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Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by golddeejay(m): 10:29am On Oct 26, 2018
Women are delicate, so handle her gently.

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Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by Nobody: 10:31am On Oct 26, 2018
DeeTweenie:
I think hers is different dear. Those that are eunuch by the listed below might have started having the signs and probably started living the life already.

Anyways, thanks for the correction.
you can only get use to it, if it is by birth or by choice. but when it is as a result of life circumstances, you will always do everything within your power to make sure that you change your situation. she is right to be desperate for marriage but the only bad thing about it is that , her sense of judgement will be clouded

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Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by Jokkarm2: 10:31am On Oct 26, 2018
from what you said, she must be Yoruba and if you know that your mind is not there, please tell her to keep searching she will see.
Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by Nobody: 10:35am On Oct 26, 2018
As a man or woman , your family can only pressure you if you allow them to pressure you.

Shun them and they'll come back to their senses.

So sad some Nigerian parents still reason like they're in 1920
Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by johnad3(m): 10:36am On Oct 26, 2018
Why some parents usually forces their children to go into marriage? I know she's ripe for marriage but adding pressure on her it's not best thing. And on you man you don't specify if you like or not liking her. if you like her, let her know you do, but if you don't let your gestures communicates that to her but don't tell her you don't like her. because when universe present love to us and we resist it, there's a great punishment coming in. that's my advice
Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by dochenaj: 10:39am On Oct 26, 2018
chiommy123:
Just 29. Some are 35 and living their life.
Those 35 year olds might look happy but when you get close you will see they are depressed most of the times especially when they are alone.

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Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by jaxxy(m): 10:42am On Oct 26, 2018
ikihealthplus:
There's this female colleague I met at my work place when I joined in June this year. She was giving me all the green light but I just settled to be her bestie because I don't like office romance.

Now the issue is she's 29 and still single and she confided in me that most of her relationship always go sour and its the men always breaking up with her. She's just an average lady in terms of looks but too slim, she doesn't have much flesh. I've advised her to eat well. She has anyway but she just added Weight a little. From what I understand..it's like she acts too desperate for marriage for any man that comes her way and some of the men use it to their advantage by wanting to sleep with her. Her mum is also on her neck to get married ASAP as she's the only daughter and she's way depressed.

I've told her often to face other things and look up to God but she said she's lost hope in God and she doesn't even attend church on Sundays.

Please I need your contributions on what I can tell her for her to be focused or else one day I pray not..she may do more harm to herself..

Just tell her to work really hard on her self esteem. She may be average in beauty and slim bt that’s what sm men love not everybody likes chubby ladies. Her looks isn’t the problem it’s her self esteem.

She should work/improve on herself personally outside work stuffs, list out all the things she likes and work on achieving them and making herself happy 1st. If she wants to add alil weight, fine let her do it cos she likes to or cos it wud help her. Then other things will fall into place.

She can’t give what she doesn’t have she needs to work on being happy with herself then she can make sm1else/partner happy. Stop seeking validation from men bt instead be cheerful, humble, bt confident in herself.

She needs to ask herself why do guys breakup with me and never the reverse. The issue cud be from her or from the guy. In anycase she needs to know the reason.

Shes 29 bt if she works carefully on the right things she can achieve her goal probably b4 she’s 30 or a years time.
U don’t rush into a lifetime commitment like that.

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Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by Benekruku(m): 10:43am On Oct 26, 2018
Use her for money rituals
Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by DavidEsq(m): 10:44am On Oct 26, 2018
CreepyBlackpool:
promise her marraige

fvck the living daylights out of her

clean mouth and run away






if she kills you lalasticala them will move the news of your death to fp for us grin
grin grin

Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by Nuel1235(m): 10:45am On Oct 26, 2018
CreepyBlackpool:
promise her marraige

fvck the living daylights out of her

clean mouth and run away






if she kills you lalasticala them will move the news of your death to fp for us grin

Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by Thom1759: 10:54am On Oct 26, 2018
ikihealthplus:
There's this female colleague I met at my work place when I joined in June this year. She was giving me all the green light but I just settled to be her bestie because I don't like office romance.

Now the issue is she's 29 and still single and she confided in me that most of her relationship always go sour and its the men always breaking up with her. She's just an average lady in terms of looks but too slim, she doesn't have much flesh. I've advised her to eat well. She has anyway but she just added Weight a little. From what I understand..it's like she acts too desperate for marriage for any man that comes her way and some of the men use it to their advantage by wanting to sleep with her. Her mum is also on her neck to get married ASAP as she's the only daughter and she's way depressed.

I've told her often to face other things and look up to God but she said she's lost hope in God and she doesn't even attend church on Sundays.

Please I need your contributions on what I can tell her for her to be focused or else one day I pray not..she may do more harm to herself..
best advice to her is for her to overlook those pressures coming from her mom and mind her day to day activity. Live her normal live and trust me when you least expect things that's when it would happen. Marriage no be by force and it's not compulsory either.
Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by victorian(f): 10:55am On Oct 26, 2018
Advice her to take it easy and take life jeje.

It's not all about getting married but stay happy in marriage.

And is she ready to stay in marriage? Not just doing the wedding and that's all.
It's more than wedding day.

Make she take am easy.
Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by sashishalom(f): 11:03am On Oct 26, 2018
link her with your friends or family...
besides you better remove that bestie tag oh..
follow her to church too..
Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by Klington: 11:03am On Oct 26, 2018
CreepyBlackpool:
promise her marraige

fvck the living daylights out of her

clean mouth and run away






if she kills you lalasticala them will move the news of your death to fp for us grin

Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by femi4: 11:06am On Oct 26, 2018
chiommy123:
Just 29. Some are 35 and living their life.
29 is not just for a lady. Menopause cometh from 40
Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by derbykol(f): 11:06am On Oct 26, 2018
dochenaj:

Those 35 year olds might look happy but when you get close you will see they are depressed most of the times especially when they are alone.
Exactly
Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by openmine(m): 11:16am On Oct 26, 2018
Let's stop involving God in matters that he has already solved for us.....

Now since God has given us everything that pertains to life,its now left for us to ask ourselves what's really holding us back from enjoying the good things that God has bestowed upon us!

If you look deeply,you will find out that what might be stopping this lady may just be her attitude or lifestyle or the kind of friends she has....
If you want to become a better person in life and seek to enjoy all the good things of life,
You must evaluate....
Your lifestyle,Your attitude towards others and the kind of friends you associate with!
If there is one thing that pushes suitors away,its a ladies lifestyle and attitude....
Your attitude determines your altitude...
It defines your character!
It will either attract or repel people!
So choose the right attitude and lifestyle!

Some one once said....Show me 5 of your close friends and I will tell you what you will become in 5 years time!
A friend will either improve and motivate you to attain greatness or bring you down to suffer with them!
The choice is urs!

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Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by hope4nigeria(m): 11:17am On Oct 26, 2018
ikihealthplus:
lol.. sorry I can't and I told her wholeheartedly
why can't you, did she have Ebola? Why is every body avoiding her including op? Her picture sef .
Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by xtremeTall(m): 11:18am On Oct 26, 2018
Paste me her numba then
Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by SugarSpill(m): 11:31am On Oct 26, 2018
Yes Op, please and please just get her back to God and He will do the rest. Yes He will. But Op, do you know the way to God? You can't give what you don't have.
joseo:
Just get her back to God...... He will do the rest for her

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Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by kushercain: 11:38am On Oct 26, 2018
alignacademy:


Thanks for sharing

You seem to care about her. Look at all the time you've invested in knowing her already.

(Be real: the only reason you can see any "green light" is because of some interest on your part)

Are you scared of commitment?


Apparently the babe is too skinny for op
Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by kushercain: 11:39am On Oct 26, 2018
sashishalom:
link her with your friends or family...

besides you better remove that bestie tag oh..

follow her to church too..

You na big fish o, just d way I like it. May I pm?
Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by Teespice(f): 11:44am On Oct 26, 2018
mind your business henceforth to avoid stories that tickle the behind.

she has no business discussing her personal issues with you and you shouldn't have indulged her by listening in the first place.
Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by faithfull18(f): 11:46am On Oct 26, 2018
Gangster1ms:
From your description i imagined an ugly and very skinny girl, guys in this country like yansh well and it's hard to find one willing to settle with a stock fish that isn't pretty.
Let her go do yansh and boobs implant, you will see her life change automatically cheesy
Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by edunaking: 11:48am On Oct 26, 2018
SoNature:
I hate it when we 'spiritualize' a lot of things in this part of the world.

Hear this: that many girls are single today has nothing to do with spirituality, NO! The reason is that the economy of this country is in a state of total mess.

Come to think of it, why would I get married when I cannot feed myself? While many people can't get decent jobs, others cannot even get at all. And the implication is that if any of those categories of people get married tomorrow, they will end up living in vicious circle of poverty.

Don't be deceived; we all need money to run our homes so that we don’t live a life of misery and perpetual denial of basic things of life. I have seen men come to me to lend them money to pay their kids' school fees. You ask yourself if that's the life you want to live.

Love is a chemistry; marriage is cage of eternal responsibility

To OP, you may introduce her to your pals who are ready to settle down

you deserve a bottle of stout

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Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by Retrography(m): 11:50am On Oct 26, 2018
chiommy123:
Just 29. Some are 35 and living their life.

By fvking everywhere based on my experience.
Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by wisdomdc: 11:51am On Oct 26, 2018
If you really wish to help her, then marry her, she will be the best wife ever, as for flesh, she will soon add up after she has given birth, and you all now have a desired lady size!!!!
Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by faithfull18(f): 11:52am On Oct 26, 2018
Biingoo:
My becareful ooh! Run away from evening newspapers cos they're nothing but badluck! Speaking from experience
Your line of reasoning really needs change.
Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by frozen70(f): 12:00pm On Oct 26, 2018
Since you understand who she is and what she subject herself to

Seat her down and tell her your observations about her

Tell her the truth

It's either she believes you or not

Then if you are not interested in her, leave her to sort herself at a very early stage
Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by Daeylar(f): 12:09pm On Oct 26, 2018
So because YOU op think she is too slim, you told her to eat well and She actually started eating well so she could add weight to satisfy your request?
As if skinny girls don't get married.
Wow. sad poor girl.



She's just an average lady in terms of looks but too slim, she doesn't have much flesh. I've advised her to eat well. She has anyway but she just added Weight a little.
Re: How Do I Handle My Female Colleague? by Daeylar(f): 12:11pm On Oct 26, 2018
hope4nigeria:
why can't you, did she have Ebola? Why is every body avoiding her including op? Her picture sef .

I feel bad for laughing at this grin
Lol. I'm sure it's not everyone avoiding her sha.

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