BlackDBagba:

Alejoc:
He is very dysfunctional but o wished you have tried to stamped it out earlier than now....... Don't suffer in silence.... Report him to the police if he dare raise his hands against you or sue him to court! He will calm down..... I wonder what your courtship was like... What made you settle for him before the kids starts to come around..... Many people are walking psychos..... He obviously doesn't have much respect left for you and I don't know any easy way to get that back.... Maybe an holiday or group standing.... I really feel your pain!

GoodKay:


Our courtship was better than now. He didn't really exhibit d temper. Not that he didn't show it at all, he did but definitely not as bad as it is now. I wish he had shown it in full force d way he is now, my dear, u know what im about to say... I been thru a lot after this delivery of this my baby and he knows it. From one doctors appointment to another. For some days now i noticed im having pus coming out of where I was torn to have my baby (C section) its probably infected idk and he knows that cos he can't provide cash for me to see d doctor before my appointment date tomorrow, I had to be managing myself since Friday I started noticing d pus till tomorrow which I have appointment hoping I will get paid by today so I will be able to hold cash incase of treatment. But yet Ive been very cool about everything. At times I wonder how bad I really am. Maybe I've made myself such a dunce hence d lack of respect for me I don't know. I really don't need this trouble in my life right now. Marriage ain't easy. It can just end up being an unnecessary headache all round. Phew!!

OmoAlata1:
You better put your children first especially your son before he becomes an adult and have passionate hatre for you.

He did not choose his father, you chose that beast for him as a father. He did not force you to born, you made that choice. It is your duty to protect him and to make sure he grows up to be mentally sound man one day.

That poor boy, imagine shaking out fear of being beaten and you are still in that house. I pity that boy. I wish they have child protective services in Nigeria, I would have called one on you. You are willing to forsake your son mental health for being called Mrs. and chopping steady dicck. in fact you need a hot slap. Madam, receive sense

godfatherx:
I'm a man, you want advice from mothers and wives, but I will give you one unsolicited.

He wants apology, give it to him please.
Reason why you should apologize?
NONE.
But I will still say apologize!

It won't reduce your lifespan or reduce your height.

I want to write more, but it will only incure more wrath of feminists on NL.

ImaIma1:


Acknowledging his wrong and apologizing won't also reduce his life span.

Men take advantage of the fact that because the wife wants "peace to reign", she apologises. It is an unhealthy way of resolving a problem and it will backfire one day.

Eketem:
While I may understand women who accept abuse from their husbands I don't understand women who won't protect their kids.

He will make your child afraid of learning or making mistakes.

You need to stand up for your child not by quarelling in front of the child but by talking to him about discipline, he has an anger management issue and he needs to understand that and get help before somebody gets hurt

cococandy:
Hopefully someday, he doesn’t hit the child so hard that he gives him a permanent injury. His heart might be in the right place by wanting to discipline his child but as most african parents, he’s going about it the wrong way.

Most of us were abused by our parents in the name of discipline. Excessive beatings and punishments does not help the child in any way except giving them low self esteem and/or turning them into people who hit others out of anger.

The child is not the only victim here,she is also going through domestic abuse but afraid to make a choice. It gets to a point one will be so scared to run because you feel there is no where u Wil run to that he wunt find out or threaten you especially ones kids
Maybe you can tell him this see if it changes his mind.

cococandy:
Hopefully someday, he doesn’t hit the child so hard that he gives him a permanent injury. His heart might be in the right place by wanting to discipline his child but as most african parents, he’s going about it the wrong way.

Most of us were abused by our parents in the name of discipline. Excessive beatings and punishments does not help the child in any way except giving them low self esteem and/or turning them into people who hit others out of anger.

Maybe you can tell him this see if it changes his mind.

godfatherx:
I'm a man, you want advice from mothers and wives, but I will give you one unsolicited.

He wants apology, give it to him please.
Reason why you should apologize?
NONE.
But I will still say apologize!

It won't reduce your lifespan or reduce your height.

I want to write more, but it will only incure more wrath of feminists on NL.

realtalk19:



The child is not the only victim here,she is also going through domestic abuse but afraid to make a choice. It gets to a point one will be so scared to run because you feel there is no where u Wil run to that he wunt find out or threaten you especially ones kids

realtalk19:
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Sorry to ask ,are u seeing the violence part at all?

All u are telling her is to apologise and not saying anything about the main problem.

ImaIma1:


You quoted the wrong person. I wasn't the one that said she should apologize. I actually quoted the person who said it.

Eketem:


She is an adult she chooses to stay with an abuser even though she is the one providing and can afford to leave and provide for her kids, she doesn't want to be called a woman without husband, her choice nobody can force her but a child didn't choose this situation hence the child is the only victim here

Eketem:


She is an adult she chooses to stay with an abuser even though she is the one providing and can afford to leave and provide for her kids, she doesn't want to be called a woman without husband, her choice nobody can force her but a child didn't choose this situation hence the child is the only victim here

GoodKay:


Our courtship was better than now. He didn't really exhibit d temper. Not that he didn't show it at all, he did but definitely not as bad as it is now. I wish he had shown it in full force d way he is now, my dear, u know what im about to say... I been thru a lot after this delivery of this my baby and he knows it. From one doctors appointment to another. For some days now i noticed im having pus coming out of where I was torn to have my baby (C section) its probably infected idk and he knows that cos he can't provide cash for me to see d doctor before my appointment date tomorrow, I had to be managing myself since Friday I started noticing d pus till tomorrow which I have appointment hoping I will get paid by today so I will be able to hold cash incase of treatment. But yet Ive been very cool about everything. At times I wonder how bad I really am. Maybe I've made myself such a dunce hence d lack of respect for me I don't know. I really don't need this trouble in my life right now. Marriage ain't easy. It can just end up being an unnecessary headache all round. Phew!!