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Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by yemi15(m): 6:17pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
opejulie10: Don't listen to them madam. You were right in confronting him, though calling him gay was wrong. Next time, he misbehaves, threaten to report him to his immediate family and your church pastor. See the magic there. If he is still continuing in his nefarious ways, report him to those people I mentioned. If he is still adamant, it might be time to think of a divorce (I hope you are not a housewife that has no job or you do have savings that can be used for business as a source of living) as bad as it may sound. Once again, this is not a matter to fret over. Follow my advice and you will be fine. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by crackhaus: 6:17pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
opejulie10:Lol You're just being jealous. This is cute by the way, your husband shouldn't even be this mad at you. If I were to be in his shoes, i would be laughing at you. Okay seriously now, you know what usually works? I tell my friends, just say exactly how you're feeling instead of reacting and making a blunder (like you did twice). Tell the father of your kids that you're jealous and you miss him and the time you used to spend together. Also apologize for the gay comment and the call you made to his friend. 4 Likes |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by yemi15(m): 6:18pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
Uyi168: Because they come with one-sided stories and they fret too much over small issues that is why. |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by yemi15(m): 6:21pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
davidflipcy5856: Another good advice. Apologize first, make your point, he does not change, report him, he still does not change, go for a divorce. Life is not hard if most of our women in love matters do not think with emotions. Chikena. |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by LadySarah: 6:26pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
dollytino4real: sorry ma but this mind yout biz tactic hardly works 3 Likes |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by crackhaus: 6:37pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
opejulie10:You don't have to exaggerate to earn the sympathy of your readers. |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by tillaman(m): 6:42pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
Well said!! God bless you mate! UjuJoan2: |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by opejulie10: 6:44pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
crackhaus: yes I am jealous and worried,he has had other friends in past and I have never complained because they are not as irresponsible as these new friend he has 4 Likes |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by opejulie10: 6:46pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
crackhaus: exaggerating doesn't add a Kobo to my account not sympathy from readers,these is the only place I can share this and I don't have friends I talk to about what is happening in my home 2 Likes |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by dollytino4real(f): 7:41pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
LadySarah:have u tried it b4. 1 Like |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by chiwex(m): 7:47pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
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Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by LadySarah: 9:09pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
opejulie10: You are right to need his attention and to be preinformed if there will be an additional roomate. whatever precedence yoi set today will influence what goes on fro now.Dont beg him Make sure the stupid mofo doesnt come back anymore,let hell loose.If he had common sense,he would encoursge your husby to go bond with you when you are around. His anger wil cool and then he will come around nd communicate.Thats what two adults in a rshp do. 1 Like |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by Emioga: 9:16pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
Uyi168:me sef I weak 2 Likes |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by carammel(f): 9:59pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
What sort of irresponsible man is so blind to the fact that his presence is tearing a nice family apart? Common sense should tell him to move out and allow the couple sort themselves. Oponu agbalagba. The woman's only fault is warning the friend, she went overboard. 3 Likes |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by opejulie10: 10:28pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
LadySarah: 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by opejulie10: 10:40pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
[quote author=opejulie10 post=75806523][/quote] what do I want to do again,my dad scolded me and I went to him tonight to apologize for calling him gay, infact he closed his ears with his two hands and still shooed me away... what have I done wrong?is it wrong I love my husband or I have as my best friend,is it wrong I scolded him?is it wrong I corrected him,it hurts so much,I am weak,and I break down easily emotionally, I feel like running away from all this...God,I am tired,I am so tired, if I knew I wouldn't have married so early..... I would have had some friends so I can confided in and not hurt this much....thank you so much nairalanders you have been of great help... 2 Likes |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by blessedaunty: 11:08pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
U don't have to want to run away from the situation, you just have to be strong. The only mistake you made was calling him gay, without proof. Marriage can be tough at times. Try making good friends that can give you good advice. A typical Nigerian husband hardly respect their wives, there is always that feeling of I did you a favour by marrying you. The good thing is you are working and wouldn't depend on him entirely financially. But above all trying try reconciling with him, he is holding on to the fact that you called him gay, of which I think you should apologize. |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by luckygeee: 11:08pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
LadySarah:Home breaker spotted, pls op, don't let them spoil ur home with such advice. This kind of person is probably single at an old age or unhappy in marriage and would want u to be like her. Pls I know what I am saying. Two wrongs does not make a right and harsh confrontation may not always be right. If ure jealous of sharing his attention, let him no in a subtle way, any man will feel good to hear such words from a wife 2 Likes |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by Nobody: 11:29pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by Nobody: 12:07am On Feb 17, 2019 |
Dear OP I find it somewhat disturbing that you have got no friends, do not want any friends but your best friend-husband who is clearly is not on the same page (as evidenced by his actions) I really think it is unhealthy to invest all your emotions in your spouse. This must be draining for both of you I feel. He smiles and it is sunshine, he frowns and it is a storm. Then the main thing- he keeps company and your world is torn apart like this You need to get a life and I say this without any malice intended. Your husband belongs with you, and you with him, but nowhere is it okay for you guys not to have other, healthy relationships From what I can deduce, even an angel hanging out with your husband will come off smelling like rotting (or rotten) fish to you For me the root cause of everything is this insecure feeling you have, which comes from a place of fear. Your reactions would always be off as a result. But, I could be wrong though (I hope I am) I have no words regarding the house guest/gay/ leading astray/confrontations situation. I just responded to the intense thirst (panicked neediness) residing in your post. Good luck 4 Likes |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by Nobody: 12:16am On Feb 17, 2019 |
opejulie10: How old is he? He must be going through mid life crises. Explains his childish attitude. Get busy with other things please. You only concern must be on him performing is responsibilities in the house. Other than that, just leave him be. 1 Like |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by Nobody: 1:21am On Feb 17, 2019 |
90% of stories on this section are fake . Fake stories everywhere ! No be only husband. Mtcheew |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by AceRoyal: 1:52am On Feb 17, 2019 |
opejulie10:U could have tried to be a friend with his friend. Once that is done you'll have room to work your way up to your husband by making him jealous of your friendship. He'll be the one to drive the friend away, by himself. Wisdom is very profitable and you didn't handle this issue well. Check yourself, something might be wrong with him or he's bored of you. Try to spice yourself and marriage up. Pay attention to your looks, attitude and character lately. Or he might have alot on his mind. Be wise! "There are so many ways to kill a rat in a clay pot without breaking the pot" Sometimes we get to love our partners, the way we feel they should be loved, and not the way they want/need to be loved. |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by AceRoyal: 2:01am On Feb 17, 2019 |
opejulie10:If you love and value your home, DO NOT report him to anyone be it a religious leader, an elder or his parents for now,else your marriage will hit the rocks faster than you think. You need to calm down and be logical. Don't allow your emotions cloud your sense of judgment and actions. He's not gay but there's a big possibility of another woman lurking around in his life through the influence of his friend. Act fast and with wisdom to save your home. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by LadySarah: 2:07am On Feb 17, 2019 |
luckygeee: Thank you Oga happily married. 1 Like |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by femi4: 6:00am On Feb 17, 2019 |
opejulie10:Unlike Abraham, you have a strange man in your home. Unless the strange man is out of your home....I don't think peace is around the corner |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by gobuchinny: 7:38am On Feb 17, 2019 |
yemi15: Very bad advice yemi.,very bad..a woman of wisdom should know how to handle things better..Marriage is an institution and the woman is to help the man and vice versa..this method will most definately lead to divorce and I wonder if that's what you will take if it was you that had this problem. Its easy to advise on this route but will you do the same knowing it will crash your marriage.,if you try this method with most men that r true men not a man that lives off his in laws or wife then it will definately back fire.,,men don't like to be threatened like I said a true man not a gold digger. The first mistake the op made was accusing the husband of being gay which if she was wrong would greatly bruise his ego and secondly confronting the friend directly...no naaa. .pls let's be smart..that's y we have so much divorce in the land...wisdom is profitably to direct.. This man could have a number of reasons to behave like this..I'm not condoning his acts but it could be anything that the op should try and find out as his friend...maybe his pressured to make a wrong business dealing that he fears will back fire, prresure from work, peer pressure, insecurities, whatever.. also his wife might be pushing him away with her attitude. Madam get on your knees and pray forget all this advises that will lead to divorce..leave him and give him his space..don't disrespect him and if it's getting worse you can inform his parents or urs and if he lays a hand on you then leave him immediately but I beleive if you get on your knees and give him his space he will have a change of heart, don't be in his face but allow him..control him from your knees and let him c that love and peace in you first then it will change him. Peace 3 Likes |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by gobuchinny: 7:44am On Feb 17, 2019 |
LadySarah: Worse advise ever..Madam are you married? Is this how you would treat your husband Trust me if you did this to a manly man I mean not a man who is after what he will gain from the wife or her family then the marriage will crash.. Threats never work,..letting hell loosee will mean both husband and wife will be in hell together Be wise else the marriage will crash or they will never be happy in it if it remains 3 Likes |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by AgentGoat: 10:01am On Feb 17, 2019 |
opejulie10: Your own is jealousy is first class. You blow the whole shiit up by confronting your husband's friend. E no stop there you call your husband gay. Go on your kneels and beg your husband on a serious note. If you like you can start taking advice from feminists to spread the shiit more 1 Like |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by Zither(m): 10:05am On Feb 17, 2019 |
Uyi168: That is enh...I'm peeved at the realization that it is now the norm. When a woman unburdens herself about the predicaments she faces in her marriage they blame her for it. They tell her to kneel before her husband and apologise for being a human with feelings, for not ignoring his shortcomings threatening the union, for making efforts to keep her marriage from collapsing. And when the man shares the predicaments in his marriage, they take sides with him and hurl unprintable names at the woman. They go to the extent of calling females who speak in defense of their suffering fellow feminists. Any guy who tries to empathise with her is dubbed a 'patient womaniser'. Warped thinking everywhere. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by OboOlora(f): 10:13am On Feb 17, 2019 |
dominique:Not everytime u see warning signs. Ebuka has been gay from his Masters days at Washington but the wife never suspected till she saw his gay partner (Yoye Banks) nude pic on his phone during honeymoon! 1 Like |
Re: Could My Husband Be Gay??? by opejulie10: 10:15am On Feb 17, 2019 |
merahki: you are right.... I told him he is the only friend I have and he said he is not holding me back to have other friends, this is a man that would call me every minute when I hang out with my colleagues at work to monitor my movement and even start complaining when I spend 3 hrs outside or would even tell me to fly bike to get home early if I gave the excuse of been in traffic. Anyway, I know things would change after this and I will learn to socialise more,it's a hard lesson,I will let him be with his friends either good or bad.... I will learn not to get jealous again. it's hard been an African woman, you make your husband your friend, they say you are choking him, you make him just like any other man,they say are not caring and submissive. 5 Likes |
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