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The Nigerian Girl And The Mentality by ariesbull: 2:55pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
I can’t marry a man who doesn’t have a job and earns a decent salary enough to take care of a man, wife and at least a child. I can’t marry a man who can’t afford at least a 2-bedroom apartment. There’s a minimum level below which I can’t go. If I were a man, I would NOT marry a woman who doesn’t have a job, or self-employed with something that earns her at least enough money to take care of two people. *-* Most men I meet now want to know my level of education, what I do for money, and my future ambition. These are the FIRST few questions they ask. I do NOT blame them at all. These are also some of the FIRST SEVEN questions I ask. *-* Dear ladies, Gone are the days when you will graduate, do NYSC and sit in your “papa house” with pancake on your face, waiting for a Prince Charming to come and rescue you out of your money-less husband-less state. MOST men now want women who are earning, and ambitious. Even rich abroad guys. Do you know why “abroad guys” like nurses or girls who are interested in studying nursing or medical courses? It’s because it’s pretty relatively easy to get a job as a nurse or healthcare professional, almost anywhere in the world. These guys don’t want liabilities who would depend on them for money to buy sanitary pads. And they also want someone who will serve as a backbone, hold the forth and bail them out IF they run into financial crisis. But then, most importantly, get something doing for YOURSELF and for your self-esteem and self-preservation. When men graduate or attain a certain age, they start hustling to earn at least enough money to start a family. Girls should be doing same. At least, make an effort. Your vagina doesn’t incapacitate you. Every female human has a vagina. That’s about half the world’s population. What makes you stand out from other “vagina-possessing” humans? *-* Happy Sunday, and God bless you. ❤️❤️❤️ 6 Likes |
Re: The Nigerian Girl And The Mentality by Lonestar124: 3:01pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
I still believe they're many hardworking ladies outside there. |
Re: The Nigerian Girl And The Mentality by MrSensor(m): 3:02pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
as if I will be paid for reading this. |
Re: The Nigerian Girl And The Mentality by Nobody: 3:12pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
for this sunday afternoon |
Re: The Nigerian Girl And The Mentality by Nobody: 3:22pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
ariesbull:dear ladies, if this poster is a woman, then she is what we call bob the builder. A true alpha male would like to know her background true, but to get someone who will pay bills with him? Only losers behave like that. Upon splitting the bills, he will still cheat. ladies be wise. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Nigerian Girl And The Mentality by ibkayee(f): 3:24pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
funmisticqueen:Lmao |
Re: The Nigerian Girl And The Mentality by ibkayee(f): 3:42pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Since when? The average Nigerian man is not looking for a woman who is financially stable or ambitious because how else would they get you to agree to everything they say whether good or bad, the type of 'ambitious' woman they want is only on paper lol. They will always prefer women who are dependant on them 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Nigerian Girl And The Mentality by Nobody: 3:48pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
ibkayee:says who? Incase you didn't notice buhari is still our president. |
Re: The Nigerian Girl And The Mentality by EpicMaurice(m): 3:56pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
me I sha know I'm only going to school so I can come and dump my cert after graduation and sit in my house and wait for a rich, working woman who has atleast 2 cars and her own house to come and marry me 1 Like |
Re: The Nigerian Girl And The Mentality by ednut1(m): 4:03pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Most men cannot handle the independent/buoyant woman they say they want. Those kind women no dey take shit and would walk out easily from the marriage. . Majority of nigerian men prefer dependent women abeg. Na y u go see guy of 30 marrying 400l or nysc babe 1 Like |
Re: The Nigerian Girl And The Mentality by ibkayee(f): 4:12pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
ednut1:
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Re: The Nigerian Girl And The Mentality by ibkayee(f): 4:14pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
SilentWisper:Lol of course they won’t mind it when they’re in a situation where they don’t have any choice |
Re: The Nigerian Girl And The Mentality by Nobody: 4:18pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
YAWN!!! |
Re: The Nigerian Girl And The Mentality by Fiducia: 4:18pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
First of all your topic is wrong Not all Nigerian girls have that mentality And there are girls in Kenya, China and America with that mentality. So its not about being a Nigerian. To every lady reading this, the op has a point. Invest in yourself, learn a skill, be independent, be an asset not a liability, a blessing to your prince charming not a burden. 2 Likes |
Re: The Nigerian Girl And The Mentality by Fourwinds: 4:28pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
ariesbull:Oboy I just love this write up.... It says the truth and nothing but the truth |
Re: The Nigerian Girl And The Mentality by Saff(f): 4:42pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
A bloody lie Men love women that they have financial abundance over. They don’t want to compete with their women. This is not only Nigerian men, it’s men all around the world. That’s why older men love chasing young girls, because they know they can dominate financially with no competition. Honestly if a woman is young and beautiful, Not much going on for herself, she’s more likely to find a man to wife her, than a independent woman who’s hardworking. That’s just the truth. So let’s stop trying to sugar coat things, let’s face reality. |
Re: The Nigerian Girl And The Mentality by sod09(m): 4:52pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
ibkayee:says who...it's actually Naija ladies mentality to be dependent on guys, hardly will you see one with ambition to hustle. |
Re: The Nigerian Girl And The Mentality by Oreofepeters: 5:27pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
nairaland ladies won't like this |
Re: The Nigerian Girl And The Mentality by Gerrard59(m): 5:31pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
sod09: They've come again with baseless assumptions. Say "my environment, one hardly see ladies with the ambition to hustle". Don't be making hasty generalisations everywhere. And no, it's not just Nigerian ladies' mentality that they want to be dependent. It goes both ways. Men desire ladies that they have more than and women prefer men that have more economic resources than they do. |
Re: The Nigerian Girl And The Mentality by sod09(m): 5:53pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Gerrard59:you welcome Mr asslicker |
Re: The Nigerian Girl And The Mentality by mrbaba18(m): 6:33pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Saff:after marriage wat nxt liability nd frustration c let me tel u an independent woman cn handle ha home without d husband been disturbed dnt b deceived every man wants a helper nt a beautiful nonsense |
Re: The Nigerian Girl And The Mentality by jashar(f): 6:53pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
As long as a lady is paying her bills legally and morally, I see no reason why she shouldn't have standards and preferences when it comes to a choice of a marriage partner... |
Re: The Nigerian Girl And The Mentality by ibkayee(f): 7:08pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
sod09:Plenty of ambition-less Nigerian girls leaning on men to survive too |
Re: The Nigerian Girl And The Mentality by LordKO(m): 7:23pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Good points. Meanwhile, while working towards financial emancipation, be success conscious rather than money conscious, and put more effort towards ethical emancipation. Because a financially emancipated woman who's contentious, self-centered and/or greedy is worse than a non-financially emancipated/unproductive but resourceful woman who's meek yet outspoken and contented. A dependent woman who's both unproductive and unresourceful, and insatiable and contentious isn't an option. A financially emancipated woman who's contentious, self-centered and/or greedy is not different from a man who doesn't believe in gender equality, mutual respect, loyalty, etc, and assumption of responsibility that comes with headship - one who's impunity personified. Money embedded in ethical toxicity (irrelevant of the gender of the accumulator) doesn't bring inner peace to the beneficiaries. Being small-minded is a sin. To the proponents of "Nigerian men are afraid of marrying independent women" that's balderdash. Being financially emancipated doesn't automatically make anyone (man or woman) independent. All independent women are financially emancipated (either directly or indirectly), but not all financially emancipated women are independent. Women who're truly independent always command the respect and association of all sane and sound men - a woman's marital/relationship status should never be used as a yardstick to quantify her character. Being a working class/business owner doesn't automatically mean being financially emancipated, just as being financially emancipated doesn't automatically mean being independent. An independent woman will always be a top pick for every sane and sound man. Independent women are rare to find anywhere in the world. 2 Likes |
Re: The Nigerian Girl And The Mentality by Gerrard59(m): 10:39pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
sod09: Next time, stop writing unsubstantiated BS online. |
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