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My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by PrettyMelly: 7:10am On Dec 05
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years now. The last 3months have been something else.
I travelled out of the state we live in for a 4 month course. The First month in my new location was okay, the communication was good n everything other thing was cool.
But I noticed from the 2nd month, he stopped calling like he used to, he will be online but won't chat with me. I brought this to his knowledge, n he kept saying he's sorry n gave flimsy excuses that he didn't have airtime n all. It got to a point that in a week he will call just once n for a few minutes.
I kept talking abt it, he made me feel like I'm nagging. He kept shouting at me that I'm bringing up issues wen there is none. I do 90% of the calling n it's not cool.
Presently, he doesn't chat with me except wen i upload any pix he finds interesting on my status....but wen I call him, he sounds all loving, saying I miss u n all.
At the moment, I feel hurt n I want to move on cos I think he's taking me for granted.. I don't ask for anything just talk to me that's all. Wat do u advice I do?

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Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by freedomchild: 7:22am On Dec 05
Maybe he's feeling insecure because you changed location.. You can move on because the feelings are not much there again...... It happened to me sometime ago when I left school and also left that city. My girlfriend called and called and called but I've already lost interest because both of us aren't financially stable to be transiting ourselves to see........ Most times, outta sight is outta mind

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Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by Oreofepeters(m): 7:26am On Dec 05
Your girlfriend is yours when she's besides you.

Your boyfriend knows you're probably taken so.

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Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by usoroh4luv(m): 7:26am On Dec 05
Melly,

It is high time you moved on. The guy is somehow not interested anymore.

When you see the red flag anytime and it seems it won't be resolve amicably, you should pack up.

Anyway, I am available. Chat me up by sending a pm

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Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by WinningEleven(m): 7:31am On Dec 05
usoroh4luv:
Melly,

It is high time you moved on. The guy is somehow not interested anymore.

When you see the red flag anytime and it seems it won't be resolve amicably, you should pack up.

Anyway, I am available. Chat me up by sending a pm
bia,
Did she tell you she needed a new bf or male friend?

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Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by kunleweb: 7:35am On Dec 05
Assumptions is the foundation for so many issues in life. Take a trip pay him a visit, ttell.I'm.you not need.to.talk. look.in to his eye ball when doing the talking. Right there lies the answer you seek

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Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by nuelyoyo(m): 7:35am On Dec 05
PrettyMelly:
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years now. The last 3months have been something else.
I travelled out of the state we live in for a 4 month course. The First month in my new location was okay, the communication was good n everything other thing was cool.
But I noticed from the 2nd month, he stopped calling like he used to, he will be online but won't chat with me. I brought this to his knowledge, n he kept saying he's sorry n gave flimsy excuses that he didn't have airtime n all. It got to a point that in a week he will call just once n for a few minutes.
I kept talking abt it, he made me feel like I'm nagging. He kept shouting at me that I'm bringing up issues wen there is none. I do 90% of the calling n it's not cool.
Presently, he doesn't chat with me except wen i upload any pix he finds interesting on my status....but wen I call him, he sounds all loving, saying I miss u n all.
At the moment, I feel hurt n I want to move on cos I think he's taking me for granted.. I don't ask for anything just talk to me that's all. Wat do u advice I do?
did you say you traveled for a four month course? Will you be going back to the city both of you were before after your course? Respond to my question before I know how to react to ur post.
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by WinningEleven(m): 7:37am On Dec 05
PrettyMelly:
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years now. The last 3months have been something else.
I travelled out of the state we live in for a 4 month course. The First month in my new location was okay, the communication was good n everything other thing was cool.
But I noticed from the 2nd month, he stopped calling like he used to, he will be online but won't chat with me. I brought this to his knowledge, n he kept saying he's sorry n gave flimsy excuses that he didn't have airtime n all. It got to a point that in a week he will call just once n for a few minutes.
I kept talking abt it, he made me feel like I'm nagging. He kept shouting at me that I'm bringing up issues wen there is none. I do 90% of the calling n it's not cool.
Presently, he doesn't chat with me except wen i upload any pix he finds interesting on my status....but wen I call him, he sounds all loving, saying I miss u n all.
At the moment, I feel hurt n I want to move on cos I think he's taking me for granted.. I don't ask for anything just talk to me that's all. Wat do u advice I do?
sister, your relationship has officially entered stoppage time. Its better you blow the final whistle before things go worse.
Tete ta 360 kuro ni aye relationship yen.
Yoruba bros go grab.

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Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by Headlesschicken(m): 7:46am On Dec 05
undecided This thing called relationship,if yuh relationship isn't taking u to places like it should pls abort ship, before ship capsizes.... grin
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by bigpicture001: 7:54am On Dec 05
Simply switch to me,im in need of a serious relationship.........
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by usoroh4luv(m): 7:55am On Dec 05
WinningEleven:
bia, Did she tell you she needed a new bf or male friend?
My brother, I am trying to be of help to her. Someone she can confide in.
A friend indeed is a friend in need and a friend in need is a friend indeed.
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by naughtylagosguy(m): 7:57am On Dec 05
Same thing I'm currently facing.
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by lilmax(m): 8:00am On Dec 05
he suspects you

that's why someone said, your girlfriend is only yours when she's with you


and that is true

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Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by PrettyMelly: 8:00am On Dec 05
nuelyoyo:
did you say you traveled for a four month course? Will you be going back to the city both of you were before after your course? Respond to my question before I know how to react to ur post.

Yes I'll be going back to the state he is in January.
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by tgmservice: 8:01am On Dec 05
PrettyMelly:
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years now. The last 3months have been something else.
I travelled out of the state we live in for a 4 month course. The First month in my new location was okay, the communication was good n everything other thing was cool.
But I noticed from the 2nd month, he stopped calling like he used to, he will be online but won't chat with me. I brought this to his knowledge, n he kept saying he's sorry n gave flimsy excuses that he didn't have airtime n all. It got to a point that in a week he will call just once n for a few minutes.
I kept talking abt it, he made me feel like I'm nagging. He kept shouting at me that I'm bringing up issues wen there is none. I do 90% of the calling n it's not cool.
Presently, he doesn't chat with me except wen i upload any pix he finds interesting on my status....but wen I call him, he sounds all loving, saying I miss u n all.
At the moment, I feel hurt n I want to move on cos I think he's taking me for granted.. I don't ask for anything just talk to me that's all. Wat do u advice I do?
can u swear u not 4ucking anoda guy in ur new location

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Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by PrettyMelly: 8:05am On Dec 05
lilmax:
he suspects you

that's why someone said, your girlfriend is only yours when she's with you


and that is true

That's not true pls.....there are still loyal girls that stick to one guy

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Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by PrettyMelly: 8:06am On Dec 05
tgmservice:
can u swear u not 4ucking anoda guy in ur new location

Yes I can

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Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by lilmax(m): 8:17am On Dec 05
PrettyMelly:


That's not true pls.....there are still loyal girls that stick to one guy
of course

but the fact is you have given him a reason not to trust you at some point

trust moi, so he only trust you when you're with him

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Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by habsydiamond(m): 8:28am On Dec 05
Most Long distance relationship always end up collapsing because of communication.... If u still need this relationship u should sacrifice by coming closer to him or u break it up with him..
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by kunleweb: 8:42am On Dec 05
habsydiamond:
Most Long distance relationship always end up collapsing because of communication.... If u still need this relationship u should sacrifice by coming closer to him or u break it up with him..


I disagree distance should easily break relationship an between adults. What about bond.time.sacrifice. some guys need.growing up to do.he has some card up his sleeve rather than play coy he ought to speak thats why good communication is the bedrock of good relations.if trust and bond has been established two years before now then what's his problem?

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Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by SmartMindsFx: 8:59am On Dec 05
There are people who are poor at handling a long distance relationship and I'm guessing he's one of the people who can't.

Insecurity is a major cause though.

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Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by nuelyoyo(m): 9:05am On Dec 05
PrettyMelly:


Yes I'll be going back to the state he is in January.
January is not far again na, why not wait till you go back to him in January, when you are with him, you can observe him closely then. I think he feels he can't commit his resources to something he can't see for the moment. Either way, it's a warning sign you shouldn't ignore, but don't take any decision now, wait till you are back together in January.

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Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by Randy100: 9:17am On Dec 05
The relationship is over trust me on that. That is exactly how I react when I want to end a relationship. He must have seen something.

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Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by Ray97(m): 9:19am On Dec 05
Love is not weekened by distance.. But People are weakened by distance.

what am trying to say is that u guys still love each other. But the distance is making it look like you dont anymore

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Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by abdeiz(m): 9:24am On Dec 05
Op that is just life...you cannot imagine what most of us guys go through in your fellow female's hands too. Even worse.

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Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by Jayhazard(m): 9:55am On Dec 05
I think he is insecure and trying to employ a defence mechanism, just in case something goes wrong lol. It's a sign that he has trust issues, but you shouldn't worry much, whether or not you've given him a reason not to trust you. You should try to make your observations known to him on a light note -- try to avoid arguments. Follow this up with words of reassurance, and maybe it'll help him find his "rhythm" again. Just my opinion sha, I hope I'm correct. All in all, be meticulous in your judgments before you take a bold step.

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Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by Benco4: 10:09am On Dec 05
Love doesn't die because of distance but it dies cos of doubt...... Make out time to visit ur guy and reassure him that nfin has changed that you still love him and also wants the relationship to work....
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by Ay77(m): 10:16am On Dec 05
Maybe the guy is doing SOMELSE... I'm also in this poo too right now
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by Ay77(m): 10:16am On Dec 05
Maybe the guy is doing SOMELSE... I'm also in this poo too right now...

When distance comes in... you just ain't sure of your feelings
Re: My Boyfriend And I Are Becoming Strangers by pacificman: 11:21am On Dec 05
PrettyMelly:
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years now. The last 3months have been something else.
I travelled out of the state we live in for a 4 month course. The First month in my new location was okay, the communication was good n everything other thing was cool.
But I noticed from the 2nd month, he stopped calling like he used to, he will be online but won't chat with me. I brought this to his knowledge, n he kept saying he's sorry n gave flimsy excuses that he didn't have airtime n all. It got to a point that in a week he will call just once n for a few minutes.
I kept talking abt it, he made me feel like I'm nagging. He kept shouting at me that I'm bringing up issues wen there is none. I do 90% of the calling n it's not cool.
Presently, he doesn't chat with me except wen i upload any pix he finds interesting on my status....but wen I call him, he sounds all loving, saying I miss u n all.
At the moment, I feel hurt n I want to move on cos I think he's taking me for granted.. I don't ask for anything just talk to me that's all. Wat do u advice I do?



hahaha just tell us you want to cheat because you don meet new yahoo boy..lol

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