@poster. . . The basic reason for marriage is to bring kids into the world, period. Issues like 'love',understanding,being in touch with feelings and all that hogwash is secondary. Men in todays informed world have different reasons for getting married but i can assure you that most women (if not all) have child bearing on top of the agenda. If not for the biological clock factor,a lot of women would rather wait till they are past 60 before they have kids! Na the koko be dat.

If not for making babies, why would I go into that life contract with a woman. Marriage is too risky for anyother reason apart from procreation: living with her 4 life, having unprotected sex et al

I know I don't a need a wife unless it is for procreation. I have a girl friend and she is a good companion. If I am going to marry her, it is strictly for babies.

dayokanu:

Why cant she simply walk away and not demand any compensation as long as the kids are taken care of? Tough ask right? She doesnt want to return to her nanny job after she has tasted riches courtesy of Tiger

Still wonder why such women would be called gold diggers.

For these women, If your cheating husband is broke, you simply walk out but if he is rich, You suck him dry right?

dayokanu you're on point my brother. how many women can be like Tina Turner, who only took her surname from Ike Turner. she left the houses, cars, royalties etc. she still ended up more successful. why can women emulate these types of REAL WOMEN. women who turn to the Lorn and work their asses off to reach the top and give the best to the kids. mark my works, with the half Tiger will still be richer in 10 years time.if shes not careful she will piss it away,

[size=18pt]IN NIGERIA, MARRIAGE SEEMS TO BE ALL ABOUT MAKING BABIES RATHER THAN THE COUPLE. THIS IS HOW MARRIAGES USED TO BE IN ALMOST EVERY CULTURE BEFORE THE TWENTY FIRST CENTURY. WHY DO YOU THINK KINGS DESPERATELY WANTED HEIRS TO THE THRONE. [/size]

Uumm Apart from sex which thru we get babies I don't think we need women, So since you didn't include sex I will say its all about making babies,

dayokanu:

Ppl marry for different reasons.

Elin married Tiger Woods with a different intention (Money and fame)

Tiger probably married her for love.

Making babies is left for the couple to decide. Ppl get married and not have babies while ppl make babies and not get married, It depends on your goals.

How you know?

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So you marry to make babies then you have em kids and one is Autistic
another is deaf then what?

Marriage is an institution anyway.I think is for both

In marriage, It is love and companionship first, the marriage vows explain that clearly. Children, if they come, will get to enjoy part of that love and dedication that is already established in the union. If the children don't come, the love and dedication will still hold the union. Any marriage that breaks up because of childnessness never started off on the right foot. The marriage should already be cemented before the children come at all! We see the consquences of partners not honoring their vows and looking for children outside their marriages; broken trusts, broken homes and broken lives!

Marriage is for loving and cherishing, excluding all others 'till death do the couple apart'; not till childlessness or family/societal pressures to have children do them part'.

Biblically it is said they become 1 i.e the couples. Which for me is the sole reason, the second reason is for procreation.

Digressing a little the husband is supposed to love his wife even more than his children. Do i have opposers on this?

Not the Ultimate but its still part of it!

Havin babies is also involve in marraige buh not d main factor! (To "MY" own view) Marraige is all about having some1 dat'll cheer u up durin good tyms n bad tyms. som1 u can lean on when no one is dia for u. som1 u can love with all your heart, trust with all your soul n shoulder to cry on when in need! Den followed by children.  Daz all i know about marraige!

(((OFF TOPIC)))
Im watchin a lyv programme of d arrival of 8 Hong Kong tourist dat wia killed by a phillipine bus-hijacker in Phillipine yesterday. D hijacker is a former senior police officer dat was strip off his job last yr n went to hijack a tourist bus demandin back his job. He released some people inside d bus n killed d remainin people after d police came to rescue dem (tho som came out alyv while some wia injured). D hijacker was also shot dead by d police buh y r some people so wicked n heartless dis days?

Marriage is first for companionship, then second making babies. if your mum and dad saw it as a means of companionship alone you would never have been born as simple as ABC. if others like let them see it as a means of companionship alone very soon the will runout of who to have sex.

davidif:

[size=18pt]IN NIGERIA, MARRIAGE SEEMS TO BE ALL ABOUT MAKING BABIES RATHER THAN THE COUPLE. THIS IS HOW MARRIAGES USED TO BE IN ALMOST EVERY CULTURE BEFORE THE TWENTY FIRST CENTURY. WHY DO YOU THINK KINGS DESPERATELY WANTED HEIRS TO THE THRONE. [/size]

the truth and nothing but the truth.

we all know of tales of marriages ruined because of no "male" children

leave all these grammer joooorrrr


for me, marriage is about procreation!!!!!!

if u doubt me, marry ur wife and dont "born", and tell ur people that its about companionship

QED

chika98:

How you know?

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So you marry to make babies then you have em kids and one is Autistic
another is deaf then what?

What woould a common nanny have to offer Tiger Woods

dayokanu:

What woould a common nanny have to offer Tiger Woods

You call her common because she's a nanny? Money isn't everything! You should know better than that

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Money isin't everything?

Y r d ladies requetin for half of d husband property after divorce? Can't dey carry on with dia lyf on dia own?

Why do so many pple still insist that marriage is the only way by which children are born? All you need for that is unprotected sex, at the right time of the month, and BUYA!
And for those who want to approach it from a biblical standpoint, remember that God created Eve because Adam realized that he was lonely, not because God was trying to get "the numbers up".
(But really, who still believes in a concrete way that God goes around, dropping children into wombs like Santa Claus giving gifts. Will you accept that logic when your young sister/niece/daughter comes home pregnant and says "I don't know what happened! I was washing cloths, and then all of sudden, GBAM!)
LOL!

@ Sangman, i don't think people are saying the only way to have children is to get married.
What i believe is being said is that it is the only way of having legitimate children not children born out of wedlock and called the B word.

chika98:

You call her common because she's a nanny? Money isn't everything! You should know better than that

Could have been common secretary, common hairdresser, common Doctor or Engineer but her profession before she met Tiger Woods was a NANNY.

What's with you guys?! For the record, I can both read and write (type as well); meaning I well understand the topic. Nonetheless, I know a good deal of marriages are for neither reason. You can't really fault that in this materialistic world we live in. For some, rather than for the money, it's for the prestige, fame, scandal or what have you. For others, it's quite the opposite - to save face. I've as well seen people marry out of pity. Not to mention contrived and coerced marriages. I guess you're familiar with word betrothal too (let's break it down to a non-consent, criminal pre-marriage in many instances).

I'm with everyone on both sides of the deal - kids here, companionship (and sex!) over there; my Bible however tells me something in Genesis 1:28
I'm quick to notice as well that the aforementioned verse says nothing of marriage being a requisite (though a given). And don't even start having thoughts of thinking I'm suggesting immorality or all the other proclivities you guys are given to. [Some Bible scholars argue the first marriage had taken place before the commandment to be "fruitful and multiply" anyway]

One more thing. Your motive doesn't really matter: so long as you've got extended family yet you're without children and have been married a long while (in Nigeria), God help you ,

@blank:
My comments were for those who think that marriage is solely for procreation. While I agree that having children in the context of marriage is the optimal situation, and better for societal structure, I don't think the title of "bastard" still has much weight, beyond stigma. Do children born out of wedlock still face insurmountable hurdles? I doubt.
But not to veer too far off topic, marriage is about the couple primarily, and the children are an addition blessing.

Sangman:

@blank:
My comments were for those who think that marriage is solely for procreation. While I agree that having children in the context of marriage is the optimal situation, and better for societal structure, I don't think the title of "naughty person" still has much weight, beyond stigma. Do children born out of wedlock still face insurmountable hurdles? I doubt.
But not to veer too far off topic, marriage is about the couple primarily, and the children are an addition blessing.

Sangman:

@blank:
My comments were for those who think that marriage is solely for procreation. While I agree that having children in the context of marriage is the optimal situation, and better for societal structure, I don't think the title of "naughty person" still has much weight, beyond stigma. Do children born out of wedlock still face insurmountable hurdles? I doubt.
But not to veer too far off topic, marriage is about the couple primarily, and the children are an addition blessing.

another affirmation.

God in His infinite wisdom created Eve for Adam cos He beheld the poor guy's loneliness.
I guess He would hav made babies immediately if it was a do or die affair, but He left the decision for the couple to make.
What if one gt married and the babies dont come? what if they came and died later?(not our prayers though).will the marriage be nullified?
i feel the poster is not underestimating the importance of kids in the home, he is just puting it as number 2 in the list of priorities, number one remains love, companionship and friendship. boy/girlfriend cannot provide u with such companionship that marriage can.one may change them as often as possible, but once married, ppl want to stick to their soulmate, they learn to forgive and move on instead of changing bedmates like wrapper. POSTER I SUPPORT YOUR VIEW 100%. PPL SAY ITS WESTERN COS THEY HAVE A PHOBIA FOR CHANGE. lol

@babylishus sorry I now open the page since I replied. I will find the scripture where marriage is to produce a godly seed. Somehow though, since earth is corrupted, godly seed is not or hardly possible. When I say Satan uses sex as a tool to destroy humanity, I mean looking at it from the world what's going on, Satan uses sex to entice people such as pornography, perversion, fornication, adultery which are going on in the world today. In fact, sex is not used as it should.
People applaud sex. Their derivation come from Satanic traps.

@Sangman Yes God created Eve because Adam was alone, not lonely. He created that state in man for him to desire a woman but the ultimate goal is still to have children. Adam and Eve were the only people present at the time. Now there are billions of people in the earth today.

olelle:

@babylishus sorry I now open the page since I replied. I will find the scripture where marriage is to produce a godly seed. Somehow though, since earth is corrupted, godly seed is not or hardly possible. When I say Satan uses sex as a tool to destroy humanity, I mean looking at it from the world what's going on, Satan uses sex to entice people such as indecency, perversion, fornication, adultery which are going on in the world today. In fact, sex is not used as it should.
People applaud sex. Their derivation come from Satanic traps.

total truth.

Since we are throwing away tradition, marriage should be thrown to the dogs and live in boyfriend and girlfriend should be allowed. Everything Marriage was originally designed to offer can now be gotten without Marriage so why should I torture myself. IMHO, Marriage does not offer anything; there are girls with beautiful genes that will like to be baby mamas and give companionship and after boredom sets in, the trauma and expense of divorce will not be there.

Please note this is just my opinion.

And please before you marry your spouse ask what the marriage is for (kids, money, companionship etc) so that he or she will not be disappointed if he/she cant get it, I think thats what causes divorce is not meeting expectations.

In Nigeria, Yes marriage is for making babies (whether we like it or not!). When you get married in January, by May, people are already asking the husband, 'how madam?' and the wife , they are checking out her stomach. those that are bold enough will ask you , aw far? no show? hope no problem? And the inlaws, thats story for another day!!!!