1. They Think They Are Not Attractive Enough: This point will sound foolish until you probe beyond the surface. According to a psychiatrist, Dr Joey Leslie, "the major reason people can't relate well with others is that they can't relate well with themselves, they don't really like whom they are from the subconscious background". Think about that. One irony of psychology is that most things we show on the surface are the direct opposite when we get to the subconscious levels. Many ladies carry long faces and get antagonistic when men commend their looks all because they believe they are actually being mocked by those commendations. How those attitudes scare men from them! Other ladies, thinking they are not good enough, go to the other extreme of appearing desperate to men which also repels men from them. But if a lady is happy with herself from the depths, she is both mirthful and confident. She neither appears arrogant and defensive, nor desperate and over-submissive. So, learn to love yourself even in your most secret moments, otherwise, no matter what you do, you will keep manifesting characters that are naturally repulsive to men. Nor is this peculiar to ladies since many men are afraid of approaching ladies thinking they don't have what it takes - muscles, manliness, money and big organs (!).

2. They Expect Perfect Partners: Most single people go about carrying a mental picture of their perfect partner. But since the world has no perfect people, they will never meet anyone that matches that mental picture. It's why many are single into their 50s or 60s before they realize themselves and begin to frequent churches/witch doctors for a marital magic wand. The best magic wand is to now realize that nobody will ever be perfect INCLUDING YOU.

3.They Think More Of Themselves In Relationships: As Mahatma Gandhi would say, "the greatest victim of selfishness is always the selfish person". In this age of selfies, people are more likely to think about themselves more than anyone else, and become unhealthily narcist. No wonder there are more and more ailing relationships! Do we even realize how much our own shadows haunt us? Instead, we're ever ready to point accusing fingers at others. Ironically, you truly love others if only you truly love yourself. And if you want to be very happy in any relationship, learn to desire and work for the happiness of the other party above yours. Try it and see. Even sex is more enjoyable when you seek to satisfy the other party before yourself. Your true joy lies in others enjoying you.

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4.Failure To Mix Love With Respect: Everyone seems to know there should be love in relationships. Hardly do we realize that respect is equally as important an ingredient of good relationships as love. For instance, it has been discovered that many men and women care about their partners exactly as they care about their babies. How? They are ready to let their partners enjoy good food, clothing, housing, etc but will always try to let their partners know how stupid they are by the way they disregard or attack their views or interests. This attitude continues to get across, build pent-up emotions and begin to manifest as internal squabbles.

5. THEY FAIL TO REALIZE AND USE THE POWER OF SEX TO START AND KEEP THEIR RELATIONSHIP IN FORM: Many people tend to think they are more honourable because they look down on sex. They seem to do this out of religious, career, cultural and other considerations. And they keep suffering from their own hypocrisy. Now, listen: God made sex pleasurable and relaxing so that couples can use it as a means of bonding to each other. If he meant it for procreation only, then, he needed not make it pleasurable. Instead, it is obvious that the Creator intended for couples to be a constant source of joy to one another through sexual expression. Alas that many couples let this Divine gift slip through their hands as a result of purely human considerations! Hear this: it is your responsibility to keep your partner's eyes off other people by getting him/her sexually hooked to you such that wherever he/she is, he/she will be missing you. You need to learn sexual skills in order to fulfill this important responsibility.

What's your take on this?