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|Re: . by Nobody: 9:48am On Oct 04, 2018|
StrongandMighty:You are too emotionally vulnerable to be in a relationship. It's one thing to grow in stature, age, academics, finance etc, it is another thing to Grow emotionally. If a lady or anyone can get you to lose your sleep, mind and happiness then it shows though you are emotionally sensitive, you are not emotionally intelligent.
Emotional intelligence is the capacity to control your emotions. The ability to interact/ react to people in a refined and composed manner irrespective of how tenuous the situation may be. The ability to control your thoughts. I think you need to master that.
I'd suggest you talk to your lady, let her see your problem and request for a break. Believe me you can't solve your problem when you are in it. A clear break is required here. Focus and work on yourself and be a better person. 23 is the age to grow not the time to add burden of another. Relationship itself is draining.
|Re: . by Manpoly: 9:49am On Oct 04, 2018|
Bruh I need 2 get my old self back.. I was so happy and full of life when this girl wasn't there.. But see me now.. Am drowning
try wat I told u to do first.. let's see aw it works before d week runs out....and if doesn't we will find another way for u ...just ask her later today....and clear urself...u will see u will sleep well and u might gain her trust back
|Re: . by Saff(f): 9:53am On Oct 04, 2018|
Young and dumb. You’ll get over it.
|Re: . by StrongandMighty: 10:00am On Oct 04, 2018|
|Re: . by Maduawuchukwu(m): 10:02am On Oct 04, 2018|
I think you have got limerence. It is obsessive romantic thoughts. You are not in love. You merely have what is called OCD which causes compulsive thoughts about what you care about the most. It happens to me too.
Try to distract yourself or if it is unbearable you can go see a doctor and get anti-depressants or anti-anxiety medications.
Welcome to the club bro!!!!!
|Re: . by StrongandMighty: 10:02am On Oct 04, 2018|
Saff:I might agree with you that am young bt I'm not dump.. I was so caught up in situation.. If getting over it is dat easy why haven't I gotten over it despite all my efforts
|Re: . by MichaelBukamzy(m): 10:03am On Oct 04, 2018|
StrongandMighty:bia nwoke m,why are u stressing her nah? she has already given u tangible advice and tips on how to go about this,and you aint getting it. A girl you aint married to,stole your heart,mind,sanity and focus and you still dont wanna retrieve them with the numerous tips dished out here. if you are this insecure now,what will happen if u eventually get married to her. You are afraid of conducting an fbi investigation because,u are afraid of your greatest fear.u get luck say men like biafrabushboy,donstan18,lefulefu,delugajackson,mimimile93 no dey,dem for give u beta uppercut Dey there make pant dey wear u,yabaleft dey lack patients sha.
|Re: . by StrongandMighty: 10:05am On Oct 04, 2018|
Maduawuchukwu:This is my first time of hearing this... And with the way it sounds it looks like I've gotten myself in a deep mess
|Re: . by StrongandMighty: 10:07am On Oct 04, 2018|
MichaelBukamzy:Am not afraid of conducting any investigation just that I don't know how to go abt it.. It's not as easy as it seems
|Re: . by SlayQueenSlayer(m): 10:09am On Oct 04, 2018|
And they said love is a beautiful thing o.
|Re: . by StrongandMighty: 10:14am On Oct 04, 2018|
Manpoly:OK bro.. I'll keep in touch with you
I hope it works bcuz ur boy is drowning in diz pool called love
|Re: . by Maduawuchukwu(m): 10:15am On Oct 04, 2018|
Nope u are not in deep poo. The traits were in you. Something just brought it out. Try to ignore it but if you can't then pay a visit to the doctor. It is nothing.
|Re: . by StrongandMighty: 10:16am On Oct 04, 2018|
SlayQueenSlayer:Yes it is... Wen u get bk d amount of energy you give out.. Wen it's been reciprocated in equal proportion
|Re: . by Ghnaija(m): 10:17am On Oct 04, 2018|
Bro I can see a lot of nice response here, but let me put it this way what of if she is not having this kind of tought also ,you just dey suffer yourself for nothing if she is urs she is.if she is not she will surely go so why stress yourself over nothing. Bro most of us don pass break ups but we moved on. Pls take it easy
|Re: . by Nobody: 10:18am On Oct 04, 2018|
StrongandMighty:Search Google, read articles and books on it. Be careful to filter what you read though, don't end up reading books on red pills and bad boy stuff. Those won't help, be wise enough to read articles that will make you a better person in life not a bad boy of the moment.
You have to make a choice, a burdened heart or a free heart? As for the lady, speak to her. Tell her what's going on, involve her. She may be of better help and break up may be evitable. But you need some space.
|Re: . by MichaelBukamzy(m): 10:32am On Oct 04, 2018|
StrongandMighty:oga,reduce her importance to your life.reduce your texts,calls and occupy your mind with more important issues. always dey with ur guys. they will help u talk more on premier league,hustling,identifying bitches,betting.highness and many more meaningfull arguements. guy man up nah,stop being a pussy.
|Re: . by KingErnesto(m): 10:33am On Oct 04, 2018|
|Re: . by KingErnesto(m): 10:33am On Oct 04, 2018|
A wise man once said "if you have not found satisfaction in the Love of God, you cannot find it in a partner". If you're a believer you need to envelop your mind n thoughts more on the things of God to know him better. You're feeling what u feel because there's a vacuum and it's telling u a lie that u need someone. What u need is to love yourself and Love God, then you can be at ease and peace. . You're living a life of illusion, it's high time u broke free and be disillusioned.
OP you have to guard your heart with all diligence. Take a break and keep your mind busy with things that can add more value to YOURSELF. You don't know your worth that's why you are dieing to the fear of REJECTION.
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|Re: . by StrongandMighty: 10:33am On Oct 04, 2018|
Ghnaija:So in ur opinion I should stop worrying.. What will be will be
|Re: . by StrongandMighty: 10:35am On Oct 04, 2018|
MichaelBukamzy:Thanks bruh.. I wasn't like this B4.. Am even surprised at what am doing ryt now.. I wonder how I got to this point
|Re: . by StrongandMighty: 10:37am On Oct 04, 2018|
KingErnesto:A nyc write up without a good ending.. Tnkz doh
|Re: . by KingErnesto(m): 10:39am On Oct 04, 2018|
Forgive me. But you need to know your worth and add more value to urself.
|Re: . by Nobody: 10:40am On Oct 04, 2018|
KingErnesto:You don't have to spit.
You almost ruined a beautiful message because of that
|Re: . by Maduawuchukwu(m): 10:46am On Oct 04, 2018|
If you have fear of dying you will be disturbed by thoughts that you are gonna die.
If you have fear of being cheated on you will be disturbed by thoughts that you are being cheated on.
Anything you fear will disturb you.
The solution is to stop looking for certainty. Stop asking questions and go with the flow.
|Re: . by StrongandMighty: 10:46am On Oct 04, 2018|
MariaLavina:Thanks so much ... I never knew I'll be doing diz
Am not a bad boy nd I'll nva be.. I spent 5yrs in university without being one so it certainly won't strt now..
I will talk to her about it
|Re: . by StrongandMighty: 10:47am On Oct 04, 2018|
KingErnesto:That's so true.. I think low self esteem is part of my problem
|Re: . by Nobody: 10:48am On Oct 04, 2018|
StrongandMighty:You are welcome.
Please do, You will be fine.
|Re: . by StrongandMighty: 10:50am On Oct 04, 2018|
Maduawuchukwu:I understand ur point... You should also understand that it hasn't been easy for me dats why I brought it here
|Re: . by StrongandMighty: 10:51am On Oct 04, 2018|
Maduawuchukwu:OK thanks.. I'll try my best to ignore it
|Re: . by MichaelBukamzy(m): 10:52am On Oct 04, 2018|
StrongandMighty:guy,you are a man.you got the key,use your brain. all those girls advising you to let her know that she is your heart beat(as u made us know)if she finds out that you are drowning like you said,and you really need her to survive,samson and delilah will be your case. besides,at your early twenty when you are not ready for courtship,you are dating a girl that is still blossoming without a plan B? YOUR MIND DEY TELL YOU SAY NA ONLY YOU SHE GET?hahahaha,get ready for the shocker. am your age mate,and just like many other guys of our age,we don pass this level.
|Re: . by KingErnesto(m): 10:57am On Oct 04, 2018|
I overreacted. I've been there. The feeling of just being depressed, insecured over people is not just worth it.
Look at the time he spent to articulate his feelings. As at that hour the lady was probably even sleeping. I think he should channel that energy into self development and values.
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