Family first, then the Job

In real world it is work  first as the family will not know him when he does not have money. He just have to come to the reality of balance as is your family that will stay with you and see the importance in relationship. I will also say before you start to take this as an issue i will suggest you flash back and look at how he does before the marriage and how you responded to it. I know most ladies compare and contrast and then judgement starts. If he has changed from whom you know then need for worry if not is all about making ends meet. You will need to locate a suitable time you can discuss your concerns. He might me working in an organisation where those who work at fixed hours are frowned at and you have to work till late to justify you hardworking. You dont know but you need to find out before you start working things out in your end.

I am sure he does not work 24/7 365 even computers dont so there will be times when he put his family first. It could be on sundays so enjoy that time instead of woring about his working pattern. If he does not have anytime at all then there is something wrong somewhere and that something could be with him, you etc

Get busy. Absence makes the heart grow fond.

Also read widely and keep abreast of current news. A man loves to sparr intellectually and intelligently with his wife.
If you're not smart, then what's the use of having any discussions with you?

I put family first . Because they had support me lot of time in my career and give advice for my future.They always support me on my advice.

Family first for me.

Hi,

I may have a different view, mayb because, ma husband n i both work on d island, I can relate to ur husband who ends up beiing very tired at night, its d work-load during d day. and yea, its easy to say, he sleepin with some gal or sometin, bt, dats such a dumb assumption for me.

In lagos, wre i work, u r either working ur ass off, or jobless, n 4rm wot u said, u husband is working his ass off, d least u can do is to understand his plight, trust mi, he doesnt like dat he cant gist with u at night, jeez, i can bearly even do a proper 2min conversation with ma husband, despite d fact dat we come n go together, everyday!!! believe mi, at d end of d day, u simply cant help urself, n i just wanna sleep!cos am tiking i'd be up by 5am d next day,

At some point u'l realize dat wen he's on vacation or a short-break, he's gonna be alot different, someone talked abt d weekend, is dre really a weekend?! with family functions n religions outings, common, d man needs d break, for mi, i need both a break n a week of sleep!!!

So, one ting u can do for yourself, get a job. Atleast, one dat'l keep u occupied, n neva stop loving ur husband, nor shd it ever cross ur mind dat dres some gal out dre, it doesnt help.

The word is balance, but dat in its self is very difficult to achieve.

cheers

No job is important than the family, your husband might have someone, by the way, and giving a cheap excuse.

Tobiegal:

Hi,

I may have a different view, mayb because, ma husband n i both work on d island, I can relate to your husband who ends up beiing very tired at night, its d work-load during d day. and yea, its easy to say, he sleepin with some gal or sometin, bt, dats such a dumb assumption for me.

In lagos, wre i work, u r either working your backside off, or jobless, n 4rm wot u said, u husband is working his backside off, d least u can do is to understand his plight, trust mi, he doesnt like dat he cant gist with u at night, jeez, i can bearly even do a proper 2min conversation with ma husband, despite d fact dat we come n go together, everyday!!! believe mi, at d end of d day, u simply cant help urself, n i just wanna sleep!cos am tiking i'd be up by 5am d next day,

At some point u'l realize dat wen he's on vacation or a short-break, he's gonna be alot different, someone talked abt d weekend, is dre really a weekend?! with family functions n religions outings, common, d man needs d break, for mi, i need both a break n a week of sleep!!!

So, one ting u can do for yourself, get a job. Atleast, one dat'l keep u occupied, n neva stop loving your husband, nor shd it ever cross your mind dat dres some gal out dre, it doesnt help.

The word is balance, but dat in its self is very difficult to achieve.

cheers

Sensible posts. No one could have experienced what working on the Island is like and not understand. I wake up at 4:15am and get home at 11pm everyday who can do that and still want to talk when at home?

buzugee:

next time when he comes home after work, ambush him with one of the kitchen knife and tell him to drop his trousers or you will stab him in the buttocks. when he takes his trouser off, inch in closer to him and get on your knees and smell his cawk. if his cawk smells like salmon, you know what to do lorena bobbitt 

eja alaran

Lol, Are sure this aint my wife complaining? This sounds just like me, Lol, i am going home to repent, Honey i love you no be lie, na work dey wan finish your guy.

As for me, i wont settle down with a man dat is always busy, not having time for his family. That is trash.

rhemakc:

As for me, i wont settle down with a man dat is always busy, not having time for his family. That is trash.

fair enough, atleast you also wldnt complain if d incomin coming in is less dan u require,

0hsisi:

@ the poster,let me speak from some experience.
I am married to a man who works very hard.
In the earlier days of marriage,I felt like you do now until I saw that he was doing this for us
It was hard,I understand you especially with young kids to take care of but I supported him.

If you're a housewife,I will advice you to go get a job outside the home
You will not appreciate what it means to be exhausted from work until you do it.
You won't be so needy if you occupy yourself working

Wel said, verywel said.

@op, ur papi na handsome guy o, y 'em dey fukk u up lyk dis na?

@Tobiegal, u make sence die sef for dat ur post o, i don dey too fast to worry why @op papi dey fukk 'em style up.

For me, my family is always more important than anything else.
I would do everything for them and I couldn`t be together with a man who loves money and his job more than his family.

It's either ur hubby has an issue with you or he's up to something,no matter how cumbersone his work there should be at least little time 4 the family

Family first but without work the family will not go on well.

My family of course.

Family no doubt !!

But for someone like me, you cant help but feel u let your work down when u have to put your family first sometimes . . . .

But I can NEVER replace FAMILY with work