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Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by crunchyg(m): 11:28am On Dec 05
PrettyMelly:


Yes I'll be going back to the state he is in January.
Then try to hold on when you get back try to find out if he is still interested don't conclude yet until you see him face to face
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by BecaciaBarbie(f): 11:30am On Dec 05
freedomchild:
Maybe he's feeling insecure because you changed location.. You can move on because the feelings are not much there again...... It happened to me sometime ago when I left school and also left that city. My girlfriend called and called and called but I've already lost interest because both of us aren't financially stable to be transiting ourselves to see........ Most times, outta sight is outta mind
SMH!!!!
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by Krystalzkris(f): 12:11pm On Dec 05
I wish I could advice you but what works for Peter might run Paul
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by Ivye(f): 12:53pm On Dec 05
Madamm...go to bar like normal humans do,not broadcast ur problems on social media okkkay!
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by habsydiamond(m): 1:38pm On Dec 05
kunleweb:



I disagree distance should easily break relationship an between adults. What about bond.time.sacrifice. some guys need.growing up to do.he has some card up his sleeve rather than play coy he ought to speak thats why good communication is the bedrock of good relations.if trust and bond has been established two years before now then what's his problem?
when a close relationship is turned into distant one, the communication will reduce due to one factor which happens to be lack of trust among the people involved..... questions like, what he doing now? Where will she be now? Hope she/ he is not living with the opposite sex..and so on... Once these questions start popping in. It will decrease the level of trust among them. The problem is that long distance relationship reduces the level of trust among lover which also leads to less attention for the affected party

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Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by kunleweb: 1:47pm On Dec 05
habsydiamond:
when a close relationship is turned into distant one, the communication will reduce due to one factor which happens to be lack of trust among the people involved..... questions like, what he doing now? Where will she be now? Hope she/ he is not living with the opposite sex..and so on... Once these questions start popping in. It will decrease the level of trust among them. The problem is that long distance relationship reduces the level of trust among lover which also leads to less attention for the affected party


You spoke well my.brother but when this happens. Trust and the bond isn't established. I wouldn't want a woman to haunt me just because of the thrills.of.romance. relationships is for adults and as such distance shouldn't spoil a good thing. Rather both parties can look for ways to make it work. The guy is insecure and may be investing hisnemptions elsewhere

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Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by Innobee99(m): 1:48pm On Dec 05
Just drop me ur contact......





I might be of help
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by castro316(m): 2:06pm On Dec 05
PrettyMelly:
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years now. The last 3months have been something else.
I travelled out of the state we live in for a 4 month course. The First month in my new location was okay, the communication was good n everything other thing was cool.
But I noticed from the 2nd month, he stopped calling like he used to, he will be online but won't chat with me. I brought this to his knowledge, n he kept saying he's sorry n gave flimsy excuses that he didn't have airtime n all. It got to a point that in a week he will call just once n for a few minutes.
I kept talking abt it, he made me feel like I'm nagging. He kept shouting at me that I'm bringing up issues wen there is none. I do 90% of the calling n it's not cool.
Presently, he doesn't chat with me except wen i upload any pix he finds interesting on my status....but wen I call him, he sounds all loving, saying I miss u n all.
At the moment, I feel hurt n I want to move on cos I think he's taking me for granted.. I don't ask for anything just talk to me that's all. Wat do u advice I do?

Ignore comments Telling you To end your relationship. It is obvious your guy. Is not yet mature and its too early to throw in the towel. The problem is that you expect too much from the relationship that's why it hurts you are not getting feedback try ignoring him too to see whether he will feel your absence. If he doesn't respond after a week it's possible he never liked you from the start. It doesn't have to be another girl in his life. Any man who loves his girl will find out. Abt her welbeing when miles apart. Goodluck
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by castro316(m): 2:10pm On Dec 05
This is what happens when. Lovers enter a relationship because of feelings alone. They throw away compatibility, communication and sacrifice out of the window
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by habsydiamond(m): 2:46pm On Dec 05
kunleweb:



You spoke well my.brother but when this happens. Trust and the bond isn't established. I wouldn't want a woman to haunt me just because of the thrills.of.romance. relationships is for adults and as such distance shouldn't spoil a good thing. Rather both parties can look for ways to make it work. The guy is insecure and may be investing hisnemptions elsewhere
that's is why am saying it can work only if the parties involved can sacrifice...e.g by traveling to see eachother on weekly or monthly basis can help them secure their relationship and increase sense of trust among them
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by kunleweb: 3:09pm On Dec 05
habsydiamond:
that's is why am saying it can work only if the parties involved can sacrifice...e.g by traveling to see eachother on weekly or monthly basis can help them secure their relationship and increase sense of trust among them


Its purely.psychological.and maturity replace the red for travels. Why is the babe not seeing another guy?? She's emotionally more balanced than the guy. Its psychological.imbalance that creates room for wadering thoughtsthoughts,baseless assumptions and insecurities. The babe needs t know the guy she wants to roll with for the long term and this phase idea litmus test
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by kunleweb: 3:11pm On Dec 05
By the way I enjoy the comments from. These funny guys samysmoothfresh and dandeeboss. Kudos to these mates
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by kunleweb: 3:12pm On Dec 05
By the way I enjoy the comments from. These funny guys samysmoothfresh and dandeeboss. Kudos to these mates.
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by DanDeeBoss(m): 3:16pm On Dec 05
kunleweb:
By the way I enjoy the comments from. These funny guys samysmoothfresh and dandeeboss. Kudos to these mates
Thanks boss...gringrin Lightqueen come see....
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by kunleweb: 3:24pm On Dec 05
DanDeeBoss:
Thanks boss...gringrin Lightqueen come see....


Whenever I reqd you guys' comments at.work. I always explode.in.uncontrollable laughter so I try to.avoid reading.you're.comments now at work grin By the way light queen is a gem. I'Be taken time to follow her views. She's indeed a queen at heart
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by DateMynd44(m): 3:37pm On Dec 05
PrettyMelly:
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years now. The last 3months have been something else.
I travelled out of the state we live in for a 4 month course. The First month in my new location was okay, the communication was good n everything other thing was cool.
But I noticed from the 2nd month, he stopped calling like he used to, he will be online but won't chat with me. I brought this to his knowledge, n he kept saying he's sorry n gave flimsy excuses that he didn't have airtime n all. It got to a point that in a week he will call just once n for a few minutes.
I kept talking abt it, he made me feel like I'm nagging. He kept shouting at me that I'm bringing up issues wen there is none. I do 90% of the calling n it's not cool.
Presently, he doesn't chat with me except wen i upload any pix he finds interesting on my status....but wen I call him, he sounds all loving, saying I miss u n all.
At the moment, I feel hurt n I want to move on cos I think he's taking me for granted.. I don't ask for anything just talk to me that's all. Wat do u advice I do?
he has found a better lady who obviously has something worthy to offer than you

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Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by DateMynd44(m): 3:39pm On Dec 05
BecaciaBarbie:
SMH!!!!
lol the guy's comment is funny lol
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by DateMynd44(m): 3:41pm On Dec 05
Ivye:
Madamm...go to bar like normal humans do,not broadcast ur problems on social media okkkay!
seems you're a novice here.
mtchew
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by DateMynd44(m): 3:44pm On Dec 05
usoroh4luv:
Melly,

It is high time you moved on. The guy is somehow not interested anymore.

When you see the red flag anytime and it seems it won't be resolve amicably, you should pack up.

Anyway, I am available. Chat me up by sending a pm
idiok aboi grin
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by LightQueen(f): 3:46pm On Dec 05
DanDeeBoss:
Thanks boss...gringrin Lightqueen come see....
I don see o, make we do mini party grin
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by DateMynd44(m): 3:46pm On Dec 05
lilmax:
he suspects you
that's why someone said, your girlfriend is only yours when she's with you

and that is true
101% true bro
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by LightQueen(f): 3:49pm On Dec 05
kunleweb:



Whenever I reqd you guys' comments at.work. I always explode.in.uncontrollable laughter so I try to.avoid reading.you're.comments now at work grin By the way light queen is a gem. I'Be taken time to follow her views. She's indeed a queen at heart
DanDeeBoss. comot from road make I blush small cheesy
.Thanks so much my dear, so I have a secret follower, my mama must hear this shocked

How are you doing? and how is work?
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by DanDeeBoss(m): 3:52pm On Dec 05
kunleweb:



Whenever I reqd you guys' comments at.work. I always explode.in.uncontrollable laughter so I try to.avoid reading.you're.comments now at work grin By the way light queen is a gem. I'Be taken time to follow her views. She's indeed a queen at heart
cheesycheesycheesy
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by DanDeeBoss(m): 3:53pm On Dec 05
LightQueen:
DanDeeBoss. comot from road make I blush small cheesy
.Thanks so much my dear, so I have a secret follower, my mama must hear this shocked

How are you doing? and how is work?

Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by kunleweb: 4:14pm On Dec 05
LightQueen:
DanDeeBoss. comot from road make I blush small cheesy
.Thanks so much my dear, so I have a secret follower, my mama must hear this shocked

How are you doing? and how is work?


Work is fab. Dont ever let them change you. Hold on to your moral beliefs.
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by LightQueen(f): 4:17pm On Dec 05
kunleweb:



Work is fab. Dont ever let them change you. Hold on to your moral beliefs.
Thanks.. I appreciate
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by gloria34(f): 4:32pm On Dec 05
PrettyMelly:


Yes I'll be going back to the state he is in January.
Babe, i had exactly d same issue, No addition, no Subtraction. (i am on a 7months training programme while he went 4 NYSC) When i realised i was dating myself, i posted d issue here and picked some Sensible comments. Now, i just ignore him, whenever he calls, i answer and act like all is well, if i miss his call, i wont call back. Now he calls me like once a week and i Dont care, i Dont view his status on whatsapp either. When i get home, i will know d next step to take. Just ignore him 4 now

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Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 8:46pm On Dec 05
DateMynd44:
he has found a better lady who obviously has something worthy to offer than you

Quick assumption. How're you so sure about that?
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by victorian(f): 9:07pm On Dec 05
Op, another babe has take his attention.

He knows you are still into him and he knows u are not fuckving another guy behind his back.

When a babe is inlove with a guy. She calls every time and every day., which we all know, even the guys knows but if a babe no send her guy, he's calls and pings everytime.

Don't break up yet but try think less of him and focus on what brought u to , where u are. Relax, and make the best of the 4months. Guys and their tantrums, indifference, absentmindededness never ends. It's something ladies would have to deal with for many many years to come.
So for now, he's into another babe.

Possibly when u show up and done with your course or something, he may come back to you. But it's 50-50.

Enjoy yourself jare and stop calling and pinging him. Focus on other things
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by DateMynd44(m): 9:55pm On Dec 05
freedomchild:
Maybe he's feeling insecure because you changed location.. You can move on because the feelings are not much there again...... It happened to me sometime ago when I left school and also left that city. My girlfriend called and called and called but I've already lost interest because both of us aren't financially stable to be transiting ourselves to see........ Most times, outta sight is outta mind
this your comment especially the last part is DOPE grin
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by hkidola00(m): 11:54pm On Dec 05
PrettyMelly:
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years now. The last 3months have been something else.
I travelled out of the state we live in for a 4 month course. The First month in my new location was okay, the communication was good n everything other thing was cool.
But I noticed from the 2nd month, he stopped calling like he used to, he will be online but won't chat with me. I brought this to his knowledge, n he kept saying he's sorry n gave flimsy excuses that he didn't have airtime n all. It got to a point that in a week he will call just once n for a few minutes.
I kept talking abt it, he made me feel like I'm nagging. He kept shouting at me that I'm bringing up issues wen there is none. I do 90% of the calling n it's not cool.
Presently, he doesn't chat with me except wen i upload any pix he finds interesting on my status....but wen I call him, he sounds all loving, saying I miss u n all.
At the moment, I feel hurt n I want to move on cos I think he's taking me for granted.. I don't ask for anything just talk to me that's all. Wat do u advice I do?
be honest, are u cheating on him? pls

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