Omolola1:

if u marry hm without lovn him dere is every probability dat u wuld cheat on him! nd u both wuld onli end up frustrated!

Omolola1:

@ochendu, if she marries sum1 she does not lov nd meets a guy dat sweeps hr off her feet,my broda,she wuld cheat on him!

kaysquare:

@onchedu,dat is normal now.even if one is married,,u men will still come to make your advances.do u think dats d cause?bt i dont think i've come across a guy dat can completely replace dis BF of mine,yet i still hav feelings of doubt abt my luv for him

kaysquare:

My BF and i have been relating for 3years now and im convinced he luvs me very much.But as more and more he's luv grows,so is my luv for him decreasing.i have come to realize that i dont have true feelings of luv for me.maybe i thought i luv him when d relationship commenced but now i've seen clearly that my feelings are mere infatuation. Hirtherto,this guy in question has been so much good to me.he's been sincere and faithful though there are still some of his xters dat i dislike however i understand no one is as impeccable as God,thus we cant have a perfect character.

Now d bone of contention is d fact dis guy is ready to go down d aisle with me.he wants to have me as a wife but i dont know how to make him understand that i cant love him the way he deserves to be loved.right from d beginnin of our relationship,av not been reciprocating his luv cuz i thought real feelings of luv will emerge later which never happened.In the last few months i hav done a lot of things to frustrate him,to make him leave yet he still politely reminds me of d extent of his luv and dat if im actually tired of him,then i shld say it to his face rather doing it indirectly,But i really dont know how to face and tell him dat i dont want him anymore!

My dear readers,im not tryin to dump dis guy bcuz i dislike some his characters or cuz i dont luv him dat much but it is because i want him to have a woman dat will luv him wholeheartedly as a wife cuz he deserves dat very much.i know i cant give him dis kind of luv and im also tryin to avoid any marital problem dat may arise if i force myself to marry all in d name of not wanting to break his heart.i want him to have peace in his heart,in his [b]home and marry d woman dat will satisfy him in all ramifications.[/b]If i now face him to explain these points and y i want to quit a 3yrs relationship?wont he take me as a wicked person or as a heart breaker? or shld i go ahead and marry him since i know he truely luvs me? PLS ADVICE ME I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO.

kaysquare:

My BF and i have been relating for 3years now and im convinced he luvs me very much.But as more and more he's luv grows,so is my luv for him decreasing.i have come to realize that i dont have true feelings of luv for me.maybe i thought i luv him when d relationship commenced but now i've seen clearly that my feelings are mere infatuation. Hirtherto,this guy in question has been so much good to me.he's been sincere and faithful though there are still some of his xters dat i dislike however i understand no one is as impeccable as God,thus we cant have a perfect character.

Now d bone of contention is d fact dis guy is ready to go down d aisle with me.he wants to have me as a wife but i dont know how to make him understand that i cant love him the way he deserves to be loved.right from d beginnin of our relationship,av not been reciprocating his luv cuz i thought real feelings of luv will emerge later which  never happened.In the last few months i hav done a lot of things to frustrate him,to make him leave yet he still politely reminds me of d extent of his luv and dat if im actually tired of him,then i shld say it to his face rather doing it indirectly,But i really dont know how to face and tell him dat i dont want him anymore!






My dear readers,im not tryin to dump dis guy bcuz i dislike some his characters or  cuz i dont luv him dat much but it is because i want him to have a woman dat will luv him wholeheartedly as a wife cuz he deserves dat very much.i know i cant give him dis kind of luv and im also tryin to avoid any marital problem dat may arise if i force myself to marry all in d name of not wanting to break his heart.i want him to have peace in his heart,in his home and marry d woman dat will satisfy him in all ramifications.

If i now face him to explain these points and y i want to quit a 3yrs relationship?wont he take me as a wicked person or as a heart breaker? or shld i go ahead and marry him since i know he truely luvs me? PLS ADVICE ME I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO.

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I was once in that situation.
We were friends but he loved me so much and i wanted to make him happy so i pretended that i liked him too.
It was when he tried to kiss me that i discovered that i could not continue to pretend.
It was so revolting that i had to come clean.
He actually cried but i had to be firm and pull away.
Today, i am married to the man of my dreams.
He is totally into me and i am into him.

adaybola:

Pls pardon the long story, I just want u to get my points. I have a similar experience, my first b/f was so crazy about me that he worshipped the ground I walked on. The problem was, I just couldn't love him cuz of his look (he’s not ugly but not just hot enough in my estimation). I tot I was too beautiful to be his. I cared about him and appreciated him but try as I could, I just couldn't love him. I told him I didn't love him but he kept telling me I would with time. After 5 years and still feeling the same way, I couldn't go on with the relationship. In fact, to make him break up with him I cheated on him (the most despicable thing I’ve ever done). He caught me, forgave me and was still willing to move on with me (he proposed) and I tot he was silly. Eventually I left him five years ago. Now, I realized I was just immature and chasing shadows. I actually wanted a hot looking man, comfortable, romantic, perfect, lol!!! So silly rite? After several relationships, I saw reality and I realized I didn’t love him cuz I didn’t want to. Am 5”6, he’s 5”7 and I love tall guys. The other guys I dated were fine alrite, hot bods but they made me taste hell (heartbroken, over and over again) I went back to my ex three years ago but, it was too late. He found someone better and finer than me, he currently works in the oil and gas sector, (he’s so fine I could hardly recognize him). Fortunately, he's happily married now with the said lady and very comfortable. I envy his wife. Well, am still single (trying to be happy though) but I wish I could turn back the hands of time. I could have loved him if I had tried to see his inner beauty.  Pls think carefully, “atimes the things we chase in life is like shimmers in the pond”.