Rheinmetal:

@ Stillwater,

Are you onto me now? Do you presume I'm not a Christian because I do not model my life after some baseless Mosaic Laws but on the empirical teachings of Christ as espoused in his Golden Rule "Love your Neighbour as yourself"?

My dear Ms. Stillwater, if being Christian to you means I should throw the Bible at everything, then I'm not your type of Christian.

Rheinmetal:

@Chiogo,

Marriage in its purest form is an iron-clad agreement with no escape clause.

It doesn't matter who breached it first or last. You want to remedy infidelity in marriage, try forgiveness, the Bible recommends infinite forgiveness.

deniyor:

how did this become a religious argument. When it comes to religion, there is no point arguing, people just stick to their guns.
This thread is about why Men find it more difficult to accept infidelity and not if divorce is biblical or not

chiogo:

So, what if the infidelity becomes incessant? You keep forgiving because you went into an iron-clad agreement(more like bondage) called marriage?

The bible recommends forgiveness but one also has the option of divorce. What's so hard to get? And how come you're bringing the bible into it now? Oh yea, people use the bible to justify anything. Okie-dokie!

eldee:

Forgiveness is not a choice.

Why am I using the Bible?? I'm not.
I actually do support divorce in these cases (refer to my first post) . . . but when you use the Bible to support your already biased view, it makes a mockery of Christianity.

~Sauron~:

God detests divorce. . . . .
All divorcees would be pitching their tents with Satan himself.

eldee:

Forgiveness is not  a choice.

Why am I using the Bible?? I'm not.
I actually do support divorce in these cases (refer to my first post) . . . but when you use the Bible to support your already biased view, it makes a mockery of Christianity.

eldee:

I know that man . . . but God also detest my fornication, greed, drinking and many other things.
I'm not exactly the poster-boy for Christianity, forget my good looks.

~Sauron~:

Not as much as HE detests DIVORCE. . . . .
This is why LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOUR AS YOURSELF surpasses the whole 10 commandments as a whole.
If you love your partner like yourself, you won't go for divorce. . . . .If you love her, you are expected to forgive her 77 X 77 times.

chiogo:

My response was to Rheinmental not you.

I know people use the bible to justify a lot of things especially when it comes to sexism. Happens all the time on nairaland, which is really annoying. But when that poster(Theblessed) made her comment and used the bible to back up her point about infidelity, I don't think you can fault her since religion or not, it's an immoral act. My grouch would be with people who use the bible to support or renounce an act that has no basis of justification outside religious beliefs. Infidelity is really simple not rocket science to know it's wrong. If she chooses to use religion here, doesn't matter since the act is still wrong from whatever angle you choose to look at it.

eldee:

Thing is, when I commit other sins, I'm not showing love to my neighbour.
E.g when I lead a chic on just to get in her bed, I'm not loving my neighbour as myself.
I don't see why I should be selective with what section I obey in the Bible.

~Sauron~:

The fuckin irony. . . . .
You are leading a chic on just to get her in bed so you can MAKE LOVE to her and you are not loving her as yourself.
How do you make love to someone without loving?

Eldee, that was the wrongest example you coulda pulled up.
Try again.
U don enter ma wahala today.

How can you say 'explicitly' and 'allowed' in one breath??
Isn't that conflicting??

The same Bible goes recorded Jesus rejecting divorce in Mark 10 without any reference to adultery.

That's why I don't want to bring in the Bible in cases that should be settled using basic human reasoning.

Rheinmetal:

No one is "scouting" against the Bible, but against using the Bible to justify divorce.

Infidelity is a moral vice, no doubt and an infringement of marital vows, but so is divorce.

follypimpi:


Of course not ,U kolo i swear.Werin dey Boss ?

davidylan:

Eldee says . . .

Conflicting only to those of you who have a shallow knowledge of the bible. Romans 12:2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

Based on this verse (and many others i will not bother to quote here) . . . we know God has a PERFECT will, a GOOD will and an ACCEPTABLE will. Its more like the grade system we used in school . . . even though you all "passed" . . . there are some who scored an A, some scored a B and some just barely made an E by the skin of their teeth. But all graduate no?

davidylan:

Because Mark didnt record it. Please read Matthews own account where Christ did make reference to adultery. Matthew 19.

Many of you would do well to just stick with basic human reasoning.

dayokanu:

Whats going on here?

I saw the topic and thought we would get some hard core action with pictures of people caught in the act but I ran into a seminary. Haba ppl relax jare wetin consign bible inside manliness and kitty matter

stillwater:

^^^^You grab statistics from the air and you write 'factual' in that eulogy of yours? What a perfect disgrace to all things logical! What were you doing while your mates were in school. . .playing with your willy?

bawomolo:

I doubt anyone respect anyone who cheats for revenge. you would get sympathy but not much respect


this is only applicable if you are the owner of the property.  you can't kick him out if it's join ownership or the house is his.

Yes, like a flash of light he's gone!  I won't have my children watching the ensuing  'Drama' under this roof and get abused as a result, ok!!  No, they won't watch it, he's gone for good!!!

mama-gee:

^^It's mercy not "messi", please.

dayokanu:

My bad I thought it was menses

Theblessed:

Yes, like a flash of light he's gone!  I won't have my children watching the ensuing  'Drama' under this roof and get abused as a result, ok!!  No, they won't watch it, he's gone for good!!!

bawomolo:

but what if its oga that owns the house

chiogo:

In America, don't the women get the house? Whether or not the man owns it.