Michellekabod:
Some people have being buffoons to assume that when you boycott religion you are drained of all emotions(excluding negative ones)...
The say God is love,and so without him you cant genuinely love others....

Okay,i am talking about romantic love.
I'm kind of loveless (if that word exists in the world of words)...damn it i still have crushes even in late 20's
It never exceeds butterflies in the stomach for days (highest weeks) and what i feel wanes away slowly.
This has gone on for years now, i wonder if it will get worse now am no longer a christian. Can it get better?

Not worried but concerned because most of the guys i meet want commitment and have long term plans while i want just a fling....

How do you maintain romantic relationships and keep the flame flickering for long
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theunnamed:
Atheists rely mostly on logic, and to most, romantic feelings doesn't make a lot of sense or no sense at all.

Ranchhoddas:
Do you start asking them about religion or what?
Why must you bring up your lack of belief?

ASSUMING YOU'RE AN ATHEIST, HOW WOULD YOU COPE WITH YOUR RELIGIOUS NIGERIAN GIRLFRIEND WHO ALWAYS WANTS TO FAST AND PRAY WITH YOU. ALWAYS WANTS YOU TO ATTEND CHURCH SERVICE, VIGILS, AND SPECIAL MEETINGS WITH HER PASTOR? ESPECIALLY THE CATHOLIC CHARISMATIC GIRL THAT WANTS YOU TO SAY THE ROSARY AND VENERATE MARY WITH HER?
SHE WOULD LIKE THAT YOU HAVE ONE OF THE SCAPULA AND FINGER ROSARIES HER MOM BOUGHT FOR HER, AND WEAR THEM ALL THE TIME.
SHE'S QUICK TO BLAME THE DEVIL AND HER VILLAGERS, AND INVOLVES GOD IN ALL THE SIMPLE THINGS. HOW DO YOU MAINTAIN A HEALTHY WORKING RELATIONSHIP WITH A RELIGIOUS PERSON, AS A NONRELIGIOUS PERSON?

AS AN IRRELIGIOUS PERSON I FIND IT VERY DIFFICULT TO ENGAGE WITH RELIGIOUS PEOPLE, ESPECIALLY IN PRIVATE MATTERS.
HARDMIRROR, LORDREED, HOW DO YOU GUYS COPE WITH WHAT I CALL MADNESS?
THERE'S NO OTHER TERM FOR DESCRIBING THE DEDICATION OF A HUGE PART OF ONE'S LIFE TO AN IMAGINARY NONSENSE THAT HAS NO AVAILABLE EVIDENCE THAT SUGGESTS IT'S AUTHENTICITY.

Michellekabod:
This has gone on for years now, i wonder if it will get worse now am no longer a christian. Can it get better?

Not worried but concerned because most of the guys i meet want commitment and have long term plans while i want just a fling....

How do you maintain romantic relationships and keep the flame flickering for long

Michellekabod:
Some people have being buffoons to assume that when you boycott religion you are drained of all emotions(excluding negative ones)...
The say God is love,and so without him you cant genuinely love others....

Okay,i am talking about romantic love.
I'm kind of loveless (if that word exists in the world of words)...damn it i still have crushes even in late 20's
It never exceeds butterflies in the stomach for days (highest weeks) and what i feel wanes away slowly.
This has gone on for years now, i wonder if it will get worse now am no longer a christian. Can it get better?

Not worried but concerned because most of the guys i meet want commitment and have long term plans while i want just a fling....

How do you maintain romantic relationships and keep the flame flickering for long
Cc:hardmirror,hahn,lordreed,hopefullanlord,capslocked

CAPSLOCKED:


THIS IS NOT TRUE. WE FEEL EVERYTHING HUMANS FEEL IN THE WAYS WE'RE SUPPOSED TO FEEL THEM. IF YOU HAVE PROBLEMS WITH YOUR ROMANTIC LIFE IT'S DUE TO THE KIND OF PERSON YOU ARE AND THE KIND OF LIFE YOU LIVE.



ASSUMING YOU'RE AN ATHEIST, HOW WOULD YOU COPE WITH YOUR RELIGIOUS NIGERIAN GIRLFRIEND WHO ALWAYS WANTS TO FAST AND PRAY WITH YOU. ALWAYS WANTS YOU TO ATTEND CHURCH SERVICE, VIGILS, AND SPECIAL MEETINGS WITH HER PASTOR? ESPECIALLY THE CATHOLIC CHARISMATIC GIRL THAT WANTS YOU TO SAY THE ROSARY AND VENERATE MARY WITH HER?
SHE WOULD LIKE THAT YOU HAVE ONE OF THE SCAPULA AND FINGER ROSARIES HER MOM BOUGHT FOR HER, AND WEAR THEM ALL THE TIME.
SHE'S QUICK TO BLAME THE DEVIL AND HER VILLAGERS, AND INVOLVES GOD IN ALL THE SIMPLE THINGS. HOW DO YOU MAINTAIN A HEALTHY WORKING RELATIONSHIP WITH A RELIGIOUS PERSON, AS A NONRELIGIOUS PERSON?

AS AN IRRELIGIOUS PERSON I FIND IT VERY DIFFICULT TO ENGAGE WITH RELIGIOUS PEOPLE, ESPECIALLY IN PRIVATE MATTERS.
HARDMIRROR, LORDREED, HOW DO YOU GUYS COPE WITH WHAT I CALL MADNESS?
THERE'S NO OTHER TERM FOR DESCRIBING THE DEDICATION OF A HUGE PART OF ONE'S LIFE TO AN IMAGINARY NONSENSE THAT HAS NO AVAILABLE EVIDENCE THAT SUGGESTS IT'S CREDIBILITY.

Ranchhoddas:

The average Nigerian involves God in everything so how do you deal with them?

MrBrownJay1:


You should 1st understand that the love you have for religion/god has absolutely no correlation with the love/affection you May have for a man. This is different type of love..... Just like the love you have for your family will be different OR the love you have for a Child.

2nd as for the attraction/ butterflies going away, it simply means that you have never met someone that had all what you desire (apart from physical). These are people you didn't connect with emotionally, people whose character didn't make you connect or desire them even more. You are physically attracted to them but thats it. Physical attraction gets you close to someone, emotional attraction will keep you there wanting more of that great person.

3rd do you actually know what you desire in a man (apart from physically)? Many women out there are emotionally blocked and whether a good man is in there lives or not, they cant take it to the next level. It could be fear, trauma, etc only you would know.

4th Many women portray someone they are NOT in order to attract a man.... Sadly when that man get closer, he gets turned off by discovering who you truth are. Thus Slowly fading away. So yes dating such man will be a turn off

And last but not least, many women use their sexuality to attract a man and then act surprised when he only want to use your body. You cant attract a Hot dog by walking around half naked and expect that same dog to treat you Like a princess...so yes dating such man would be a turn off

Now if a man wants commitment while you dont, then why would you want to still date this man....you should instead make it clear from the get go that you are not seeking anything serious

CAPSLOCKED:


BEST IS TO GET A PARTNER THAT SHARES SOME OF YOUR IDEAS, BELIEVES IN YOU, AND DOESN'T BEHAVE LIKE "THE AVERAGE NIGERIAN".

CAPSLOCKED:


THIS IS NOT TRUE. WE FEEL EVERYTHING HUMANS FEEL IN THE WAYS WE'RE SUPPOSED TO FEEL THEM. IF YOU HAVE PROBLEMS WITH YOUR ROMANTIC LIFE IT'S DUE TO THE KIND OF PERSON YOU ARE AND THE KIND OF LIFE YOU LIVE.

Michellekabod:

Much grateful.....
I am the person who lives for the now...never thought about marriage et al. I have never being traumatised before and it is not fear.

Michellekabod:
Some people have being buffoons to assume that when you boycott religion you are drained of all emotions(excluding negative ones)...
The say God is love,and so without him you cant genuinely love others....

Okay,i am talking about romantic love.
I'm kind of loveless (if that word exists in the world of words)...damn it i still have crushes even in late 20's
It never exceeds butterflies in the stomach for days (highest weeks) and what i feel wanes away slowly.
This has gone on for years now, i wonder if it will get worse now am no longer a christian. Can it get better?

Not worried but concerned because most of the guys i meet want commitment and have long term plans while i want just a fling....

How do you maintain romantic relationships and keep the flame flickering for long
Cc:hardmirror,hahn,lordreed,hopefullanlord,capslocked

CAPSLOCKED:



ASSUMING YOU'RE AN ATHEIST, HOW WOULD YOU COPE WITH YOUR RELIGIOUS NIGERIAN GIRLFRIEND WHO ALWAYS WANTS TO FAST AND PRAY WITH YOU. ALWAYS WANTS YOU TO ATTEND CHURCH SERVICE, VIGILS, AND SPECIAL MEETINGS WITH HER PASTOR? ESPECIALLY THE CATHOLIC CHARISMATIC GIRL THAT WANTS YOU TO SAY THE ROSARY AND VENERATE MARY WITH HER?
SHE WOULD LIKE THAT YOU HAVE ONE OF THE SCAPULA AND FINGER ROSARIES HER MOM BOUGHT FOR HER, AND WEAR THEM ALL THE TIME.
SHE'S QUICK TO BLAME THE DEVIL AND HER VILLAGERS, AND INVOLVES GOD IN ALL THE SIMPLE THINGS. HOW DO YOU MAINTAIN A HEALTHY WORKING RELATIONSHIP WITH A RELIGIOUS PERSON, AS A NONRELIGIOUS PERSON?

AS AN IRRELIGIOUS PERSON I FIND IT VERY DIFFICULT TO ENGAGE WITH RELIGIOUS PEOPLE, ESPECIALLY IN PRIVATE MATTERS.
HARDMIRROR, LORDREED, HOW DO YOU GUYS COPE WITH WHAT I CALL MADNESS?
THERE'S NO OTHER TERM FOR DESCRIBING THE DEDICATION OF A HUGE PART OF ONE'S LIFE TO AN IMAGINARY NONSENSE THAT HAS NO AVAILABLE EVIDENCE THAT SUGGESTS IT'S AUTHENTICITY.

theunnamed:
Atheists rely mostly on logic, and to most, romantic feelings doesn't make a lot of sense or no sense at all.

But I don't think what you described is due to your disbelief of the existence of God. I'm in my early 20s and I used to feel like that, I've never had a girlfriend, just the occasional romp.

It will pass and eventually you'll want more, that's life. It gets to a point when what you have or feel now is not enough, just be patient with yourself, nobody else matters.


I wish you luck, or whatever it is you believe

Xinzu:
The OP is a troll, don't fall for it.


cc: Hardmirror Hahn Johnydon22 et. al

HellVictorinho:
Love is just a word and people that are married are not always necessarily together so don't ever think there is anyone on earth that can explain that stuff to you perfectly. Just find, and find a way to have a good relationship, with someone that just wants to have fun at any given opportunity. There are many girls/women like that in Nigeria but we call them.......

Ranchhoddas:
I mean normal people and not just partners. Family, friends, neighbours, coworkers, everyone in Nigeria is a goddist. How do you manage them?

Michellekabod:
Some people have being buffoons to assume that when you boycott religion you are drained of all emotions(excluding negative ones)...
The say God is love,and so without him you cant genuinely love others....

Okay,i am talking about romantic love.
I'm kind of loveless (if that word exists in the world of words)...damn it i still have crushes even in late 20's
It never exceeds butterflies in the stomach for days (highest weeks) and what i feel wanes away slowly.
This has gone on for years now, i wonder if it will get worse now am no longer a christian. Can it get better?

Not worried but concerned because most of the guys i meet want commitment and have long term plans while i want just a fling....

How do you maintain romantic relationships and keep the flame flickering for long
Cc:hardmirror,hahn,lordreed,hopefullanlord,capslocked

hahn:


All I can say about your issue is that you are not ready to settle down or maybe you have been heartbroken to the point where you find it hard to fall in love.

Personally I have been married for about 5 years now and I remembered I and my wife used to kneel down and pray together. That was until the day I realised that we were talking to ourselves and decided to dump god in the trash where it belongs.

I an my wife are still very much in love and we now have a little boy who turned 1 in November.

We still gist for hours, mostly gossiping about other people lol, and still argue and fight over nothing and still enjoy each other's company.

I work from home and I am so glad I am able to spend every day with my wife and son especially watching my son grow. It is a beautiful experience.

That said I can confidently say that our love for each other has grown significantly after dumping god. There is more of a need to please and show love each other instead of dividing that love with an imaginary psychopath.

LordReed:


Your wife dumped god too? Such joy, you are a man blessed!

johnydon22:
This is absurd. There are many things wrong with this statement and I will explain.

1.Atheist do not have a monopoly to logic
2. Theism can be just as logical and a theist can be just as logical or even more so.
3. Not all atheist use logic or even understand it.
4. Atheism can be as a result of personal conviction not logic, most times it is.
5. Romantic love is actually very logical, easily explained in technicality or principles of reason.

theunnamed:


I might have been wrong, but most atheists argument I've seen was always centered in "facts and logic", isn't that part of the reason you folks are called free-thinkers? I don't know what y'all upset for

kevoh:

Freethinkers are not all necessarily atheists! There's a very very microscopic thin line between them before one gets confused about their meaning and I usually see people confuse one for the other!

ouzo1:
I thought I was the only one having this same issue.
I hardly like someone for long

theunnamed:




Oh, my bad...I didn't know that there's a difference between "there's no God" and "God doesn't exist".


But please indulge my ignorance and enlighten me on the difference

budaatum:

That's because you have not yet found someone of the same yoke whom you can love for long. If you are an atheist and the people you do find are religious, you are bound to get bored of their religious thinking before long. Or you compromise for the sake of your relationship.

Come back to let us know how you get on when you do find a same yoke atheist.