1. Always be truthful to your partner. Never lie!
When you are dishonest to your partner, it hurts them more than anything. Don’t lie to one another. Tell them the truth always. Don’t let them find out things for themselves about you or what you did. No need for petty lies or any kind of lie in the first place. Always be truthful.

2. Never take him or her for granted in any way
Taking your partner for granted may include ignoring their calls and texts, not making out time as before to be with them, etc. Never devalue your partner just because they’re with you or because you’ve ‘gotten’ them. Most people are guilty of this. For some ladies, they would think that the guy should be honored to be the one that she chose among the hundreds of potential partners which would then lead to them misbehaving and taking the guy for granted. Never do this.

Guys, after the girl has agreed and is now your girlfriend and has given herself to you, don’t disregard or devalue her by losing interest and avoiding their calls and texts after you’ve had sex. Don’t play with a lady’s emotions. If it was sex you wanted, let them know beforehand. Don’t promise them everything only to have sex and disappear in thin air.

3. Always verbally affirm your thoughts, feelings and emotions. Talk with your partner about everything.
Talking is everything in a relationship. This is one of the most important points you should take home from this. Whatever that happens. TALK with your partner. Choose a time and venue and discuss. Talk about it. Clear out the air. Iron out every misunderstanding. You guys must always be on the same page all the time. Don’t be an authoritarian. Talk and listen to your partner and their point of views. Share opinions and ideas.

4. Mutual respect.
Respect one another. Never disrespect your partner especially in the public. Never insult, disgrace or call your partner disrespectful names. Never address them with insolence. Mutual respect means understanding one another and understanding boundaries. Know your partner and their emotional and intellectual nature. Disrespecting your partner in any way causes them pain. Don’t do it.

5. Learn to loosen up.
Avoid too much rigidity and seriousness all the time. Smile, play and joke with one another frequently. The best relationships are those where both parties are best of friends. Be a friend to your partner. Stiffness and firmness all the time always spells bad for any relationship. Loosen up and laugh things off.

6. Don't say hurtful or bitter words to them.
This is a very important point that is worth its own number. Words have power, and words coming from someone who loves you and who you love, has an even multiplied effect. Any critical or hurtful word you say to your partner, as long as it’s coming from your lips will have much power to hurt, discourage and weigh them down. You should always encourage and say good things to your partner. Correct with love. Don’t make your partner feel pain and regret with your words.

7. Learn to listen and to apologize.
This point is especially to the guys who will never admit fault and say ‘sorry’. This is one of the best words to learn in a relationship ‘SORRY’. Learn to say ‘sorry’ to your partner. If your partner is offended, even if you didn’t do anything wrong in your own eyes, but as long as they are offended, just apologize for peace to reign. At that point of heated emotions, arguing about who is right and who is wrong will always certainly lead to conflict and rancor. Always let them know that their happiness is very important to you. For someone you love, you can accept to be wrong at that time and later on when the situation is calm, discuss things out as stated in #3. When things are heated up, you can always say: ‘Baby, I understand you’re upset right now and I’m sorry about that. Can we please discuss this later when you’ve calmed down?’. Even the hottest of tempers cannot resist a statement like that as long as you said it nicely, and as long as they love you.

When you apologize, don’t do it half-heartedly. Really mean what you say. Don’t try to quench fire with more fire. Always learn to improve the relationship and to avoid saying or doing things that you know will displease your partner. Don’t deliberately get them angry. It’s unhealthy for the relationship.

8. Never listen or entertain gossip
When evil people see something beautiful, their intention will be to scatter it. Don’t let a third party influence your relationship. Don’t listen to anyone when they tell you something negative about your partner. Don’t even give them audience at all. When they are about starting, stop them in their tracks and tell them that you’re not interested in what they have to say. Whatever it is, you MUST without fail discuss it FIRST with your partner. Never go to anyone else individually.
You and your partner can decide to get counsel over some certain issues, but always discuss with your partner about anything even if you hear rumors and the like. Discuss with them. Tell them that this is what you heard and you’ve come to discuss it with them. Every story has two or more versions. Hear their own version. They will respect you for it, and the issue will there and then be ironed out. Many beautiful relationships have been destroyed because of people listening to third parties. Don’t add yours to the statistic.

Thanks for reading…

dominique

Weldon