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Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by DateMynd44(m): 7:40pm On Sep 09, 2018 |
Mizwisdom:so Taraba dey North central? mumu like you. typical abokina boko haram from North East. go bomb yourself. edi ikot |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by Mizwisdom(f): 3:16am On Sep 10, 2018 |
DateMynd44: Afo edi ekpri eyen, urukikot. Nsat unam tie sung |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by stasiaannie(f): 3:46pm On Sep 10, 2018 |
Uncle, if you are broke dont do loud wedding , do it little but if you have the money to spend then you can call the whole villagers too celebrate with you , by the way are you not enjoying the value for your money. i felt you went there and showed yourself that's why u were billed. CharleyBright: |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by CharleyBright(m): 4:35pm On Sep 10, 2018 |
stasiaannie: Aunty Afia, yes of course i got very good value for my money. But let me quickly conclude that you never cross that bridge ... meaning you are yet to be married to have your fiance given such long list of utterly crazy bills for a traditional marriage. WAIT TILL WHEN THEY HAND U SUCH LIST, YOU WILL CHANGE YOUR MINDSET. And mind you, it doesnt end in Traditional marriage o. When the girls father or mother dies, they will bring another list again.. I was given another long list for burial of my father inlaw last year. I called and told them am not doing another Traditional marriage so i wont accept such list. I will only give what i feel like to assist the burial, so the family shouldnt shift the burial burden on me. it is me that will bury my father and non of them will contribute a dime to it. You never see how these people exploit son inlaws. 2 Likes |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by Organs(m): 10:01pm On Sep 11, 2018 |
Spaxon: What if you're unlucky to marry the "not average" ones, do you get a refund? In Edo State, you get a refund if you choose not to marry anymore. I mean even after babies and all and guess what, you don't even have to pay for VRS (Knocked Up Movie). Also, your premise is wrong, i served in Akwa-Ibom and qualities of women is comparable to South South generally speaking. BTW,...was at Washington Park to see Seun Kuti on Labor day weekend! Sounds close? |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by 2buffagain(m): 3:13am On Sep 12, 2018 |
CharleyBright: And this is the problem I have with marrying from these cultures. The foolishness only just BEGINS with marriage. It extends all the way to various burials, among other life events. Everything must be show-offy and expensively over-done. In the US, it only costs about $200 total to do a burial. It is a solemn event, not something to be eating /drinking/stuffing your face over....at one person's expense! Why would any right-thinking person subject themselves and their family to the bondage of something as pointless as a greedy tradition? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by 2buffagain(m): 3:17am On Sep 12, 2018 |
stasiaannie: How brainwashed can a person be to think that being sold is a good hing?.. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by stasiaannie(f): 3:22pm On Sep 12, 2018 |
ask Google don't know why you are so bittered are you one of Cee Cee Sibling? 2buffagain: |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by GoodFaith: 8:17pm On Sep 12, 2018 |
HungerBAD:You made my cry Love you big brother May God bless your pocket 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by HungerBAD: 8:46pm On Sep 12, 2018 |
2 Likes |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by Funkybabee(f): 12:46pm On Sep 13, 2018 |
HungerBAD: Woooow!! More bless |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by EzeIgboNwaChukwu(m): 2:03am On Sep 14, 2018 |
DaddyNimo:watch the this documentation by my sister and enlighten your ignorance https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y9kwYMoR_rs |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by Spaxon(f): 3:25pm On Sep 17, 2018 |
Hanseel1: get a lady with certificates without good character and watch your home suffer 1 Like |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by Spaxon(f): 3:27pm On Sep 17, 2018 |
Organs: bros relax |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by Organs(m): 3:53pm On Sep 17, 2018 |
Spaxon: I'm relaxed oh. Again, i ate at Osas by broadway and Wilson and i got takeaway Chinese at the chinese restaurant opposite Truman College as well on friday. Sounds familiar? |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by spiceadole: 11:52am On Sep 20, 2018 |
rock003: It's common sense. Who would see greener pastures and reject? Oyinbo is better than Yoruba, any day. Besides, it's the same way Nigerian men are ladies above 30 as too old, unmarriageable and tag them "evening newspaper"... But they rush to marry older white women, even those in the age range of their mothers and call it love. Deal without, Ntoro Uduang ufok. |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by 2buffagain(m): 1:44pm On Sep 20, 2018 |
spiceadole: The older white women will give them green card. The older nigerian woman...not so much of anything that cannot be acquired from a younger nigerian woman. It's basic cost benefit analysis. The moral being, the older you get....you better be able to bring more than your [rapidly degenerating] body to the table. If you notice, this is a universal law, and applies also to men. But because of mens' very early taste of reality growing up, they are more prepared for growing old than women...who are generally clueless of reality while growing up because of all the attention they were getting in their youth. |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by Spaxon(f): 3:26pm On Oct 05, 2018 |
Organs:where do u stay dude |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by Organs(m): 5:40pm On Oct 05, 2018 |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by ImaIma1(f): 8:52am On Oct 06, 2018 |
joeruano: This list is not even complete. Mine included requirements for my grandmothe(who was late ny the way), requirements for the youth in the village, requirements for my grandpa, asking money(that was in the introduction list). The list was about 3pages...crazy |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by sacramento1212: 9:35am On Oct 06, 2018 |
ImaIma1: Yes they are part of the list in most parts of ibibio land. Even though it can sometimes be annoying, if the means is there, do it and close the chapter. Tradition varies from tribe to tribe. But the problem usually lies with greedy families. My sister's own was waved by my Dad since he's the head of the family because my grand parents are no more so it makes absoultely no sense to collect items for them. |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by ImaIma1(f): 11:24am On Oct 06, 2018 |
sacramento1212: My dad was late but thank God for my elder brother. My husband and his family were able to negotiate and my husband did it the way he could. You dont have to bring 10 crates if the ask for 10, i realise that you can bring 4 and everyone is ok. My husband did all but one section and we moved on. But when my mother died, he had to fulfil that section before the burial |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by sacramento1212: 11:56am On Oct 06, 2018 |
ImaIma1: Good. But you know some families are terrible and always at the fence waiting for such an opportunity to present itself. The word like you mentioned is negotiation. Not all listed items on the list must be fulfilled the way they are and the husband to be must never carry shoulder up like he has all the monies to fulfill all their demands. Once they notice he's a show off person, then demands would increase without any mercy. Even with what your husband did, if there's any important occasion in your place, he still will be contacted and another cash would be spent no matter how small. Same way if he goes to your place to visit, he still may end up spending small cash for drinks. There's always continuity after marital rites fulfillment but unfortunately that's what some of these people don't know. They want to milk the guy on the main day which is not good. Ekom do eyeneka. |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by stasiaannie(f): 11:09am On Nov 07, 2018 |
do you have brains at all- hang yourself 2buffagain: |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by Spaxon(f): 12:06am On Nov 23, 2018 |
Organs:oh that's nice |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by Ndipe(m): 12:07am On Dec 11, 2018 |
Try Iboland and you will see that ours pales in comparison to theirs. |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by UgoFly: 9:22am On Mar 03, 2019 |
pls does mkpo adiaha have any spiritual implication? |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by sacramento1212: 9:50am On Mar 03, 2019 |
UgoFly: There are certain rites that must be performed before the traditional marriage proper in some if not major parts of Ibibio land. In my own part, it's the Nwa(second daughter) not adiaha but some parts adiaha(1st daughter). Failure to do this will result to a catastrophic outcome which most of the time is death of either the lady, her mother, etc. We call it uwa edung. |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by UgoFly: 10:33am On Mar 03, 2019 |
sacramento1212: I just did it and the rituals got me scared. I'm not from Akwa Ibom and I want to know if this ritual will have any impact on me. The people told me its just their culture but I'm not comfortable with the whole sacrifices and rituals involved. |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by sacramento1212: 12:27pm On Mar 03, 2019 |
UgoFly: My brother, you did the right thing. It has absolutely nothing to do with you and you are a free man. You only have given to Caesar what belongs to Caesar. So don't be afraid of anything and i am saying this as a matter of fact. I come from a strong traditional background and I don't joke with tradition. |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by 2buffagain(m): 2:49pm On Mar 08, 2019 |
UgoFly: Subjecting yourself to pagan rituals all in the name of freaking marriage and you are letting demons threaten you with death when you should be telling them "dia fada". If you are a Christian, I SMH at you. Tradition for tradition sake, sure...but you have to draw the line when that ish becomes demonic. Otherwise, the way these things work, you have given consent for whatever that is to be a part of your new home. You are part of your generational problem. Now some child of yours down your lineage will have to fast and pray to break themselves free from the nonsense you have consented to bring into your lineage because of your weakness. As much as you are trying to help them by marrying their daughter, your desires also matter. You can make it clear that you will have nothing to do with marrying their daughter if pagan rituals are involved....especially not any that involve some bloody entity threatening me with death if I don't do it. Dia Fada! |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by sacramento1212: 3:51pm On Mar 08, 2019 |
2buffagain: Every tribe in Nigeria have their own culture and tradition and it has absolutely nothing to do with pagan rituals or demonic as you may call it. No one forced him to marry an Ibibio daughter and if he wasn't comfortable with it, he would have looked else where to pick a bride. That's why i encourage people that wants to get involved in intertribal marriage to study the culture and tradition of the tribe of their potential partner. Do not smell the food you intend not to eat. It's like me going to a tribe in Edo that have their own tradition to tell them i won't be a party to it and insist on doing things my own way. If I know i don't like what's being practised there, it's better for me not to get involved with the lady in the first place. @ugofly, once again, you have nothing to worry. It was part of the traditional marriage same way we cannot abolish traditional marriages and stick to white wedding which to me is a borrowed culture. It's a one off thing and you have satisfied all that was required to pick a bride in that part of Ibibio land. So nothing to worry about concerning your wife, children and the future. May God bless your marriage and may you reap the fruit sooner or later. |
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