:58pm On Aug 26, 2018
the lady is not trustworthy.

if a guy asks you out and you're dating someone, no need going except you're looking for something else. how do you think such a date will turn out?

if you must go out with a guy, then your boyfriend must approve of it

this is applicable vice versa too!
Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by painbrain(m): 1:24pm On Aug 26, 2018
what wrong wit ur guy so he can't share,... that not good oo,...u d Bible Say's dey is love in sharing grin (that how girls behave, when they start getting some little attention from other guys,...no cause for alarm.. just ask her the category u belong to, so u can start playing ur role
Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by Rosay15(f): 1:29pm On Aug 26, 2018
I believe in any relationship there shd be transparency cus if d bf have already knw abt it won't be surprised. Bt d Lady is nt trustworthy bt it still depend on ur friend if he can give her second chance.
But come to think of it I can see tru dat story dat d lady has so many skeleton in her cupboard, I don't say a girl shd nt ve a male Fnd bt I think if u are going out with any of dem ur bf must knw to avoid story dat touch...

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Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by ekanempatrick28(m): 1:50pm On Aug 26, 2018
@rosay and @kinglinlee bless u. its simple and i also do it. if i have a date wit a lady i inform my girl and viceversa to avoid issues. and she did not introduce the guy to her boyfriend. so pls on dis she is at fault. now as for ur guy it his choice its d first offense he has caught her. he shd still stay but tread cautiously
Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by ecstasy357(m): 1:53pm On Aug 26, 2018
Hector09:
A friend of mine paid me a visit yesterday and after watching the arsenal match with him we were very famish and we went to one of the eatery, lo and behold he saw his babe with another guy eating and gisting,my guy was devastated and, we both manage to order our food, we eat quietly and left, as we were going the girl rushed out and was calling my guy, the most annoying thing is that the guy that she came with was holding her back, so my guy went to his house and saw the girl inside his room cus he gave the girl one of his key, the girl was crying and begging telling my guy that the guy was only asking her out and that the guy was disturbing her, that she want to hear what the guy want to say thats why she was with him, the funny part of it is that she told my guy that he dont luv her, that if that he luvs her, he could have drag her away frm the guy when he saw her ..my guy is asking on what to do but i dont knw what to tell him, pls my people what action should he take,, note my guy and the babe stay in the same place, frm where we saw the girl and the guy is very far, from where they are staying

If this is the first time, I'll let it slide but I won't be able to forget. I wouldn't call off the relationship but I won't be able to trust her anymore. When the trust is no more the relationship is dead, what's left is packaging.

Trust is like a glass, when broken it's nearly impossible to fix. Even when it's fixed, the cracks will be visible for everyone to see.

To those in relationships, avoid anything that would cause a crack to trust glass. There's no point risking it if you're not tired of the relationship.

Good luck to you, your guy, your guy's gf and your guy's gf's toaster.
Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by Femeto: 1:53pm On Aug 26, 2018
What if she lied to him about where she was going?
sinaj:
So its a crime for your babe to eat and gist with another guy shey Why didnt you wait for her to introduce you to the other guy first before jumping into conclusion.

So assuming you run into your former coursemate (female), you wont grab a chair and laugh over old times huh sad
Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by Femeto: 2:00pm On Aug 26, 2018
Hector09:
The girl was crying and begging telling my guy that the guy was only asking her out and that the guy was disturbing her, that she want to hear what the guy want to say
Why give another guy audience if she truly loves her boy friend.
Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by Hector09(m): 2:03pm On Aug 26, 2018
Lol
ecstasy357:


If this is the first time, I'll let it slide but I won't be able to forget. I wouldn't call off the relationship but I won't be able to trust her anymore. When the trust is no more the relationship is dead, what's left is packaging.

Trust is like a glass, when broken it's nearly impossible to fix. Even when it's fixed, the cracks will be visible for everyone to see.

To those in relationships, avoid anything that would cause a crack to trust glass. There's no point risking it if you're not tired of the relationship.

Good luck to you, your guy, your guy's gf and your guy's gf's toaster.
Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by Hector09(m): 2:04pm On Aug 26, 2018
Thats what i ve been thinking
Femeto:
Why give another guy audience if she truly loves her boy friend.
Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by Hector09(m): 2:11pm On Aug 26, 2018
The fact is that we dont knw if its her first time of doing this
ekanempatrick28:
@rosay and @kinglinlee bless u. its simple and i also do it. if i have a date wit a lady i inform my girl and viceversa to avoid issues. and she did not introduce the guy to her boyfriend. so pls on dis she is at fault. now as for ur guy it his choice its d first offense he has caught her. he shd still stay but tread cautiously
Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by Hector09(m): 2:15pm On Aug 26, 2018
The fact is that he luvs the girl alot and he has invest alot on this girl, i wish am not with him i could not believe but for chance, i dont knw what to say till i meet him
Rosay15:
I believe in any relationship there shd be transparency cus if d bf have already knw abt it won't be surprised. Bt d Lady is nt trustworthy bt it still depend on ur friend if he can give her second chance.
But come to think of it I can see tru dat story dat d lady has so many skeleton in her cupboard, I don't say a girl shd nt ve a male Fnd bt I think if u are going out with any of dem ur bf must knw to avoid story dat touch...
Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by Rosay15(f): 2:40pm On Aug 26, 2018
Hector09:
The fact is that he luvs the girl alot and he has invest alot on this girl, i wish am not with him i could not believe but for chance, i dont knw what to say till i meet him
... Maybe he shd give d lady a second chance for d sake of d love he have for her but I don't know maybe f Lady have d same love to ur guy... She might change sha
Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by rex444(m): 3:28pm On Aug 26, 2018
KingLinglee:
Lemme patiently wait for replies..

Modified:The average Nigerian girl wants to have her cake and eat it..

She wants a Cute Handsome guy to show off with..


She's wants a Rich maga to buy her fancy stuffs..

She wants a good Bleep'er to knack the kitten right..

She wants a Churchy boyfriend to make her appear decent in church..


She wants an intelligent guy to help for exam runs..


She wants a funny guy to make her laugh...

infact the list is endless


BUT WHAT DOES SHE HAVE OF OFFER IN RETURN

PUSSY !!!

OP tell your friend no Nigerian girl(18-28) should be trusted until proven otherwise..


If he falls in any category other than Good Bleep'er then dump her ass

Take whatever she says with a grain of salt 'cause she's a coded olo..
perfect....... Seconded
Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by rex444(m): 3:32pm On Aug 26, 2018
Should I say naija gals or our african sisters...... Why can't a spade just be a spade...... Yes we all fall short in one way or the other but as a human being, never fall short in saying what needs to be said
Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by Frankicent(m): 3:42pm On Aug 26, 2018
gimme this your foolish friend number lemme talk to him. Wait how old is he? why did he give her his key when they are not married.
Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by kingshrd: 3:45pm On Aug 26, 2018
Hector09:
A friend of mine paid me a visit yesterday and after watching the arsenal match with him we were very famish and we went to one of the eatery, lo and behold he saw his babe with another guy eating and gisting,my guy was devastated and, we both manage to order our food, we eat quietly and left, as we were going the girl rushed out and was calling my guy, the most annoying thing is that the guy that she came with was holding her back, so my guy went to his house and saw the girl inside his room cus he gave the girl one of his key, the girl was crying and begging telling my guy that the guy was only asking her out and that the guy was disturbing her, that she want to hear what the guy want to say thats why she was with him, the funny part of it is that she told my guy that he dont luv her, that if that he luvs her, he could have drag her away frm the guy when he saw her ..my guy is asking on what to do but i dont knw what to tell him, pls my people what action should he take,, note my guy and the babe stay in the same place, frm where we saw the girl and the guy is very far, from where they are staying
Once trust is broken in a relationship is can’t be mended trying only makes it worse so let him walk away now
Re: My Experience Yesterday, Pls Help A Friend by Hector09(m): 3:50pm On Aug 26, 2018
That is his greatest undoing, i'm even suprise to hear that the girl is with one of his key
Frankicent:
gimme this your foolish friend number lemme talk to him. Wait how old is he? why did he give her his key when they are not married.

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