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Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by ijustdey: 9:34pm On Jan 11
Some Nigerians in the Federal Capital Territory (FCT) have reacted to the strange drift of women making marriage or relationship proposals to their male counterparts.

They expressed mixed views over the trend in separate with the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) on Friday in Abuja.

They noted that although the development was alien to Nigeria’s culture, but it was becoming trendy in recent times due to increasing influence of western lifestyle, modernisation and pressure to get married.

According to some Nigerians, women who make marriage proposals to men should be applauded for their confidence, rather than ridiculed, condemned or labeled “desperate’’.

However, others said they were against the trend, adding that such proposals have been and should remain the sole responsibility of the man.

Mr Abdul Sarki of Garki 2 said : “Some men of marriageable age delay proposing to ladies they love due to indecisiveness, poor financial status and other economic realities.

“Thank God for modernisation, women are not restricted to seek what they want, and even asking men to marry them when they feel they are suitable ”.

“The society should stop judging or condemning women that propose marriages to men, but rather applaud and encourage them for taking the bold step,’’ he urged.

Mrs Julie Fadason, a resident in Asokoro said she proposed to her husband due to age factor and the need to start bearing children before menopause.

“I had to take the bull by the horn when I felt no marriage proposal was forthcoming despite being in a relationship for over five years with my husband.

” We were both not getting younger and we needed to act fast since we both wanted children,” she said.

According to her, they have been married for over 10 years now, and she has no regrets for taking the initiative to propose to him.

Similarly, Mrs Jummy Okewole, a mother of two, said she was advised to propose to her husband four years ago by some friends and close relatives.

” As at the time we were dating, he had no stable job, but had prospects and was responsible that was why I heeded to advise from people close to me and proposed to him.

“Now, God has blessed him with a very good job, that he has even asked me to resign from my work and opened a business for me.”

Okewole, therefore stressed that financial status should not be used as a yardstick for Marriage proposal, rather love and loyalty should be considered.

Mrs Jummai Adamu, said she was under a lot of pressure from her family and close friends that was why she proposed to her husband.

” Even though we have talked about settling down in the future, but my family and some friends contributed in making me to propose to my husband.

“Two of my younger sisters were already planning for their wedding, and they wanted me as the eldest to settle down before them.

“That was why I asked him to marry me or else I will settle down with another suitor, ”she said.

However, Miss Joy Obaseki, a spinster living in Karu said she could not make a marriage proposal to a suitor despite its growing trend in modern societies.

“I can not, because he might not respect me in future, especially when we have misunderstandings.

Similarly, Mr Anthony Adams a resident of Jabi said as a man it was his responsibility to propose to a woman and not the other way round.

“I feel that makes me less of a man because I am the one to take care of her and our children, so I will propose when I am ready.

“Since she is not paying the dowry, why would she make the marriage proposal?’’ he said. (NAN)

The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) recalls that some female have recently taken the bull by the horn by proposing to their partners, like Judge Judy, a American TV courtroom personality.

Another example is Alecia Moore, popularly known as Pink, an American singer who proposed to her husband Carey Hart in June 2005.


https://www.herald.ng/why-we-cant-propose-to-men-abuja-women/

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Re: Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by lordm: 9:36pm On Jan 11
Most women would rather die in silence, because of ego

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Re: Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by madridguy(m): 9:39pm On Jan 11
I challenge nairaland girls to propose to me tongue

Propose fee, 30 billion

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Re: Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by DanDeeBoss(m): 9:40pm On Jan 11
Maybe in the next life..They only show signals

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Re: Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by Evablizin(f): 9:41pm On Jan 11
Whether the man proposed/the woman did,what is needed is a peaceful home not a battle ground.

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Re: Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by Liliyann(f): 9:41pm On Jan 11
There is nothing like a woman proposing to a man!!!
It isn't done!!
Biblically it is wrong!! Morally, it is unheard of, a man should be the one to make the first move, most guys are just stupid, don't be surprise, that they may decide to use it against you in the future!!
There are some things a man should do like paying of bills, taking care of his woman and helping in the household chores as well as proposing to a woman!!
I wonder why most guys are turning to weakling this days!! undecided

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Re: Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by faithfull18(f): 9:42pm On Jan 11
In the normal order, it should be the man proposing not the other way. A man finds a wife not the wife finding the husband.


To those shouting feminism and gender equality below, this is what it means and is about as spelt out in the SDGs:

Providing women and girls with equal access to education, health care, decent work, and representation in political and economic decision-making processes will fuel sustainable economies and benefit societies and humanity at large. Implementing new legal frameworks regarding female equality in the workplace and the eradication of harmful practices targeted at women is crucial to ending the gender-based discrimination prevalent in many countries around the world.

It has nothing to do with who should propose or not.

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Re: Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by ibkayee(f): 9:44pm On Jan 11
Hell nah

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Re: Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by ValCon888(m): 9:58pm On Jan 11
I laugh in swahili.

After they'll be claiming feminism, forming equal rights yet they can't propose to an ordinary man. Time has come for them to propose and they are waiting for 'normal' order.

They forget we live in very unconventional times where its quite normal for a bush meat to carry a double-barrel shotgun to pursue the hunter.

Until all your eggs freeze up in your fallopian tube or the earthworms feast on your virginity na there your eyes go clear..

The day I'll understand women is the day I'll eat my head..

To those above talking about equal access to economic and social opportunities; you cannot cherry-pick what feminism is and should be. If its equality you want, then its equality all the way.

What is sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander.

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Re: Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by Abfinest007(m): 10:01pm On Jan 11
make ona de there make pant de wear ona instead of make ona wear pant na pant dè wear o
Re: Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by GOFRONT(m): 10:05pm On Jan 11
I would love to check the mileage if you propose to me..

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Re: Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by ZinolyOnlineHelp: 10:13pm On Jan 11
Liliyann:
There is nothing like a woman proposing to a man!!!
It isn't done!!
Biblically it is wrong!! Morally, it is unheard of, a man should be the one to make the first move, most guys are just stupid, don't be surprise, that they may decide to use it against you in the future!!
There are some things a man should do like paying of bills, taking care of his woman and helping in the household chores as well as proposing to a woman!!
I wonder why most guys are turning to weakling this days!! undecided
so na only that one you see biblically wrong?

What of women shouldn't wear men's clothing.. Or lead a congregation.. Or submit to the head of house..

Bush meat like you

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Re: Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by ZinolyOnlineHelp: 10:15pm On Jan 11
faithfull18:
In the normal order, it should the man proposing not the other way. A man finds a wife not the wife finding the husband.
when e reach proposing now.. You people remember Normal order..

What happened to the gender equality preaching s?

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Re: Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by GODPUNISHUNA: 10:19pm On Jan 11
Liliyann:
There is nothing like a woman proposing to a man!!!
It isn't done!!
Biblically it is wrong!! Morally, it is unheard of, a man should be the one to make the first move, most guys are just stupid, don't be surprise, that they may decide to use it against you in the future!!
There are some things a man should do like paying of bills, taking care of his woman and helping in the household chores as well as proposing to a woman!!
I wonder why most guys are turning to weakling this days!! undecided

grin grin you again

I thought you created a thread recently in which you apologized for all past insults and promised to turn a new leaf? undecided

Funny you grin

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Re: Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by OzziOhinoyi(m): 10:32pm On Jan 11
cool
Re: Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by soberdrunk(m): 10:32pm On Jan 11
Now we wait.............!!! angry
Re: Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by bukkysam(f): 10:32pm On Jan 11
Oro buruku tohun terin ;DOro buruku tohun terin
Re: Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by seunmohmoh(f): 10:33pm On Jan 11
I hate long notes.

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Re: Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by husbandsnatcha(f): 10:33pm On Jan 11
Hmmm...my fellow ironladies

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Re: Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by DavidEsq(m): 10:35pm On Jan 11
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Re: Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by Fokuz(m): 10:35pm On Jan 11
That's how you people keep getting to menopause before marriage. If you like me tell me

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Re: Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by SEONaijaExpert: 10:36pm On Jan 11
Why should a woman propose to a man? Is that how punctured his confidence is or how difficult it is to just say, marry me?

Doesn't make sense. If you want something, you should know how to get it.

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Re: Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by DonFreshmoney(m): 10:37pm On Jan 11
Well I hope Nairaland girls are reading and listening. Girls like saffi, dominique, faithfull18, bukkysam, ibkayee, deltatoto, etc should stop forming and start proposing to us. Very soon, evening will soon reach, and men like us don't like eating late. Lol

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Re: Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by BiafraBushBoy(m): 10:37pm On Jan 11
faithfull18:
In the normal order, it should be the man proposing not the other way. A man finds a wife not the wife finding the husband.


To those shouting feminism and gender equality below, this is what it means and is about as spelt out in the SDGs:

Providing women and girls with equal access to education, health care, decent work, and representation in political and economic decision-making processes will fuel sustainable economies and benefit societies and humanity at large. Implementing new legal frameworks regarding female equality in the workplace and the eradication of harmful practices targeted at women is crucial to ending the gender-based discrimination prevalent in many countries around the world.

It has nothing to do with who should propose or not.

propose to me and I make you my number 1 data provider.

wink

deal?

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Re: Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by DanDeeBoss(m): 10:37pm On Jan 11
ValCon888:
I laugh in swahili.

After they'll be claiming feminism, forming equal rights yet they can't propose to an ordinary man. Time has come for them to propose and they are waiting for 'normal' order.

They forget we live in very unconventional times where its quite normal for a bush meat to carry a double-barrel shotgun to pursue the hunter.

Until all your eggs freeze up in your fallopian tube or the earthworms feast on your virginity na there your eyes go clear..

The day I'll understand women is the day I'll eat my head..
Most rant on social media without any action in real life.....gringrin

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Re: Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by DavidEsq(m): 10:38pm On Jan 11
ZinolyOnlineHelp:
so na only that one you see biblically wrong?

What of women shouldn't wear men's clothing.. Or lead a congregation.. Or submit to the head of house..

Bush meat like you
grin grin grin grin grin

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Re: Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by Zuorom: 10:38pm On Jan 11
Nothing bad in a woman proposing to a man she loves

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Re: Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by Passionate888: 10:38pm On Jan 11
Nigerian women problems are too numerous to mention

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Re: Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by Jaqenhghar: 10:39pm On Jan 11
Empty pride. Make una dey there

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Re: Why We Can’t Propose To Men – Abuja Women by Mk17: 10:39pm On Jan 11
oya someone should propose to me now.
but who will now provide money for the marriage?

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