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80% Of Young Girls In My Sec School Were Sexually Harassed By Nigerian Men / What Big Aunties Did To Us!! / These Eye-opening Stories By Men Who Were Sexually Assaulted Need To Be Heard (2) (3) (4)

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Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by MISEDUCATIONS: 11:22pm On Sep 05, 2018
Souless0:

It wasn't forced. It was mutual. The lady in question was 7 yrs older or more
check your moniker and see the damage that pedophile did to you.

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Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by Adakintroy: 11:22pm On Sep 05, 2018
Adakintroy:



Maybe because genetically we may be mentally superior to them white boys.

Anyways..


Those who need therapy know themself. I was molested yes. But I have gotten over that now. Am a man. That memory has faded. If I want to go down memory lane about all the shiit that I have Been through in this crazy world.., I will be in intense rehab probably.

This is life man. Shiiiit happens from day one. Suck it up!.and Like I said. Leave those stuffs for the white boys.
Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by MISEDUCATIONS: 11:24pm On Sep 05, 2018
Adakintroy:



Those who need therapy know themself. I was molested yes. But I have gotten over that now. Am a man. That memory has faded. If I want to go down memory lane about all the shirt that I gave Ben through in this crazy world. I will be in intense rehab.

This is life man. Shiri it happens from day one. Suck it up. Like I said. Leave those stuffs for the white boys.
go checl the rise of the suicide rate among black men and see how that "Man up" attitude is not getting us anywhere.
black men are not made of stone or metal.

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Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by sunkoye: 11:24pm On Sep 05, 2018
eosigwe:
but all this niggaz saying they can't get over it.. like WTF... how? you were molested at the age of 4,5,6,7 or even 8 and right now you are 28, 29, 30+ and you saying you can't get over it, you hate women, your John Tommy does not erect, you have lost confidence, yen yen yen. That is total bullshit. Total crap. You guys are weak. You have erectile dysfunction. Quit excessive masturbation. Those situations you experienced as a child are not the cause of your sexual problems right now. I was seriously molested by our househelp for 4 years. Between 4 and 8 years. If I hear say I never get over am. So much weakness in the world mehn. Everyone's seeking sympathy. A lady's tale I can understand but guys, mehn...
chimanmanda....abi wetin them they call am...will come for your head soon grin cheesy
Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by bukatyne(f): 11:25pm On Sep 05, 2018
toyflare:
Warning! Long post alert!
Men get molested, and we hide it because it's either unbelievable or sounds ridiculous. My life as a kid until adulthood wasn't funny at all. First, it was the neighbor's housemaid, I was about 7 at that time and my parents were busy with work so I had to stay at my neighbor's house after school till our house maid is back from school. One day I went there, the maid called me into the kid's room and took away my clothes, made me lay down and did things I didn't understand as a child. It was confusing, and I really didn't understand what she was doing but I remember she was on top of me unclad swinging back and forth. This continued after a while, then I told mom. She didn't understand me, so I stopped going there myself and our maid told my mom she met me outside when she came back from school. I guess this made her believe me, so I had to wait in school then.

Then I was molested again by my own friend angry f4cking best friend turned gay! I was 10 then, and my friend was 6 years older. He was enrolled in a boarding school, I guess he learned the shit from there. When he came back he would always come to the house as usual when I noticed when we play, he touched my genitals and I wasn't comfortable with it. One day I went to his house, he was alone and locked up the place, said he wants to show me something in the room and I followed him. He went to the kitchen and brought a knife, told me to take off all my clothes or he will stab me. I was like haha very funny and he started swinging the knife and told me he joined a cult group and I shouldn't dare him. I was scared as fvck, took my clothes off with speed, he ordered me to lay on the bed and started the thing (can't go into detail cause it makes me sick) but I cried so much. Then after it he was like don't worry, you will start enjoying it soon. So I stopped going to his house but he kept coming to my house and I would lock my self inside the room and my dad will come knocking that my friend is here and I should come out. Then he started begging me that his not in any cult group, but was attracted to him. I didn't care to listen to him! So one day he came with a fancy toy and told my Lil bro he got it for him, but won't give it to him unless I followed him home. So my Lil bro asked me to go get the toy for him and I refused so he started crying, I couldn't tell him what was going on. He was very little at that time and wanted his toy, so I agreed to go, but my plan was to take the toy and fight with my friend if he tried anything stupid angry, so I went with my brother (my friend lives across the street) but when we got there he insisted I come in alone or he won't give it to me. My brother was like okay grin I'm going home grin. So I went in and he locked the door, I asked him for the toy and he said he won't give it to me unless I let him touch me again, I said no!!! And headed for the door, he grabbed me and pushed me to the chair I tried pushing him off but he was very much stronger than I was. Long story short, he did it again, gave me to the toy, I went to him, gave it to Lil bro and he hugged me. I went into the room and cried seriously asking God to forgive me. But it didn't stop here, it continued for years until I got older and strong enough and fought him one day before it all ended. Up till now, I still haven't told my brother what really happened.

Then again 3 years ago I was raped by my church group leader! I won't mention the church. This woman is married and older than my own mother! All her 3 kids are schooling in the UK! Her husband is a manager in one of the top oil companies ( Name withheld). At my workplace, I was working in the customer care sector and meet clients daily. Lots of sugar mummy's wanted me to be there son, some told me directly others where hiding about it but opened up later. This woman was just good to me and at the same time always preaching to me about Jesus so I didn't suspect her in any way. She invited me to her church because I just moved to the state recently and didn't have a church at that time. So I started worshipping at her church, so one day she invited me to her house fellowship and I went, after the fellowship she asked me to wait behind so I could help her tidy the place and I did before I left she gave me 4k for TP, I refused but she insisted so I took it. I kept going for house fellowship every week and she always gave me TP (4k, 6k, 10k). Every time I asked her why she gave me so much just for transport, she will say she's encouraging me because she knew I wasn't earning much.
So one day I went for house fellowship, as usual, I stayed behind to arrange the place, then took the plates to the kitchen. I noticed someone walk into the kitchen and turned off the light I was like, ma did you off the light? She said yes. I said okay... But I'm still using it, she didn't answer me and kept walking close to me then suddenly hugged me. I just stood, and was like ma is there any problem, she said no! And kept hugging me. After a while she let me go and I rushed off the kitchen and started gathering my stuff to go home. But when I wanted to open the door, I noticed it was locked! I searched for the keys and it wasn't where it supposed to be. I started calling for her and told her I couldn't find the keys, she said she kept it in her daughter's room I should go there and take it. I went there to look for it but couldn't find the keys, so I told her and she said she's coming to get it but she didn't come out, she was inside her room and refused to answer me. I stood there thinking of what to do next, then my girlfriend started calling me! I told her I just left the fellowship and she was shouting at me that it's almost 11 pm and I'm not back yet, I pleaded with her that we had a meeting blah blah blah. I ended the calling and started calling madam to come open her door let me go home for christ sake. The woman no gree, I called my roommate and told him the situation of things and he told me not to worry, I shouldn't answer my girlfriends call again, he will call her and tell her my phone was stolen and they beat me up but I'm home sleeping.
I was there waiting in the sitting room till past twelve before she opened the door almost unclad and was smiling at me. At this moment I was already angry angry asked her to open the door let me go and she started shouting at me before I knew it she slapped me! And my body went cold instantly. She said I should forget about going home today except I do what she says. Then the next minute she started begging me that she's sorry, she's lonely and needed someone to talk to. I couldn't say anything, as she was begging her hands were already going inside my Jeans. I was like Ma please I beg you in the name of God please stop let me go. I started preaching to her that she's married and this is evil the woman stood up and started crying that she's sorry it's the devil's hand work.
At that point, I thought everything was fine but I need to leave immediately! She told me the key is in her child's room and where to get it. I didn't trust going into that room alone, but I went anyway, the key wasn't where she said it was. And I as I was about leaving the room to go tell her, she's already at the door, then walked in and closed the door. She told me I can't go, and she hasn't had sex in a long time, so If I don't want her to tell her husband I raped her I should allow her do what she wants or she will call her husband and scream on the phone.
My eyes flashed before my eyes again, I tried talking to her again and she started calling him on the phone and put it on speaker phone so I can see she's not playing about it. I thought of going to prison and losing my job and worse ending up in the news. Then I accepted on the condition we use protection, she already had everything with her, even a lubricant! Then I knew she planned the whole thing. The sad truth is at that time I was still a virgin and never had sex with a woman.

Again sorry for the long post, but before you ask what's the name of this movie I really don't care if you believe it or not! And if you think it has no physiological effect then you're very wrong. I'm very withdrawn and find it extremely difficult to trust anyone. I have no friends! I don't ever near a church or want to hear anything about churches. (she attends a big church and I see her on TV sometimes singing praises). The moment I see an older woman I look at you in disgust, and before you say anything I'm already hating you. It's been years and I'm battling depression, so I need sleeping pills to sleep properly. At some point, I turned to drugs and later stopped because of its effects physiologically.
Being forced against your will to have sex is rape! And men get raped too and I don't think it's fun when it's a woman your mother's age and if that's a fantasy for you then you need to get your brain examined.

Woaw!

Tried physiological help?

You desperately need it.
Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by Studentvillage1(m): 11:26pm On Sep 05, 2018
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Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by Ellabae(f): 11:27pm On Sep 05, 2018
toyflare:
Warning! Long post alert!
Men get molested, and we hide it because it's either unbelievable or sounds ridiculous. My life as a kid until adulthood wasn't funny at all. First, it was the neighbor's housemaid, I was about 7 at that time and my parents were busy with work so I had to stay at my neighbor's house after school till our house maid is back from school. One day I went there, the maid called me into the kid's room and took away my clothes, made me lay down and did things I didn't understand as a child. It was confusing, and I really didn't understand what she was doing but I remember she was on top of me unclad swinging back and forth. This continued after a while, then I told mom. She didn't understand me, so I stopped going there myself and our maid told my mom she met me outside when she came back from school. I guess this made her believe me, so I had to wait in school then.

Then I was molested again by my own friend angry f4cking best friend turned gay! I was 10 then, and my friend was 6 years older. He was enrolled in a boarding school, I guess he learned the shit from there. When he came back he would always come to the house as usual when I noticed when we play, he touched my genitals and I wasn't comfortable with it. One day I went to his house, he was alone and locked up the place, said he wants to show me something in the room and I followed him. He went to the kitchen and brought a knife, told me to take off all my clothes or he will stab me. I was like haha very funny and he started swinging the knife and told me he joined a cult group and I shouldn't dare him. I was scared as fvck, took my clothes off with speed, he ordered me to lay on the bed and started the thing (can't go into detail cause it makes me sick) but I cried so much. Then after it he was like don't worry, you will start enjoying it soon. So I stopped going to his house but he kept coming to my house and I would lock my self inside the room and my dad will come knocking that my friend is here and I should come out. Then he started begging me that his not in any cult group, but was attracted to him. I didn't care to listen to him! So one day he came with a fancy toy and told my Lil bro he got it for him, but won't give it to him unless I followed him home. So my Lil bro asked me to go get the toy for him and I refused so he started crying, I couldn't tell him what was going on. He was very little at that time and wanted his toy, so I agreed to go, but my plan was to take the toy and fight with my friend if he tried anything stupid angry, so I went with my brother (my friend lives across the street) but when we got there he insisted I come in alone or he won't give it to me. My brother was like okay grin I'm going home grin. So I went in and he locked the door, I asked him for the toy and he said he won't give it to me unless I let him touch me again, I said no!!! And headed for the door, he grabbed me and pushed me to the chair I tried pushing him off but he was very much stronger than I was. Long story short, he did it again, gave me to the toy, I went to him, gave it to Lil bro and he hugged me. I went into the room and cried seriously asking God to forgive me. But it didn't stop here, it continued for years until I got older and strong enough and fought him one day before it all ended. Up till now, I still haven't told my brother what really happened.

Then again 3 years ago I was raped by my church group leader! I won't mention the church. This woman is married and older than my own mother! All her 3 kids are schooling in the UK! Her husband is a manager in one of the top oil companies ( Name withheld). At my workplace, I was working in the customer care sector and meet clients daily. Lots of sugar mummy's wanted me to be there son, some told me directly others where hiding about it but opened up later. This woman was just good to me and at the same time always preaching to me about Jesus so I didn't suspect her in any way. She invited me to her church because I just moved to the state recently and didn't have a church at that time. So I started worshipping at her church, so one day she invited me to her house fellowship and I went, after the fellowship she asked me to wait behind so I could help her tidy the place and I did before I left she gave me 4k for TP, I refused but she insisted so I took it. I kept going for house fellowship every week and she always gave me TP (4k, 6k, 10k). Every time I asked her why she gave me so much just for transport, she will say she's encouraging me because she knew I wasn't earning much.
So one day I went for house fellowship, as usual, I stayed behind to arrange the place, then took the plates to the kitchen. I noticed someone walk into the kitchen and turned off the light I was like, ma did you off the light? She said yes. I said okay... But I'm still using it, she didn't answer me and kept walking close to me then suddenly hugged me. I just stood, and was like ma is there any problem, she said no! And kept hugging me. After a while she let me go and I rushed off the kitchen and started gathering my stuff to go home. But when I wanted to open the door, I noticed it was locked! I searched for the keys and it wasn't where it supposed to be. I started calling for her and told her I couldn't find the keys, she said she kept it in her daughter's room I should go there and take it. I went there to look for it but couldn't find the keys, so I told her and she said she's coming to get it but she didn't come out, she was inside her room and refused to answer me. I stood there thinking of what to do next, then my girlfriend started calling me! I told her I just left the fellowship and she was shouting at me that it's almost 11 pm and I'm not back yet, I pleaded with her that we had a meeting blah blah blah. I ended the calling and started calling madam to come open her door let me go home for christ sake. The woman no gree, I called my roommate and told him the situation of things and he told me not to worry, I shouldn't answer my girlfriends call again, he will call her and tell her my phone was stolen and they beat me up but I'm home sleeping.
I was there waiting in the sitting room till past twelve before she opened the door almost unclad and was smiling at me. At this moment I was already angry angry asked her to open the door let me go and she started shouting at me before I knew it she slapped me! And my body went cold instantly. She said I should forget about going home today except I do what she says. Then the next minute she started begging me that she's sorry, she's lonely and needed someone to talk to. I couldn't say anything, as she was begging her hands were already going inside my Jeans. I was like Ma please I beg you in the name of God please stop let me go. I started preaching to her that she's married and this is evil the woman stood up and started crying that she's sorry it's the devil's hand work.
At that point, I thought everything was fine but I need to leave immediately! She told me the key is in her child's room and where to get it. I didn't trust going into that room alone, but I went anyway, the key wasn't where she said it was. And I as I was about leaving the room to go tell her, she's already at the door, then walked in and closed the door. She told me I can't go, and she hasn't had sex in a long time, so If I don't want her to tell her husband I raped her I should allow her do what she wants or she will call her husband and scream on the phone.
My eyes flashed before my eyes again, I tried talking to her again and she started calling him on the phone and put it on speaker phone so I can see she's not playing about it. I thought of going to prison and losing my job and worse ending up in the news. Then I accepted on the condition we use protection, she already had everything with her, even a lubricant! Then I knew she planned the whole thing. The sad truth is at that time I was still a virgin and never had sex with a woman.

Again sorry for the long post, but before you ask what's the name of this movie I really don't care if you believe it or not! And if you think it has no physiological effect then you're very wrong. I'm very withdrawn and find it extremely difficult to trust anyone. I have no friends! I don't ever near a church or want to hear anything about churches. (she attends a big church and I see her on TV sometimes singing praises). The moment I see an older woman I look at you in disgust, and before you say anything I'm already hating you. It's been years and I'm battling depression, so I need sleeping pills to sleep properly. At some point, I turned to drugs and later stopped because of its effects physiologically.
Being forced against your will to have sex is rape! And men get raped too and I don't think it's fun when it's a woman your mother's age and if that's a fantasy for you then you need to get your brain examined.
cry wish I could hold u right now nd tell u it's gonna be fine. Jst be strong dear.

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Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by Caris77: 11:28pm On Sep 05, 2018
For every molested male out there , may God grant you full phychological and emotional healing . D worst is molestation done to children of like 0_4years .


And to there molesters, unless you repent ,ask of forgiveness from these once innocent children whose innocence was wickedly stolen... God will expose you all to greater shame and that pain which you inflicted on another woman 's child , you will reap in million folds . And for not showing mercy to these lil ones ; not showing mercies to the boyd kept under their watch shall mercy be so far away from their life , in Jesus name ,Amen.

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Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by OliveCynosure(f): 11:28pm On Sep 05, 2018
Kimcutie:
Females think is only them that's molested.
.
It's the society.
Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by Nobody: 11:28pm On Sep 05, 2018
MISEDUCATIONS:
check your moniker and see the damage that pedophile did to you.
Hell no. I started masturbating at 17 yrs bro
Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by MISEDUCATIONS: 11:28pm On Sep 05, 2018
Studentvillage1:
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Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by ojlifa: 11:29pm On Sep 05, 2018
This is an issue I have been talking about,if we are to use the yard stick been used on men by women then let me say it without fear or favour over 75% of men where abused by women before they turn 18.this is a fact let it sink in

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Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by MISEDUCATIONS: 11:29pm On Sep 05, 2018
Souless0:

Hell no. I started masturbating at 17 yrs bro
who said anything about masturbation?

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Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by ibkayee(f): 11:30pm On Sep 05, 2018
Brave of these guys to open up like this, hope they can heal

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Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by bukatyne(f): 11:31pm On Sep 05, 2018
Adakintroy:
Truth is this stories are true. I had experience with my elder female cousin too and one aunt tara.


I post something similar like this on nairaland one certain time. The thing is that with male molestations. We tend to outgrow it and not bring it up. No! We don't like the victim thing.

But am glad this topic is coming up. Because women like portraying men as monster and all that. We do it yes but out of weakness and many who do it Honestly try to change. Not all though. But It's good this topic come up. So we all judge ourselves in truth. Many women making noise do worst to young boys.

We have been shielding t women for too long. Now they are getting more arrogant. Making a fool of menergy aso though we areally the only once capale ofor this kindustry ofor attrocities.. It high time they are called out and shamed too. anyone is capable of weakness.

Let them come out and refute it if their conscience can witness with them


Nope, They just tend to become terrible males with distrust for women looking for ways to dominate them.

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Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by Nobody: 11:32pm On Sep 05, 2018
Ugosample:

"a lady's tale you can understand"
This up there is what ruined your comment
it's either you are sympathetic to molestation victims or not

Not doing half and half
ok

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Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by MISEDUCATIONS: 11:32pm On Sep 05, 2018
Caris77:
For every molested male out there , may God grant you full phychological and emotional healing . D worst is molestation done to children of like 0_4years .


And to there molesters, unless you repent ,ask of forgiveness from these once innocent children whose innocence was wickedly stolen... God will expose you all to greater shame and that pain which you inflicted on another woman 's child , you will reap in million folds . And for not showing mercy to these lil ones ; not showing mercies to the boyd kept under their watch shall mercy be so far away from their life , in Jesus name ,Amen.
i was barely grade 5 when two older girls forced themselves on me and my friend. i remember i bled because they tried to pull back the foreskin but it was too tight around my pènìs head. may God help men.

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Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by delivryboy: 11:35pm On Sep 05, 2018
I was molested as a 5 year old boy by a girl in her teens, she sells things on a small tray and she would come to my house and take me behind some drums my mom used to by kerosene then she would insert small objects in her private part, goodness! I felt disgusted for years.

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Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by Nobody: 11:36pm On Sep 05, 2018
ISISs:
grin. I love u bro!
Nwanne, yagazie

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Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by Nobody: 11:37pm On Sep 05, 2018
eosigwe:
but all this niggaz saying they can't get over it.. like WTF... how? you were molested at the age of 4,5,6,7 or even 8 and right now you are 28, 29, 30+ and you saying you can't get over it, you hate women, your John Tommy does not erect, you have lost confidence, yen yen yen. That is total bullshit. Total crap. You guys are weak. You have erectile dysfunction. Quit excessive masturbation. Those situations you experienced as a child are not the cause of your sexual problems right now. I was seriously molested by our househelp for 4 years. Between 4 and 8 years. If I hear say I never get over am. So much weakness in the world mehn. Everyone's seeking sympathy. A lady's tale I can understand but guys, mehn...


Delete this comment man. It's too insensitive and sexist.

Don't be foolish because of likes

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Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by Nobody: 11:37pm On Sep 05, 2018
cococandy:
Oh please. Shut up

Because you masked your pain does not mean the other men who talk about theirs are weak.

ok
Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by Nobody: 11:37pm On Sep 05, 2018
toyflare:
Warning! Long post alert!
Men get molested, and we hide it because it's either unbelievable or sounds ridiculous. My life as a kid until adulthood wasn't funny at all. First, it was the neighbor's housemaid, I was about 7 at that time and my parents were busy with work so I had to stay at my neighbor's house after school till our house maid is back from school. One day I went there, the maid called me into the kid's room and took away my clothes, made me lay down and did things I didn't understand as a child. It was confusing, and I really didn't understand what she was doing but I remember she was on top of me unclad swinging back and forth. This continued after a while, then I told mom. She didn't understand me, so I stopped going there myself and our maid told my mom she met me outside when she came back from school. I guess this made her believe me, so I had to wait in school then.

Then I was molested again by my own friend angry f4cking best friend turned gay! I was 10 then, and my friend was 6 years older. He was enrolled in a boarding school, I guess he learned the shit from there. When he came back he would always come to the house as usual when I noticed when we play, he touched my genitals and I wasn't comfortable with it. One day I went to his house, he was alone and locked up the place, said he wants to show me something in the room and I followed him. He went to the kitchen and brought a knife, told me to take off all my clothes or he will stab me. I was like haha very funny and he started swinging the knife and told me he joined a cult group and I shouldn't dare him. I was scared as fvck, took my clothes off with speed, he ordered me to lay on the bed and started the thing (can't go into detail cause it makes me sick) but I cried so much. Then after it he was like don't worry, you will start enjoying it soon. So I stopped going to his house but he kept coming to my house and I would lock my self inside the room and my dad will come knocking that my friend is here and I should come out. Then he started begging me that his not in any cult group, but was attracted to him. I didn't care to listen to him! So one day he came with a fancy toy and told my Lil bro he got it for him, but won't give it to him unless I followed him home. So my Lil bro asked me to go get the toy for him and I refused so he started crying, I couldn't tell him what was going on. He was very little at that time and wanted his toy, so I agreed to go, but my plan was to take the toy and fight with my friend if he tried anything stupid angry, so I went with my brother (my friend lives across the street) but when we got there he insisted I come in alone or he won't give it to me. My brother was like okay grin I'm going home grin. So I went in and he locked the door, I asked him for the toy and he said he won't give it to me unless I let him touch me again, I said no!!! And headed for the door, he grabbed me and pushed me to the chair I tried pushing him off but he was very much stronger than I was. Long story short, he did it again, gave me to the toy, I went to him, gave it to Lil bro and he hugged me. I went into the room and cried seriously asking God to forgive me. But it didn't stop here, it continued for years until I got older and strong enough and fought him one day before it all ended. Up till now, I still haven't told my brother what really happened.

Then again 3 years ago I was raped by my church group leader! I won't mention the church. This woman is married and older than my own mother! All her 3 kids are schooling in the UK! Her husband is a manager in one of the top oil companies ( Name withheld). At my workplace, I was working in the customer care sector and meet clients daily. Lots of sugar mummy's wanted me to be there son, some told me directly others where hiding about it but opened up later. This woman was just good to me and at the same time always preaching to me about Jesus so I didn't suspect her in any way. She invited me to her church because I just moved to the state recently and didn't have a church at that time. So I started worshipping at her church, so one day she invited me to her house fellowship and I went, after the fellowship she asked me to wait behind so I could help her tidy the place and I did before I left she gave me 4k for TP, I refused but she insisted so I took it. I kept going for house fellowship every week and she always gave me TP (4k, 6k, 10k). Every time I asked her why she gave me so much just for transport, she will say she's encouraging me because she knew I wasn't earning much.
So one day I went for house fellowship, as usual, I stayed behind to arrange the place, then took the plates to the kitchen. I noticed someone walk into the kitchen and turned off the light I was like, ma did you off the light? She said yes. I said okay... But I'm still using it, she didn't answer me and kept walking close to me then suddenly hugged me. I just stood, and was like ma is there any problem, she said no! And kept hugging me. After a while she let me go and I rushed off the kitchen and started gathering my stuff to go home. But when I wanted to open the door, I noticed it was locked! I searched for the keys and it wasn't where it supposed to be. I started calling for her and told her I couldn't find the keys, she said she kept it in her daughter's room I should go there and take it. I went there to look for it but couldn't find the keys, so I told her and she said she's coming to get it but she didn't come out, she was inside her room and refused to answer me. I stood there thinking of what to do next, then my girlfriend started calling me! I told her I just left the fellowship and she was shouting at me that it's almost 11 pm and I'm not back yet, I pleaded with her that we had a meeting blah blah blah. I ended the calling and started calling madam to come open her door let me go home for christ sake. The woman no gree, I called my roommate and told him the situation of things and he told me not to worry, I shouldn't answer my girlfriends call again, he will call her and tell her my phone was stolen and they beat me up but I'm home sleeping.
I was there waiting in the sitting room till past twelve before she opened the door almost unclad and was smiling at me. At this moment I was already angry angry asked her to open the door let me go and she started shouting at me before I knew it she slapped me! And my body went cold instantly. She said I should forget about going home today except I do what she says. Then the next minute she started begging me that she's sorry, she's lonely and needed someone to talk to. I couldn't say anything, as she was begging her hands were already going inside my Jeans. I was like Ma please I beg you in the name of God please stop let me go. I started preaching to her that she's married and this is evil the woman stood up and started crying that she's sorry it's the devil's hand work.
At that point, I thought everything was fine but I need to leave immediately! She told me the key is in her child's room and where to get it. I didn't trust going into that room alone, but I went anyway, the key wasn't where she said it was. And I as I was about leaving the room to go tell her, she's already at the door, then walked in and closed the door. She told me I can't go, and she hasn't had sex in a long time, so If I don't want her to tell her husband I raped her I should allow her do what she wants or she will call her husband and scream on the phone.
My eyes flashed before my eyes again, I tried talking to her again and she started calling him on the phone and put it on speaker phone so I can see she's not playing about it. I thought of going to prison and losing my job and worse ending up in the news. Then I accepted on the condition we use protection, she already had everything with her, even a lubricant! Then I knew she planned the whole thing. The sad truth is at that time I was still a virgin and never had sex with a woman.

Again sorry for the long post, but before you ask what's the name of this movie I really don't care if you believe it or not! And if you think it has no physiological effect then you're very wrong. I'm very withdrawn and find it extremely difficult to trust anyone. I have no friends! I don't ever near a church or want to hear anything about churches. (she attends a big church and I see her on TV sometimes singing praises). The moment I see an older woman I look at you in disgust, and before you say anything I'm already hating you. It's been years and I'm battling depression, so I need sleeping pills to sleep properly. At some point, I turned to drugs and later stopped because of its effects physiologically.
Being forced against your will to have sex is rape! And men get raped too and I don't think it's fun when it's a woman your mother's age and if that's a fantasy for you then you need to get your brain examined.
weakness;a trait common to inferior men.
Have you read the jargon you typed?i guess not.
An opportunity a young guy should hold tight,you are here fumbling about it.
*Spits on your empty head and walks out*

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Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by Adakintroy: 11:38pm On Sep 05, 2018
MISEDUCATIONS:
go checl the rise of the suicide rate among black men and see how that "Man up" attitude is not getting us anywhere.
black men are not made of stone or metal.


I got God. White men need therapy. I only need God..

There are many white men carrying out rape as they are blacks. The law favor the white more. It's a human thing. So those stats don't hold. Plus we live in Africa as primitive men. Our women ran around semi nude.

How come we were not raping ourselves to stupor then? We only became wild and uncultured as soon as we touched down on white man shore.

There must really be something in the water they gave us to drink.

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Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by MISEDUCATIONS: 11:38pm On Sep 05, 2018
zinnyzee:
Heh... This is a new one on me.
I always thought the molestation and abuses were one sided. This is an eye-opener.
Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by Caris77: 11:38pm On Sep 05, 2018
MISEDUCATIONS:
i was barely grade 5 when two older girls forced themselves on me and my friend. i remember i bled because they tried to pull back the foreskin but it was too tight around my pènìs head. may God help men.
speedy healing for you is what i pray for . How these molesters are attracted by those tiny organs of lil boys baffles and enrages me.

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Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by Nobody: 11:40pm On Sep 05, 2018
ibkayee:
Brave of these guys to open up like this, hope they can heal

I wish so. Women have destroyed the lives of these men because they'll live with the trauma forever.

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Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by YorubaEmir: 11:40pm On Sep 05, 2018
Jeeez... thought I was alone sad I was molested by our househelp at the age of 4-6. She was 10 years older.She'd make me lie on her body naked and she'd tickle my private part until it was erect. Don't remember exactly what she did with it.

She died about 5 years ago... HIV I guess because of the circumstances surrounding her death

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Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by Nobody: 11:41pm On Sep 05, 2018
MISEDUCATIONS:
who said anything about masturbation?
Oh..you took my moniker literally?
You might as well take pussybbqgrills literally and its ur problem not mine

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Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by Divay22(f): 11:42pm On Sep 05, 2018
My kids won't have any bestie other than me and their father.
I'll make them so free with me to tell anything and everything.

Damn
Reading all these is just heartbreaking

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Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by Nobody: 11:42pm On Sep 05, 2018
NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Toyflare I can't imagine what you've been through but I totally understand how your experiences must have affected you psychologically. You need to let them go. Just let them go, face the experiences boldly and acknowledge the fact that you are stronger now. You need to train your mind to be strong.
abeg,leave that guy and stop promoting weakness.
You are beginning to sound caucasian.i hate it when people exhibit weakness.
He bleeped an older woman,so what?is that something to be depressed about?
If i knew you toyflare,i will punch you in the face.
The only part that i did not like was the gay thingy!

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Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by ibkayee(f): 11:43pm On Sep 05, 2018
Hanseel1:


I wish so. Women have caused destroyed the lives of these men because they'll live with the trauma forever.
Sad, some people are just evil

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Re: How Nigerian Men Were Sexually Abused By Their Mothers, Sisters & 'Aunties' by LyfeJennings(m): 11:43pm On Sep 05, 2018
eosigwe:
but all this niggaz saying they can't get over it.. like WTF... how? you were molested at the age of 4,5,6,7 or even 8 and right now you are 28, 29, 30+ and you saying you can't get over it, you hate women, your John Tommy does not erect, you have lost confidence, yen yen yen. That is total bullshit. Total crap. You guys are weak. You have erectile dysfunction. Quit excessive masturbation. Those situations you experienced as a child are not the cause of your sexual problems right now. I was seriously molested by our househelp for 4 years. Between 4 and 8 years. If I hear say I never get over am. So much weakness in the world mehn. Everyone's seeking sympathy. A lady's tale I can understand but guys, mehn...

Hmmmm
Individual differences
The way U would react if U stabbed is different from the way I would react despite bleeding same red blood

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