I'm in my twenties and I've not 'toasted' a girl before, or even given it a thought. The girls I've had things with are always the ones who come to me with luv on their lips(not blowing any trumpet, the attraction is natural, they tell me). Now I met this girl in school who is slowly getting into me, we call each other now and then (and she kept in touch with me during the holiday to make sure we resumed the same day), but act a bit formal in class(though she'd be sure to stay around me all day). I believe she is waiting for me to take the bold step as the guy, but given my past experience, I think it's degrading to tell her how I feel. Is it?

We have the same experience. So I don't know

And must downgrading for her to ask you out. Dont you think so

Just man up and talk to her

aint nothing degrading bout that

Whats degrading about askin a girl out?

@iice,how are we doing this morning?

I was in your shoes 3wks ago.well, I told her how i felt and it changed everything.
d gurl dat usually call doesn't call anymore.i wuz d one calling her.
Somehw, i felt her feelings for me diminished.
B/4 i wuz d guy dat doesn't call n she complain dat am nt open.nw i told her my feelings n we don't talk anymore.i don't call.she doesn't call.soõ much tension and 'something i don't know' btw us nw. But your's(poster) might be different.think really hard,she might start to see you as Weak.make a decision and be ready for d consequences.

No toasting, no spooning, no smooching and no dating.

Asking a girl out starts with toasting, except she is a hawker, so you do not need to waste your time talking too much. Just show her the money.

Not degrading ma "Guy in ur twenties". I once told a girl my mind and she "Change am for me". Telling me how she's dating another guy and all that crap. Since then, i dey change am for them. The attraction has to come all so naturally so we can both make moves on ourselves. I'm married now so make una no spoil me

Guy first how old are you?
You still dey secondary school?

if you know you are small then wait till when you will be capable.
stupid post

very very degrading. Give me her info and i will help u pass the message

fanscon:

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Csc42554:

Guy first how old are you?
You still dey secondary school?

if you know you are small then wait till when you will be capable.
silly post

the dumbest posters of the day!

@violent thank you mr i too sabi

Csc42554:

Guy first how old are you?
You still dey secondary school?

if you know you are small then wait till when you will be capable.
silly post

u shuld av checkd his profile

It depends on what you would want to say to her.
I think all you need do is let her know you appreciate and admire her person and company.
No sex talk just yet, or you risk having a negative twist in the relationship, depending on her values.
Just keep things simple for now, and allow things fall into place naturally.
Good luck!

but, how come Ur name is slap1, abi na first one u tried to toast slap u. oh! bad experience. u better go read Ur book before u go fail for school, that's my advice.

slap1:

I'm in my twenties and I've not 'toasted' a girl before, or even given it a thought. The girls I've had things with are always the ones who come to me with luv on their lips(not blowing any trumpet, the attraction is natural, they tell me). Now I met this girl in school who is slowly getting into me, we call each other now and then (and she kept in touch with me during the holiday to make sure we resumed the same day), but act a bit formal in class(though she'd be sure to stay around me all day). I believe she is waiting for me to take the bold step as the guy, but given my past experience, I think it's degrading to tell her how I feel. Is it?

Slap1 are you sure you are in ABSU?

guy, u r not d only one in that boat. i see no reason why a guy should toast a lady. we can be mutual friend and live our lives that way.
and when it comes to d relationship aspect, i believe things can be done based on understanding. you guy know u like/love each other take it from there and let it grow

slap1:

I'm in my twenties and I've not 'toasted' a girl before, or even given it a thought. The girls I've had things with are always the ones who come to me with luv on their lips(not blowing any trumpet, the attraction is natural, they tell me). Now I met this girl in school who is slowly getting into me, we call each other now and then (and she kept in touch with me during the holiday to make sure we resumed the same day), but act a bit formal in class(though she'd be sure to stay around me all day). I believe she is waiting for me to take the bold step as the guy, but given my past experience, I think it's degrading to tell her how I feel. Is it?

Ma guy u don straff am? If not wetin u dey wait 4? Straff am then tell am all the BS afterwards if she want snub U, then fine n good @ least u don mark register.

Every-every no be desame thing, just like @insanity said. . ."i told her my feelings n we don't talk anymore.i don't call.she doesn't call.soõ much tension and 'something i don't know' btw us nw. But your's(poster) might be different.think really hard,she might start to see you as Weak.make a decision and be ready for d consequences."  

To me it depends on how u and the gurl dey flow. if u know say she dey always dey by u all the time, then make u know say she herself don make up her mind say she want date u but she dey wait make u make first make move. but as i take dey do my own be say. . .such situation like this, i no go make move at all. the way wey both of us dey parol, we don toast each other be that, and b4 u know it, we don start to dey sweet dey go! but every-every no be desame O! mine fit click make ur's be fluke. but i think @Insanity has said it all by saying. . ."make a decision and be ready for d consequence!

why shud it be?

iice:

It's not degrading. But then again, you do what feels natural and comfortable for you.

Beautiful. . .@Double N, I'm in ABSU, are u d school's gate-man?

coschuks:

but, how come your name is slap1, abi na first one u tried to toast slap u. oh! bad experience. u better go read your book before u go fail for school, that's my advice.

failures are always obsessed about failure.

coschuks:

but, how come your name is slap1, abi na first one u tried to toast slap u. oh! bad experience. u better go read your book before u go fail for school, that's my advice.

failures are always obsessed about failure.

LOL, Slap1 my friend i cant believe you are the one saying this, LOL

Anyway i feel what ure saying, really guys do less toasting these days because the girls who l.ike you cant risk waiting for you to fall in line so they get you in line before you know it.

However, as to the girl in question i see GREEN light all over the place, there are serveral ways of belling the cat, depending on what she will appreciate, it might sound premedivial but you can start by writing her emotional notes(poems), if she is touched she will start a conversation about it and gbam! you can let the cat out of the bag. Its easier when the conversation in that direction starts from her of course with your note.

or simple bite the bullet by walking her back to her room/hostel/or whatever ask her what she has done to you that you cant spend time with anything or nyone else, she will proberdly ask what you men or just laugh it off, get serious and ask her as if its a serious issue, then tell her the rest, i can believe i am writing this, you know berra man, be a Man!

slap1:

Beautiful. . .@Double N, I'm in ABSU, are u d school's gate-man?

If i was i would have taken you to the famous 'sanko' [/b]and giving you a good flogging!How can you be surrounded by all those pretty faces and you are scared of 'toasting'? Summon up courage my boy and stop being a woozy and let the lady know what is up on your mind (Dont say i love you sha  ) before you delay too long and she ends up with your friend and all you can is [b]'Had i known'! .

^^Sanko no dey fear me, lol. Are u in d skul? I'm in Hostel B,(300L, u get?).Cheers. @Odia, how about dat chic in Milano. . . . . ?

slap1:

^^Sanko no dey fear me, lol. Are u in d skul? I'm in Hostel B,(300L, u get?).Cheers. @Odia, how about dat chic in Milano. . . . . ?

Ok o! I'm one of dem old soldiers,left in 06. Hostel C no far from you na,you can hone your skills there.

@Poster:

If you must own up and drop the toasting bomb shell, you must do it in such a way as not to decrease "her attraction-index for you" which for now I think is very high. Sometimes, the fact that you have not owned up on how you feel may be the life-blood of her attraction for you in the first place.

If you own up wrongly, it may simply mean something else to her, something like - "He is not such a big catch after all".

I guess what I want to say is "Toast her while not making her feel that you cant do without her"

And if she tries to pull away from you. Then use the reverse psychology skill of "pulling away even faster". Next thing you know, she is all over you again.

This is experience speaking (several)

Am not sure its degrading. Its only natural for a guy to ask a girl out and not the other way round. Be bold and pray,

no its painful to realise ur no more the fine boy girls used to toast, now u don wowo, work hard for ur girl