Good day Ladies and Genetlemen here
Please am currently in a mess,but before u crucify me please read through
I meet Esther and we feel in love with each other,she isnt from my tribe but i love her very much,3 years into dating i made the bigest mistake of my life,i meet Nkeiru my tribe
Nkeiru is a single mum going through tough times,on one occasion her daugter became very sick and she came crying to me since i could help i helped her by paying for her daughter's hospital bills (my biggest mistake) since she is igbo we came friends just ordinary friends then on eve of new year,i hosted my club members and since they are all igbos i decided to asked Nkeiru to come assisct me in cooking since my girlfriend is not igbo and at that point she lost her Dad and went for the buriel
After everything she said is already late and couldnt go that night long story cut short we had sex how it happened i dont know for real all i remembered and still remember is that i was drunk that night dont get me wrong i never made any move only woke up to find her beside me stack naked
I was mad asked her to leave my house and never come close to me her response was that given a second chance she d' still do what she did how am a good guy despite helping her finacially i never asked for anything in return i made her leave and never ever come close to me but faith has others things in mind
One month after she came back she is pregnant,i wont lie i asked her to abort it she vehemently refused i had no option than to let her be but told her i will have notthing to do with her and our only business is the child,less i forget i did a DNA test after she gave birth and it shows am the father
Now my girlfriend learnt about it and she became devastated it really got to her and after accusing me of leaving her just cause she isnt my tribe she broke up with me
After like 6 months i meet another amazing lady told her my story and she was cool with it since am no longer with any of them,note initially she declined that she is scared they wil one day come especially my child's mum,it took me a while to convince her otherwise
The problem now is this my family are of the opionin that i should continue with the one that has a child for me and that my child happiness should come first,now Esther recently started calling me that she is sorry for judging me that she meet with my child's mother and she confirnmed our only business is our daughter
Am confused,i dnt know what to do,should i just be with someone i dnt love so my daughter wont grow up in a broken home or should i just continue with Esther considering what we have been through after 3 years and or should they just remain in my past and continue with Nnenna my new amazing girl who had to qiut her habit just for me while taking care of my child
Nlners this my dilemma ingnore errors please not in my right frame of mind

Hmmmm OP, na dem dey rush you

1. Nkeiru already had a daughter, now has another for you [ baby factory ]
2. "i was drunk", "i never made any move" --- Bruh stop lying
3. Esther called you to plead saying she is sorry
4. Nnenna your new amazing girl who had to quit her habit just for you, while taking care of your child.

My broda, dem dey really rush you

Can you imagine

Your baby mama took advantage of you so first thing first, she's out of the equation.

Esther did what any lady would do, but her feelings made her return to you. That's strong enough to keep her forever.

The new girl is yet to experience conditions which will require her to forgive you anything, so her nature is hiding behind "not Bleep up no problems". In short you are yet to know what her other side looks like.

The real deal now is to measure the quality of Esther with the new girl to know if she's really what you want in place of Esther, ladies have a way of hiding their real self until they have what they want. No saying the new lady could be pretending to accept your kid, but she may have other intentions, Afterall it took you a while to convince her. Am sure at the back of her mind, there is a 50-50% chance of her staying or going, while for Esther there is 90% chance of her staying, even 95%.

In the situation you put yourself, what you need is someone who loves you more than you love her, only that person can choose to overlook this flaws and mess you've created. You know who all the arrows point to, choose wisely.

May God be with you bro.

chris2face:
Good day Ladies and Genetlemen here
Please am currently in a mess,but before u crucify me please read through
I meet Esther and we feel in love with each other,she isnt from my tribe but i love her very much,3 years into dating i made the bigest mistake of my life,i meet Nkeiru my tribe
Nkeiru is a single mum going through tough times,on one occasion her daugter became very sick and she came crying to me since i could help i helped her by paying for her daughter's hospital bills (my biggest mistake) since she is igbo we came friends just ordinary friends then on eve of new year,i hosted my club members and since they are all igbos i decided to asked Nkeiru to come assisct me in cooking since my girlfriend is not igbo and at that point she lost her Dad and went for the buriel
After everything she said is already late and couldnt go that night long story cut short we had sex how it happened i dont know for real all i remembered and still remember is that i was drunk that night dont get me wrong i never made any move only woke up to find her beside me stack naked
I was mad asked her to leave my house and never come close to me her response was that given a second chance she d' still do what she did how am a good guy despite helping her finacially i never asked for anything in return i made her leave and never ever come close to me but faith has others things in mind
One month after she came back she is pregnant,i wont lie i asked her to abort it she vehemently refused i had no option than to let her be but told her i will have notthing to do with her and our only business is the child,less i forget i did a DNA test after she gave birth and it shows am the father
Now my girlfriend learnt about it and she became devastated it really got to her and after accusing me of leaving her just cause she isnt my tribe she broke up with me
After like 6 months i meet another amazing lady told her my story and she was cool with it since am no longer with any of them,note initially she declined that she is scared they wil one day come especially my child's mum,it took me a while to convince her otherwise
The problem now is this my family are of the opionin that i should continue with the one that has a child for me and that my child happiness should come first,now Esther recently started calling me that she is sorry for judging me that she meet with my child's mother and she confirnmed our only business is our daughter
Am confused,i dnt know what to do,should i just be with someone i dnt love so my daughter wont grow up in a broken home or should i just continue with Esther considering what we have been through after 3 years and or should they just remain in my past and continue with Nnenna my new amazing girl who had to qiut her habit just for me while taking care of my child
Nlners this my dilemma ingnore errors please not in my right frame of mind

In the words address to Khan in the movie, 'My name is Khan, even this one, I can't fix.

Lol, you are confused.

Okay this is super messed up.

Your Baby mama is a No! if you want peace of mind in life.

Your former Girl friend will most likely make the burden easier for you

Let the new girl go. #Ifonlyitbethateasy

Better you than me bro, sucks to be in your shoes man!.

Ur banga don ripe....enjoy

Just kill ursef..

Chris2life, listen and listen very careful, what your parent said is what you must adhere.

@Op, this is a great analysis of the situation. If I were u, I’ll go with this. Sorry, life doesn’t always workout the way we plan it. Do the needful.

SenorFax:
Your baby mama took advantage of you so first thing first, she's out of the equation.

Esther did what any lady would do, but her feelings made her return to you. That's strong enough to keep her forever.

The new girl is yet to experience conditions which will require her to forgive you anything, so her nature is hiding behind "not Bleep up no problems". In short you are yet to know what her other side looks like.

The real deal now is to measure the quality of Esther with the new girl to know if she's really what you want in place of Esther, ladies have a way of hiding their real self until they have what they want. No saying the new lady could be pretending to accept your kid, but she may have other intentions, Afterall it took you a while to convince her. Am sure at the back of her mind, there is a 50-50% chance of her staying or going, while for Esther there is 90% chance of her staying, even 95%.

In the situation you put yourself, what you need is someone who loves you more than you love her, only that person can choose to overlook this flaws and mess you've created. You know who all the arrows point to, choose wisely.

May God be with you bro.

rottennaija:


In the words address to Khan in the movie, 'My name is Khan, even this one, I can't fix.

Kindly move on if u have got nothing tangible to say

SenorFax:
Your baby mama took advantage of you so first thing first, she's out of the equation.

Esther did what any lady would do, but her feelings made her return to you. That's strong enough to keep her forever.

The new girl is yet to experience conditions which will require her to forgive you anything, so her nature is hiding behind "not Bleep up no problems". In short you are yet to know what her other side looks like.

The real deal now is to measure the quality of Esther with the new girl to know if she's really what you want in place of Esther, ladies have a way of hiding their real self until they have what they want. No saying the new lady could be pretending to accept your kid, but she may have other intentions, Afterall it took you a while to convince her. Am sure at the back of her mind, there is a 50-50% chance of her staying or going, while for Esther there is 90% chance of her staying, even 95%.

In the situation you put yourself, what you need is someone who loves you more than you love her, only that person can choose to overlook this flaws and mess you've created. You know who all the arrows point to, choose wisely.

May God be with you bro.

Thanks so much bro i really appreciate am thinking of the same thing,the devil i no i think will be better than an angel i dnt no but i never envisalged that Esther will come

QueenSekxy:
Lol, you are confused.

I wouldnt be here if am not confused

SilentBang:
Okay this is super messed up.

Your Baby mama is a No! if you want peace of mind in life.

Your former Girl friend will most likely make the burden easier for you

Let the new girl go. #Ifonlyitbethateasy

Better you than me bro, sucks to be in your shoes man!.

Thanks bro is not been easy for me these days i keep saying if only i had waited a little longer now t dont know how to jilt her considering that was her intial fear

chris2face:

Thanks so much bro i really appreciate am thinking of the same thing,the devil i no i think will be better than an angel i dnt no but i never envisalged that Esther will come

Yeah, but she has. And guess what, she thought about her options and decided to stay. Never loose such girl

donbachi:
Ur banga don ripe....enjoy

Enjoy kee whats there to enjoy bros if u want to mock me just go ahead and not this please

mrkings84:
Just kill ursef..

Delicate situation am in but i d' never consider taking my life that is so mean

SenorFax:

Yeah, but she has. And guess what, she thought about her options and decided to stay. Never loose such girl

Thanks God bless u for me

Lonestar124:
Chris2life, listen and listen very careful, what your parent said is what you must adhere.

I have thought about that but for the first time in my life i will have to disobey them,i cant see my self staying a full day with her
thanks anyways

cruchenutii:
Hmmmm OP, na dem dey rush you

This is not a joke please stop joking with someones feeling please

SenorFax:
Your baby mama took advantage of you so first thing first, she's out of the equation.

Esther did what any lady would do, but her feelings made her return to you. That's strong enough to keep her forever.

The new girl is yet to experience conditions which will require her to forgive you anything, so her nature is hiding behind "not Bleep up no problems". In short you are yet to know what her other side looks like.

The real deal now is to measure the quality of Esther with the new girl to know if she's really what you want in place of Esther, ladies have a way of hiding their real self until they have what they want. No saying the new lady could be pretending to accept your kid, but she may have other intentions, Afterall it took you a while to convince her. Am sure at the back of her mind, there is a 50-50% chance of her staying or going, while for Esther there is 90% chance of her staying, even 95%.

In the situation you put yourself, what you need is someone who loves you more than you love her, only that person can choose to overlook this flaws and mess you've created. You know who all the arrows point to, choose wisely.

May God be with you bro.

This is really deep and rich in meaning.... I salute u. best piece of advice I have ever come across on NL where people often times post trashy comments. please continue

blujoi:
@Op, this is a great analysis of the situation. If I were u, I’ll go with this. Sorry, life doesn’t always workout the way we plan it. Do the needful.

Thanks i have settled for that but my problem is how jilt Nnenna without hurting her

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chris2face:

Thanks i have settled for that but my problem is how jilt Nnenna without hurting her

You don't have to jilt her. Let her know things got complicated, your family is involved and she will be caught up in a bigger mess than you expected, that if anything comes up in the nearest future she won't have to point to the day you convinced her to stay. Think about it, your family will prefer the one that gave you a baby, but their second choice will still fall on the one you've dated for 3years based on familiarity concept (am even sure they choose the baby mama because Esther left). If the new girl is smart enough, she will gladly accept your offer, which was her early offer. She has nothing to loose, but she has every fight to fight should she choose to continue.

SenorFax:
Your baby mama took advantage of you so first thing first, she's out of the equation.

Esther did what any lady would do, but her feelings made her return to you. That's strong enough to keep her forever.

The new girl is yet to experience conditions which will require her to forgive you anything, so her nature is hiding behind "not Bleep up no problems". In short you are yet to know what her other side looks like.

The real deal now is to measure the quality of Esther with the new girl to know if she's really what you want in place of Esther, ladies have a way of hiding their real self until they have what they want. No saying the new lady could be pretending to accept your kid, but she may have other intentions, Afterall it took you a while to convince her. Am sure at the back of her mind, there is a 50-50% chance of her staying or going, while for Esther there is 90% chance of her staying, even 95%.

In the situation you put yourself, what you need is someone who loves you more than you love her, only that person can choose to overlook this flaws and mess you've created. You know who all the arrows point to, choose wisely.

May God be with you bro.

Superb analysis from a brilliant mind!

Taaah! Heheh! Hohoho! Mogbe my nigga no b my case bt am confused also.

The battle is between Esther and the new girl. But I rather advice you as my own brother, go for the lady that understands you better

SenorFax:

You don't have to jilt her. Let her know things got complicated, your family is involved and she will be caught up in a bigger mess than you expected, that if anything comes up in the nearest future she won't have to point to the day you convinced her to stay. Think about it, your family will prefer the one that gave you a baby, but their second choice will still fall on the one you've dated for 3years based on familiarity concept (am even sure they choose the baby mama because Esther left). If the new girl is smart enough, she will gladly accept your offer, which was her early offer. She has nothing to loose, but she has every fight to fight should she choose to continue.

will do just that,thanks

Wilfredpat22:
The battle is between Esther and the new girl. But I rather advice you as my own brother, go for the lady that understands you better

Thanks Nwannem