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Re: How Did You Cope With Your Partner Telling You All About Their Dark Pasts? by CyberWolf: 10:12pm On Feb 03
I’ve tried to maintain a past clean record so, I can’t settle for less, I deserve better abeg. I usually act nice and ask for your past records, they definitely open up to be believing that they’ve caught a dumb final bus stop.As a coded sharp guy, I Will just say “ the past should remain in the past”.. and that makes them feel secured but for where?.. I’m not a fool so, I usually take my own share and when I’m done, I bounce. OP, for the fact that she is still hanging with those guys that has ravaged her honeypot means she is not ready to change, collect your own share and move and while on it, make sure you use protection ooo .. No go fall in love before you die of heart attack.
Re: How Did You Cope With Your Partner Telling You All About Their Dark Pasts? by davien(m): 11:45pm On Feb 03
FrostyButter:
Always knew I would find myself in this position on day. Falling hard for someone, dating them, and then finally getting to really know them. Today she told me about her past and I've just been in one place, my mind racing back and forth. Anyone every been in this kind of situation? How did you cope with it? What decision did you make and did you regret it?

I know many people would say if you love someone you don't care about their past, or you don't even think about it. I feel that's what Hollywood scripts are made of. Lets discuss like real human beings.


Modified : As for what happened, I got to realise most of the male friends she has and told me about, the ones she still would call her close friends have had one sexual thing with her or the other. To be precise, 9 of them and 7 have had a thing with her, sexually. In her defence, there was no emotional attachments... Which to me is even more annoying. Plus she still wants to hang out with them. Infact, that's the fight we are having right now. And there are still worse things I would rather not discuss. That's where I'm at.


So I don't know if there is anyone that has stayed back in a relationship like this and if you ran away, please tell how you did it, just incase I have to.
She's never going to leave them because she knows having that thought that she has options can be used to control you.. Simple.
During my ajebor stage I dated someone like that for 3 years, and she kept seeing, adding more guys and sleeping with them all, I took my last share and left.
When you push someone like that against the wall they'll only lie about leaving them but continue codedly, she doesn't see you worthy of leaving those guys for.
Man up and find loyal babe. Nothing is too good for that kind of girl, money or good sex ain't gonna hold her cause she's a player, only she can change by herself and by then I hope you don't get any STDs from her and her telling you to "stop being insecure"(their excuse for odd behavior)
Re: How Did You Cope With Your Partner Telling You All About Their Dark Pasts? by dmgr(m): 12:24am On Feb 04
Mehn! It wasn't really easy for me then, hearing all that has happened to her in the past.thou it was something she choose to tell me without me asking due to the fact that I always spoke about honesty from the beginning of the relationship and maybe she felt I had the right to know at that particular point in time.

And the thing is,all that has happened to her is something I will refer to as unavoidable incidents that can happen to anybody but,but what surprises me till date is how same thing will repeatedly happen to a person like 4 times,which I think it's not normal...and I just had to believe her because I didn't really know what exactly happened at that time( her past)
Re: How Did You Cope With Your Partner Telling You All About Their Dark Pasts? by drmikeadams(m): 12:41am On Feb 04
grin : grin forget that sentiments"let the past be past thrash"" ;that's y they keep misbehaving,,hoping to settle down wit any available mugu when dem tire,D u see d useless females posting Unclad photos hup han Dan. Social network..doing olosho work hup han dan,,,tomorrow somebody will tell me ... grin it's in the past grin amadioha will strike d person asap

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Re: How Did You Cope With Your Partner Telling You All About Their Dark Pasts? by drmikeadams(m): 12:45am On Feb 04
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CyberWolf:
I’ve tried to maintain a past clean record so, I can’t settle for less, I deserve better abeg. I usually act nice and ask for your past records, they definitely open up to be believing that they’ve caught a dumb final bus stop, I
Will just say let “ the past should remain in the past”.. for where? I will take my own share and when I’m done, I bounce. OP, for the fact that she is still hanging with those guys that has ravaged her honeypot means she is not ready to change, collect your own share and move and while on it, make sure you use protection ooo .. No go fall in love before you die of heart attack.
>: grin grin one chilled origin for u and Benson n hedges grin
Re: How Did You Cope With Your Partner Telling You All About Their Dark Pasts? by ZIMDRILL(m): 1:30am On Feb 04
Lightangel65:


She told you about her past means she trusts you, don't break her heart.
If you really love her, her past won't matter,
Love overcomes all

yes she him the truth

but the truth has pyschological effect on the guy, remember she is still friends with those guys so imagine she goes out and just hang around with one, the moment he know his brains go haywire

its the thought of that it might happen again, she must distance herself from those guys especially after telling her man about the sexual encounters with 7 of them

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Re: How Did You Cope With Your Partner Telling You All About Their Dark Pasts? by ImaIma1(f): 7:52am On Feb 04
Well, it's the past. How is your past? Did you also spill? But the problem is the present...the fact that she still wants to hang out with them. What for? Let her keep the past in the past.
Re: How Did You Cope With Your Partner Telling You All About Their Dark Pasts? by zexy2030(m): 11:56am On Feb 04
ImaIma1:
Well, it's the past. How is your past? Did you also spill? But the problem is the present...the fact that she still wants to hang out with them. What for? Let her keep the past in the past.
they still want to enjoy the thingy while it last..because the present might soon become an ex
Re: How Did You Cope With Your Partner Telling You All About Their Dark Pasts? by BuddhaPalm(m): 3:18pm On Feb 04
drmikeadams:
grin : grin forget that sentiments"let the past be past thrash"" ;that's y they keep misbehaving,,hoping to settle down wit any available mugu when dem tire,D u see d useless females posting Unclad photos hup han Dan. Social network..doing olosho work hup han dan,,,tomorrow somebody will tell me ... grin it's in the past grin amadioha will strike d person asap

grin grin grin
Re: How Did You Cope With Your Partner Telling You All About Their Dark Pasts? by BuddhaPalm(m): 3:19pm On Feb 04
Leopard spots na permanent e be.
Re: How Did You Cope With Your Partner Telling You All About Their Dark Pasts? by Chubbyasian: 4:27pm On Feb 04
My gf has been gang banged by 8guys. I forced her to tell me everything. Funny thing is the it turns me on. I think of how she was bleeped and jerk off to it
Re: How Did You Cope With Your Partner Telling You All About Their Dark Pasts? by Lightangel65(m): 4:35pm On Feb 04
AryEmber:
I totally love this. After I have endured and make sure my past is close to clean, I certainly can't settle for less just for the sake of it.

You are 100% right bro.
Don't settle for less, there are better persons out there

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