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Re: Sexual Harassment At Workplace - My Story by Carlmax(m): 6:11pm On Nov 14, 2018
I just want to say that You are WICKED!!!
Re: Sexual Harassment At Workplace - My Story by Kendrick80(m): 6:29pm On Nov 14, 2018
Make I bend if I believe this story
Re: Sexual Harassment At Workplace - My Story by Rhea(f): 6:47pm On Nov 14, 2018
deturla:
I know that there are several sexual harassments between my plight and what most opposite-sex face.

I've always known my boss to be friendly and accommodating but didn't get the picture at first when Madam started giving me extra cash for t-fare, lunch hour treat and all. I thought she was being nice.

Things were going smoothly as other staffs were growing wary and getting jealous of our boss-staff relationship. But I never knew what the consequences might give birth to.

Months later, I realized I was the only one out of 12 engineers the company is still owing three months salary. Every other field engineers have been settled except me. Haha! me of all people, Madam's favourite engineer.

Days after I noticed, I confront the accountant about what's going and to my surprise, she said Madam haven't acknowledged any of my documents and she tried knowing what prompt such actions but Madam is not ready to hear her out.

Okay, if that's the case I'll ask her myself, for about two weeks, wasn't able to go office due to field work and all, traveling from one state to another.

Thought it would be convenient if I push the issue to the official WhatsApp group, after complaining and all she still didn't acknowledge any of the chats.

Then she chats me privately, saying she purposely delayed my documents that if I need her to sign those paper we need to sort things out privately.

I took it like it was normal, till she initiated a WhatsApp video the following night, on seeing her I blink off because I couldn't believe what I saw she's half naked and to my surprise she said "OH SORRY, I WAS ABOUT TO GO FOR A SHOWER" and I replied maybe after you're done ma! at that particular moment, I wasn't looking at the screen. She continued with DON'T TELL ME YOU'RE SHY. Couldn't answer any of her questions, I press the red button and ignore her video calls afterward and message her that it would be convenient if we chat.

She didn't respond to any of my chats, but keep initiating the video call, at this point I noticed she's careful of chatting. To cut the story short, I went over to her office to put the issue at rest once and for all.

She called me into the conference room, shut the door and held the key, closed the blind and switched on the AC. She started to cling towards me, and at that point, I was not bothered. At least Madam wouldn't effectively force herself on me, hurt or blackmail me. I wasn't stressed or bothered about it until it took a turn I never expected.

She leaned forward and told me how she'd love to have me and all other gibberish my brain couldn't comprehend because of the fact that I wasn't feeling the atmosphere. I was shocked and just frozen at first and then she turned from being nice to commands and threats that if I didn't oblige to her request she wouldn't sign the document and all.. 3 months effort, 330k go just fly?.

I tried to explore the circumstance precisely, played it off as though she was just pulling my legs or some sort of silly pranks. One negative word from her about me would paint me black. She's trying to utilize that as a leverage, accentuating the influence she has.

I tried enough to stay away from her closeness by expressing gratitude for all she has done and smiling inconveniently and all, but most importantly sending a NO NO signal to her request.

Regardless of what I said or did, she veered back to IT WON'T TAKE LONG, JUST 5 MINUTES AND WE'RE OUT OF HERE. Still couldn't believe what I heard.

She moved back with some threatening statement like "You don't want your job anymore shey?" I smiled it away, knowing my position at the company and that it wouldn't be appropriate. At that point, she started grilling me on why I wouldn't want a decent sensual pleasure from her coupled with other freebies I would have access to and also rubbing shoulders with the big guns in the company.

At that point, lots of positive and negative thought flooded my mind; WHAT IF THIS WHOLE SCENARIO CHANGES TO A RAPE CASE, and I know no matter what I say people won't believe my side of the story and they will react with unsurprising drivel: OLOJU KOKORO NI, OTI RI OLOWO, OLOSHI ( That I was just a gold digger, an idiot). At that point a thought just flew in, why not record this, I did and minimized my phone to the home screen.

At this point, she started to unbutton her suit and removed her earrings, my feet trembled, sweated heavily despite the AC. And all I could pray for was, I need to wake up from this nightmare and all this should be over with.

My prayers answered but this time it wasn't a nightmare but an actual reality, her phone rang, and then she picked up. After a lengthy conversation, she ended the call, hissed and said, Akin (not real name for legal reasons) we will continue this other time, but for the main time think about it. She then zoomed off.

I Couldn't believe what just happened, I rushed out before she changed her mind to come in again. I went down to my desk to pack my tools, laptop with other necessary things and went home.

I was to supervise a BTS installation the following day, I called the site FSCE that I would not resume work the next day and that he should notify the project manager, so it won't look like I didn't notify them of the development, this was after much deliberation and legal consult from my dad's lawyer.

Madam called me that night to ask why and I told her I quit since I couldn't provide what she wanted. She laughed it off saying YOU DON'T MEAN IT. and she hung up.. That was the last I heard from her.

After two days she called me that since I refused to resume work and let us settle the issue amicably then what happened between us should stay between us, but to me, it didn't stay between us, it has taken a legal turn and the issue has been reported along with the conversation I recorded.

As of now the case is still pending but heading the right way.

There's nothing good about sexual harassment. It's profoundly perplexing and frightening. In a society where people find it hard to secure a job and in another turn some trying to keep their jobs and with the alarming rate of sexual harassment, you can feel disempowered and lose your job or career. Let us learn to report any sexual harassment or abuse case to the appropriate authorities.

A concerned reader of Deedeesblog.


You need a tutorial in blackmail 101. You just threw away an opportunity to earn monthly salary while sitting in your house watching DSTV.
Re: Sexual Harassment At Workplace - My Story by Joyboy1(m): 6:50pm On Nov 14, 2018
And some ladies thinks men are useless.... Kudos to you sir.....See more of you

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Re: Sexual Harassment At Workplace - My Story by Yoighaman(m): 6:58pm On Nov 14, 2018
@OP First, she wanted to bleep you in a conference room during working hours? What happened to her office? The conference room is a public place in any organization, no one would want to choose such a venue for an atrocity. This makes me doubt the story...might be true though.

Second and lastly, if it turns out to be a true story, you went too far by going the legal route almost immediately, since you have the recording you should have kept your job and watch how things pan out, involving a lawyer should be the last resort, not jumping into it right away.

Sexual harassment should never be tolerated but it should be handled with wisdom. I think you quitted just too soon.

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Re: Sexual Harassment At Workplace - My Story by ozoono(m): 7:05pm On Nov 14, 2018
bloodily liar, fool, u tinks we are kid. OK from ur story let me bring out to point
1. u said u recorded madam voice by mere opening ur phone screen wen madam was right there wit u how possible? in fact do they use phone screen for voice recording?
2. no sensible lady wud want to av sex in a conference room. I am sure u no wat is a conference room?
fool

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Re: Sexual Harassment At Workplace - My Story by pelumi001(m): 7:29pm On Nov 14, 2018
do you need an expert for the installation of CCTV, intercom in the home and office. contact 07036261645
Re: Sexual Harassment At Workplace - My Story by leonard002(m): 7:31pm On Nov 14, 2018
he doesn't know how to play the long game
Re: Sexual Harassment At Workplace - My Story by GIFTD: 8:24pm On Nov 14, 2018
Op thank ur God for saving u from that Delilah of a boss. If I'd agreed to her advances I'd shortchanged ur bright future for a peanut because shell still it with sex the same way she stole ur 3 months salary with freebies and she'll be growing fat with ur star while she gives u peanuts..
deturla:
I know that there are several sexual harassments between my plight and what most opposite-sex face.

I've always known my boss to be friendly and accommodating but didn't get the picture at first when Madam started giving me extra cash for t-fare, lunch hour treat and all. I thought she was being nice.

Things were going smoothly as other staffs were growing wary and getting jealous of our boss-staff relationship. But I never knew what the consequences might give birth to.

Months later, I realized I was the only one out of 12 engineers the company is still owing three months salary. Every other field engineers have been settled except me. Haha! me of all people, Madam's favourite engineer.

Days after I noticed, I confront the accountant about what's going and to my surprise, she said Madam haven't acknowledged any of my documents and she tried knowing what prompt such actions but Madam is not ready to hear her out.

Okay, if that's the case I'll ask her myself, for about two weeks, wasn't able to go office due to field work and all, traveling from one state to another.

Thought it would be convenient if I push the issue to the official WhatsApp group, after complaining and all she still didn't acknowledge any of the chats.

Then she chats me privately, saying she purposely delayed my documents that if I need her to sign those paper we need to sort things out privately.

I took it like it was normal, till she initiated a WhatsApp video the following night, on seeing her I blink off because I couldn't believe what I saw she's half naked and to my surprise she said "OH SORRY, I WAS ABOUT TO GO FOR A SHOWER" and I replied maybe after you're done ma! at that particular moment, I wasn't looking at the screen. She continued with DON'T TELL ME YOU'RE SHY. Couldn't answer any of her questions, I press the red button and ignore her video calls afterward and message her that it would be convenient if we chat.

She didn't respond to any of my chats, but keep initiating the video call, at this point I noticed she's careful of chatting. To cut the story short, I went over to her office to put the issue at rest once and for all.

She called me into the conference room, shut the door and held the key, closed the blind and switched on the AC. She started to cling towards me, and at that point, I was not bothered. At least Madam wouldn't effectively force herself on me, hurt or blackmail me. I wasn't stressed or bothered about it until it took a turn I never expected.

She leaned forward and told me how she'd love to have me and all other gibberish my brain couldn't comprehend because of the fact that I wasn't feeling the atmosphere. I was shocked and just frozen at first and then she turned from being nice to commands and threats that if I didn't oblige to her request she wouldn't sign the document and all.. 3 months effort, 330k go just fly?.

I tried to explore the circumstance precisely, played it off as though she was just pulling my legs or some sort of silly pranks. One negative word from her about me would paint me black. She's trying to utilize that as a leverage, accentuating the influence she has.

I tried enough to stay away from her closeness by expressing gratitude for all she has done and smiling inconveniently and all, but most importantly sending a NO NO signal to her request.

Regardless of what I said or did, she veered back to IT WON'T TAKE LONG, JUST 5 MINUTES AND WE'RE OUT OF HERE. Still couldn't believe what I heard.

She moved back with some threatening statement like "You don't want your job anymore shey?" I smiled it away, knowing my position at the company and that it wouldn't be appropriate. At that point, she started grilling me on why I wouldn't want a decent sensual pleasure from her coupled with other freebies I would have access to and also rubbing shoulders with the big guns in the company.

At that point, lots of positive and negative thought flooded my mind; WHAT IF THIS WHOLE SCENARIO CHANGES TO A RAPE CASE, and I know no matter what I say people won't believe my side of the story and they will react with unsurprising drivel: OLOJU KOKORO NI, OTI RI OLOWO, OLOSHI ( That I was just a gold digger, an idiot). At that point a thought just flew in, why not record this, I did and minimized my phone to the home screen.

At this point, she started to unbutton her suit and removed her earrings, my feet trembled, sweated heavily despite the AC. And all I could pray for was, I need to wake up from this nightmare and all this should be over with.

My prayers answered but this time it wasn't a nightmare but an actual reality, her phone rang, and then she picked up. After a lengthy conversation, she ended the call, hissed and said, Akin (not real name for legal reasons) we will continue this other time, but for the main time think about it. She then zoomed off.

I Couldn't believe what just happened, I rushed out before she changed her mind to come in again. I went down to my desk to pack my tools, laptop with other necessary things and went home.

I was to supervise a BTS installation the following day, I called the site FSCE that I would not resume work the next day and that he should notify the project manager, so it won't look like I didn't notify them of the development, this was after much deliberation and legal consult from my dad's lawyer.

Madam called me that night to ask why and I told her I quit since I couldn't provide what she wanted. She laughed it off saying YOU DON'T MEAN IT. and she hung up.. That was the last I heard from her.

After two days she called me that since I refused to resume work and let us settle the issue amicably then what happened between us should stay between us, but to me, it didn't stay between us, it has taken a legal turn and the issue has been reported along with the conversation I recorded.

As of now the case is still pending but heading the right way.

There's nothing good about sexual harassment. It's profoundly perplexing and frightening. In a society where people find it hard to secure a job and in another turn some trying to keep their jobs and with the alarming rate of sexual harassment, you can feel disempowered and lose your job or career. Let us learn to report any sexual harassment or abuse case to the appropriate authorities.

A concerned reader of Deedeesblog.

Re: Sexual Harassment At Workplace - My Story by goat22: 8:55pm On Nov 14, 2018
tgmservice:
THIS IS SUPER STORY

A life of strive and sorrows !!!

My little boy, the next time you put up a picture of a signing goat. Do it respectfully and in honor of the second and first.
Re: Sexual Harassment At Workplace - My Story by muffyt05: 9:11pm On Nov 14, 2018
Person wey you for straph with confirm sanshun(delay spray) and come see how you salary go reach #500k a month...shior
Even this little guy go do am let alone adult

Re: Sexual Harassment At Workplace - My Story by IamPlato(m): 9:16pm On Nov 14, 2018
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Is This Real? If It Is Then You Are A Foolish Person. There Was No Need Report This Rubbish. Since You Left The Company Whats The Point
Re: Sexual Harassment At Workplace - My Story by Bigdaddy234: 9:19pm On Nov 14, 2018
Register ur company today with CAC via an accredited professional
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Re: Sexual Harassment At Workplace - My Story by tomdon(m): 10:32pm On Nov 14, 2018
Foolish man
Re: Sexual Harassment At Workplace - My Story by Dshocker(m): 11:13pm On Nov 14, 2018
deturla:
I know that there are several sexual harassments between my plight and what most opposite-sex face.

I've always known my boss to be friendly and accommodating but didn't get the picture at first when Madam started giving me extra cash for t-fare, lunch hour treat and all. I thought she was being nice.

Things were going smoothly as other staffs were growing wary and getting jealous of our boss-staff relationship. But I never knew what the consequences might give birth to.

Months later, I realized I was the only one out of 12 engineers the company is still owing three months salary. Every other field engineers have been settled except me. Haha! me of all people, Madam's favourite engineer.

Days after I noticed, I confront the accountant about what's going and to my surprise, she said Madam haven't acknowledged any of my documents and she tried knowing what prompt such actions but Madam is not ready to hear her out.

Okay, if that's the case I'll ask her myself, for about two weeks, wasn't able to go office due to field work and all, traveling from one state to another.

Thought it would be convenient if I push the issue to the official WhatsApp group, after complaining and all she still didn't acknowledge any of the chats.

Then she chats me privately, saying she purposely delayed my documents that if I need her to sign those paper we need to sort things out privately.

I took it like it was normal, till she initiated a WhatsApp video the following night, on seeing her I blink off because I couldn't believe what I saw she's half naked and to my surprise she said "OH SORRY, I WAS ABOUT TO GO FOR A SHOWER" and I replied maybe after you're done ma! at that particular moment, I wasn't looking at the screen. She continued with DON'T TELL ME YOU'RE SHY. Couldn't answer any of her questions, I press the red button and ignore her video calls afterward and message her that it would be convenient if we chat.

She didn't respond to any of my chats, but keep initiating the video call, at this point I noticed she's careful of chatting. To cut the story short, I went over to her office to put the issue at rest once and for all.

She called me into the conference room, shut the door and held the key, closed the blind and switched on the AC. She started to cling towards me, and at that point, I was not bothered. At least Madam wouldn't effectively force herself on me, hurt or blackmail me. I wasn't stressed or bothered about it until it took a turn I never expected.

She leaned forward and told me how she'd love to have me and all other gibberish my brain couldn't comprehend because of the fact that I wasn't feeling the atmosphere. I was shocked and just frozen at first and then she turned from being nice to commands and threats that if I didn't oblige to her request she wouldn't sign the document and all.. 3 months effort, 330k go just fly?.

I tried to explore the circumstance precisely, played it off as though she was just pulling my legs or some sort of silly pranks. One negative word from her about me would paint me black. She's trying to utilize that as a leverage, accentuating the influence she has.

I tried enough to stay away from her closeness by expressing gratitude for all she has done and smiling inconveniently and all, but most importantly sending a NO NO signal to her request.

Regardless of what I said or did, she veered back to IT WON'T TAKE LONG, JUST 5 MINUTES AND WE'RE OUT OF HERE. Still couldn't believe what I heard.

She moved back with some threatening statement like "You don't want your job anymore shey?" I smiled it away, knowing my position at the company and that it wouldn't be appropriate. At that point, she started grilling me on why I wouldn't want a decent sensual pleasure from her coupled with other freebies I would have access to and also rubbing shoulders with the big guns in the company.

At that point, lots of positive and negative thought flooded my mind; WHAT IF THIS WHOLE SCENARIO CHANGES TO A RAPE CASE, and I know no matter what I say people won't believe my side of the story and they will react with unsurprising drivel: OLOJU KOKORO NI, OTI RI OLOWO, OLOSHI ( That I was just a gold digger, an idiot). At that point a thought just flew in, why not record this, I did and minimized my phone to the home screen.

At this point, she started to unbutton her suit and removed her earrings, my feet trembled, sweated heavily despite the AC. And all I could pray for was, I need to wake up from this nightmare and all this should be over with.

My prayers answered but this time it wasn't a nightmare but an actual reality, her phone rang, and then she picked up. After a lengthy conversation, she ended the call, hissed and said, Akin (not real name for legal reasons) we will continue this other time, but for the main time think about it. She then zoomed off.

I Couldn't believe what just happened, I rushed out before she changed her mind to come in again. I went down to my desk to pack my tools, laptop with other necessary things and went home.

I was to supervise a BTS installation the following day, I called the site FSCE that I would not resume work the next day and that he should notify the project manager, so it won't look like I didn't notify them of the development, this was after much deliberation and legal consult from my dad's lawyer.

Madam called me that night to ask why and I told her I quit since I couldn't provide what she wanted. She laughed it off saying YOU DON'T MEAN IT. and she hung up.. That was the last I heard from her.

After two days she called me that since I refused to resume work and let us settle the issue amicably then what happened between us should stay between us, but to me, it didn't stay between us, it has taken a legal turn and the issue has been reported along with the conversation I recorded.

As of now the case is still pending but heading the right way.

There's nothing good about sexual harassment. It's profoundly perplexing and frightening. In a society where people find it hard to secure a job and in another turn some trying to keep their jobs and with the alarming rate of sexual harassment, you can feel disempowered and lose your job or career. Let us learn to report any sexual harassment or abuse case to the appropriate authorities.

A concerned reader of Deedeesblog.


Interesting fiction
Re: Sexual Harassment At Workplace - My Story by Obierika: 1:04am On Nov 15, 2018
Rhea:


You need a tutorial in blackmail 101. You just threw away an opportunity to earn monthly salary while sitting in your house watching DSTV.

Mr man, blackmail is a crime!

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Re: Sexual Harassment At Workplace - My Story by berrystunn(m): 1:13am On Nov 15, 2018
Slack dude
Re: Sexual Harassment At Workplace - My Story by beelon1020(m): 2:21am On Nov 15, 2018
Bros you better be careful with your lawsuit because u don't have enough evidence in this, if she has a very good lawyer its will back fire on you, there are many factors to a case, you only have one of it which can be proving that it was recorded unlawfully while exited washroom, so you can win this case. In this part of the world I live: have seen a burglar who broke his leg in the house that he went and he sue the home owner and guess what? He won the case. The law is blind pls wise up.
Re: Sexual Harassment At Workplace - My Story by EzeIgboNwaChukwu(m): 4:31am On Nov 15, 2018
hisexcellency34:
I dey feel you bro, the Joseph of Naija
the Joseph of our times lol
Re: Sexual Harassment At Workplace - My Story by ashawopikin(m): 6:05am On Nov 15, 2018
Op u be mumu , for this Buhari era u let 330k disappear, either u are gay or impotent
Re: Sexual Harassment At Workplace - My Story by ashawopikin(m): 6:08am On Nov 15, 2018
berrystunn:
Slack dude
d guy fit be gay, because Na d only explanation be dat
Re: Sexual Harassment At Workplace - My Story by berrystunn(m): 10:23am On Nov 15, 2018
ashawopikin:
d guy fit be gay, because Na d only explanation be dat



I agree with you
Re: Sexual Harassment At Workplace - My Story by Wizdeen(m): 4:12pm On Nov 17, 2018
Lucifer66:

In a nation where there is no job and am being offered 330k to Fvck her for 5 mins, I would do it for an hour!
You're the one who is shameless!
my nigga
Re: Sexual Harassment At Workplace - My Story by Frlane: 4:24pm On Sep 11, 2019
Fyi0:
And some disgusting humans here are already dismissing his story. Idiots!

Agree with you. It is good that in the modern world is less common. Now there are even lawyers who specialize in sexual harassment, for example - https://mosheslaw.com/title-vii-sex-sexual-harassment/ . I'm sure it's all about keeping sexual harassment to a minimum.

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