victorVIC1:

Thanks... The youngest person in her family is through with college. Like what quantity of wine do you suggest?

then the hamper is fine. Ask your fiancée what kind of drinks the father likes. If he drinks alcohol buy him a nice red wine. 2 bottles. Don’t buy 1 of anything please.

baby124:

then the hamper is fine. Ask your fiancée what kind of drinks the father likes. If he drinks alcohol buy him a nice red wine. 2 bottles. Don’t buy 1 of anything please.

Thanks for the useful info

eyinjuege:


Unless things have changed, alaga don't take collections for the bride's family. The groom is already aware of what monies are required by the family as per the list given to him
The list usually given to the groom before the engagement usually includes certain money like 2k for the wives in the family, 2k for that, bride price so so amount. That is part of the list given to the groom which includes yam, fruits, etc.
The MC (alaga) will tell them when to bring out this money, and it's usually in envelopes. That is usually part of the list given to the groom.
Now, some MCs have some gimmicks like saying before the groom and family can enter, they have to pay entrance fees and they pass a bowl round for everyone coming in to contribute. If the groom doesn't answer a question right, claim to fine him and his family and pass the bowl round again. All these money not in the list all goes to the alaga. What some families do, especially to save time and not to disturb their guests is to inform the MC to skip all unnecessary things like that since they have been paid for their job already.
There is a difference between the money already put on the list (which is in envelopes) than the one the MCs will use their "offering bowl" to collect.
I've never heard of any bride's family sharing money collected in The MCs bowl with them. The MCs will never agree to such, as they believe it's their own right. So, what a lot of people do is to ask them not to waste time with such frivolities and go down to the main business of the day. No self respecting family will encourage alaga MC to keep fining their guests, and then even have the audacity to share the money with them. That's very shameful. It may be initially funny the 1st time, by the 2nd fine it's not as funny, but the 3rd time It's no longer funny at all, and people don't have time to waste because alaga wants some extra money in her pocket. They work for you, and shouldn't serve their own agenda at your wedding.

Thanks for the comprehensive response... Greatly appreciate

Acidosis:


so you support this extortion? It's funny how we remember equality on selective items.


Men should learn to walk away from these scenes to teach some "alaga extortion" some deep lessons.

get ready to marry yourself or better still get a white woman. sorry but sometimes,customs can't be helped

mysticgal:

get ready to marry yourself or better still get a white woman. sorry but sometimes,customs can't be helped

seriously hun?

babyfaceafrica:
ma'am..some alagas collect money for the brides family o....most even share all those "fines" collected on percentage with bride family

Never heared of this infact it doesn't happen lailai, all extra money the alaga collects apart from the list of envelopes given to the hubby's family to be paid goes to the ALAGA only ( If there are two Alagas they can decide to pool the funds and share). Infact they make more money from this sometimes more than the amount they charged the family for their service that's why they waste a lot of time sef but nowadays people tell the Alagas what they want: no unnecessary fines, time wasting etc etc.

VictorVIC1 lemme give you a hint on the day of your traditional engagement during the ceremony as you come in if the alaga say you should gbowo( shake her hand) don't shake oo. You ll be fined.

Then Basket of fruits, carton of biscuits, 1 pack of sweet 2pack of canned or bottle drinks is okay for you to take for the intro.

Acidosis:
seriously hun?

uhmm..but that's the truth..I quite there are certain traditions that are ridiculous but I think the alaga thing can't be helped

NoToPile:


Never heared of this infact it doesn't happen lailai, all extra money the alaga collects apart from the list of envelopes given to the hubby's family to be paid goes to the ALAGA only ( If there are two Alagas they can decide to pool the funds and share). Infact they make more money from this sometimes more than the amount they charged the family for their service that's why they waste a lot of time sef but nowadays people tell the Alagas what they want: no unnecessary fines, time wasting etc etc.

VictorVIC1 lemme give you a hint on the day of your traditional engagement during the ceremony as you come in if the alaga say you should gbowo( shake her hand) don't shake oo. You ll be fined.

Then Basket of fruits, carton of biscuits, 1 pack of sweet 2pack of canned or bottle drinks is okay for you to take for the intro.

Perfect...This is so precise. Thanks and God bless

NoToPile:


Never heared of this infact it doesn't happen lailai, all extra money the alaga collects apart from the list of envelopes given to the hubby's family to be paid goes to the ALAGA only ( If there are two Alagas they can decide to pool the funds and share). Infact they make more money from this sometimes more than the amount they charged the family for their service that's why they waste a lot of time sef but nowadays people tell the Alagas what they want: no unnecessary fines, time wasting etc etc.

VictorVIC1 lemme give you a hint on the day of your traditional engagement during the ceremony as you come in if the alaga say you should gbowo( shake her hand) don't shake oo. You ll be fined.

Then Basket of fruits, carton of biscuits, 1 pack of sweet 2pack of canned or bottle drinks is okay for you to take for the intro.

ok

Hi all...Just to keep you posted, the introduction was done last weekend as planned and it was a good success. Her family used an Alaga but it was to make the introduction fun filled. There was no form of harassment or extortion from the Alaga, I didn't find it surprising though as I was certain her family won't condone such.

Thanks and God bless you @ eyinjuege, babyfaceafrica, Elder0001,Acidosis , baby124 , NoToPile and mysticgal

victorVIC1:
Hi all...Just to keep you posted, the introduction was done last weekend as planned and it was a good success. Her family used an Alaga but it was to make the introduction fun filled. There was no form of harassment or extortion from the Alaga, I didn't find it surprising though as though as I was certain her family won't condone such.

Thanks and God bless youl

Congrats on this first step bros, wishing you the best.

Marriage is a wonderful thing

victorVIC1:
Hi all...Just to keep you posted, the introduction was done last weekend as planned and it was a good success. Her family used an Alaga but it was to make the introduction fun filled. There was no form of harassment or extortion from the Alaga, I didn't find it surprising though as though as I was certain her family won't condone such.

Thanks and God bless you @ eyinjuege, babyfaceafrica, Elder0001,Acidosis , baby124 , NoToPile and mysticgal

Congratulations... invite us for the main one o, let's come and chop rice soup very plenty (rsvp)

NoToPile:


Congrats on this first step bros, wishing you the best.

Marriage is a wonderful thing

Thanks...God bless

eyinjuege:


Congratulations... invite us for the main one o, let's come and chop rice soup very plenty (rsvp)

Lol...Well noted

victorVIC1:
Hi all...Just to keep you posted, the introduction was done last weekend as planned and it was a good success. Her family used an Alaga but it was to make the introduction fun filled. There was no form of harassment or extortion from the Alaga, I didn't find it surprising though as I was certain her family won't condone such.

Thanks and God bless you @ eyinjuege, babyfaceafrica, Elder0001,Acidosis , baby124 , NoToPile and mysticgal

congratulations..yay!! happy married life dude

Congrats victor, May your coming union be filled with peace, love and happiness.

baby124:
Congrats victor, May your coming union be filled with peace, love and happiness.

Amen.. Greatly appreciate

victorVIC1:
Hi all...Just to keep you posted, the introduction was done last weekend as planned and it was a good success. Her family used an Alaga but it was to make the introduction fun filled. There was no form of harassment or extortion from the Alaga, I didn't find it surprising though as I was certain her family won't condone such.

Thanks and God bless you @ eyinjuege, babyfaceafrica, Elder0001,Acidosis , baby124 , NoToPile and mysticgal

you are the man..wish you the best

Congrats bro! Enjoy your new fam

Acidosis:
Congrats bro! Enjoy your new fam

Thanks bro....God bless you

babyfaceafrica:
you are the man..wish you the best

Thanks bro...Same to you

Acidosis:
Congrats bro! Enjoy your new fam

mysticgal:


congratulations..yay!! happy married life dude

Introduction isn't marriage.

Elder0001:




Introduction isn't marriage.

it's a good step in that direction..don't you think I am giving them a good wish?