My name is Gift and I just got married three months ago but I am already fed up because my husband’s manhood is so big I suffer tear every time we make love.

I know many women will read this with a pinch of the salt while others, like some of my friends, will say I should be lucky that my husband is so endowed and can satisfy me in bed.



But it is not about sexual satisfaction here, it is about the pain I go through during sex.

I grew up in a strict home where our parents monitored us and any discussion of the opposite sex was seriously frowned upon. I did not have a boyfriend until I was in my third year in the university and even at that, I never had sex till my youth service, at 25, and it was not a pleasant experience.

After the first time, I had sex not more than five more times before I met Joseph who later became my husband. I met him during a seminar I attended in Port Harcourt and was swept off my feet at first glance.

Since he was based in Abuja, we managed to maintain a long distance relationship and only got to see each other whenever he came to Lagos, which was not often.

Our first night together was quite horrible but he reasoned that it was because I had not been exposed. He told me never to worry, as I would get used to it with time.

We managed to cope till we got married and that was when my nightmare started. Sex with my husband has been hellish and I always dread such moments. We have tried lubricants to make me wet but it seems my tight private part is not just made for him.

We are both living like strangers and I dare say it is just a matter of time before the marriage crumbles.

What do I do to make my marriage work?

The issue is not necessarily about his size. It’s about you and how you view sex in general. You have quickly relagated it to the role of chore.
You need to enjoy it but that’s hard because you are already in a negative mindset regarding the pain, past experiences, religious/strict upbringing etc.
Your mindset has to change, you need to have an open and frank conversation with your husband about pre-intimacy, alternative positions don’t be a Puritan about this because this is what sows the seeds of looking outside the window to see what is passing by.

It’s not just about lubrication how will that help if your whole demeanour is tense and anxious .You have to be an active participant of your sex life it’s not about size either. It’s about psychology, the whole act and also about you changing. Maybe your husband as well, sex is not about “coping” neither should it be about pain.

Know what turns you on so that you can communicate that with him. He does not know everything, no man does.

Please do not leave your marriage because of the above reasons. I will blame both of you for this issue.
If I may ask, is your husband's manhood bigger than 1/2 the size of a new born baby?
Lack of genuine sex education contributes to your issue, and seeing a sex therapist, if you can't research well and give yourselves what and how you need to handle the issue, will help.
I repeat, your issues are very solvable, and must not result to you leaving your marriage.

Good luck to you all

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MissRaine69:
The issue is not necessarily about his size. It’s about you and how you view sex in general. You have quickly relagated it to the role of chore.
You need to enjoy it but that’s hard because you are already in a negative mindset regarding the pain, past experiences, religious/strict upbringing etc.
Your mindset has to change, you need to have an open and frank conversation with your husband about pre-intimacy, alternative positions don’t be a Puritan about this because this is what sows the seeds of looking outside the window to see what is passing by.

It’s not just about lubrication how will that help if your whole demeanour is tense and anxious .You have to be an active participant of your sex life it’s not about size either. It’s about psychology, the whole act and also about you changing. Maybe your husband as well, sex is not about “coping” neither should it be about pain.

Know what turns you on so that you can communicate that with him. He does not know everything, no man does.

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My name is Gift and I just got married three months ago but I am already fed up because my husband’s manhood is so big I suffer tear every time we make love.

I know many women will read this with a pinch of the salt while others, like some of my friends, will say I should be lucky that my husband is so endowed and can satisfy me in bed.



But it is not about sexual satisfaction here, it is about the pain I go through during sex.

I grew up in a strict home where our parents monitored us and any discussion of the opposite sex was seriously frowned upon. I did not have a boyfriend until I was in my third year in the university and even at that, I never had sex till my youth service, at 25, and it was not a pleasant experience.

After the first time, I had sex not more than five more times before I met Joseph who later became my husband. I met him during a seminar I attended in Port Harcourt and was swept off my feet at first glance.

Since he was based in Abuja, we managed to maintain a long distance relationship and only got to see each other whenever he came to Lagos, which was not often.

Our first night together was quite horrible but he reasoned that it was because I had not been exposed. He told me never to worry, as I would get used to it with time.

We managed to cope till we got married and that was when my nightmare started. Sex with my husband has been hellish and I always dread such moments. We have tried lubricants to make me wet but it seems my tight private part is not just made for him.

We are both living like strangers and I dare say it is just a matter of time before the marriage crumbles.

What do I do to make my marriage work?

This is the reason I don't do "no sex till after marriage" you have to know if you are compatible sexually. Some ladies are scared of sex esp those virgin ones who got are married late.

MissRaine69:
The issue is not necessarily about his size. It’s about you and how you view sex in general. You have quickly relagated it to the role of chore.
You need to enjoy it but that’s hard because you are already in a negative mindset regarding the pain, past experiences, religious/strict upbringing etc.
Your mindset has to change, you need to have an open and frank conversation with your husband about pre-intimacy, alternative positions don’t be a Puritan about this because this is what sows the seeds of looking outside the window to see what is passing by.

It’s not just about lubrication how will that help if your whole demeanour is tense and anxious .You have to be an active participant of your sex life it’s not about size either. It’s about psychology, the whole act and also about you changing. Maybe your husband as well, sex is not about “coping” neither should it be about pain.

Know what turns you on so that you can communicate that with him. He does not know everything, no man does.

She is in pains and u telling her to enjoy it? She suffers tears. I don't know y Nigerians like painting over issues. Which dead psychology when her physical parts are in pains

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NwanyiAwkaetiti:
She is in pains and u telling her to enjoy it? She suffers tears. I don't know y Nigerians like painting over issues. Which dead psychology when her physical parts are in pains

Going to school did not benefit you in any way shape or form. You lack comprehension skills.

I had similar problem with my girlfriend. Not necessarilly because my dick size, but because she was too tight. It took us about 6 months to make it better. She later told me that it was always worse when she was nervous about it. Maybe try to get drunk before it to be more relaxed...

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
She is in pains and u telling her to enjoy it? She suffers tears. I don't know y Nigerians like painting over issues. Which dead psychology when her physical parts are in pains

d size of blocus dont matter d guy shd romance her more before entering. am big down dere and my girl complained sometimes but if enuf romance shes happy and ready.

Ewoooo hmmmmmm sorry oooooo. I can't say I no how you feel o I'm a guy. But when I read the "tear" part I had to comment.

Firstly talk to Mr Dickson about this, I don't know how long you guys have been copulating but he needs to know the damage going on to your health and psyche. Some posters say you need to relax that's true cuz that's when your muscles down there can loosen up. Unless your pelvic bone is getting in the way you're designed to accommodate bigger naturally.

But your "person" needs to start feeling sex and stop being traumatized at the sight of the one eyed snake. Alcohol helps.

Let me check for people that can "downsize" if the above no work.

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MissRaine69:

Going to school did not benefit you in any way shape or form. You lack comprehension skills.

Wow! A direct insult from missraine! I'll let this slide though

There are millions of girls outside, nothing stops you from just being a house wife that looks after his kids and cooks for him while he fvcks other women?

Or is it bad?

dont worry i have average let me help ur husband

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NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Wow! A direct insult from missraine! I'll let this slide though

Pain is also psychological if you think “pain” what you feel will be enhanced hence the reference to not focusing on the negative aspect of her sex life. She is already in pain before it begins. You took that very Literally land assumed I was being dismissive. Hence my retort. Read what I wrote again. The emotional and the psychological will always factor in how we relate to the person we are in a relationship with. Past traumas and experiences will affect the present. Her history of intimacy has not been that spectacular if you read her post it’s obvious that will impact on the present.

pacino26:
Ewoooo hmmmmmm sorry oooooo. I can't say I no how you feel o I'm a guy. But when I read the "tear" part I had to comment.

Firstly talk to Mr Dickson about this, I don't know how long you guys have been copulating but he needs to know the damage going on to your health and psyche. Some posters say you need to relax that's true cuz that's when your muscles down there can loosen up. Unless your pelvic bone is getting in the way you're designed to accommodate bigger naturally.

But your "person" needs to start feeling sex and stop being traumatized at the sight of the one eyed snake. Alcohol helps.

Let me check for people that can "downsize" if the above no work.

I highly doubt she is the alcohol type
That said most overlook past traumas and how they impact on current physical relationships.
Maybe Mr Husband is not one for 4play?
Her oven needs to be preheated that’s the first step and her whole person needs to be less tense.
Using lube is good but what kind of lube?
Vaseline and lotion don’t count!
Water based one has to be considered.

BiggyB242:


This is the reason I don't do "no sex till after marriage" you have to know if you are compatible sexually. Some ladies are scared of sex esp those virgin ones who got are married late.

Bullshit! Did you read the part where she wrote they actually did it?